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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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Hey all, we’re newbies to this scene…. ( mainly because we still haven't had a meet).
We’re considering looking for a couple for our first meet, was firstly wanting MMF, but as you can imagine we’ve been inundated with men haha.
This has made it extremely difficult because some of the responses we’ve had.., well I’m sure most of you would already know  .
Anyways we’re the kind of people that like to have good chat and banter and maybe a social drink etc first, but we also love a nice long sex session  .
What do you couples prefer? A quick hour or so or Ann all nighter?.
Are we asking too much?
We would love some feedback on what you guys prefer when you meet other couples etc.
Look forward to your advice
Thank you!
Lynsey x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Everyone is different, but we enjoy each other before and after so and hour or so with the other party is about enough for us. "
Thank you kindly .
Do you like a social first too?. |
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"Everyone is different, but we enjoy each other before and after so and hour or so with the other party is about enough for us.
Thank you kindly .
Do you like a social first too?."
Nah our dynamic isn’t one that involves socialising. This is just sex for us, but lots of people do enjoy the social aspect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Everyone is different, but we enjoy each other before and after so and hour or so with the other party is about enough for us.
Thank you kindly .
Do you like a social first too?.
Nah our dynamic isn’t one that involves socialising. This is just sex for us, but lots of people do enjoy the social aspect. "
Again thank you!
We would100% still enjoy each other and I would hope the other couple would too, even in the same room.
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I had all different lengths. Some over nighters, others with a drink beforehand, some turn up at the hotel and a couple of hours fun then go.
Really depends on who you’re meeting, what you all want to get out of it etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"I had all different lengths. Some over nighters, others with a drink beforehand, some turn up at the hotel and a couple of hours fun then go.
Really depends on who you’re meeting, what you all want to get out of it etc. "
Of course .
I was just wondering what the majority prefer.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"We like to spend maybe a couple of hours at most... we would not do an all night as we like to have each other for that
Cali "
For reference peeps, WE like to go all night. Didn’t mean that it is what we would prefer with a couple  .
Just wondered if people did when meeting others.
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By *DW1983Man 51 weeks ago
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It's almost a 'how long is a piece of string' question. I've met people at clubs and had some great sex-only fun, nothing more. I've met others where it's been dinner, some nice chat, then back to a hotel for fun.
Personally (and I know you're looking more for couples, so maybe irrelevant!) if it's a long session, or all night, then for me it'd be something like meet for fun, then go out, nicely dressed up, for a flirty dinner, before heading back for round 2 and more... |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"1minute each side for a perfect steak. Bobs your uncle
You like them blue then
Are you implying swingers like it raw?  "
If that is your preference of course  |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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"I had all different lengths. Some over nighters, others with a drink beforehand, some turn up at the hotel and a couple of hours fun then go.
Really depends on who you’re meeting, what you all want to get out of it etc.
Of course .
I was just wondering what the majority prefer.
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I think you will find those who like you have a preference for socialising first will have a different answer than those who like to get straight to business.
Either way, there’s no wrong/right answer. If you feel an hour socialising is enough then find others that are happy to do the same. If you’re going to be clock watching then you may need to go back and ask yourself what you need before moving from a social to sexual rather than a pre determined time period spent together as a measure of what would best suit you.
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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We tend to prefer a little time chatting to break the ice over a drink, then just get straight to the action. After driving for an hour and a bit its best to give us time to settle in and relax a little first. |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Some do social meets before playing. It’s up to you and whomever you’re meeting. Same for whether you enjoy one another for hours or just a few hours. Just don’t pull out your watch to see how long it’s been, ha! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"I had all different lengths. Some over nighters, others with a drink beforehand, some turn up at the hotel and a couple of hours fun then go.
Really depends on who you’re meeting, what you all want to get out of it etc.
Of course .
I was just wondering what the majority prefer.
I think you will find those who like you have a preference for socialising first will have a different answer than those who like to get straight to business.
Either way, there’s no wrong/right answer. If you feel an hour socialising is enough then find others that are happy to do the same. If you’re going to be clock watching then you may need to go back and ask yourself what you need before moving from a social to sexual rather than a pre determined time period spent together as a measure of what would best suit you.
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I wouldn’t be clock watching haha.
I was just gauging info on how couples go about their meets.
Being new to this, I just wondered how people prefer things and/or roughly how long in average people like to know each other (so to speak).
In no way are we expecting a whole evening/morning thing haha!.
I was just saying WE have long sessions personally, just didn’t know if people did such thing with others that was all I was asking in that aspect.
Thank you though! |
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I think the meet should go on for as long as it is fun.
