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Question for men who consider themselves straight…?
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"They aren’t straight at all. They’re bisexual. Straight men don’t have sex with other men." OP was asking whether meeting men to receive oral makes them gay. | |||
"They aren’t straight at all. They’re bisexual. Straight men don’t have sex with other men. OP was asking whether meeting men to receive oral makes them gay. " Two men engaging in oral sex? | |||
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"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." I think the world has changed thankfully so why Put a tag on it , people like who they like and what turns them on | |||
"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." It is difficult to get aroused as the visual and feeling to cum on a wide open mouth makes awesome .... | |||
"It just means they are fab straight " I'd be more than happy to meet a "fab straight" guy if he just wanted a BJ, we can all have a fantasy/dream/desire x | |||
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"They aren’t straight at all. They’re bisexual. Straight men don’t have sex with other men." Why is this so hard for some people to understand, we agree with quoted statement. Straight is simple no same sex partners or sex acts FULL STOP. | |||
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"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." I think you make an interesting point. I’m not sure whether sexuality can be put into one box or another, perhaps it’s more of a continuum depending on mood and desire or the individual. We like to classify things it makes things easier but maybe it’s not as black and white as that. | |||
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"They aren’t straight at all. They’re bisexual. Straight men don’t have sex with other men." This, cannot say it any more simply. A one-off experiment out of curiosity maybe, but if it continues no….. | |||
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 exible, but your opinion is no more valid than ours surely. | |||
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"^^^^ that’s a little patronising but I’m glad you have the world all worked out for us lol. Lots of us are very comfortable in our skins and are het exible, but your opinion is no more valid than ours surely. "I have had a LOT of these conversations over the years with genuine straight males in real life and trust me not one agrees with the little bubble of men on Fab Swingers who insist they are straight. I am not trying to be harsh or patronising, just saying it how it is. Rather than basing it in Fab forums, have these conversations with people in real life regardless of sexuality, you will see they have same view as me. But if you are happy in your bubbles on Fab, then all good | |||
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"One of my pet hates. I’m straight. I say this on my profile I also stare not looking for single me. I do say I will play as part of group but not interact with men. The amount of bi offers, winks / photo likes from gay men TVs is growing day to day. Fab straight I think means you will do anything with anyone any sex…." Just set your filters to stop them messaging you. | |||
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"One of my pet hates. I’m straight. I say this on my profile I also stare not looking for single me. I do say I will play as part of group but not interact with men. The amount of bi offers, winks / photo likes from gay men TVs is growing day to day. Fab straight I think means you will do anything with anyone any sex…. Just set your filters to stop them messaging you. " I have stopped single men but can’t stop bi couple or single women wanting a man for their fella. The amount of single men dabbing pics to get attention has gone up over past few months too. | |||
"Seems to be a lot of hate there. Not sure why folks give a fuck. " I cannot see hate from anyone on this thread, it is a discussion, albeit a sensitive one. Can you point out examples of hate on this thread? | |||
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"OK, Im sure that I will come under fire for this! I consider myself straight. I am not attracted to masculinity in any way. I am only attracted to femininity and Ive found recently that Tv/ts/cds etc can be extraordinarily feminine and i simply fancy them. My profile states straight yet i look for tgirls. I am not trying to mislead anyone, yet from time to time i come under fire from certain members on fab for this. Surely Fab is exactly the forum to explore?" Taking shots at the gays is the last allowable phobia on here. | |||
