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Best way to introduce my partner (female) into swinging
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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Been together 2 years, she knows I’ve been to a couple of clubs and what I’ve done.
When she has been drinking she’s up for it but when sober she’s a bit afraid of it all |
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I love how many "single guys" have profiles on here. But when you read the forums, they all mention my wife this, my wife that. I wounder how many wives know their husbands are actually on fab????  |
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would she agree to going to a club with you or to making a couples profile just to look round. You could set filters so you didn't get any mail and she could take things at her own pace.
Its never a good idea to agree to this sort of thing when you've been drinking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"would she agree to going to a club with you or to making a couples profile just to look round. You could set filters so you didn't get any mail and she could take things at her own pace.
Its never a good idea to agree to this sort of thing when you've been drinking "
We did have a couples profile for a while and she got a bit frightened by it all.
Might try again tho and adjust the filters as you say.
And yes I don’t trust what anyone says while drinking a lot lol
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Ask her if she wants to go to a club and explain you don't have to do anything. On our first club night we just played with each other in a room on our own. Be careful, it's not for everyone. What you don't see on here is the drama that goes on between couples, we've seen some of it in club's. Concentrate on each other and only consider it if you have a great sex life with each other. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Ask her if she wants to go to a club and explain you don't have to do anything. On our first club night we just played with each other in a room on our own. Be careful, it's not for everyone. What you don't see on here is the drama that goes on between couples, we've seen some of it in club's. Concentrate on each other and only consider it if you have a great sex life with each other."
Thank you that’s great, we certainly do have a amazing sex life
But going to a club and having fun with just my partner sounds great and maybe will lead to other things for round 2 |
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As a newbie my self it took me 11 years to get this far, my missus swung 11 years ago she finally persuaded me, still apprehensive but you only live once I suppose and will find out Saturday if I like the clubs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"As a newbie my self it took me 11 years to get this far, my missus swung 11 years ago she finally persuaded me, still apprehensive but you only live once I suppose and will find out Saturday if I like the clubs"
It’s a laid back as you want it to be in the clubs, as someone said to me in these comments, which was great.
Have fun together in a club.
And see where it leads.
Who knows.
I think you will enjoy it.
Off to pleasures? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"If you seriously have not discussed this when sober and doing daily life, let it go."
I have discussed it, but as I’ve said in my comments
She’s a bit weary of it all |
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By *oxy jWoman 51 weeks ago
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some swingers start early in relationships if they are very open with each other but most take years to get to the swinging stage ... another clue is look at how few couples and women swing there's a reason there are so few couples n women on the scene and that is they simply dont want to be its a very small scene in reality |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"some swingers start early in relationships if they are very open with each other but most take years to get to the swinging stage ... another clue is look at how few couples and women swing there's a reason there are so few couples n women on the scene and that is they simply dont want to be its a very small scene in reality "
Yes very true, I love the thought of it all and just want to take it another step, but also completely understand what you are saying.
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By *oxy jWoman 51 weeks ago
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also how can anyone give advice to you if you dont know your own wife then how the hell are strangers going to help ...how others found the scene will have no bearing on you and how or if you get into the scene yourself... big bit of advice dont push it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Taking it at a comfortable pace and discussing everything worked for us. Also not putting pressure on definitely helps"
I would not put any pressure on anyone ever, very chilled person I am.
Pace is definitely the way forward.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"also how can anyone give advice to you if you dont know your own wife then how the hell are strangers going to help ...how others found the scene will have no bearing on you and how or if you get into the scene yourself... big bit of advice dont push it "
Thank you and no I won’t be pushing it what so ever.
Just seeing everyone’s thoughts and I’ve had some great feedback.
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"As a newbie my self it took me 11 years to get this far, my missus swung 11 years ago she finally persuaded me, still apprehensive but you only live once I suppose and will find out Saturday if I like the clubs
It’s a laid back as you want it to be in the clubs, as someone said to me in these comments, which was great.
Have fun together in a club.
And see where it leads.
Who knows.
I think you will enjoy it.
Off to pleasures? "
Yeah that's the one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"As a newbie my self it took me 11 years to get this far, my missus swung 11 years ago she finally persuaded me, still apprehensive but you only live once I suppose and will find out Saturday if I like the clubs
It’s a laid back as you want it to be in the clubs, as someone said to me in these comments, which was great.
Have fun together in a club.
And see where it leads.
Who knows.
I think you will enjoy it.
Off to pleasures?
Yeah that's the one "
Think you will love it
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