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My wife said to me set it up and make it happen?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 47 weeks ago
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So we both been talking about this for ages we been doing this fantasy since lockdown I'd say about bringing a extra guy in the bedroom for MFM or me to watch
Now she's said it I got cold feet and I've been so up for it this whole time haha ! Is that normal ? I'm turned on by it alot but it's now making that couples profile and actually talking about someone else with my wife ! Any advice ? |
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"So we both been talking about this for ages we been doing this fantasy since lockdown I'd say about bringing a extra guy in the bedroom for MFM or me to watch
Now she's said it I got cold feet and I've been so up for it this whole time haha ! Is that normal ? I'm turned on by it alot but it's now making that couples profile and actually talking about someone else with my wife ! Any advice ?"
It's probably not normal. It's maybe best to leave as a fantasy. |
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"So we both been talking about this for ages we been doing this fantasy since lockdown I'd say about bringing a extra guy in the bedroom for MFM or me to watch
Now she's said it I got cold feet and I've been so up for it this whole time haha ! Is that normal ? I'm turned on by it alot but it's now making that couples profile and actually talking about someone else with my wife ! Any advice ?"
Honestly, best approach is to have an open and honest chat about your feelings.
I've been swinging for nearly 15 years and it's amazing how many people don't have these chats.
My DMs are open if you want to chat OP. |
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I think you've possibly missed the boat on this op.
You've been talking about it in the forums for so long, but neither of you has moved to make it a reality.
You've had lots of good advice over the years on here, but only you can make that leap to it being a reality.
Sometimes it's best to just actually be brave and try something and see how it feels for you both.
If you still want to try this lifestyle as a couple, sit down together and make the profile. If you don't like it, you will at least know, rather than wondering about it or regretting not having a go.
Only you know if you want to go ahead or not,talk to your wife, establish what you're both looking to achieve and are comfortable with and go from there. |
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"So we both been talking about this for ages we been doing this fantasy since lockdown I'd say about bringing a extra guy in the bedroom for MFM or me to watch
Now she's said it I got cold feet and I've been so up for it this whole time haha ! Is that normal ? I'm turned on by it alot but it's now making that couples profile and actually talking about someone else with my wife ! Any advice ?"
Take it slow, take it steady |
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It sounds like it’s just fantasy in your head - I recall you were setting up a couples profile a while ago and you still haven’t.
It’s fine if it just fantasy - but talking and talking and then talking about it even more (which you’ve done for years) won’t get you any closer to going beyond fantasy, which is where I suspect you already know it will stay.
I had no clue how I’d feel watching someone I loved have sex with someone else so I arranged a blindfold meet for C and just done it - no one will be able to help or guide you - you’ve got to take the leap.
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You’ve done the calculations, triple checked them, ran through the scenarios, analyzed it to bits…now it’s time to take first step into the unknown.. the scary part where your talk demands it’s walk counterpart …but after a little while, the scary should give way to new heights of pleasure for you both…Good luck! Communication is key, after that, take action! |
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By *dquestCouple 47 weeks ago
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We second the idea of hitting a club first. Talk with other swinging at the club and see how they handle things. Flirt a bit and go home turned on. Then chat about it some more. Communicate! |
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