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Single male first time at a club tips??
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"Mainly etiquette as i wouldnt want to look as thick as i really am. X"
Well, be yourself for a start. Mainly its the same you would be in any settings really.. be polite, friendly.. if someone says no, then it's a no but make sure you enjoy yourself.
Most importantly.. never ever go to club with high hopes expecting play to happen as there may be times when it doesn't happened, but don't let that stop you from enjoying yourself.. the social side of things can be quite amazing at times so don't be afraid to say hi and mingle and who knows 
Godd luck though dude  |
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By *ister_EMan 46 weeks ago
Hayling Island |
Don't bother with strip clubs!
Go to a swingers club instead. It's much cheaper, entry and drinks, you'll see far more boobs and pussy. And you can even watch couples shagging. Youre actualy allowed to touch if they want it, and you can get far more than a lap dance.
Seriously strip clubs are overrated. Watching someone do something they love is hot! Watching someone fake it for money is nowhere near as horny... |
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Be polite and pleasant. No expectations. Courage is required. Don't be shy, even if she says no its flattering. It's a swingers club so generally we are all in a similar mindset. At worst you'll find pleasant company for the evening. |
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"Don't bother with strip clubs!
Go to a swingers club instead. It's much cheaper, entry and drinks, you'll see far more boobs and pussy. And you can even watch couples shagging. Youre actualy allowed to touch if they want it, and you can get far more than a lap dance.
Seriously strip clubs are overrated. Watching someone do something they love is hot! Watching someone fake it for money is nowhere near as horny..."
I don’t think anyone mentioned strip clubs. |
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"Don't follow people around, wanking silently. This applies to any kind of club
Including strip clubs? !!!"
Yes definitely! If you start wanking in a strip club you’ll either be arrested or taken out the back and ejected from the club head first |
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By *izzy.Woman 46 weeks ago
Stoke area |
Check the dress code. Make an effort to look and smell good.
Don't sit in a corner quietly hoping someone will come and talk to you. When given a tour on arrival ask where people congregate to chat. This might be the bar, a lounge or smoking area. Then head there and introduce yourself.
One tactic is to say something like ...... hi I'm Bob, its my first time here; do you mind if I chat to you for a couple of minutes?
Later in the evening you are more likely to be invited to get involved if you have chatted to a lady or couple earlier ; than if you just walk about following people. I've never yet played with someone that I had not talked to previously.
Don't expect to have sex. Just be friendly, polite, respect boundaries and smile. |
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Talk to people in the social area. Imagine you are in a pub, you don't know anyone and set yourself a task to make some friends
You will find you are more likely to be invited to play, and if you don't then you will have made some new friends.
As others have said; don't follow people around and join the wanking dead, but its ok to walk around and see what is going on |
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"Mainly etiquette as i wouldnt want to look as thick as i really am. X"
Make sure the staff know it's your first visit, this will get you tour and clarification on club etiquette.
Dress nicely, at least smart casual in my opinion regardless of dress code... if you give the impression you didn't make an effort, it reduces your chances of success. Obviously not applicable in a dress down club 
Make sure you smell nice, be friendly and chatty. Enjoy yourself, don't be pushy and you might get chance to do more than watch.
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By *andb69Couple 46 weeks ago
leeds |
All of the above, plus if you're talking to a couple talk to them both, don't just talk to the woman. They will both have equal say on whether they invite you to join them, even if the guy just watches. If the couple is friendly don't assume you've 'scored', you might not be just what they are looking for (eg not single men), but don't take it as an insult.
Finally, if you get to play accept their boundaries completely, and don't bend your own.
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Our new first is - decide what you bring to the lifestyle for others and what you want to get out of it. We meet a lot of singles and couples who are in it for what they can get out of it. If you want to fuck and go with as many women as possible, great, go to the events that cater for that.
Dress nice, smell nice, be squeaky clean everywhere. You’d be surprised how many people, M&F that don’t !
Don’t get pissed! Have a couple of confidence boosters then switch to something else - pineapple juice maybe
Chat to everyone, other single guys included. You never know who they can introduce you too. If we get approached by someone new, we prefer a short first exchange and then move on; as a couple we can then talk about you. Feel free to come back later or we’ll find you.
Be confident (not cocky). We’ve met some attractive guys with no confidence and it’s not good. By contrast we’ve met average looking guys with confidence, that combination is attractive.
Read and fully understand the club rules. Don’t be the guy fully dressed in the play rooms because you didn’t realise.
And have fun! Amazing how many guys and couples we see that look like they’ve had a shit night. Mostly as they’ve sat on their own and not engaged with people
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"Our new first is - decide what you bring to the lifestyle for others and what you want to get out of it. We meet a lot of singles and couples who are in it for what they can get out of it. If you want to fuck and go with as many women as possible, great, go to the events that cater for that.
Dress nice, smell nice, be squeaky clean everywhere. You’d be surprised how many people, M&F that don’t !
Don’t get pissed! Have a couple of confidence boosters then switch to something else - pineapple juice maybe
Chat to everyone, other single guys included. You never know who they can introduce you too. If we get approached by someone new, we prefer a short first exchange and then move on; as a couple we can then talk about you. Feel free to come back later or we’ll find you.
Be confident (not cocky). We’ve met some attractive guys with no confidence and it’s not good. By contrast we’ve met average looking guys with confidence, that combination is attractive.
Read and fully understand the club rules. Don’t be the guy fully dressed in the play rooms because you didn’t realise.
And have fun! Amazing how many guys and couples we see that look like they’ve had a shit night. Mostly as they’ve sat on their own and not engaged with people
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Noted thankyou x |
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