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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy??   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never had this issue but some people think if you have loads you are a player but if you have none or ust a few then you are fake.Do whatever you are happy with because you can't please all the people all the time  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do what you want to do. It's your profile. If they can't handle the fact you meet people on a swingers site it's them that have the problem. I wouldn't sweat it really. "
cool thanks hunny yea I know just sucks people are arsey xx |
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I wouldn't hide them. I'd tell the jealous folk to bugger off. They seem to be missing the point of fab and NSA. Unless you've told them different then they don't have the right to get the hump about you meeting others (well they can but they should do it quietly lol) x |
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Why on earth would someone...anyone....get jealous over you having a meet verified?
And to experience it on more than one occasion?
I know I've only been on here for around Three years but I've never had it happen myself....
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"just display them that why you know who to avoid, the ones moaning you have met 
I find it a good way to out the clingers "
clingers ha ha I thought I read clangers then ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i've only had it once in the 5 years i've been here and that was from a guy who thought cause id met him a couple of times we was swinging partners and thought I should have invited him to the meet with me
Soon put him straight 
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
I show all of mine. If people think I am a 'player' - well I don't know what that means! Especially on here where we are all after the same thing - pretty much!
I am here to shag - my verifications show that I am here to shag - end of. Whatever other people may think I really don't give a toss about. It's my profile and I will have it set as I like. It works for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
I get this all the time.. I regularly get stalked by girls after I post a verification from a mutual fuck..  drives me insane!!! If, after a few days, they are still giving me shit I block them. I've also removed quite a few veris as they seem to attract stalkerish tendencies! Lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You don't actually mention who it is thats getting jealous. Is it other verifiers, people on friends list or total strangers?
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a mix, people I've met .. potential meets ... girls?? |
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"You can hide your verifications and show on request if you like, which is the best compromise with the current system.
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There shouldn't need to be a compromise. If someone can't handle the fact that someone met another person then they shouldn't be onythis site!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"jealousy of someone thats not even ur partner?= FUD
what's a fud ! "
someone acting like a fanny lol
I really dont care for jealousy in any manner and of course I hate the verification hoggers.. in effect they think one shag and they have an easy lay, then get arsey when someone meets someone new etc etc..
its not just men that do it.. its something cpls are quite prone to doing as well as females- sometimes its hidden in subtle messages...sometimes its pathetically apparent
then there is the question of promoting their own standards onto someone else, when its actually got fuck all to do with them |
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy??
I get this all the time.. I regularly get stalked by girls after I post a verification from a mutual fuck.. drives me insane!!! If, after a few days, they are still giving me shit I block them. I've also removed quite a few veris as they seem to attract stalkerish tendencies! Lol
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You really get this regularly?, you have other women stalking you?.....Why? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't actually mention who it is thats getting jealous. Is it other verifiers, people on friends list or total strangers?
a mix, people I've met .. potential meets ... girls?? "
Aaah. Well, i'd report and block the potential meets and girls, (bunny boilers obviously if they are jealous BEFORE you've even met them). And the people you met would be asked why they are jealous on a SWINGER site. Maybe they want to take it a step further than your prepared to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You don't actually mention who it is thats getting jealous. Is it other verifiers, people on friends list or total strangers?
a mix, people I've met .. potential meets ... girls??
Girls?"
yea like asking about guys we maybe have both met etc... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy??
I get this all the time.. I regularly get stalked by girls after I post a verification from a mutual fuck.. drives me insane!!! If, after a few days, they are still giving me shit I block them. I've also removed quite a few veris as they seem to attract stalkerish tendencies! Lol
You really get this regularly?, you have other women stalking you?.....Why?"
It tends to be if they have met the guy a few times, and then he meets me..
Probably every few weeks I attract some unwanted attention. Either after a social where I've decided they aren't for me, or from girls who seem to be jealous.
I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy??
