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Is this vile?????
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thought I'd get your opinions.
I have been chatting regularly with a lady and have agreed to meet but haven't managed to sync our diaries. Today I logged on and noticed she had just updated her status asking for someone to plumb her washing machine in. Now I'm free this week so immediately responded offering my services. She responded stating she wouldn't be able to pay me for my time or anything. I immediately replied stating don't be silly. Now here's the thing.......I suggested maybe we could have a little fun after job was done. She replied calling me a "vile man" and told me never to contact her again!!!!
Did I deserve this? I though maybe I was little cheeky but vile????? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why can't she pay for a plumber? Why did she post on here, there are plenty in the directories. Maybe she thought you were asking for sex for your services, but why is she advertising on here for plumbers she can't pay for!? She's more in the wrong than you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thought I'd get your opinions.
I have been chatting regularly with a lady and have agreed to meet but haven't managed to sync our diaries. Today I logged on and noticed she had just updated her status asking for someone to plumb her washing machine in. Now I'm free this week so immediately responded offering my services. She responded stating she wouldn't be able to pay me for my time or anything. I immediately replied stating don't be silly. Now here's the thing.......I suggested maybe we could have a little fun after job was done. She replied calling me a "vile man" and told me never to contact her again!!!!
Did I deserve this? I though maybe I was little cheeky but vile?????"
vile is a bit harsh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can't she pay for a plumber? Why did she post on here, there are plenty in the directories. Maybe she thought you were asking for sex for your services, but why is she advertising on here for plumbers she can't pay for!? She's more in the wrong than you."
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She's put on her status, on a swinging site, that she wants someone to plumb her washing machine...she's going to get a lot worse messages than that! What is she expecting!
And no I think if you had already been chatting to her for a while you weren't be vile or rude or anything like that. |
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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago
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"Why can't she pay for a plumber? Why did she post on here, there are plenty in the directories. Maybe she thought you were asking for sex for your services, but why is she advertising on here for plumbers she can't pay for!? She's more in the wrong than you."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually it could be worse.... I message a guy back, ref a possible meet and I said ive not got much time at the moment, he took a complete strop!! Said people like me shouldnt be working with kids...Lesson learned, dont tell people what u do for a living, they think they can use it against u  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offering your services, very nice, suggesting fun seems like expecting payment in kind, I'd personally use the term sleazy, sorry"
she's asking people on a swingers site to plumb in her washing machine.what did she expect? perhaps she's never seen any 70's porn |
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Some people take things more personally than others. Maybe she thought that you wanted to play as payment although if you'd already discussed meeting I wouldn't of been too offended if it was me.,more so if it had been an offer out of the blue x |
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By *imimeeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Offering your services, very nice, suggesting fun seems like expecting payment in kind, I'd personally use the term sleazy, sorry"
But payment in kind was only offered after she stated she wasn't able to pay, and I imagine only done tongue in cheek. AS she had expressed an interest in meeting, why not kill 2 birds with 1 stone, so to speak? |
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Yobro!
PM me her addy and I will pretend to be a plumber.
I don't know a fucking thing about plumbing, we will fuck her shit up for good. Might even pop a dog poo in her pipes!
In the meantime block and report to the plumbers union |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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i don't get it tbh, especially if you had been chatting and were too arrange a meet anyway, at some point.
id of said the same thing, if it was just a random offer, and u hadn,t chatted about meeting up, i can see the problem, as then it seems a tad sleasy.
bt this is a swinging sex site at the end of the day what did she expect  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She can't afford a plumber and expects someone on here to do it for free? Like really?
Would not say vile but does sound kinda sleasy like you expect payment in kind. |
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ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would want to make a payment in kind if I put a status on this site asking for help with something. It would be a two birds with one stone thing for me. So 'vile' is a bit odd really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here ."
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thought I'd get your opinions.
I have been chatting regularly with a lady and have agreed to meet but haven't managed to sync our diaries. Today I logged on and noticed she had just updated her status asking for someone to plumb her washing machine in. Now I'm free this week so immediately responded offering my services. She responded stating she wouldn't be able to pay me for my time or anything. I immediately replied stating don't be silly. Now here's the thing.......I suggested maybe we could have a little fun after job was done. She replied calling me a "vile man" and told me never to contact her again!!!!
Did I deserve this? I though maybe I was little cheeky but vile?????"
