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switch it up depending on who i’m with. default is to be spanked but lately i’ve just got that domme energy to unleash. definitely depends on the other person’s energy and vibe for me. it’s not a one fits all situation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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I see some answers but "why" from the last few, and men or women.
Why do you like to be the spanker? Why do you like to be spanked? What's going on in your head at that moment, before or after?
I have spanked but I didn't really get anything out of it. I did it because they wanted to be spanked by me. I was neutral about it so didn't see why I shouldn't. Next time we met, I spanked away but I get the sense that I didn't spank hard enough. I just didn't want to hurt someone and I don't "get it". No buzz. But I'd do it again if asked.
I definitely wouldn't want to be spanked because it would remind me of aspects of childhood that are firmly in the past. It's a firm no. |
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Don’t ever rule anything out. Being spanked in a BDSM setting is not the same as being punished. You would need to speak it though with a Dom(me). Even if you were spanking someone else it may still trigger a memory.
Personally I’m switch and I get pleasure from spanking my sub as I can see how he reacts and how he feels afterwards. I enjoy being spanked as it takes you to a different headspace. Usually I combine it with sensual pain so it’s pleasure and pain. |
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"I see some answers but "why" from the last few, and men or women.
Why do you like to be the spanker? Why do you like to be spanked? What's going on in your head at that moment, before or after?
I have spanked but I didn't really get anything out of it. I did it because they wanted to be spanked by me. I was neutral about it so didn't see why I shouldn't. Next time we met, I spanked away but I get the sense that I didn't spank hard enough. I just didn't want to hurt someone and I don't "get it". No buzz. But I'd do it again if asked.
I definitely wouldn't want to be spanked because it would remind me of aspects of childhood that are firmly in the past. It's a firm no."
I like it because I'm a masochist.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 51 weeks ago
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"Delighted to have my ass slapped during doggy but otherwise I can't get my head around spanking. We aren't naughty school kids circ 1973"
And what is it about during doggy that's different? Submissive feeling? |
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"A question for the ladies. Would you rather spank or be spanked. And why?"
depends on who is doing or being spanked. I don't want another woman to spank me but would happily spank another lady. I do like Mr Djs hand across my bottom.. mmm
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luckily he has very strong hands 
Evie
In all honestly, I just find it insanely hot and fun x