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By *aul349 OP Man 49 weeks ago
Newcastle area |
My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets.  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 49 weeks ago
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
There's nothing unusual.
I'd suspect you've just picked the wrong guys. And if boundaries are crosses I'd suggest calling an immediate halt and asking them to politely fuck off. |
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Promise if I lived near I’d gladly offer a respectful option. ...You probably did this but the old advice of a non committal social first often helps? Get a sense of the vibe… Might even make this more exciting… |
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Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything |
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
Absolutely nothing at all! MMF fun comes in all shades and it’s up to you how you want to play with another man.
All i can suggest is to make sure you are very clear about what you want when you are chatting to a guy, and trust your instincts.
Do that and I’m sure you’ll find some great guys to play with. |
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By *aul349 OP Man 49 weeks ago
Newcastle area |
"Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything "
Yes, you have more or less nailed it.
The first guy acted genuinely surprised that I wasn't leaving the room and said he didn't want me "joining in" 
He seemed ok when we met up in the hotel bar beforehand but seemed to think I was going to be leaving them alone together despite being told otherwise.  |
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"Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything
Yes, you have more or less nailed it.
The first guy acted genuinely surprised that I wasn't leaving the room and said he didn't want me "joining in"
He seemed ok when we met up in the hotel bar beforehand but seemed to think I was going to be leaving them alone together despite being told otherwise. "
I’m not calling you out, it’s your world, but something is seriously amiss here!
I’ve played as a couple and single guy in numerous MMF scenarios, it was and still is my favourite play.
If this situation genuinely happened then you both need to significantly up your communication when chatting and then meeting prospective MMF partners, insisting on socials will drive out 90% of the fantasists; the other 10% who actually show up will be almost always entirely respectful of your boundaries; otherwise it’s a waste of their time and yours.
Of course, you’re always going to get chancers but the genuine Fabbers always work them out and they die on the vine.
My own experience tells me this and to repeat, I’m not calling you out, simply offering a grounded perspective.
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
What boundaries you would like him to follow? |
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The first guy acted genuinely surprised that I wasn't leaving the room and said he didn't want me "joining in"
He seemed ok when we met up in the hotel bar beforehand but seemed to think I was going to be leaving them alone together despite being told otherwise.
I’m not calling you out, it’s your world, but something is seriously amiss here!
I’ve played as a couple and single guy in numerous MMF scenarios, it was and still is my favourite play.
If this situation genuinely happened then you both need to significantly up your communication when chatting and then meeting prospective MMF partners, insisting on socials will drive out 90% of the fantasists; the other 10% who actually show up will be almost always entirely respectful of your boundaries; otherwise it’s a waste of their time and yours.
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Good advice. We've all had less than satisfactory meets with others but we've never experienced anything like that.
Maybe we've just been lucky and every guy has understood what we're looking for. We rarely have a social first to see how we feel. Some have flaked out afterwards but during the meet, the 'rules' have always been followed.
If everyone is clear from the outset it shouldn't be a problem. And that will only come about by clear communication. |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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Cant say we have had that problem really. We are very picky on the build up, being clear what we are looking for then always have a social to ensure there is a 'spark'.
We have been in this for nearly 6 years and had sexy fun with 5 people in that time and to be honest only last 2 did we specify bi.
Keep trying is our tip and as others have said trust your instinct. |
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"Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything
Yes, you have more or less nailed it.
The first guy acted genuinely surprised that I wasn't leaving the room and said he didn't want me "joining in"
He seemed ok when we met up in the hotel bar beforehand but seemed to think I was going to be leaving them alone together despite being told otherwise. "
Sounds like you're not being very clear with the guys about how you'd like things to go down. |
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in addition to the pre-communication that others have mentioned, when guys turn up I reconfirm boundaries and reconsent all parties before we start. If I get anything other than a clear yes we don’t continue. We make it absolutely crystal clear what they might/will be asked to do, and make sure they’re comfortable (and can perform around VWE men and in rubbers). We list the things I enjoy and then ask what they are comfortable with and not. What they want out of it? Anything they have experience in and would like to get.
I also set up a WhatsApp group with all parties in to communicate for everyone to see. If the guy tries to start a conversation with me directly outside of the group it’s an instant no thank you, cancellation and block.
There is always going to be the little bully boys who watch cuck porn and don’t understand what it really is. I explicitly say that we are stag/vixen. When I have my men filters open we get so many messages a day about cuck, or men addressing me only, I block block block and move on with my day. |
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To add; all the guys in our veris I would absolutely recommend. They are amazing and super respectful. I have no issue with you reaching out to them and mentioning that we recommended them (I appreciate they might be a little far from you). |
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
You need to have a chat before play with ANY partners about what you're into. If they ask do do something outside your boundaries politely say no and they should accept it. If they don't respect you're boundaries get up and walk out. |
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It's really a matter od making yiur boundries very clear from the start.
E.G. softswing own partner penetration only Stag and Vixen, pkay NOT cuckold at all.