Why would u look for some1 to plumb in a washin machine on a swingers site |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
My boiler is conked, so i am freezing my buns off. So far I've had 5 offers to fix it for sex, and one offer to fix it for money. I picked the guy wanting paying because I wouldn't feel comfortable with someone thinking I owed them a shag for fixing something. However I offered the money. If she expects something for free then she needs to get used to people offering to do it for sex. |
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From the data given she is far more vile than you x
if everything you say is true suggesting sex was not only acceptable but a requirement .i would suggest her reaction .illustrates she had no interest or desire to have sex with you x
she ,according to your story, is a rude woman
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT. "
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think the OP did anything wrong at all. Why is she looking for someone on a sex site to plumb her washing machine when she can't pay for it. What else would that be suggesting to anyone. So she would be willing for a total stranger to come to her house and do the work for free. Sounds like she was totally chancing her arm and really shouldn't be on here if she got all offended at a harmless joke. |
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I dunno
Had you not said anything, I think you could have grounds to be upset if she answered the door with anything other than a slinky nightie and didn't give you a BJ while on your back connecting the one hose and drain that's involved.
Some women lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmmm im more amazed that she couldnt plumb the thing in herself...... its not that difficult"
That's what I was thinking, even I know how to plumb in a washing machine and my DIY skills are bloody useless! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No vileness at all, if I posted on a swinging site that I needed a plumber and someone I'd already been talking to offered to help me out without payment & tongue in cheek offered fun after, I'd laugh, call you a cheeky bugger and put the kettle on...,what was she expecting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can't she pay for a plumber? Why did she post on here, there are plenty in the directories. Maybe she thought you were asking for sex for your services, but why is she advertising on here for plumbers she can't pay for!? She's more in the wrong than you."
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
I had a friend visit me the other week and he painted my bathroom ceiling in the nude - we had great fun with that but had already arranged it and had previously met...I'm with the majority thinking if you've no money to pay and advertise for work on a swingers site then don't see your arse if you get suggestions of payment in kind - definately not vile  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
i am surprised at the reaction of most... because whilst i would say vile was a bit strong... I can absolutely see why someone would be upset at the notion....
if it was a friend of mine... not someone I was just trying to get a leg over with... I have helped where i can... so while I have use connections to get tickets as cheaply as I can for them... I do it at cost not making money out of it, and maybe that what she was expecting...
the whole notion of payment in kind can be sleezy.. and thats why I hate seeing if if tradesmen offer.... plus to be honest... where is the protection if something does go wrong! |
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT.
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
trying to defend the none defensible ?
are you really suggesting we should not suggest or discuss sex until a face to face meeting ? Have discussed sex with every meet beforehand one tends to find if the lady is genuine and interested she is rather keen to discuss said subject x
send her a message telling her about this topic lets hear the other side x
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"i am surprised at the reaction of most... because whilst i would say vile was a bit strong... I can absolutely see why someone would be upset at the notion....
if it was a friend of mine... not someone I was just trying to get a leg over with... I have helped where i can... so while I have use connections to get tickets as cheaply as I can for them... I do it at cost not making money out of it, and maybe that what she was expecting...
the whole notion of payment in kind can be sleezy.. and thats why I hate seeing if if tradesmen offer.... plus to be honest... where is the protection if something does go wrong!"
Could not agree with you moer, Fabio.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got to say I am a massive believer in cutting out cash. I don't see what the problem with that is. Not sex exchange admittedly, but I would prefer to swap a skill for a skill any day. |
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"i am surprised at the reaction of most... because whilst i would say vile was a bit strong... I can absolutely see why someone would be upset at the notion....
if it was a friend of mine... not someone I was just trying to get a leg over with... I have helped where i can... so while I have use connections to get tickets as cheaply as I can for them... I do it at cost not making money out of it, and maybe that what she was expecting...
the whole notion of payment in kind can be sleezy.. and thats why I hate seeing if if tradesmen offer.... plus to be honest... where is the protection if something does go wrong!"
again , he was not a friend he is trying to get leg over.she posted on fab not Facebook , she unless beyond my comprehension stupid, knew exactly the response she would get x |
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT.
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
trying to defend the none defensible ?
are you really suggesting we should not suggest or discuss sex until a face to face meeting ? Have discussed sex with every meet beforehand one tends to find if the lady is genuine and interested she is rather keen to discuss said subject x
send her a message telling her about this topic lets hear the other side x
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nope never said that at all .one thing to discuss bounderies .quite another exspecting fun to be a "given" on any sort of meet be it for coffee ,to do an odd job or actual fun meet . surely everyone has right to say no what ever the situation . not defending anything as i said in first post faults on both sides. hardly surprising when lines are blurred by folks. maybe if people used this as a swing site it would avoid issues lol ! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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again , he was not a friend he is trying to get leg over.she posted on fab not Facebook , she unless beyond my comprehension stupid, knew exactly the response she would get x "
again.... the wonders and in fact the dangers...of only hearing one side of a story.....  we have no idea of what the other side is.... and with most things the truth normally sits somewhere in the middle....
so let me tell you a story...
there was a person on here once that desperately had to get back to ireland because a family member was dying and asked if anyone could help out as cheaply as possible.....
since at that stage I worked for railway.. I managed to get in contact with them, I managed to get them a cheap ticket and used my discounts where I could....
