I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! |
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"I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! "
We prefer a simple not for us
As some do read messages then nothing whilst others wait for a reply |
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"I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! "
People are hard work here it’s frustrating on both ends me perhaps a line in the profile saying if there’s no reply take it as a no thanks could be helpful ? Just an idea |
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I've found it fairly natural to follow my heart here. I'll reply to many but my time and energy are limited, so it may or may not meet expectations. If totally sure it's a no, it's best to block as soon as you know. It's quick and clear, preventing any abuse too. |
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"I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! "
Personally think a polite reply goes a long way, manners cost nothing plus I got blocked twice today without a response |
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By *oxy jWoman 52 weeks ago
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i always try to reply apart from those who clearly have not read my profile or those who send a porn script any oh why nots or abuse instantly blocked ....
i pre block so i tend not to get to much abusive reply's anymore my block list is massive and i dont lose any sleep over not replying if i miss a few as nobody owes anybody anything on here ... if i had to reply to all id have no time to seek guys for fun |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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If they have read the profile we will at least reply and say no. If they get abusive about it then that lets us know they need blocking too.
If people delete our messages unread we aint that fussed, Their loss at the end of the day. |
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If our profile has been read and it's a polite enough message we do respond, even if it's thanks but not for us.
Thankfully we have dodged rude messages back but if we did get any then it's simple enough to block someone and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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If someone has messaged me and they aren't for me/what I'm looking for, I'll respond and say so, so there is clarity either side of the conversation. I don't really enjoy being in the dark with things so to speak, although I understand some profiles get lots of messages and so it's easier to not respond to all of them that are not what they're after. |
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I used to do the polite no thank you, it ends up with "why" or just a load of abuse so now I don't bother.
Occasionally if it's a really well written message and they've clearly read the profile I'll make the effort to respond but 9 times out of 10 I ignore them.
No reply = no thank you.
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I’m smart enough to know I hold no cards in these situations so you have to respect either the no reply or the no thankyou’s (these are very rare).
With a no reply how long until you give up hope that they’ve read your message but haven’t got time te reply immediately? |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I prefer a no than being ignored
That being said when we are told no I think “damn this really is our loss - gorgeous and a lovely person”. When we are ignored I am feel better because that way I know they are a bit of a rude person and in the end not our type and we feel no loss!”
So meh I don’t know |
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"I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! "
say no thanks |
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"I've had a couple of messages recently with photos attached. I'm not interested so I've not responded. I've then had a follow up message shouting at me(via message) for not responding with a "polite no thankyou". What's people's thoughts on this?
I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
Obviously it's really rude to send a shouty message- the irony isn't lost on me, but are we are really expected to say no to everybody?! "
If I have no reply and then message has been looked at I take that as a no but if anyone replies to me with a no I wish them all the best and leave it at that  |
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By *afkaMan 52 weeks ago
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I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no. "
I think a simple "No thank you"
Or "Sorry, not for me" is a better way to save somebody's feelings than no reply at all - the sender doesn't know if their message might have just got lost in the avalanche of messages you receive, a simple No lets them know where they stand and prevents further unwanted messages |
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I'd rather just receive nothing in return rather than a direct no. Surely that's better at saving somebody's feelings than a direct no.
I think a simple "No thank you"
Or "Sorry, not for me" is a better way to save somebody's feelings than no reply at all - the sender doesn't know if their message might have just got lost in the avalanche of messages you receive, a simple No lets them know where they stand and prevents further unwanted messages"
It doesn't prevent further messages unfortunately. It just increases the chances of someone getting an abusive message. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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No one is owed a response... But I think most people would like one.
Having seen the reactions from some men to polite rejections...it's understandable why some women choose not to engage. |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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We try to reply with a polite no unless like on occasion they have continued to try and engage at which point they get blocked. This isn't just limited to single guys, most of the time it's been couples.
If we send a message and don't get a reply but see it's been opened we assume it's a no or they have other priorities at that time than to reply to us. If it's then deleted then that speaks for itself and no harm done.
If you don't get a reply there is no point getting your back up over it and sending shitty messages or asking why it's a no. |
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