Ask them to confirm tgey have read the
Profile have a social check again at any point kick it into touch and tell them that out right. Happy Days and Horny nights from ggere in in.   |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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Ive had a fair few experiences over the years and the one thing that really works is conversation before the meet happens about what you as a couple want from the guy. Then at the meeting, before clothes come off, repeat the expectations of what you like what you as a couple want and what you definitely don't want. Only once this conversation is agreed so you start play. Its not a heavy conversation but a pre play chat that outlines everyone's boundaries.
Example might be that as a couple we only kiss each other.
I found that meets that have this chat always go better than trying to make it up as you go. |
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"Ive had a fair few experiences over the years and the one thing that really works is conversation before the meet happens about what you as a couple want from the guy. Then at the meeting, before clothes come off, repeat the expectations of what you like what you as a couple want and what you definitely don't want. Only once this conversation is agreed so you start play. Its not a heavy conversation but a pre play chat that outlines everyone's boundaries.
Example might be that as a couple we only kiss each other.
I found that meets that have this chat always go better than trying to make it up as you go."
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This sort of thing is probably why I'm unable to get a couple of arrange a mmf or bi mmf, I'm willing to chat with a couple to get to know them, and meet up for a face to face chat and see if we get on 1st, then if we do then talk through what is going to happen, and to discuss boundaries  |
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By (user no longer on site) 49 weeks ago
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"Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything "
I found that biggest problem why do men want 1 on 1s with a couples female be grateful for invite
My fwb soon as asked to meet on own she blocks thinks it's so disrespectful |
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
Sorry, bad choice of guys! I love a MMF where everyone gets stuck in!! I’m Bi but if the guy is straight, happy to keep my hand off him and just play with the lady with him joining in! That’s the whole point of an MMF!!
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I've met a couple a few times for a non cuck meet and to be fair it's been very good. It was made clear from the start that it was all about pleasing the lady and I've always respected that. Sounds like it's the respect that been missing in your meets or you haven't made it crystal clear what you're looking for. |
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It’s for this very reason that I prefer a social meet first to find out more about what couples are looking for. Sometimes that might just be with the M, but I wouldn’t dream of spoiling it for those that have been gracious enough to invite me into their relationship by ignoring boundaries that are agreed beforehand. |
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We have had so many MFM's and not a single one has crossed a boundary on a meet. We usually do a group chat on kik before the meet and this is where the boundaries are usually crossed by trying to message katie separately. Its actually quite amusing, and they just lose out on what would have been a fun meet. The most common reason they message is to go fully white knight  at least its entertaining  . |
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"We have had so many MFM's and not a single one has crossed a boundary on a meet. We usually do a group chat on kik before the meet and this is where the boundaries are usually crossed by trying to message katie separately. Its actually quite amusing, and they just lose out on what would have been a fun meet. The most common reason they message is to go fully white knight at least its entertaining . "
That sounds like a good way to get rid of the idiots, but I seem to be struggling to get a meet, and I'm bi curious so I can play either way |
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It is amazing how many messages we get from guys that automatically assume that because we are a couple I'm either a cuck or Tinder is a hotwife to be loaned out.
Just comes with the territory I guess
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By *e13guyMan 49 weeks ago
Lewisham |
"Reason our account is now set up as it is our old account was full of guy's trying to get her number and meet her on her own. Boundaries are very important for both and I agree if crossed you can fuck right of respect is everything
Yes, you have more or less nailed it.
The first guy acted genuinely surprised that I wasn't leaving the room and said he didn't want me "joining in"
He seemed ok when we met up in the hotel bar beforehand but seemed to think I was going to be leaving them alone together despite being told otherwise.
Sounds like you're not being very clear with the guys about how you'd like things to go down. "
Wow, they are missing a trick. If she has a partner then it's way more fun to have him fully involved, especially if he doesn't mind sharing his cock too  |
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We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
There is nothing unusual about stag and vixen dynamic, it’s what non cuckold mmf called. I’ve been with a few straight and some bi coupes and I prefer it this way.
As most say here - make sure you have it clear before meet what you expect from it. I go as far as saying what word I don’t find fancy to be used. Like don’t call me daddy etc. |
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"My friend and I have been trying to take our first steps as a couple to meet a third persons for meets.
The account is on a similar site to this but not here for specific reasons.
We have had 2 great hassle free FFM meets but all 3 MMF meets have been disasters with the guys failing to respect our relationship and boundaries.
What is so unusual about non cuckold MMF meets. "
Like others above, I've had a series of non-cuckold MMFs over the years, the most recent of which we are still enjoying after several years. I've always made sure we have a good talk before the first meet, and ongoing, to make sure I understand what they want and don't want, and to check we've mutually got it right. I think that's essential after having a really bad one where we didn't have that conversation but launched straight in - disaster. |
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I can’t understand guys not respecting a couples boundaries, after you are the one being invited in. And as for expecting only the lady playing, then why are you joining a couple, why not just play with a single female. And as for suggestion your communication not good enough, well presumably the guy got a tongue in his head (well you need him to have it for other purposes) so he can ask if it isn’t clear. Guys like that get us all a bad name |
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