I only asked for cost... I wasn't looking to get anything out of it
afterwards I got a nice e-mail saying thank you... and that was enough for me, helping a person in a time of me was enough reward...
we may be cynical at the best of times, and where you say it is "fab not facebook" sometimes if you are here long enough you see a community that does rally around and look after people"...
there are various examples of this.... and it is one of the reasons I love the place... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"perhaps we should start a thread pairing people with jobs that need doing!! I need a carpenter!!"
In that case - I would like to say I offer general building and handyman services and have a really big van ... Lol xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thought I'd get your opinions.
I have been chatting regularly with a lady and have agreed to meet but haven't managed to sync our diaries. Today I logged on and noticed she had just updated her status asking for someone to plumb her washing machine in. Now I'm free this week so immediately responded offering my services. She responded stating she wouldn't be able to pay me for my time or anything. I immediately replied stating don't be silly. Now here's the thing.......I suggested maybe we could have a little fun after job was done. She replied calling me a "vile man" and told me never to contact her again!!!!
Did I deserve this? I though maybe I was little cheeky but vile?????"
sounds like a typical women on here to be honest
Since when did fab turn into free DIY
So you have agreed to meet anyway, she wants her washer plumbed in, you offer to do it and tie the meet that has already been agreed to into it and she flips?
So she expects you to turn up and do her washer for free then go away and travel again another time for a meet?
Sounds to me like shes just using this site to get what she wants and like most women and couples they think men will say how high when then say jump
Your best rid if you want my opinion |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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I can't believe she didn't think she wouldn't get that reaction posting for a plumber on a swinging site !!!!
And, let's face it she may well have agreed to the suggestion so I don't blame op for asking.
Maybe Face Book would be a better option for her to ask for a plumber and not get s sexual reply.
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"Thought I'd get your opinions.
I have been chatting regularly with a lady and have agreed to meet but haven't managed to sync our diaries. Today I logged on and noticed she had just updated her status asking for someone to plumb her washing machine in. Now I'm free this week so immediately responded offering my services. She responded stating she wouldn't be able to pay me for my time or anything. I immediately replied stating don't be silly. Now here's the thing.......I suggested maybe we could have a little fun after job was done. She replied calling me a "vile man" and told me never to contact her again!!!!
Did I deserve this? I though maybe I was little cheeky but vile?????"
All wrong, fix the washing for say £50, leave the house.... turn round and knock on the door for a fuck......Jackpot best of both worlds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmmm im more amazed that she couldnt plumb the thing in herself...... its not that difficult"
This was my thought. Lol
To op. I think if you put that on here you would kinda expect that response. So I think she was in the wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT.
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
trying to defend the none defensible ?
are you really suggesting we should not suggest or discuss sex until a face to face meeting ? Have discussed sex with every meet beforehand one tends to find if the lady is genuine and interested she is rather keen to discuss said subject x
send her a message telling her about this topic lets hear the other side x
nope never said that at all .one thing to discuss bounderies .quite another exspecting fun to be a "given" on any sort of meet be it for coffee ,to do an odd job or actual fun meet . surely everyone has right to say no what ever the situation . not defending anything as i said in first post faults on both sides. hardly surprising when lines are blurred by folks. maybe if people used this as a swing site it would avoid issues lol ! "
Of course everyone has the right to say no. But, the op didn't ask that question did he! He asked if was ok to call him vile for wanting fun with a gal (whom he had arranged to meet anyway) for fixing her machine!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT.
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
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Nope definitely have nothing to learn. Although judging by 99.9% of tbe peeps here I'm signing up for every plumbing, carpentry and handyman class I can lol. Let me know if you need any jobs. I'll give you mates rates lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ask yourself how you would feel if you had a partner in this situation and a guy suggested this to her ? can you honestly say youd take it as alittle cheeky ? i personally dont see it as vile or cheeky ,but a major over step of the mark and misjudgement of situation. had you said it would be a ideal oppertunity to finnally get to know her in person over a coffee ,me thinks she would of had you round at hers with your tools in a flash . maybe she didnt like the way it seems you wanted payment in kind and feeling oblidged to you .especially when you have only chatted on here and no idea if youd have any attraction in person .
i will also say though if a woman puts on her status on a swing site that shes looking for someone to do an odd job for her .she can hardly get all precious and shocked when guys think its a foot in the door and chance to get payment in kind. but does to me show a certain lack of respect in those who do equate that with any oppertunity to get a leg over .
maybe a learn for you and her here .
