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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Anyone else experience this. I wink a guy who fits what we are looking for, he winks back.I say hi then he starts a brief chat (yesterday). Because I didn't respond (was out all day) he sends second and then 3rd reply, last saying 'Oh well I'll move on' I try to explain to find I'm blocked!!
What is the matter with some people? He looked ideal and his veris supported...but with that attitude we wouldnt have made it passed the social. |
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Some peoples lives revolve around FAB and they struggle to accept that people have lives outside of this site and swinging in general. I also believe that some people have an over inflated sense of self importance and the idea of waiting for a reply is taken as an insult.
There are some of us single men who are decent people, but as yours seems to be a common thing, I'm not sure on how many |
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By *impcuckMan
over a year ago
edge of taunton |
mrs gets this often guys who seem to think shes chained to het laptop
think of it in as posative way hes shown you hes pushy and impaitent so that a blessing as no one wants to meet these types of guys block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say attitude but why start a conversation if you're to busy to reply why not say love to chat when got time but I'd certainly wouldn't block straight away. |
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People have wildly different expectations. You could consider many of them to be unrealistic 
I had the same yesterday. None of us were probably compatible, as most people will never be. I understand that single men are frequently not going to be getting replies, so they preemptively block. But the senders of multiple messages are typically too much hassle due to their impatience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else experience this. I wink a guy who fits what we are looking for, he winks back.I say hi then he starts a brief chat (yesterday). Because I didn't respond (was out all day) he sends second and then 3rd reply, last saying 'Oh well I'll move on' I try to explain to find I'm blocked!!
What is the matter with some people? He looked ideal and his veris supported...but with that attitude we wouldnt have made it passed the social."
Lucky escape, he sounds like a right one. Imagine how bad he'd be if you'd actually met. Constantly wanting replies.
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We often find exactly the same when we start chatting to people, including couples, that if you do not respond to messages very quickly, they take offence.
Like one of the posters above said, some peoples lives seem to revolve around FAB and they struggle to accept that people have lives outside of this site and swinging in general.
Hey ho, with attitudes like that it is unlikely that it would work so we would not want to meet them anyway. |
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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago
Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish) |
Nowt as queer as folk. It sounds like you dodged a bullet; some people are the centre of their own universe, and if you don't jump through hoops in their timescale, it's block and move on.
Unfortunately, there is no way to predict this sort of behaviour, and while it's hard to understand, don't dwell on it. After all, it's his loss and not yours. I hope your luck picks up. |
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"I wouldn't say attitude but why start a conversation if you're to busy to reply why not say love to chat when got time but I'd certainly wouldn't block straight away."
If you read it properly, they only winked at the guy rather than messaged him first, and only after he winked back, they had a chat. Maybe they did not expect him to wink that soon? Also, you know there is this little holiday called Christmas that takes people's time away from online, yes? But even if it wasn't holidays time, we are allowed not be online or not reply immediately. This is not instant messaging service. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
Taking what you have posted at face value, respectfully I disagree with you and the rest of replies.
You said he was ideal for you as a couple. Have you considered that you might not be what he is looking for, or he was not too interested in you two and just responded to you out of politeness and see where things could go?
Then you start with a Hi after he winks back. How many complains in the forums calling lazy to single men who message with just a Hi. If you are interested in him and he was ideal, just a wink and a Hi seems low effort.
Then when he puts some effort and starts a chat, he receives no reply the whole day. He only had a wink and a Hi from you and then... radio silence. Lol at it from his point of view. I think he was entitled to block. Women and couples here block constantly for far less than that.
Perhaps next time wait until you have time to drink to guys you really like, maybe don't start a conversation if you don't have the time to respond, and at least send a quick message saying "busy now will respond tomorrow". |
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By *avexxMan
over a year ago
cheshire |
"Taking what you have posted at face value, respectfully I disagree with you and the rest of replies.
You said he was ideal for you as a couple. Have you considered that you might not be what he is looking for, or he was not too interested in you two and just responded to you out of politeness and see where things could go?
Then you start with a Hi after he winks back. How many complains in the forums calling lazy to single men who message with just a Hi. If you are interested in him and he was ideal, just a wink and a Hi seems low effort.
Then when he puts some effort and starts a chat, he receives no reply the whole day. He only had a wink and a Hi from you and then... radio silence. Lol at it from his point of view. I think he was entitled to block. Women and couples here block constantly for far less than that.
