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over a year ago
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The other half and I like to partake in sub/dom play. I am by no means a fully fledged dom, and am learning as we go along. However I happen to believe you have to be able to adapt, as every session will be different.
I've read a lot of the threads on here, and as said many times it is really the sub who is in control, and can manipulate a session to go the way they want. For example being obedient or rebellious.
So my question is, when after a little play, my oh asks me to fuck her, should I do it, or should I wait until I'm ready?. I wonder if I'm too soft and give in to her too easily. Any advice is gratefully received. |
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When we play I like to change it up constantly to keep things as fresh as possible.
It also depends on the arrangement you guys have as it is different for everyone.
Of course it would also depend on how much you need to fuck her and how nicely she asks   .
Again depending on your relationship,
She has asked YOU to take control... So take it!
I know why people always say the sub has control but personally I don't get that. The sub has control because of the soft and hard limits set and can safe word. So ultimately I suppose but during play the Dom is not being a good Dom if he allows the sub to manipulate him without him choosing that route.
There's an option for a punishment there to if that were useful to you....  |
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Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control 
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel  |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel "
Cruel lady! |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel "
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol |
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Denial of sex can be a big part of Dom sub play, the trick is keeping her "on the boil" so that when you're ready she's absolutely begging for you. For some this might be a 10 minute thing or a 2 week thing. The main part though is it has to work for you and your other half. No one can tell you what works for you.
I have to say that although you sound unsure, your other half may well want you to take more control rather than less. I Don't know without being there of course!
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol"
Great minds and all that lol  |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol "
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x "
I had Mrs P waiting a couple of months back.
Two weeks masturbating to the point of orgasm and staying there for 6 minutes in the morning, 6 minutes in the evening and 3 minutes at some point through the day, every day. Oh and having Ben Wah balls in for 30 minutes total everyday to.
After the 4th or 5th day she was having trouble leaking cum when the car went over a bump whilst she was driving.
She was soaked and desperate. She asked really really really nicely.
Tied to the bed and given multiples with the magic wand soon gave her some relief from that.
It was a sight to behold lol and she had never had orgasms like it.
The commitment is in the sub not cheating and stealing an orgasm... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The other half and I like to partake in sub/dom play. I am by no means a fully fledged dom, and am learning as we go along. However I happen to believe you have to be able to adapt, as every session will be different.
I've read a lot of the threads on here, and as said many times it is really the sub who is in control, and can manipulate a session to go the way they want. For example being obedient or rebellious.
So my question is, when after a little play, my oh asks me to fuck her, should I do it, or should I wait until I'm ready?. I wonder if I'm too soft and give in to her too easily. Any advice is gratefully received. "
Tie her up, blindfold her and then.........go to the pub for 4 hours to teach her patience.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x "
Thats distance denial lol...not the same as having 'sex on tap' and still being told no |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x
I had Mrs P waiting a couple of months back.
Two weeks masturbating to the point of orgasm and staying there for 6 minutes in the morning, 6 minutes in the evening and 3 minutes at some point through the day, every day. Oh and having Ben Wah balls in for 30 minutes total everyday to.
After the 4th or 5th day she was having trouble leaking cum when the car went over a bump whilst she was driving.
She was soaked and desperate. She asked really really really nicely.
Tied to the bed and given multiples with the magic wand soon gave her some relief from that.
It was a sight to behold lol and she had never had orgasms like it.
The commitment is in the sub not cheating and stealing an orgasm..."
That sounds very intense! I bet Mrs P loved it |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x
I had Mrs P waiting a couple of months back.
Two weeks masturbating to the point of orgasm and staying there for 6 minutes in the morning, 6 minutes in the evening and 3 minutes at some point through the day, every day. Oh and having Ben Wah balls in for 30 minutes total everyday to.
After the 4th or 5th day she was having trouble leaking cum when the car went over a bump whilst she was driving.
She was soaked and desperate. She asked really really really nicely.
Tied to the bed and given multiples with the magic wand soon gave her some relief from that.
It was a sight to behold lol and she had never had orgasms like it.
The commitment is in the sub not cheating and stealing an orgasm...
That sounds very intense! I bet Mrs P loved it"
By the end of the two weeks she never knew which way was up lol.
We had great fun with it. Dealing with her frustration made life very interesting lol. Watching her find her relief was as great for me as it was her.
Of course all the teasing and tantalising over the two weeks was fun for me to lol.
The trick is finding boiling point and staying right there until the Dom decides its time.
We both love doing it. |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x
I had Mrs P waiting a couple of months back.
Two weeks masturbating to the point of orgasm and staying there for 6 minutes in the morning, 6 minutes in the evening and 3 minutes at some point through the day, every day. Oh and having Ben Wah balls in for 30 minutes total everyday to.
After the 4th or 5th day she was having trouble leaking cum when the car went over a bump whilst she was driving.
She was soaked and desperate. She asked really really really nicely.
Tied to the bed and given multiples with the magic wand soon gave her some relief from that.
It was a sight to behold lol and she had never had orgasms like it.
The commitment is in the sub not cheating and stealing an orgasm..."
That is wher eteh bond between D and s comes into play. Her eagerness to please you knowing that if she cheated and snuck one in you would be disappointed in her. Even if you didn;t find out, she would know she had cheated,.. |
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"The other half and I like to partake in sub/dom play. I am by no means a fully fledged dom, and am learning as we go along. However I happen to believe you have to be able to adapt, as every session will be different.
I've read a lot of the threads on here, and as said many times it is really the sub who is in control, and can manipulate a session to go the way they want. For example being obedient or rebellious.
So my question is, when after a little play, my oh asks me to fuck her, should I do it, or should I wait until I'm ready?. I wonder if I'm too soft and give in to her too easily. Any advice is gratefully received. "
When she directs it is called topping from the bottom..maybe that is what she is happy with...Communication is the key, it takes all kinds of D/s to make it work for you, find what is best for BOTH of YOU..there is no right or wrong...
Do some research online, the info is out there and can be a very useful tool to use to open up communication... |
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x
I had Mrs P waiting a couple of months back.
Two weeks masturbating to the point of orgasm and staying there for 6 minutes in the morning, 6 minutes in the evening and 3 minutes at some point through the day, every day. Oh and having Ben Wah balls in for 30 minutes total everyday to.
After the 4th or 5th day she was having trouble leaking cum when the car went over a bump whilst she was driving.
She was soaked and desperate. She asked really really really nicely.
Tied to the bed and given multiples with the magic wand soon gave her some relief from that.
It was a sight to behold lol and she had never had orgasms like it.
The commitment is in the sub not cheating and stealing an orgasm...
That is wher eteh bond between D and s comes into play. Her eagerness to please you knowing that if she cheated and snuck one in you would be disappointed in her. Even if you didn;t find out, she would know she had cheated,.."
Absolutely, it's as much about the mind as the body  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do what you want to do, when you want to do it (within your agreed limits).....you're in charge, take control
You could of course just deny her sex, and leave her wanting. Or am I just cruel
Now that's my kinda thinking! Lol
See how nicely she asks a few days later lol
Great minds and all that lol
I've waited a week and a half already!!!!
Plus I always ask nicely..... I always say please and thank you x
Thats distance denial lol...not the same as having 'sex on tap' and still being told no "
isnt sex on tap then still being told no called a marriage |
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