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Do you think more people are being bi Curious /bisexual
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And if so why do you think it is ?
to expand options , social, desperation. , kink , frustration,
Porn or something else
And those who have tried it did you enjoy it / regret it/ or find that its just not for u |
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Over 6% of 18–29 year-olds but fewer than 2% of respondents over age 40 identified as bisexual. Findings demonstrate that sexual norms and behaviors have changed and that far more persons today than in earlier years identify as bisexual and/or have both male and female partners. |
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I think it's a generation thing, during my school years 89 - 01 being outed as anything but straight was a social death sentence and on the receiving end of all sorts of bullying and abuse. Nowadays thinks have changed and people orientation is just as mundane as their eye colour. With this shift in attitudes more are more guys of my generation are find that they are not quite as straight as they thought they were leading to some experimentation and acceptance of themselves. Well at least that was my experience anyway |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 44 weeks ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
As Icing says social attitudes have changed and more people are willing to experiment and be honest about it.
As Sam says curiosity comes later in life to some and there are more opportunities to try it now than ever before. |
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"As Icing says social attitudes have changed and more people are willing to experiment and be honest about it.
As Sam says curiosity comes later in life to some and there are more opportunities to try it now than ever before. "
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"As Icing says social attitudes have changed and more people are willing to experiment and be honest about it.
As Sam says curiosity comes later in life to some and there are more opportunities to try it now than ever before. "
I'm definitely more than curious and even though I've been having bi fun since my teens I agree opportunities are more frequent now x |
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I wonder if the way gay culture has mainstreamed has an influence on this? Otherwise straight men are now presented with (maybe bombarded with) different behaviours, identities etc which mean bisexuality doesn’t have to mean seeking masculinity. Though no doubt a lot do look for masculinity. |
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"I wonder if the way gay culture has mainstreamed has an influence on this? Otherwise straight men are now presented with (maybe bombarded with) different behaviours, identities etc which mean bisexuality doesn’t have to mean seeking masculinity. Though no doubt a lot do look for masculinity. "
I don’t think “gay culture” in the mainstream has helped anything, because all about stereotypes and doesn’t represent the majority of gay or bi men. If anything it’s leading to a rise in homophobia around the world.
But that’s a whole other topic. |
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"I wonder if the way gay culture has mainstreamed has an influence on this? Otherwise straight men are now presented with (maybe bombarded with) different behaviours, identities etc which mean bisexuality doesn’t have to mean seeking masculinity. Though no doubt a lot do look for masculinity. "
sexual attraction isnt gay, its a pref gay is to love, a fucks a fuck lol |
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"And if so why do you think it is ?
to expand options , social, desperation. , kink , frustration,
Porn or something else
And those who have tried it did you enjoy it / regret it/ or find that its just not for u "
There’s so many men in Fab, chasing so few women, the offer of “a discreet suck mate, nothing expected in return” becomes ever more tempting……. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 44 weeks ago
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"I wonder if the way gay culture has mainstreamed has an influence on this? Otherwise straight men are now presented with (maybe bombarded with) different behaviours, identities etc which mean bisexuality doesn’t have to mean seeking masculinity. Though no doubt a lot do look for masculinity.
I don’t think “gay culture” in the mainstream has helped anything, because all about stereotypes and doesn’t represent the majority of gay or bi men. If anything it’s leading to a rise in homophobia around the world.
But that’s a whole other topic."
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Interesting that you say that Long, there has undoubtedly been a rise in extreme views
on both sides of almost every social topic you care to mention,
I personally would say they don't represent the silent/quiet majority though. |
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"I wonder if the way gay culture has mainstreamed has an influence on this? Otherwise straight men are now presented with (maybe bombarded with) different behaviours, identities etc which mean bisexuality doesn’t have to mean seeking masculinity. Though no doubt a lot do look for masculinity.
sexual attraction isnt gay, its a pref gay is to love, a fucks a fuck lol"
Good point. I could have sex with a woman but I couldn’t fall in love with one. |
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Bisexual attraction to both same and opposite sex. But are you really bi if it’s just for sexual pleasure ?