I get this all the time.. I regularly get stalked by girls after I post a verification from a mutual fuck.. drives me insane!!! If, after a few days, they are still giving me shit I block them. I've also removed quite a few veris as they seem to attract stalkerish tendencies! Lol
You really get this regularly?, you have other women stalking you?.....Why?
It tends to be if they have met the guy a few times, and then he meets me..
Probably every few weeks I attract some unwanted attention. Either after a social where I've decided they aren't for me, or from girls who seem to be jealous.
I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this. "
this is exactly it ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
I have had to hide mine because the people who had verified me were getting fed up with others contacting them asking for further details of the meet.
The verification itself reflected the details both myself and my playmates were prepared to publish. Some people would not accept it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a guy last week who i had been chatting to who said that four varifications was too many, bearing in mind the forth one was a second varification from the same person. He said that i had slept with too many men for his liking and that i was a slapper. Had a new varification added monday messaged me back that i was a whore. Did think about hiding them but then thought what the hell five varifications from four men is not too many, |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this. "
Blimey, I would never let anyone on here dictate who I meet. Its not like I post my address on here so what would they be able to do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this.
Blimey, I would never let anyone on here dictate who I meet. Its not like I post my address on here so what would they be able to do?"
Ive had enuff of u and ur gangbang whorebag ways...desist or else!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I've had the 'you met him so why not me' messages. My answer was AND ? Might sound awful but I can't be doing with little sulky boys "
Oh god I've had that too!!!!! So annoying!!! |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this.
Blimey, I would never let anyone on here dictate who I meet. Its not like I post my address on here so what would they be able to do?
Ive had enuff of u and ur gangbang whorebag ways...desist or else! "
Shan't! Can't make me!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this.
Blimey, I would never let anyone on here dictate who I meet. Its not like I post my address on here so what would they be able to do?
Ive had enuff of u and ur gangbang whorebag ways...desist or else!
Shan't! Can't make me! "
Haha I think it's just pushed me more towards couples, which is mainly why I'm here anyway, so hardly a hardship! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just do as you like, I've seen some profiles who only display veri's from social meets when you know they've had sexual meets too, I don't really get what this achieves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try not to meet too many single guys anymore because of this.
Blimey, I would never let anyone on here dictate who I meet. Its not like I post my address on here so what would they be able to do?
Ive had enuff of u and ur gangbang whorebag ways...desist or else!
Shan't! Can't make me! "
do it for LOVE!
anyway...I forgot to add:-
also I think some people are idiots for letting (the best example is obvious, single women and single guys) jealous meets get away with acting arsey (and the chances are they do it to a few folk)
getting confused if(example) he really cares about u, cos he went all jealous?- awwwww...thats nice= IDIOT
sorry if it sounds all harsh...but heyho |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just do as you like, I've seen some profiles who only display veri's from social meets when you know they've had sexual meets too, I don't really get what this achieves "
Why not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why on earth would someone...anyone....get jealous over you having a meet verified?
And to experience it on more than one occasion?
I know I've only been on here for around Three years but I've never had it happen myself....
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I have, on a few occasions, some people just don't understand it's a swinging site..... Not a dating one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of politica regarding verifications are surreal. Do what you feel like..your not here to please others.
If your comfortable showing your veri's, dont let others dictate your actions; if they are jealous..they need to look at their own insecurities.
..weirdly enough (i know this is off topic) but some of my female friends have said they have received abuse by men just for chatting to me or being on my friends list. Hence, friends list in hidden.
Its just funny people do that - they arent as openminded as they say they are
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...sorry. I think i may have had a rant.
My apologies curvylady x
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its nothing about them not being open minded... its about ownership(ie free n easy shag) and competitiveness(who gets there first) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a guy last week who i had been chatting to who said that four varifications was too many, bearing in mind the forth one was a second varification from the same person. He said that i had slept with too many men for his liking and that i was a slapper. Had a new varification added monday messaged me back that i was a whore. Did think about hiding them but then thought what the hell five varifications from four men is not too many,"
Just another fuckwit who shouldn't be here. Maybe we should have a profile category of "virgin" |
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
Honesty is the key here...I met a guy who ONLY wanted to meet me and wanted that to be two way...then I discover he has new veri's...fair enough his choice but he wasn't being honest....I had no issue with him meeting others I just can't abide dishonety.