"OK, Im sure that I will come under fire for this! I consider myself straight. I am not attracted to masculinity in any way. I am only attracted to femininity and Ive found recently that Tv/ts/cds etc can be extraordinarily feminine and i simply fancy them. My profile states straight yet i look for tgirls. I am not trying to mislead anyone, yet from time to time i come under fire from certain members on fab for this. Surely Fab is exactly the forum to explore?" Fair enough, your attracted to the appearance of feminity. No judgement and yes Fab is/should be a good place to explore that. For me straight means strictly heterosexual. I agree that there are some very feminine and striking looking tgirls on this site but as a straight guy I'm not sexually attracted and I certainly wouldn't bend my preferences simply because I couldn't get what I wanted (a woman). | |||
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"If you enjoy sexual acts whether it’s giving or receiving with someone who has a penis and you also have a penis it is a homosexual act. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it for the record but I don’t see why you’d argue that it’s straight "Exactly, I wish more genuinely straight men would just speak out on this reality on these forums, it is not ‘phobic’ and that is coming from a gay man. The abundance of men in deep denial on here will probably be more likely to listen to straight men and women on this, they cannot accept hearing it from openly gay and bi men. Keep posting the reality please straight chaps reading | |||
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"For those reading we have a real issue on what were traditionally gay apps with the type of men under description here. They can be homophobic in what were gay spaces and trying hard to convince themselves they are straight, they think having sex with cross dressers and ‘femboys’ qualifies them as heterosexual. It is a bizarre situation I never witnessed until the last 5 years or so. They are having gay sex like the rest of us yet are homophobic in what were a safe zone for gay and bi men to try to network. Strange days we live in. " To me that sounds like they are struggling with their sexuality and are in denial. LGBTQ rights and acceptance has unfortunately been sliding backwards at an alarming rate over the last few years, there’s the possibility that they might feel threatened and worry about being ostracised by family or friends. Certain cultures and political beliefs can destroy lives when it comes to sex. I’m not justifying the behaviour for the record. Just giving my 2 cents | |||
"For those reading we have a real issue on what were traditionally gay apps with the type of men under description here. They can be homophobic in what were gay spaces and trying hard to convince themselves they are straight, they think having sex with cross dressers and ‘femboys’ qualifies them as heterosexual. It is a bizarre situation I never witnessed until the last 5 years or so. They are having gay sex like the rest of us yet are homophobic in what were a safe zone for gay and bi men to try to network. Strange days we live in. To me that sounds like they are struggling with their sexuality and are in denial. LGBTQ rights and acceptance has unfortunately been sliding backwards at an alarming rate over the last few years, there’s the possibility that they might feel threatened and worry about being ostracised by family or friends. Certain cultures and political beliefs can destroy lives when it comes to sex. I’m not justifying the behaviour for the record. Just giving my 2 cents " And it is a balanced and intelligent 2 cents mate
It seems the damage and sliding back in acceptance and rights has started since the very strong gender identity subject has exploded last few years. Especially things like womens changing rooms and pronouns push.
Even though sexual attraction and gender identity are totally separate things, they are lumped in together causing confusion to the masses and a backlash for everyone put within that alphabet tag.
But that is a whole different can of worms. | |||
"For those reading we have a real issue on what were traditionally gay apps with the type of men under description here. They can be homophobic in what were gay spaces and trying hard to convince themselves they are straight, they think having sex with cross dressers and ‘femboys’ qualifies them as heterosexual. It is a bizarre situation I never witnessed until the last 5 years or so. They are having gay sex like the rest of us yet are homophobic in what were a safe zone for gay and bi men to try to network. Strange days we live in. To me that sounds like they are struggling with their sexuality and are in denial. LGBTQ rights and acceptance has unfortunately been sliding backwards at an alarming rate over the last few years, there’s the possibility that they might feel threatened and worry about being ostracised by family or friends. Certain cultures and political beliefs can destroy lives when it comes to sex. I’m not justifying the behaviour for the record. Just giving my 2 cents And it is a balanced and intelligent 2 cents mate
It seems the damage and sliding back in acceptance and rights has started since the very strong gender identity subject has exploded last few years. Especially things like womens changing rooms and pronouns push.
Even though sexual attraction and gender identity are totally separate things, they are lumped in together causing confusion to the masses and a backlash for everyone put within that alphabet tag.