This is why we have bi playful or bi romantic, former just experimenting or in the moment and feels good, the latter a relationship is a possibility.
I believe I am bisexual because I do have times when I wonder if I could or should be in a same sex relationship. The actual act these days isn’t enough to turn me on I have to actually fancy the man or Tgirl as well. |
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When I first went swinging/clubs ect I was 18. I was ?? % pure straight cock definitely!!!! With no hesitation.
I did go to parties and join in orgys/games at parties ect women and men.so even tho I tried things with women briefly I wasn't actually interested and I think I only tried things as the women were just there or were involved in an orgy but I would go more to cocks!
That was 10yrs ago !!and have still been saying I'm straight.
Until joining fabs recently and finding I'm drawn to blonde women. And when going out in everyday life and actually thinking about it I have been drawn to blonde women but not really thought about it ! So it's def taken me some yrs to realise this.
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I think many women join to explore with the same sex, I've seen a few say this in the forums.
Lots of men and women seem to grow curious as they get older too though.
Women are definitely more open about it and more encouraged on here still. So many couples and men want that ffm and it's almost expected all women are bi on fab, even when we're not.
Some women will even play bi to get their partner off too.
Its not the same for men still sadly, that's why you get men who will hide that they're bi/curious, because there are ladies and couples who won't meet them.
Thats their choice, but it's why a lot of men will say they're straight, when they're not.
So it's not always as it seems. |
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"Bisexual attraction to both same and opposite sex. But are you really bi if it’s just for sexual pleasure ?
This is why we have bi playful or bi romantic, former just experimenting or in the moment and feels good, the latter a relationship is a possibility.
I believe I am bisexual because I do have times when I wonder if I could or should be in a same sex relationship. The actual act these days isn’t enough to turn me on I have to actually fancy the man or Tgirl as well. "
Same sex relationship you are gay not bi. |
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"And if so why do you think it is ?
to expand options , social, desperation. , kink , frustration,
Porn or something else
And those who have tried it did you enjoy it / regret it/ or find that its just not for u "
Never looked back from the first curious moment  |
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By *ikilovesCCouple 44 weeks ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"Bisexual attraction to both same and opposite sex. But are you really bi if it’s just for sexual pleasure ?
This is why we have bi playful or bi romantic, former just experimenting or in the moment and feels good, the latter a relationship is a possibility.
I believe I am bisexual because I do have times when I wonder if I could or should be in a same sex relationship. The actual act these days isn’t enough to turn me on I have to actually fancy the man or Tgirl as well. "
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Hmmm I would say yes to "are you bi if it's just sexual" steff,
The definition is "sexual and/or romantic" attraction I believe.
I do accept that other folks may have their own view on that definition though lol  |
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I think it’s a generation things social change towards acceptance towards sexuality , younger generations are more open were as older generations were taught it’s wrong . Luckily I’ve never been a follower of what society says rather make my own mind up as to what I enjoy with out prejudice. It’s good to be free from the constraints of society |
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"Bisexual attraction to both same and opposite sex. But are you really bi if it’s just for sexual pleasure ?
This is why we have bi playful or bi romantic, former just experimenting or in the moment and feels good, the latter a relationship is a possibility.
I believe I am bisexual because I do have times when I wonder if I could or should be in a same sex relationship. The actual act these days isn’t enough to turn me on I have to actually fancy the man or Tgirl as well. "
That’s a really interesting view point. I, Steve/Amber, consider myself to be 100% fully bi. But I’d never see myself in a relationship with a man. I don’t fancy men, I love playing with men. Well more accurately I enjoy playing with anyone, their physical sex is of no importance. People are people, and all individual. Why should it be ok to play with those born female but not those born male.