This site is the one place I had hoped honesty would be king... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh i have had the worst case of this..someone who tried to get me fired from my job because he was so upset i didnt want to keep meeting him..once he had met me he started going on about how shallow i was for just wanting nsa sex...
hes back on here now too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"oh i have had the worst case of this..someone who tried to get me fired from my job because he was so upset i didnt want to keep meeting him..once he had met me he started going on about how shallow i was for just wanting nsa sex...
hes back on here now too."
that's right bad that x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's only one person who has any influence on whether I display veri's or not - me!!
Everyone else - whether someone I've met, chatted to, is considering meeting me, or has a view on those I've met - is more than welcome to their opinions on what appears. I just don't care what that opinion is or want to hear it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy??
Honesty is the key here...I met a guy who ONLY wanted to meet me and wanted that to be two way...then I discover he has new veri's...fair enough his choice but he wasn't being honest....I had no issue with him meeting others I just can't abide dishonety.
This site is the one place I had hoped honesty would be king..."
I thought the same about Honesty too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't actually mention who it is thats getting jealous. Is it other verifiers, people on friends list or total strangers?
a mix, people I've met .. potential meets ... girls?? "
I've had a few messages along those lines. I just ignore them |
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I look at veris as they are one of the ways of seeing if someone Is real. The more veris the better as far as I'm concerned because it means to me that the person isn't a timewaster and is sexually attractive and available. And that makes a lady more attractive in my mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
I only show a couple to show I'm real and actually meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh i have had the worst case of this..someone who tried to get me fired from my job because he was so upset i didnt want to keep meeting him..once he had met me he started going on about how shallow i was for just wanting nsa sex...
hes back on here now too."
Name and shame lol only jokin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why should anyone feel the need to have to hide their verification incase of jealousy and upsetting someone thought this was a swinging site not a dating site lol |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Curvy. It can be quite funny how territorial some people can be. I display all my verifications because I liked all the men I have met and had a lot of fun. I have never received messages from women who have also met these gentleman. But I do have women who contact the men I meet straight after I display my new verification. I think they should just employ me as a fab tester x.
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Verification stalkers are an odd bunch, we get a few who read in them in depth and message us about them.
We have hidden them in the past due to oddballs on chat getting very bitchy over the content of them.
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I have had grief over my veri's, usually it's because I'm meeting too many people & I'm a slag! Or why have I met so & so more than once?
Some people act as though because you have met them once, that you must meet them again & nobody else.
Grrrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curvy. It can be quite funny how territorial some people can be. I display all my verifications because I liked all the men I have met and had a lot of fun. I have never received messages from women who have also met these gentleman. But I do have women who contact the men I meet straight after I display my new verification. I think they should just employ me as a fab tester x.
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Brilliant idea! I'm going to make a spreadsheet of all your veri's and start working my way through them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Verification stalkers are an odd bunch, we get a few who read in them in depth and message us about them.
We have hidden them in the past due to oddballs on chat getting very bitchy over the content of them.
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best message I got was a 'couple' asking me if the girls in my pics needed drugs....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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best message I got was a 'couple' asking me if the girls in my pics needed drugs.......
Its odd just how much jealousy a site like this breeds.
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Ive asked some of my previous meets(the closer to friends types) to tell me if they are getting mails that come from associations with me.Quite amazing how some then introduce themselves to ur past meets.." i see uve met paddy.."..bizarre behaviour lol |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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"Curvy. It can be quite funny how territorial some people can be. I display all my verifications because I liked all the men I have met and had a lot of fun. I have never received messages from women who have also met these gentleman. But I do have women who contact the men I meet straight after I display my new verification. I think they should just employ me as a fab tester x.
