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If you’ve been chatting to someone and you’ve agreed to meet, would it put you off if they had numerous play meets in the time between your arrangement with them? |
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"If you’ve been chatting to someone and you’ve agreed to meet, would it put you off if they had numerous play meets in the time between your arrangement with them?"
Why? They did not promise to be exclusive, did they? This is a swingers site, we all should be enjoying ourselves however we choose to, as long as it's within the law and consensual, without being worried about other supposed swingers judging us.
However, OP, if it bothers you, either be open with them about it or let them go to enjoy themselves and find someone else? And maybe be more openly communicating with the other person about your expectations? |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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Depends on how long into the future it was you’re planning to meet them . Planning to meet in a few few months then no , planing to meet in a few days then that could be different xx |
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"If you’ve been chatting to someone and you’ve agreed to meet, would it put you off if they had numerous play meets in the time between your arrangement with them?
Why? They did not promise to be exclusive, did they? This is a swingers site, we all should be enjoying ourselves however we choose to, as long as it's within the law and consensual, without being worried about other supposed swingers judging us.
However, OP, if it bothers you, either be open with them about it or let them go to enjoy themselves and find someone else? And maybe be more openly communicating with the other person about your expectations? "
You explained what I was thinking much better than I said ha |
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It wouldn’t bother us in the slightest. We won’t play with another couple or single exclusively, and wouldn’t expect the other party to either.
As the previous poster says, if that’s a problem, you should have a chat with them x |
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"No and if it were the other way round it would be a major red flag."
Exactly this. People do forget it's a swinging site at times it seems.
At parties or clubs quite possible you are not the first of the evening so no different I guess. It did worry me a bit during covid (when it was fading away and we were able to meet but still needed to be aware). Tried to avoid people who had met somebody else within the previous week - I think asked them not to and promised the same.
Only once have I had a problem. Made plans to meet one afternoon at say 2pm. She messages at maybe 1pm to say will be a touch late as she had been somewhere an hour away and met two guys that morning. She hadn't told me that before. She arrived a bit late, not looking her best and was frankly pretty exhausted. We just went through the motions and it wasn't a great experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 50 weeks ago
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"Depends on how long into the future it was you’re planning to meet them . Planning to meet in a few few months then no , planing to meet in a few days then that could be different xx"
This is what I mean. You meet in a week or two weeks time and several play meets in the build up to it |
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"It wouldn’t bother us in the slightest. We won’t play with another couple or single exclusively, and wouldn’t expect the other party to either.
As the previous poster says, if that’s a problem, you should have a chat with them x"
Not asking for love or exclusivity but many detailed play meets would put me off |
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"It wouldn’t bother us in the slightest. We won’t play with another couple or single exclusively, and wouldn’t expect the other party to either.
As the previous poster says, if that’s a problem, you should have a chat with them x
Not asking for love or exclusivity but many detailed play meets would put me off "
How many play meets in the preceding 2 or 3 weeks would be too many? |
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"It wouldn’t bother us in the slightest. We won’t play with another couple or single exclusively, and wouldn’t expect the other party to either.
As the previous poster says, if that’s a problem, you should have a chat with them x
Not asking for love or exclusivity but many detailed play meets would put me off "
as long as they still meet and can have a good time.. why does it matter?
And how many would put you off...
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"If you’ve been chatting to someone and you’ve agreed to meet, would it put you off if they had numerous play meets in the time between your arrangement with them?"
Maybe. Obviously people play with other people, but we don't tend to interact with those who are openly very "busy" all the time. |
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