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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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New to the swinging world really interested in it. To shy to attend a Manchester club by myself would any ladies or couples like to attend a club or party with me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New to the swinging world really interested in it. To shy to attend a Manchester club by myself would any ladies or couples like to attend a club or party with me "
Don't be shy mate - EVERYONE had a 'first time' once... Contact the club you want to try, ask as many questions as you want - no matter how stupid you may think they are - and ASK for an invite as 'some' clubs only admit single guys on an 'as required' basis (in other words, to control the numbers coming in so it's not 40 guys to one woman! Well, unless it's greedy girl night!!)
A good club will show you round when you get there, maybe introduce you to one or two regulars (but don't 'expect' that), and they will often go to great lengths to make you feel comfortable.
Then, on your first night, don't go with expectations - just go with the flow, get a feeling for what goes on and you'll soon find your initial fears will slip away.
Just remember one thing though: your manners...
Hope that helps - go for it, mate. Look forward to reading your review of your first night... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"New to the swinging world really interested in it. To shy to attend a Manchester club by myself would any ladies or couples like to attend a club or party with me
Don't be shy mate - EVERYONE had a 'first time' once... Contact the club you want to try, ask as many questions as you want - no matter how stupid you may think they are - and ASK for an invite as 'some' clubs only admit single guys on an 'as required' basis (in other words, to control the numbers coming in so it's not 40 guys to one woman! Well, unless it's greedy girl night!!)
A good club will show you round when you get there, maybe introduce you to one or two regulars (but don't 'expect' that), and they will often go to great lengths to make you feel comfortable.
Then, on your first night, don't go with expectations - just go with the flow, get a feeling for what goes on and you'll soon find your initial fears will slip away.
Just remember one thing though: your manners...
Hope that helps - go for it, mate. Look forward to reading your review of your first night... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys thanks looks like my first club night is not to far away now I just gotta decided wht to wear any ideas ???"
Good. You'll enjoy it. One thing I would add to my previous comment: when talking to couples in a club, talk to BOTH of them.
As for what to wear, I always find a gold lame posing pouch works for me.... (I wish!) 
Suited and booted mate, if you want to 'cut the mustard' - you know what women are like when it comes to a guy in a suit... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey guys thanks looks like my first club night is not to far away now I just gotta decided wht to wear any ideas ???"
Wear something smart to start the evening, then if its a club with 'dress down' either a descent pair of boxers or absolutely nothing  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"cant stand feeling like a guys golden ticket for getting in a club..."
bingo...... and i know a ton of women feel the same way.....
I am confused when people say they are shy, but yet if you are adult enough to be on a site like this... then surely you are adult enough to open a door to a club by yourself...
as other have said.. any club worth their salt will show you around and go thru the rules with you... but after that, at some point you are going to have to talk to people.... just as you would have to talk to people as if it was a private meet.... so from that respect, its no different...
if you are that shy, then no amount of help is going to help you... sometimes you have to learn to help yourself help yourself...... |
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I agree with the suit or at least dress pants and a nice shirt.
Nice smelling aftershave too.
Good tip though, slip on shoes, nothing worse than getting a knot in the laces trying to take them off, and another piece of advice, whats the worst piece of clothing to take off, yep you guessed it socks, so when we go to a club i do not wear socks
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