Brilliant idea! I'm going to make a spreadsheet of all your veri's and start working my way through them. "
Oh you! Hands off. I have not quite finished with them yet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes because some guys think they have exclusivity over you, then.when they see a new Vari they see there arse, but when.they have a new one its all good... display them all if I was u I would if mine hadn't left. people on here are stupid and think its more than a sex meet site and fall for.people when they shouldn't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yes because some guys think they have exclusivity over you, then.when they see a new Vari they see there arse, but when.they have a new one its all good... display them all if I was u I would if mine hadn't left. people on here are stupid and think its more than a sex meet site and fall for.people when they shouldn't. "
so right hunny xx |
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By *ander_XMan
over a year ago
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I've had the same issue of getting grief for my varis a few times. I've had a few girls go absolutely ballistic with me when I've put up a new verification.
I can understand feeling a slight pang of jealousy when seeing a new verification on someone's profile, I've felt it myself a couple of times, but I'd never dream of saying anything or giving anyone grief.
After all it's a swingers site and I'm certainly not after monogamy on here, it would be totally hypocritical and unrealistic to expect it from someone else.
I think a lot of people on here need to man/woman up and learn to control their emotions a bit better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
.......,,.... Then you get oh so you've had a meet why haven't you met me,,,,,,put the dummy back in your mouth |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Curvy. It can be quite funny how territorial some people can be. I display all my verifications because I liked all the men I have met and had a lot of fun. I have never received messages from women who have also met these gentleman. But I do have women who contact the men I meet straight after I display my new verification. I think they should just employ me as a fab tester x.
Brilliant idea! I'm going to make a spreadsheet of all your veri's and start working my way through them.
Oh you! Hands off. I have not quite finished with them yet "
I'll swap you one of mine for one of yours. I'll even throw in a kitkat to show no hard feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had grief over my veri's, usually it's because I'm meeting too many people & I'm a slag! Or why have I met so & so more than once?
Some people act as though because you have met them once, that you must meet them again & nobody else.
Grrrrr "
That doesn't just happen to singles, happens to couples too...
Just seems like some forget we are a couple and don't realise that we both read massages xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had this once or twice with guys who are usually directed to a more 'harmonious' site for their needs...they usually block me after sending an abusive message back about me being a whore, bless em!
Haven't had anyone contact me about a guy I've verified yet, but I know some of my veri's have been quizzed about me. Have once had a woman set up fake profiles and message me from them all telling me a meet had given her the clap after he told her he didn't want to meet her anymore - apparently she went through his friends list & veri's and caused him a bit of trouble so I now avoid anyone she has met cos I can't be arsed getting dragged into the hassle again!
Just block these people as to me their actions are like alarm bells letting me know I never want to be in a room alone with them never mind naked too! x |
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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago
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When it comes to verifications I do check who has verified someone but id never give abuse because someones verified someone. Not long after I joined I chatted to a guy who turned nasty and asking sick stuff so I ended up avoiding everyone who has verified him as a nice guy etc when he wasn't and no as far as im aware he got removed from the site
More recently had someone message saying he was friends with X and wanted a threesome. I politely pointed out that I had his friend blocked due to abuse so I wouldn't be meeting him as well and got abuse back.
Some veris all come from a circle of friends and ive learned to be wary of the veri system now due to this. I prefer not to show my veris purely down to I don't want people knowing who ive been with so people don't message me with jealousy abuse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hey Sexy people so recently I have found that if I display a new verification I get some people getting jealous and get quite off with me?? so I'm wondering if I should just hide them all, but then you get people asking to see them to prove your not a fake ?? so catch 22....
anyone else ever have this issue? surely as we are all on a swinging site there shouldn't be any jealousy?? "
They are going to have to get a new server if you get any more verifications. |
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