Perhaps next time wait until you have time to drink to guys you really like, maybe don't start a conversation if you don't have the time to respond, and at least send a quick message saying "busy now will respond tomorrow"."
,,, thats a fair point |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say attitude but why start a conversation if you're to busy to reply why not say love to chat when got time but I'd certainly wouldn't block straight away.
If you read it properly, they only winked at the guy rather than messaged him first, and only after he winked back, they had a chat. Maybe they did not expect him to wink that soon? Also, you know there is this little holiday called Christmas that takes people's time away from online, yes? But even if it wasn't holidays time, we are allowed not be online or not reply immediately. This is not instant messaging service. "
nope I've read it and still think lazy if it was a single guy he would get roasted for just saying hi then they start a conversation but don't reply because too busy again had it been a single guy he would have been blocked and lambasted on here I understand wink back but don't start a conversation if no time to reply in the day. |
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"Taking what you have posted at face value, respectfully I disagree with you and the rest of replies.
You said he was ideal for you as a couple. Have you considered that you might not be what he is looking for, or he was not too interested in you two and just responded to you out of politeness and see where things could go?
Then you start with a Hi after he winks back. How many complains in the forums calling lazy to single men who message with just a Hi. If you are interested in him and he was ideal, just a wink and a Hi seems low effort.
Then when he puts some effort and starts a chat, he receives no reply the whole day. He only had a wink and a Hi from you and then... radio silence. Lol at it from his point of view. I think he was entitled to block. Women and couples here block constantly for far less than that.
Perhaps next time wait until you have time to drink to guys you really like, maybe don't start a conversation if you don't have the time to respond, and at least send a quick message saying "busy now will respond tomorrow"."
Really???
People have lives and unexpected events can intervene which might delay your ability to engage further. Good grief it was only a few hours. |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
About 3 feet away from the fence |
Whenever they're impatient like that I just assume they're on drugs.
Don't know how some people can't understand that we're not just sitting here 24/7 constantly refreshing the browser.
Sometimes believe it or not, there's more interesting or important things to do than be on fabswingers. |
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I don’t see any “attitude” in someone saying I’ll move on then and blocking. Clearly you weren’t right for each other or the timing was off.
Either way it’s just part of life. No need to see “what is wrong with people”
Nothing. They’re just not your people..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Taking what you have posted at face value, respectfully I disagree with you and the rest of replies.
You said he was ideal for you as a couple. Have you considered that you might not be what he is looking for, or he was not too interested in you two and just responded to you out of politeness and see where things could go?
Then you start with a Hi after he winks back. How many complains in the forums calling lazy to single men who message with just a Hi. If you are interested in him and he was ideal, just a wink and a Hi seems low effort.
Then when he puts some effort and starts a chat, he receives no reply the whole day. He only had a wink and a Hi from you and then... radio silence. Lol at it from his point of view. I think he was entitled to block. Women and couples here block constantly for far less than that.
Perhaps next time wait until you have time to drink to guys you really like, maybe don't start a conversation if you don't have the time to respond, and at least send a quick message saying "busy now will respond tomorrow"."
 especially the last bit |
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Popular (I suppose) guys have similar powers to single women.
Majority of women/couples want those, so they're little kings.
They can afford to behave just like many women here.
I know "not everyone is like that", but this situation is more common the other way, if a single men can get a reply at all.
That's the dynamic here unfortunately.
Need to kiss a few "frogs" ladies to change this.
Many "guys shouldn't open with a dick pic" either.
Women like them only, if they are "pretty" apparently.
Some experience, quotes and sarcasm in my post.
Sorry about that!
No jealousy, anger or bitterness.
I won't worry about things I can't change, but I call it what it is.
I have nothing to lose.
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"Anyone else experience this. I wink a guy who fits what we are looking for, he winks back.I say hi then he starts a brief chat (yesterday). Because I didn't respond (was out all day) he sends second and then 3rd reply, last saying 'Oh well I'll move on' I try to explain to find I'm blocked!!
What is the matter with some people? He looked ideal and his veris supported...but with that attitude we wouldnt have made it passed the social."
Men are so needy.
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Need to kiss a few "frogs" ladies to change this."
Errr… no. No-one “needs” to do this to placate anyone else. Just as no-one should really complain about others attitude when they’ve been explicitly clear  |
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Need to kiss a few "frogs" ladies to change this.
Errr… no. No-one “needs” to do this to placate anyone else. Just as no-one should really complain about others attitude when they’ve been explicitly clear "
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