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By *94mee OP Man 50 weeks ago
Manchester |
So I am a planner and like to look forward to meeting someone after chatting. Spare of the moment is hard.
Lots of the profiles I like though seem to only post a meet now or short notice.
I appreciate spontaneous turns people on but life's busy...come on give me a chance!!
What do you lot prefer? |
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By *nc31Man 50 weeks ago
uxbridge |
"So I am a planner and like to look forward to meeting someone after chatting. Spare of the moment is hard.
Lots of the profiles I like though seem to only post a meet now or short notice.
I appreciate spontaneous turns people on but life's busy...come on give me a chance!!
What do you lot prefer?"
Male half of couple here, I browse and arrange for meets. What we've found is soo many guys who we make plans to meet mess about. Had from days ahead them guaranteeing meet that weekend then make excuses. Msg week later n make arrange again n not show. Once they messed us about I don't expect them to turn up 2nd time arranged but give them another chance. I usually browse for other guy for potential spontaneous meet if they don't show. Most times the spontaneous meet happens so I just block the messer! I find it odd to waste our time when I'm offering my gfs tight pussy nsa, after days of msging. So spontaneous works better for us.she has a few reg fb who can randomly txt her for meet within hour or 2 she always keen with them too |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Spontaneous
I have found most of time the longer you plan in advance the less likely the meeting is going to happen.
Had a meet the other day he messaged me at 2pm and was walking into the bedroom just after 4pm. |
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By *nc31Man 50 weeks ago
uxbridge |
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I have found most of time the longer you plan in advance the less likely the meeting is going to happen.
Had a meet the other day he messaged me at 2pm and was walking into the bedroom just after 4pm. "
this is exactly what we found. Can be talking and arranging for weeks and still nothing. Spontaneous meets if they want it they will come x |
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I have found most of time the longer you plan in advance the less likely the meeting is going to happen.
Had a meet the other day he messaged me at 2pm and was walking into the bedroom just after 4pm. this is exactly what we found. Can be talking and arranging for weeks and still nothing. Spontaneous meets if they want it they will come x"
Definitely this! Long term plans never seem to work out for some reason |
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We like to plan
But as others have said this is when we find we get messed about! Spontaneous we find the meet is more likely to happen. I prefer to plan and meet someone I feel like I’ve gotten to know but it doesn’t always work out that way.
Saying that there are some amazing people out there as well that don’t let you down x |
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Never spontaneous - for us it comes across as desperate, and it’s also usually when guys are horny and already wanking and want to talk about an immediate meet, then they cum and ghost you. But then planning is also hard because many also do similar. They like talking about a meet but when it comes to it they have already whacked themselves off several times and make excuses as to why they can’t show up as planned. Worst being when away and in a hotel and they leave you hanging.
So it’s not that easy to meet reliable people full stop.
I know this comment may get loads of responses about how reliable they are, or some people have never been messed about and that’s fine. Good for you. But I’m talking about our experiences only  |
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"So I am a planner and like to look forward to meeting someone after chatting. Spare of the moment is hard.
Lots of the profiles I like though seem to only post a meet now or short notice.
I appreciate spontaneous turns people on but life's busy...come on give me a chance!!
What do you lot prefer?"
I much prefer not to plan... I hate it
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"I like a bit of filthy chat ahead of a meet to get in the mood so to speak  "
I find that it has the opposite effect, I slow go off the mood the long some chats. |
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My wife likes more spontanious I think where as I like to be more cautious.
Part of that is you don't know the crazy you're letting into your life potentially.
Also I would be more annoyed if I were horny and then someone bounced. |
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long term dont often work in my experience , something always crops up , cats fallen over , oven caught fire , car failed mot etc etc etc
truth is folk feel horny and excited the day they arrange the meet but dont on the day of the meet...
spontaneous. |
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By *ouMeandThemCouple 50 weeks ago
Newton Stewart & Birmingham |
"Never spontaneous - for us it comes across as desperate, and it’s also usually when guys are horny and already wanking and want to talk about an immediate meet, then they cum and ghost you. But then planning is also hard because many also do similar. They like talking about a meet but when it comes to it they have already whacked themselves off several times and make excuses as to why they can’t show up as planned. Worst being when away and in a hotel and they leave you hanging.
So it’s not that easy to meet reliable people full stop.
I know this comment may get loads of responses about how reliable they are, or some people have never been messed about and that’s fine. Good for you. But I’m talking about our experiences only "
This is exactly our experience too.
We like to plan meets...get to know the person first as we like long term friends but invariably we get stood up or ghosted sometimes less than an hour before the meet...very frustrating!
We want to find guys who are happy to chat and have a social before going further but most guys just want to meet there and then because they are feeling horny. |
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By *andb69Couple 49 weeks ago
leeds |
Most times I prefer spontaneous and anonymous, which is why I enjoy clubs so much. There are always plenty of willing guys. However sometimes you make a connection and it's good to follow up with further planned meets. |
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This is exactly our experience too.
We like to plan meets...get to know the person first as we like long term friends but invariably we get stood up or ghosted sometimes less than an hour before the meet...very frustrating!
We want to find guys who are happy to chat and have a social before going further but most guys just want to meet there and then because they are feeling horny. "
Not just us then. Comforting to know in a small way. Haha |
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The answer for me is yes - I like spontaneous and I like a (little) planning.
Spontaneous is great (like at a club) because having anonymous fun and just enjoying people’s bodies is
I also like to set up meets so a little planning is good but when it drags on for ages you just know that this person won’t meet.
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"So I am a planner and like to look forward to meeting someone after chatting. Spare of the moment is hard.
Lots of the profiles I like though seem to only post a meet now or short notice.
I appreciate spontaneous turns people on but life's busy...come on give me a chance!!
What do you lot prefer?"
Spontaneous! Prefer ....
Although with having family life have to plan. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"I like a bit of filthy chat ahead of a meet to get in the mood so to speak
I find that it has the opposite effect, I slow go off the mood the long some chats. me too. X
Cali "
I feel like it's turning into an oven planed meeting "we will do this and that followed by more that" I like to go with the flow and see what happens. X |
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"So I am a planner and like to look forward to meeting someone after chatting. Spare of the moment is hard.
Lots of the profiles I like though seem to only post a meet now or short notice.
I appreciate spontaneous turns people on but life's busy...come on give me a chance!!
What do you lot prefer?"
I don’t do spontaneous because I like to chat for a little while beforehand and actually get to know people before I jump into bed with them.
I also don’t like to plan more than a week ahead because I find guys often let me down.
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Spontaneous has always worked well for me, a lot of talking before hand often hasn’t worked out. The quickest was about an hour, an online meet. I asked what brought her to the certain website and she replied with “looking for a decent fuck”. Pop round to mine then! Within the hour she was there, in the door snogging and my hand in her knickers - right result. |
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Spontaneous for us. We find by the time it comes round we're burnt out and the edgeness thrill has gone. Where as spur of the moment meeting chatting flirting not knowing what to expect then it happens that's when our juices are flowing. |
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