To answer the original question, I wonder if the ‘real’ world is much more accepting as 20 years ago. I suppose it is. But for me, being in the swing world we are in an exaggerated corner of society. And in swing bisexuality in males is certainly more and more accepted over the last 10 years or so. So much so that clubs that are still stuck in old fashioned ways where it’s not accepted are in the minority and their approach is disapproved by many. I wonder if in another 10 years bi nights will be a thing of the past… they will just be nights. Time will tell.
What do others think? X |
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Just to throw my 2 cents about this. In secondary school you'd hear kids say 'that's gay' about something trivial or as an insult, and eventually a retort or a silent thought was 'so what if it is gay'. Compared to generations before where it was more ingrained that something being gay is bad, and now a lot wouldn't blink twice about someone being gay. Which in turn makes people feel more open to explore or not feel bad appreciating someone of the same sex being attractive even if they aren't bi/gay. |
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There is so much more acceptance of diverse sexualaties now. In the 80s we were contending with clause 28, completely homophobic right-wing press and "poofs" being an acceptable subject of jokes. Now we have Pride flags at Tesco and same sex couples on TV with little comment. Society has shifted. |
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Interesting thought?
Personally very bi curious, and I think having a very high adventurous sexual brain it's wanting to try things and the buzz from it or just enjoying sex
Currently looking for first full on bi meet but only with a m/f couple and iam sure I will enjoy and learn from it
Just need to find that couple?
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We’re openly a bisexual couple and fully embrace other’s opinions. On more than one occasion we’ve met people who have straight on their profile and it turned out that they really enjoyed playing bi with us which has been a very welcome bonus. |
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I was told I was “only” gay for years and that bisexuality wasn’t a thing, so I just identified with being gay. But I always fancied and got off over women too. Took a long time to openly say I was bi just because people are quite dismissive of it sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"There is so much more acceptance of diverse sexualaties now. In the 80s we were contending with clause 28, completely homophobic right-wing press and "poofs" being an acceptable subject of jokes. Now we have Pride flags at Tesco and same sex couples on TV with little comment. Society has shifted. "
fully agree |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I would imagine woman being openly bisexual far outweighs men. I do think its more common now, maybe we are more open, maybe women feel safer with other women rather than men for a variety of reasons (deadbeat dad, dv,abuse, social media etc.) I'm not sure but it's an interesting topic. |
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"I would imagine woman being openly bisexual far outweighs men. I do think its more common now, maybe we are more open, maybe women feel safer with other women rather than men for a variety of reasons (deadbeat dad, dv,abuse, social media etc.) I'm not sure but it's an interesting topic. "
You might think so as a man, but sadly no. I have homophobic girlfriends who if I came out wouldn't understand or would be scared in case I fancied them. And men are worse thinking that bi women are up for threesomes ALL THE TIME. No. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I would of thought less men till I come to fab
I had no interest in men but after several meets with couples or groups where all so called straight men sucked and cleaned me 1 even tried putting my cock in him I found I enjoyed the play |
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"I would imagine woman being openly bisexual far outweighs men. I do think its more common now, maybe we are more open, maybe women feel safer with other women rather than men for a variety of reasons (deadbeat dad, dv,abuse, social media etc.) I'm not sure but it's an interesting topic.
You might think so as a man, but sadly no. I have homophobic girlfriends who if I came out wouldn't understand or would be scared in case I fancied them. And men are worse thinking that bi women are up for threesomes ALL THE TIME. No."
Thanks for the response ,nice to hear your views on an interesting topic. Ultimately it's a sad state of affairs that we can't be open or true to ourselves due to other's perspectives and judgements. |
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I think it's just society moving on, progressing and becoming more accepting. When I was younger, even among my friend group, who tended to be politically aware and left-leaning, they would, if not ostracise you or disapprove, take the piss mercilessly.
