Good question op.
Decent open and honest profiles are a start.
Pretending to be who you aren't is a waste of time for everyone!
Good communication skills are a must.
If your messages aren't interesting then we aren't interested.
A willingness to respect that we come as a couple and an effort to meet us half way with what we would enjoy balanced with what that person/those people are seeking.
Too many see what they want... expect it on demand and don't care what we are looking for.
Be clean. Smell nice.
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over a year ago
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For me it’s about building a connection.
If they say they are single but can’t talk or nights at weekends then I think are they.
That there’s some good general banter and not all sex talk
That they are not passing by or working locally
That they are honest. I don’t care or judge as long as they are honest. As soon as a “hole” appears in what they are saying then I’m out
And a phone and video chat first. Too many fakes on here |
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"For me it’s about building a connection.
If they say they are single but can’t talk or nights at weekends then I think are they.
That there’s some good general banter and not all sex talk
That they are not passing by or working locally
That they are honest. I don’t care or judge as long as they are honest. As soon as a “hole” appears in what they are saying then I’m out
And a phone and video chat first. Too many fakes on here "
I did specifically ask for women's opinions fwiw. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
They're happy to chat for however long it takes/until I feel comfortable.
They will meet socially with no expectations & appreciate the safety aspects of meeting a man.
They don't belittle other men or talk down about ladies they've met or spoken to.
They've got a good profile and some decent veries.
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"They're happy to chat for however long it takes/until I feel comfortable.
They will meet socially with no expectations & appreciate the safety aspects of meeting a man.
They don't belittle other men or talk down about ladies they've met or spoken to.
They've got a good profile and some decent veries.
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Yes! Waiting until you feel comfortable to meet them is a huge deal.
Also if a man indicates that he understands that it's riskier for a woman to meet a man than the other way round, then he gets some green stars I'm probably likely to meet him sooner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me it’s about building a connection.
If they say they are single but can’t talk or nights at weekends then I think are they.
That there’s some good general banter and not all sex talk
That they are not passing by or working locally
That they are honest. I don’t care or judge as long as they are honest. As soon as a “hole” appears in what they are saying then I’m out
And a phone and video chat first. Too many fakes on here
I did specifically ask for women's opinions fwiw."
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"They're happy to chat for however long it takes/until I feel comfortable.
They will meet socially with no expectations & appreciate the safety aspects of meeting a man.
They don't belittle other men or talk down about ladies they've met or spoken to.
They've got a good profile and some decent veries.
Yes! Waiting until you feel comfortable to meet them is a huge deal.
Also if a man indicates that he understands that it's riskier for a woman to meet a man than the other way round, then he gets some green stars I'm probably likely to meet him sooner."
Absolutely, any pushing to meet sooner or thinking a social will be more than a drink and chat, that's a block.
It's so refreshing when you find someone who is happy to take it at your pace and doesn't think a social means you want to date them.
I met my partner here 8 years ago, we chatted for maybe 6 weeks before meeting and he was fine with that. |
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It's so refreshing when you find someone who is happy to take it at your pace and doesn't think a social means you want to date them. "
I think what's been interesting is that this time round on here I've quickly amassed a substantial list of local men that I do want to meet at some point.
But obviously, I can't just meet them all straight away. Because I have a job. And sometimes I just want to watch TV. And I don't have endless money for drinking coffee.
So when I've said to someone that I'm interested, but it'll probably not happen for a few months because I'm keen to meet lots of different people and there's a bit of a list, it's been fascinating how they respond. Some guys are like 'no that's cool, I get it, and I'm into this for the long haul so I'm happy to meet for a social when you have time.' Whereas other guys have been persistent in their messaging, or even downright petulant and insulting. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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It's so refreshing when you find someone who is happy to take it at your pace and doesn't think a social means you want to date them.
I think what's been interesting is that this time round on here I've quickly amassed a substantial list of local men that I do want to meet at some point.
But obviously, I can't just meet them all straight away. Because I have a job. And sometimes I just want to watch TV. And I don't have endless money for drinking coffee.
So when I've said to someone that I'm interested, but it'll probably not happen for a few months because I'm keen to meet lots of different people and there's a bit of a list, it's been fascinating how they respond. Some guys are like 'no that's cool, I get it, and I'm into this for the long haul so I'm happy to meet for a social when you have time.' Whereas other guys have been persistent in their messaging, or even downright petulant and insulting."
It's a good filter isn't it,
If you talk for a while people out themselves with their real attitudes or personality. |
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"Spelling.. you can tell a lot from that first initial message, how it’s phrased, effort and willingness to engage in a conversation starter goes a long way "
I was just going to say the same thing! How they come across on messages says so much. The same can be said for a quick phone call/FaceTime before meeting, you get the feeling when someone’s not being genuine. |
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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
A Well written, informative profile,if it's just a few lines ot will fill in later , it's a definite no.
A good mixture of pictures, if it's just dick pictures we usually don't bother.
Good verifications and preferably not from years ago. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
Not telling me what they think i want to hear to drop my pants.
Doesn't talk to me like i need their cock.
Someone who trully knows what FF is all about and not what they think it is about.
Don't assume I'm stupid and maybe have vastly more braincells than them, and they are not all in my foof 
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Just to have a good night on an initial social.
Meet in a pub you are happy to stay if its a no show.
Happy, open, honest people.
No angst, drama or misery.
Watch out for too many e-mails or too many questions regarding sexual acts etc.
Pre meet chat with both partners but especially lady, she can only be out so many times. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
for me theirs no green flags only red flags .... the moment you start thinking green flags then your judgement becomes flawed ...
put in another wat i trust no one until trust is earnt trust is only earnt with regulars but you have you have it in your mind even trusting someone can go very wrong quickly ...
first meet you learn nothing bar maybe they were a good or crap shag it takes time for trust and friendship especially sexual ones ... see i dont want to know their ins n outs im not looking for a life partner i dont want their baggage no matter what i just want fun anything more than that is a red flag...
so no green flags only red flags for me ... sexual attraction is a must and being on the same page swinging wise
sewe guys think by saying they are one of the good guys is a green flag its not its a red same with those who brag = red and on and on
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
"When you realise you've exchanged over 50 messages and not talked about sex yet. It's more about the rapport you build"
that to me is a red flag im looking for people who swing not dating love or relationship 50 messages lol they would be on my block list well before 50 messages ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's someone who is open to non sex chat. And is happy to chat for a while.
I don't meet quickly and if they get pushy I'm off.
I don't need to know their life story or they mine but getting to know someone and having a conversation that isn't all about their cock and what they want to do with it is definitely a good sign. |
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"When you realise you've exchanged over 50 messages and not talked about sex yet. It's more about the rapport you build
that to me is a red flag im looking for people who swing not dating love or relationship 50 messages lol they would be on my block list well before 50 messages ..."
Lol lucky we're not looking for each other! I'm not looking for dating or love either...  |
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By *archelCouple
over a year ago
A field somewhere |
Non sex chat, nothing turns me off quicker than some random I've never met talking dirty, no issues with discussing boundaries and what sort of play we like though...that's important.
Decent recent veris showing they're real. Respectful behaviour towards us both...I'm not looking for a vanilla affair. Profile full of dick pics switch me off. Good face/body pics so we know who we're talking to. Taking safe sex seriously. Nicely written profile...guy who keeps it classy.
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