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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
Hi I'm really struggling with self belief as to whether I can fully enbrace this lifestyle. Being happily married with a very normal vanilla life is is my absolute priority so am navigated though this is difficult. |
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over a year ago
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More than happy to chat if it helps.
It can be difficult to balance your home life with your desires. Sometimes the two are compatible, sometimes they aren’t. It’s just a balancing act for many.
Genuinely hope you’re ok. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
To me, self belief in domestic life and self belief in non domestic play are two different things. Suppose it’s almost like Freud and his I’d and super Ego theory, you have to find the Ego to understand it. |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"More than happy to chat if it helps.
It can be difficult to balance your home life with your desires. Sometimes the two are compatible, sometimes they aren’t. It’s just a balancing act for many.
Genuinely hope you’re ok."
thanks your advice is very much appreciated. I know I need to ask myself some Veet valuable questions as to whether I can handle everything that is becoming apparent with this lifestyle |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"To me, self belief in domestic life and self belief in non domestic play are two different things. Suppose it’s almost like Freud and his I’d and super Ego theory, you have to find the Ego to understand it."
I really don't posess the ability to be egotistic would never come natural to me. Thanks for your advice really appreciate it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"More than happy to chat if it helps.
It can be difficult to balance your home life with your desires. Sometimes the two are compatible, sometimes they aren’t. It’s just a balancing act for many.
Genuinely hope you’re ok. thanks your advice is very much appreciated. I know I need to ask myself some Veet valuable questions as to whether I can handle everything that is becoming apparent with this lifestyle "
I think you just need to be able to separate the two.
That’s not easy. You have to consider your own personal priorities and how you go about setting boundaries for yourself and your family.
These are for you to consider and understand without the judgement or advice of anyone on here.
You do you  |
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Just remember it’s your life your” fab experience”, you can take it as far as you want or not, even as fast or slow as you want there’s no rules, it’s all down to you and what you want, as long as know what it is, then stick to that, and you should be good as you dabble more into it your feelings and thoughts, they change, but always remember you’re in control
You’re very beautiful woman with a amazing body |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I'm really not sure what you're asking
What precisely is it you're struggling with?"
self belief am I really cut out for this lifestyle managing my emotions when things change direction. How to politely say no. It's difficult because I'm married but on this journey alone. There's a lot to think about. |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"More than happy to chat if it helps.
It can be difficult to balance your home life with your desires. Sometimes the two are compatible, sometimes they aren’t. It’s just a balancing act for many.
Genuinely hope you’re ok. thanks your advice is very much appreciated. I know I need to ask myself some Veet valuable questions as to whether I can handle everything that is becoming apparent with this lifestyle
I think you just need to be able to separate the two.
That’s not easy. You have to consider your own personal priorities and how you go about setting boundaries for yourself and your family.
These are for you to consider and understand without the judgement or advice of anyone on here.
You do you "
thats great advice, I am definitely having a wobble and anxiety is High. Thanks soo much |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Just remember it’s your life your” fab experience”, you can take it as far as you want or not, even as fast or slow as you want there’s no rules, it’s all down to you and what you want, as long as know what it is, then stick to that, and you should be good as you dabble more into it your feelings and thoughts, they change, but always remember you’re in control
You’re very beautiful woman with a amazing body"
I think that is it when I came on to fab I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted and that still changes now. The self doubt is am I strong enough emotionally to take the ups with the downs. Thanks so much for advice. |
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I always think that with anything related to the swinging lifestyle, if you have any slight doubts, you need to pause and take a little step back. Trying to force or analyse things can sometimes make it even more difficult.