But that is a whole different can of worms."Yeah that’s definitely a whole different can of worms and I don’t even know where I’d start on the issue. | |||
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"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." It’s only gay if it’s gay right? | |||
"I was at the foam party in Cap d'Agde a few years ago with a Tinder date I'd met at the resort. We got chatting to a couple and she was very interested him; he had a very big cock which she got her hands on. It occurred to me that I'd never touched another man's penis and so, thinking what the fuck, I stroked it. She was really surprised and questioned me about it later, wondering if I was bisexual. I explained that in the euphoria of the experience (Cap d'Agde foam party) I'd done something I'd never imagined doing and was enjoying the liberating feeling of doing what the fuck I wanted to do. Will I do it again? Who knows but I wouldn't classify myself as gay or even gay curious. It was something that I wanted to do at the time and wasn't going to let labels or perceived boundaries stop me. (The guy was bisexual and more than happy) Everyone has their own level, often dictated by societies conventions, which sometimes feels good to be challenged. " To be fair, going back to an earlier point I made, straight men take an interest in other dicks for size comparison reasons. There has been so many ‘lads’ videos online of one of their very well endowed mates being centre of attention and fascination by the others including touching. But it is just lads and banter, I do not really think it is secretly a sexual attraction. | |||
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"Straight guys get messaged by gay guys and tvs. TVs and gay guys get messaged by straight guys. Straight guys complain about being contacted by gay guys and tvs. But will spam out messages to women who aren’t interested in them and that’s cool. Way it is. And everyone gets to whine and bitch about gays cause it’s the only safe phobia left on here. Add ‘ ‘ wherever you like. Some people will boil their piss just walking in sunshine. This site used to be more open. I liked talking with people regardless of their orientation. Happy days. " __ Fabulous post. You glow. | |||
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"I regard myself as completely straight. If i never have contact with another female again i personally would rather go the rest of my life without any sexual contact, then meet a guy out of desperation. I mean that with no offence." Not offensive at all, you are a genuine straight male. | |||
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"It really doesn't matter what others think and or believe, labels, etc. Only important facts is that we like what we like; and as long as it's consensual sex then it's all good. Just enjoy adventure(s) with like minded peeps. Amazing experiences to be had. " this is 100% correct | |||
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"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." I consider myself straight, because I have never had male-male sexual contact in any way. I’ve not cum from a bj since 2017, yet I get offers from men daily, to suck my cock. Yes, you read that right; DAILY offers of bj’s from men. Imagine that torment, if you can, when I’ve not cum from a bj for 7 years….. For me though, a mouth is not just “a mouth”. I need that mouth to belong to a woman, because I am straight. | |||
"This is a saying from MMA" It's not homosexual if you don't enjoy it. If yiu don't enjoy it it's just some good old fashioned male bonding "- wrestling coach " Did he also say “It’s only gay if you push back”……? | |||
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"This is a saying from MMA" It's not homosexual if you don't enjoy it. If yiu don't enjoy it it's just some good old fashioned male bonding "- wrestling coach Did he also say “It’s only gay if you push back”……? "no I've not heard that one need add it to list as I feel that it's true as people don't consider to males hugging to be say etc or homosexual so at what imaginary line needs be crossed for me it's that's yiu need actually want and enjoy it if not its just something yiur trying not who you are i may try running one day but doesn't mean I'm a hardcore marathon runner etc , doing something doesn't make it who yiu are only yiu can decide that yourself through a long interspectual look at who yiur are and what makes you you | |||
"….. For me though, a mouth is not just “a mouth”. I need that mouth to belong to a woman, because I am straight." __ Fair enough, in my opinion you are straight, not because you have not had ever any manner contact but because you feel that you don't get aroused by a man. However, imagine yourself in a glory hole scenario, or blindfolded. Someone is sucking you or wanking you. Cum or not cum (you said you have an issue there with BJs), you will likely feel pleasurable sensations most likely, to some extent, I guess. In that case, it's illogical to think that your sexuality would be different depending on who's at the other end of the glory hole. So in that sense a mouth is a mouth and a hand is a hand that can wank you successfully. After all, yours is a male hand, and yet you are not homosexual by wanking with your male hand, because what makes you hetero-, homo- or bi-sexual is who and what you think about in your fantasy while wanking or being wanked, right? | |||