No lesson learned for me. The massive majority on here suggests I was merely cheeky and that she was in the wrong for requesting help for job and then reacting OTT.
no learn and also no meet for you lol.mearly pointing out a slighty change of tack and win win situation for you both . she gets washing machine plumbed in and you get to meet her and chance to see if you click in person.
sorry to say but a guy talking about "having abit of fun" when not met the woman in question just comes across as a tad desparate or not choosey to me . that would of been a deal breaker for me .
trying to defend the none defensible ?
are you really suggesting we should not suggest or discuss sex until a face to face meeting ? Have discussed sex with every meet beforehand one tends to find if the lady is genuine and interested she is rather keen to discuss said subject x
send her a message telling her about this topic lets hear the other side x
nope never said that at all .one thing to discuss bounderies .quite another exspecting fun to be a "given" on any sort of meet be it for coffee ,to do an odd job or actual fun meet . surely everyone has right to say no what ever the situation . not defending anything as i said in first post faults on both sides. hardly surprising when lines are blurred by folks. maybe if people used this as a swing site it would avoid issues lol !
Of course everyone has the right to say no. But, the op didn't ask that question did he! He asked if was ok to call him vile for wanting fun with a gal (whom he had arranged to meet anyway) for fixing her machine!
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if it had been the other way round - you had had a meet with her and then in conversation she mentioned the washing machine and you had offered to fit it - you would have been an angel |
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"if it had been the other way round - you had had a meet with her and then in conversation she mentioned the washing machine and you had offered to fit it - you would have been an angel "
Until she tried using it lol!!!!! |
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"i am surprised at the reaction of most... because whilst i would say vile was a bit strong... I can absolutely see why someone would be upset at the notion....
if it was a friend of mine... not someone I was just trying to get a leg over with... I have helped where i can... so while I have use connections to get tickets as cheaply as I can for them... I do it at cost not making money out of it, and maybe that what she was expecting...
the whole notion of payment in kind can be sleezy.. and thats why I hate seeing if if tradesmen offer.... plus to be honest... where is the protection if something does go wrong!"
Also payment in kind suggests that the person giving the sex as payment is getting nothing except a household repair, I like sex to be a two way thing not something I have to do in order to get something else. |
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Sounds like the setting for a porn flick, you did the right thing mate, yellow pages are 'online' now, this site allows users to persue a 'different' service.
Keep up the good humoured chat, some people take themselves too seriously! |
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"Sounds like the setting for a porn flick, you did the right thing mate, yellow pages are 'online' now, this site allows users to persue a 'different' service.
Keep up the good humoured chat, some people take themselves too seriously!"
I agree. Confessions of a Washing machine installer lol. |
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again , he was not a friend he is trying to get leg over.she posted on fab not Facebook , she unless beyond my comprehension stupid, knew exactly the response she would get x
again.... the wonders and in fact the dangers...of only hearing one side of a story..... we have no idea of what the other side is.... and with most things the truth normally sits somewhere in the middle....
so let me tell you a story...
there was a person on here once that desperately had to get back to ireland because a family member was dying and asked if anyone could help out as cheaply as possible.....
since at that stage I worked for railway.. I managed to get in contact with them, I managed to get them a cheap ticket and used my discounts where I could....
I only asked for cost... I wasn't looking to get anything out of it
afterwards I got a nice e-mail saying thank you... and that was enough for me, helping a person in a time of me was enough reward...
we may be cynical at the best of times, and where you say it is "fab not facebook" sometimes if you are here long enough you see a community that does rally around and look after people"...
there are various examples of this.... and it is one of the reasons I love the place... "
Now this is a whole other kettle of fish. Not the same baby at all. Good on you and I would do the same and would not want anything in return. |
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1. She can ask where ever she wants as long as she makes it clear that sex isn't on offer.
2. If you are going to fix her machine then fix her machine and don't try to make it into a meet.
Both at fault.
One foolish unassuming woman and an opportunist male.
Maybe - just maybe- she likes her meets to be about sex. To have time to prepare. To think the visit is for good times..... not a quick or even a slow hump after the machine is fixed.
Wrong ambience perhaps ?
Kids home ?
Time of the month ?
Yet another one sided version about a member who doesn't know they are being talked about. |
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"Eerrmm..I thought this was a swinging site? Honestly what did she expect? Maybe she should have advertised on Gumtree."
Exactly, she's on the site, she's already chatting to the guy, so most people would think the "Can you repair my washer, by the way I can't afford to pay you" was an invitation for a bit of fun.
If not "cheeky bugger lol" would have done, vile is way too strong!
There's nowt as queer as folk!  
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"Why can't she pay for a plumber? Why did she post on here, there are plenty in the directories. Maybe she thought you were asking for sex for your services, but why is she advertising on here for plumbers she can't pay for!? She's more in the wrong than you."
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Perhaps it was the barter over sex? It made her feel like a professional?
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There is a story of how Winston Churchill asked a woman if she would sleep with him for £1,000,000. After thinking for a while she said "yes". He then asked "How about for £1?" and she indignantly replied "What do you think I am???!!!". Churchill said "We know what you are; we are haggling over the price!"
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