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Good afternoon all. I wonder if some of you can take the time to help me with the mind set as to why some couples where the men don't join in.
I'm not talking about Cucks. That's a different mind set. lads don't you want to have fun? Do you get more fun from the wife/girlfriend of she get extra men? I would love to hear your story on why it works for you. |
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Personally for me (male half) it’s confidence. We didn’t embark on this for me to play it was more the hotwife scenario which developed into cuckold.
However, things have changed and we are now open to playing with a lady but I just don’t think women are after what I have to offer. Women want well hung and muscular and I am neither and I would always wonder if the woman was judging me compared to others. Which is why I’m more than happy for my good lady to play on her own and then just tell me all the details after.
Hope this makes sense. |
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"Good afternoon all. I wonder if some of you can take the time to help me with the mind set as to why some couples where the men don't join in.
I'm not talking about Cucks. That's a different mind set. lads don't you want to have fun? Do you get more fun from the wife/girlfriend of she get extra men? I would love to hear your story on why it works for you."
We both play when meeting a couple.
When we meet a guy then usually Mrs would play while Mr watches/films. Why just watch ? Well it’s a great show and if the guy and Mrs are having fun then it seems a shame to break the flow. |
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"Personally for me (male half) it’s confidence. We didn’t embark on this for me to play it was more the hotwife scenario which developed into cuckold.
However, things have changed and we are now open to playing with a lady but I just don’t think women are after what I have to offer. Women want well hung and muscular and I am neither and I would always wonder if the woman was judging me compared to others. Which is why I’m more than happy for my good lady to play on her own and then just tell me all the details after.
Hope this makes sense. "
It does. Do you get more or nothing from your Mrs? |
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i have experienced it at a meet in the past. the husband did nothing at all. at some point i think the wife and i forgot he was even there.
i never was told the reasons as to why that was what they wanted, nor did i actually ask them |
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
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I understand that. Bunny would love to see me with other women but i don't get much interest. |
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
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Surely this would be unfair ?!
I no I think I would feel unfair if I didn't agree to my oh playing if I were playing Mrs x |
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"Good afternoon all. I wonder if some of you can take the time to help me with the mind set as to why some couples where the men don't join in.
I'm not talking about Cucks. That's a different mind set. lads don't you want to have fun? Do you get more fun from the wife/girlfriend of she get extra men? I would love to hear your story on why it works for you."
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
Surely this would be unfair ?!
I no I think I would feel unfair if I didn't agree to my oh playing if I were playing Mrs x"
I agree, one couple we know she plays with men and women regularly, but said she got jealous when other women tried to play with her hubby.
It wouldn't be for us, my partner and I meet together or alone.
If we met together, we both play or neither would. |
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
Surely this would be unfair ?!
I no I think I would feel unfair if I didn't agree to my oh playing if I were playing Mrs x"
The Mrs won't play with him if his oh not interested in me |
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
I understand that. Bunny would love to see me with other women but i don't get much interest."
My partner has my full permission to meet women and couples alone and has done in the past.
It's not easy though, many women won't meet men in relationships, even when their partner knows.
I have happily comfirmed it to people who wanted to meet jack alone though. |
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When me and the wife swung a fare bit way back. I always watched at the beginning, her on the bed or settee with the guy,kissing, him getting her huge tits out, her getting his cock out.
I'd wank then after a nod from her join in.
I don't think I could just watch for too long lol |
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"Sometimes it's because their lady doesn't want them playing with other women, we've met couples like that at socials.
Then some just get off watching their lady playing with other men or women.
Surely this would be unfair ?!
I no I think I would feel unfair if I didn't agree to my oh playing if I were playing Mrs x"
The Mrs won't play with him if his oh not interested in me |
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This isn’t exactly my perspective, but rather the perspective of the husband of a wife I had an occasional sexual relationship with…
He wasn’t particularly interested in joining in but did enjoy hearing about her sexual activities afterwards. He wasn’t a cuck as he often had his own adventures, he just didn’t have much interest in more than 1 on 1 |
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"Personally for me (male half) it’s confidence. We didn’t embark on this for me to play it was more the hotwife scenario which developed into cuckold.
However, things have changed and we are now open to playing with a lady but I just don’t think women are after what I have to offer. Women want well hung and muscular and I am neither and I would always wonder if the woman was judging me compared to others. Which is why I’m more than happy for my good lady to play on her own and then just tell me all the details after.
Hope this makes sense. "
As a man who suffers from confidence and who is not hung I think we still have a lot to offer touch, fingers, toys and tongue can do wonders. |
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Yeah thats me! Im no cuck but id be happy to sit back and watch C getting hers! Watching and seeing it from a different angle kinda gets me going. Dont get me wrong, id be looking at all involved but C is my wife so shes my priority viewing
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By *el71Couple 49 weeks ago
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"Good afternoon all. I wonder if some of you can take the time to help me with the mind set as to why some couples where the men don't join in.
I'm not talking about Cucks. That's a different mind set. lads don't you want to have fun? Do you get more fun from the wife/girlfriend of she get extra men? I would love to hear your story on why it works for you."
We started off just playing together but found it difficult to find a couple we both liked. So became the Donna show and I stepped back from it. |
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I don't join in.
I like to see vixen interacting with other men, and seeing other men pleasing her is my kink.
She would be happy for me to join in but for it me it changes the dynamic, instead of giving bull her full attention she is sharing it.
I have my fun after bull has left the room! |
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When I was a couple it was just the joy of watching my sexy partner fuck! Like watching a pornstar that comes home with you. Sometimes I'd join in, but offered loved to just sit and watch her do her filthy thing. Later I'd have her all too myself. |
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"Good afternoon all. I wonder if some of you can take the time to help me with the mind set as to why some couples where the men don't join in.
I'm not talking about Cucks. That's a different mind set. lads don't you want to have fun? Do you get more fun from the wife/girlfriend of she get extra men? I would love to hear your story on why it works for you.
We started off just playing together but found it difficult to find a couple we both liked. So became the Donna show and I stepped back from it. "
And do you hetnjust as much attention from the Mrs for it?
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In my case I have quite a long refractory period.
If we are with a guy it isn't really an issue as I like to mostly watch before joining in later or continuing when he has left.
With a lady it's a bit different but different as I need to pace myself. If it's a stayover it's a better situation for me. |
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Quite happy with just watching, taking pics and vids, shouting words of encouragement to the Mrs, no issues in terms of getting it up.
Saying that had to take over a few times from guys when not able to rise for the occasion, stage fright get it, it happens sometimes. |
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"Husband who don't join is?
Missing out on a lot of fun ... 
If he gets out of it what he wants to get out of it why is he missing out on any fun?
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agree with this comment & several others who I’ve said some times the male half just likes to watch, and get his pleasure from seeing his lady playing. Sometimes it also the reclaim sex later in the evening that is the big turn on for them. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Personally for me (male half) it’s confidence. We didn’t embark on this for me to play it was more the hotwife scenario which developed into cuckold.
However, things have changed and we are now open to playing with a lady but I just don’t think women are after what I have to offer. Women want well hung and muscular and I am neither and I would always wonder if the woman was judging me compared to others. Which is why I’m more than happy for my good lady to play on her own and then just tell me all the details after.
Hope this makes sense. "
You say women want muscular I’m not that muscular but I get told I’m intimidating and scary so I don’t think you are right there we are who we are get joining in |
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I’m happy to watch for most of our meets. I find it extremely hot, listening to and watching the wife enjoy herself.
We’re into BDSM and I get to make the arrangements and choose the guys for her. Occasionally I’ll join in, but mostly watch. |
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