"….. For me though, a mouth is not just “a mouth”. I need that mouth to belong to a woman, because I am straight. __ Fair enough, in my opinion you are straight, not because you have not had ever any manner contact but because you feel that you don't get aroused by a man. However, imagine yourself in a glory hole scenario, or blindfolded. Someone is sucking you or wanking you. Cum or not cum (you said you have an issue there with BJs), you will likely feel pleasurable sensations most likely, to some extent, I guess. In that case, it's illogical to think that your sexuality would be different depending on who's at the other end of the glory hole. So in that sense a mouth is a mouth and a hand is a hand that can wank you successfully. After all, yours is a male hand, and yet you are not homosexual by wanking with your male hand, because what makes you hetero-, homo- or bi-sexual is who and what you think about in your fantasy while wanking or being wanked, right?" Valid points. Right I'm off to a gloryhole and I don't care who's on the other side | |||
"I regard myself as completely straight. If i never have contact with another female again i personally would rather go the rest of my life without any sexual contact, then meet a guy out of desperation. I mean that with no offence." Absolutely spot on, my thoughts entirely. | |||
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"….. For me though, a mouth is not just “a mouth”. I need that mouth to belong to a woman, because I am straight. __ Fair enough, in my opinion you are straight, not because you have not had ever any manner contact but because you feel that you don't get aroused by a man. However, imagine yourself in a glory hole scenario, or blindfolded. Someone is sucking you or wanking you. Cum or not cum (you said you have an issue there with BJs), you will likely feel pleasurable sensations most likely, to some extent, I guess. In that case, it's illogical to think that your sexuality would be different depending on who's at the other end of the glory hole. So in that sense a mouth is a mouth and a hand is a hand that can wank you successfully. After all, yours is a male hand, and yet you are not homosexual by wanking with your male hand, because what makes you hetero-, homo- or bi-sexual is who and what you think about in your fantasy while wanking or being wanked, right? Valid points. Right I'm off to a gloryhole and I don't care who's on the other side "__ Not sure if you are joking or not about the "don't care", but made me consider that, in my case, I do actually care. I am visual and get turned on looking at women or touching them or kissing them. A glory hole is therefore unappealing to me. If I was already with a hard on, then being sucked next at a glory hole I would likely lose the hard on once I stop having the visual feedback. | |||
"….. For me though, a mouth is not just “a mouth”. I need that mouth to belong to a woman, because I am straight. __ Fair enough, in my opinion you are straight, not because you have not had ever any manner contact but because you feel that you don't get aroused by a man. However, imagine yourself in a glory hole scenario, or blindfolded. Someone is sucking you or wanking you. Cum or not cum (you said you have an issue there with BJs), you will likely feel pleasurable sensations most likely, to some extent, I guess. In that case, it's illogical to think that your sexuality would be different depending on who's at the other end of the glory hole. So in that sense a mouth is a mouth and a hand is a hand that can wank you successfully. After all, yours is a male hand, and yet you are not homosexual by wanking with your male hand, because what makes you hetero-, homo- or bi-sexual is who and what you think about in your fantasy while wanking or being wanked, right? Valid points. Right I'm off to a gloryhole and I don't care who's on the other side
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Not sure if you are joking or not about the "don't care", but made me consider that, in my case, I do actually care. I am visual and get turned on looking at women or touching them or kissing them. A glory hole is therefore unappealing to me. If I was already with a hard on, then being sucked next at a glory hole I would likely lose the hard on once I stop having the visual feedback."I’ve only done one gloryhole experience, in Chams Darlaston. It was very definitely a woman in the booth, as I could see through the hole. However, it wasn’t the greatest experience, standing there, my boxers round my ankles, my cock through the hole being very enthusiastically sucked, and there being an audience of about 5 guys and my lady friend. I tried to relax in to it, just enjoy it, but the problem was the lady inside was also ‘seeing to’ two other guys, so as she’s bringing me up to getting somewhere ‘near’…..she would stop, and work on another cock, my interest waning in the meantime….. I gave my place up to another guy….
Would it have been better for me to be blindfold, so I had no clue as to whether it was a male or female mouth? Who knows. I would love to break my mental block for not cumming from a bj though…..  | |||
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"I don’t care about semantics or arguing about what makes someone gay or straight, i just notice there is a lot of straight men profiles who message gay lads and TV’s wanting a blowjob or their ass licked if they can’t find a woman. Does that really make them gay if it’s purely just getting pleasure from a mouth or tongue? I think not. For me, I guess a mouth is mouth for a lot of men these days." I think there's very few men that are completely straight. I have to be attracted (at least a little bit) to whoever I'm having sex with, so for me a mouth isn't just a mouth. I would honestly rather have a wank than have sex with a man. I see absolutely nothing wrong with gay sex and my wife would love to watch and join in, unfortunately it's just not for me, I have zero interest in cocks and men in a sexual context. K. | |||