I have had all nighters and I have had quickies. All were great. I would say the norm tends to be an hour or two of playing with a bit of a drink/social/chat beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"It's almost a 'how long is a piece of string' question. I've met people at clubs and had some great sex-only fun, nothing more. I've met others where it's been dinner, some nice chat, then back to a hotel for fun.
Personally (and I know you're looking more for couples, so maybe irrelevant!) if it's a long session, or all night, then for me it'd be something like meet for fun, then go out, nicely dressed up, for a flirty dinner, before heading back for round 2 and more..."
Thank you!
I know everyone is different, and to be honest we don’t know what we would prefer until we’ve experienced it.
I was just curious haha.
I think I would like to have a little drink beforehand just to know we all have that respect for each other and know that we can talk in the bedroom etc.
And have a bit of a click at least.
For the first time I don’t think I could just jump straight into sex……
Maybe after the first experience we might prefer to get straight to it haha.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"I think the meet should go on for as long as it is fun.
I have had all nighters and I have had quickies. All were great. I would say the norm tends to be an hour or two of playing with a bit of a drink/social/chat beforehand."
That’s kind of what I expected to be honest.
Thank you. |
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If it’s an initial social meet to gauge how interested all parties are, 1-2 hours. Once a “play date” is agreed, we like to make a full evening of it - couple of hours social, couple of hours play. |
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All depends, and we have enjoyed meets for varying length.
With a couple, like to have a bit of social first, maybe a few drinks and games to get everyone going, then play. So could take a few hours, but certainly not all night (and we wouldn't necessarily want am 'all night' play session either, too much).
Second time we meet, we'd be up for quicker progression to play.
For threesomes with single guys, we've more gone for the one drink/quick 20 mins at their local, or cup of something at ours before cracking on pretty quickly.
At clubs it can vary wildly depending on whether we've socialised with the person/couple before. Could be straight to play, could be hours of chat and giggles and then a play at the end |
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By (user no longer on site) 51 weeks ago
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Really depends. One hour seems a bit short. If it is a short one I set aside three hours (foreplay, main event, aftercare, shower, coffee, waiting for Uber). My meets with regular partners typically last for approx. six hours, not all of it is sex, of course. |
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"Hey all, we’re newbies to this scene…. ( mainly because we still haven't had a meet).
We’re considering looking for a couple for our first meet, was firstly wanting MMF, but as you can imagine we’ve been inundated with men haha.
This has made it extremely difficult because some of the responses we’ve had.., well I’m sure most of you would already know .
Anyways we’re the kind of people that like to have good chat and banter and maybe a social drink etc first, but we also love a nice long sex session .
What do you couples prefer? A quick hour or so or Ann all nighter?.
Are we asking too much?
We would love some feedback on what you guys prefer when you meet other couples etc.
Look forward to your advice
Thank you!
Lynsey x"
We are still pretty new to all of this and so far our meets have be n fairly quick. We would love them to be longer and an all night session with play, rest, play etc would be our idea of heaven |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Hey all, we’re newbies to this scene…. ( mainly because we still haven't had a meet).
We’re considering looking for a couple for our first meet, was firstly wanting MMF, but as you can imagine we’ve been inundated with men haha.
This has made it extremely difficult because some of the responses we’ve had.., well I’m sure most of you would already know .
Anyways we’re the kind of people that like to have good chat and banter and maybe a social drink etc first, but we also love a nice long sex session .
What do you couples prefer? A quick hour or so or Ann all nighter?.
Are we asking too much?
We would love some feedback on what you guys prefer when you meet other couples etc.
Look forward to your advice
Thank you!
Lynsey x
We are still pretty new to all of this and so far our meets have be n fairly quick. We would love them to be longer and an all night session with play, rest, play etc would be our idea of heaven"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"For us a social is a defo, 1-2hrs to see if we click,
Play 1-3 hrs is enough for us. Need time to ourselves to reconnect "
Sounds pretty good to me that way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"All depends, and we have enjoyed meets for varying length.
With a couple, like to have a bit of social first, maybe a few drinks and games to get everyone going, then play. So could take a few hours, but certainly not all night (and we wouldn't necessarily want am 'all night' play session either, too much).
Second time we meet, we'd be up for quicker progression to play.
For threesomes with single guys, we've more gone for the one drink/quick 20 mins at their local, or cup of something at ours before cracking on pretty quickly.
At clubs it can vary wildly depending on whether we've socialised with the person/couple before. Could be straight to play, could be hours of chat and giggles and then a play at the end"
Thank you for your response, I don’t wish for an all nighter…. Deffo too much. We just didn’t know if it’s what some do especially if like us we love too (with each other).
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