Keep smiling OP |
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"Just remember it’s your life your” fab experience”, you can take it as far as you want or not, even as fast or slow as you want there’s no rules, it’s all down to you and what you want, as long as know what it is, then stick to that, and you should be good as you dabble more into it your feelings and thoughts, they change, but always remember you’re in control
You’re very beautiful woman with a amazing body I think that is it when I came on to fab I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted and that still changes now. The self doubt is am I strong enough emotionally to take the ups with the downs. Thanks so much for advice. "
I see what your saying if it’s gets too much or effects your home life you can leave whenever you want to so don’t see it as anything more than that.
fab was set up for adults to have fun whatever that consists of in your mind. If you’re not having fun then maybe it’s not right for you? |
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"Hi I'm really struggling with self belief as to whether I can fully enbrace this lifestyle. Being happily married with a very normal vanilla life is is my absolute priority so am navigated though this is difficult. "
If you have doubts of can't separate casual sex from the sex you have in your relationship don't do it. This isn't for everyone and sometimes fantasy is best kept that way |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"I always think that with anything related to the swinging lifestyle, if you have any slight doubts, you need to pause and take a little step back. Trying to force or analyse things can sometimes make it even more difficult.
Keep smiling OP "
I do overthink not always good. Thanks for advice |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Just remember it’s your life your” fab experience”, you can take it as far as you want or not, even as fast or slow as you want there’s no rules, it’s all down to you and what you want, as long as know what it is, then stick to that, and you should be good as you dabble more into it your feelings and thoughts, they change, but always remember you’re in control
You’re very beautiful woman with a amazing body I think that is it when I came on to fab I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted and that still changes now. The self doubt is am I strong enough emotionally to take the ups with the downs. Thanks so much for advice.
I see what your saying if it’s gets too much or effects your home life you can leave whenever you want to so don’t see it as anything more than that.
fab was set up for adults to have fun whatever that consists of in your mind. If you’re not having fun then maybe it’s not right for you? "
having fun is key for me, thanks for making me remember that |
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By *izz70 OP Woman
over a year ago
Sheffield |
"Hi I'm really struggling with self belief as to whether I can fully enbrace this lifestyle. Being happily married with a very normal vanilla life is is my absolute priority so am navigated though this is difficult.
If you have doubts of can't separate casual sex from the sex you have in your relationship don't do it. This isn't for everyone and sometimes fantasy is best kept that way"
thankyou |
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"Just remember it’s your life your” fab experience”, you can take it as far as you want or not, even as fast or slow as you want there’s no rules, it’s all down to you and what you want, as long as know what it is, then stick to that, and you should be good as you dabble more into it your feelings and thoughts, they change, but always remember you’re in control
You’re very beautiful woman with a amazing body I think that is it when I came on to fab I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted and that still changes now. The self doubt is am I strong enough emotionally to take the ups with the downs. Thanks so much for advice.
I see what your saying if it’s gets too much or effects your home life you can leave whenever you want to so don’t see it as anything more than that.
fab was set up for adults to have fun whatever that consists of in your mind. If you’re not having fun then maybe it’s not right for you? having fun is key for me, thanks for making me remember that "
You look like loads of fun 
Made me smile today x |
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"I'm really not sure what you're asking
What precisely is it you're struggling with? self belief am I really cut out for this lifestyle managing my emotions when things change direction. How to politely say no. It's difficult because I'm married but on this journey alone. There's a lot to think about. "
Based on the very little you've said, it sounds like you're not at all entirely sure. In which case, it doesn't sound like it would be a very enjoyable journey |
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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago
edge of taunton |
this is just my take
if your not 100% sure or 100% confident or 100% social friendly then this scene will range from differcult to impossible
i would take a step back and talk think is this what you really want this scene is amazing but if your unsure it can destroy you / relationships
it should be for fun and fun only it not to make relationships better or fix them only strong relationship swing other fall apart, dont be weak some people prey on the weak as they know thats there only chance sorry rambling on but until your 100% sure i would take a step back |
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"I'm really not sure what you're asking
What precisely is it you're struggling with? self belief am I really cut out for this lifestyle managing my emotions when things change direction. How to politely say no. It's difficult because I'm married but on this journey alone. There's a lot to think about. "
politely saying no is very easy you literally tag 'thank you' on to the end |
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