I've always played bi in clubs etc, but never discussed it with non-swinger friends. I now have a boyfriend for the first time ever, and even the footy bantz lads down the pub haven't batted an eyelid. Get more grief about the age gap than the fact it's a guy. |
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By *x cplCouple 42 weeks ago
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Certainly in the 80s in the UK to be known as anything but straight was to become a victim of abuse open bullying etc. Yes lots of bi liaisons happened but ultra discrete. It is more open and accepted now. In the past I think many hid or refrained from any bi activities because of the possible consequences of society. Remember it was even illegal to be gay or bi in the military at those times. |
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I found bisexuality late but it developed over many many years as I always wanted to push my own boundaries! I find women attractive and can be sensual plus much more with them but don’t find men attractive at all. It’s all about being very dominant and I’ve found out that a hole is a hole is a hole!! |
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I knew I was bi from fairly young age as I realised I was attracted to both male and females in my last few years at school . Actually was intimate with females long before males - in fact being comfortable and play flirty with my best friends (whom I actually wasn’t sexual with) went down well with the guys. Weirdly have always been totally open with my close friends and right from start with husband, but never been able to tell my family as I just don’t think they would understand! I was at secondary school in the late 70s early 80s - definitely never got teased or anything like that but I was probably lucky. |
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"I knew I was bi from fairly young age as I realised I was attracted to both male and females in my last few years at school . Actually was intimate with females long before males - in fact being comfortable and play flirty with my best friends (whom I actually wasn’t sexual with) went down well with the guys. Weirdly have always been totally open with my close friends and right from start with husband, but never been able to tell my family as I just don’t think they would understand! I was at secondary school in the late 70s early 80s - definitely never got teased or anything like that but I was probably lucky. "
or you were gorgeous and everyone fancied you
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"I knew I was bi from fairly young age as I realised I was attracted to both male and females in my last few years at school . Actually was intimate with females long before males - in fact being comfortable and play flirty with my best friends (whom I actually wasn’t sexual with) went down well with the guys. Weirdly have always been totally open with my close friends and right from start with husband, but never been able to tell my family as I just don’t think they would understand! I was at secondary school in the late 70s early 80s - definitely never got teased or anything like that but I was probably lucky. or you were gorgeous and everyone fancied you "
Why thank you kind sir!
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"I knew I was bi from fairly young age as I realised I was attracted to both male and females in my last few years at school . Actually was intimate with females long before males - in fact being comfortable and play flirty with my best friends (whom I actually wasn’t sexual with) went down well with the guys. Weirdly have always been totally open with my close friends and right from start with husband, but never been able to tell my family as I just don’t think they would understand! I was at secondary school in the late 70s early 80s - definitely never got teased or anything like that but I was probably lucky. or you were gorgeous and everyone fancied you
Why thank you kind sir!
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"Same sex relationship you are gay not bi."
Oh my, this is the kind of authoritative voice that has kept bisexuality in the closet. Lacking insight and wrongly labelling.
There are two other issues around bisexuality that may be worth mentioning: Religion and separately Alfred Kinsey.
As we become more secular, we are realising how ridiculous being heteronormative is. Gen Z's when they speak to new friends, use gender neutral terms... Like, "oh your partner, so where are you meeting them later?"
Alfred Kinsey have said there are two monosexuals at each end of the spectrum: those 10O% hetrosexual and those 100% homosexual. In between is a large section called Bisexuals which is massively varied and to my mind, super interesting! Monosexuals are really quite predictable / boring. |
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Im fucking a cuckold couple atm and the husband is totally straight so he says BUT he keeps asking if he can suck my cock and messages me privately without her knowing . Says hes never even touched a cock before .
Shall i just go for it and let him do it or make him do it infront of her ? Shes at the stage where she openly cucks him and calls him a sissy for always complimenting my cock lol so i dont think she would mind  |
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"And if so why do you think it is ?
to expand options , social, desperation. , kink , frustration,
Porn or something else
And those who have tried it did you enjoy it / regret it/ or find that its just not for u "
desperation |
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