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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not sure if this was my fault or not...
Anyway.. I met a couple in a club by chance and got really well chatting with them for about 30 minutes and swinging withm was suggested.
Then they mentioned who they were on here.. I had a think and realised they blocked me after a misunderstanding I think , sending a "don't like your attitude" message to me about 2 months beforehand.
So anyway, out of fairness and not wanting to take advantage of them by not recognising me I told them.
They still chatting to me but I think they didn't understand so told them they blocked me and said basically what they'd messaged to me beforehand.
To be honest no didn't want to play with them unless all was water under the bridge but anyway .. they took offence at me and walked off , blanking me for the rest of the night.
I gave them a wide berth.
Anyway, I think I did right with the best intentions.. is it normal for behaviour they displayed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What might seem like integrity could gone across as an attitude or drama in person. Consider how many awful messages they probably get and you catch them at the wrong moment online..it’s quite different than meeting people in person.
Maybe next time leave the online dramas online and just focus on the real world in front of you. You’ll enjoy yourself more  |
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"What might seem like integrity could gone across as an attitude or drama in person. Consider how many awful messages they probably get and you catch them at the wrong moment online..it’s quite different than meeting people in person.
Maybe next time leave the online dramas online and just focus on the real world in front of you. You’ll enjoy yourself more "
Or just politely decline. Same outcome no atmosphere or drama. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find that some people in clubs come across very differently online, people are much more forgiving in person, things also don't get misconstrued as easily. I understand why you told them but if it happens again I wouldn't even bring it up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find that some people in clubs come across very differently online, people are much more forgiving in person, things also don't get misconstrued as easily. I understand why you told them but if it happens again I wouldn't even bring it up. "
I did think of this at the time , but if we swung and they found out later could that be a worse outcome? |
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You should have had some fun and let it be water under the bridge. We had great fun with a couple in a club but couldn't find their profile for love or money. Turns out we had blocked them for sending a random friend's request (we've since mellowed  ). |
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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago
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You just shouldn't have brought it up. I would think it was weird if someone had approached me saying "hi you blocked me on XYZ" much less remembered I had after all that time. Like they haven't gotten over it or something. |
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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago
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Online is totally different from being in a club.
Online so many time wasters you don't know who to trust and people read messages the wrong way.
In a club your all there for the same thing which means your all genuine. So if someone floats your boat in a club just go with the flow and enjoy it. Its not like you will be inviting them round for cocktails, You will probably never see them again. |
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I think you’d have been wrong not to bring it up when you new.
I played with a guy I had blocked on here. Didn’t realise til after, we laughed and joked and said how different we were than expected.
If someone has me blocked on here (for a legit reason rather than just not liking the look of me) I’d expect them to say. |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
You have an amazing memory OP if you can remember the name of a profile that blocked you 2 months ago and what they said before they blocked you.
You said that you didn’t want to take advantage of them not recognising you so you told them but they didn’t understand so you told them that they blocked you and what they said when they blocked you. What did you initially tell them that they didn’t understand? |
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To be honest I'd not even recall everyone I'd blocked, or their username unless it had been something that really stood out for being very bad I think?
I'd have probs not have mentioned it. It's just going off a few pics/msgs on here, nothing like actually chatting face-to-face. If they didn't understand what you'd said the first time, I'd have left it that as you'd already let them know they'd blocked you... Reinforcing them stating in a message they 'thought you had a bad attitude', to their faces. Probs made them think you might have a bad attitude?  |
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I would have done what you did, tell them beforehand. After all, they blocked you for a reason.
If they change thier minds, they can always start a conversation with you and start things over again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'd not even recall everyone I'd blocked, or their username unless it had been something that really stood out for being very bad I think?
I'd have probs not have mentioned it. It's just going off a few pics/msgs on here, nothing like actually chatting face-to-face. If they didn't understand what you'd said the first time, I'd have left it that as you'd already let them know they'd blocked you... Reinforcing them stating in a message they 'thought you had a bad attitude', to their faces. Probs made them think you might have a bad attitude? "
Well I wasn't using a consecending tone or anything.
Just said it in a casual tone getting them to recognise me.
Perhaps I should have kept my big gob shut and just say I'd chat to be social but just not interested in them.
I couldn't play with them and keep it from them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have an amazing memory OP if you can remember the name of a profile that blocked you 2 months ago and what they said before they blocked you.
You said that you didn’t want to take advantage of them not recognising you so you told them but they didn’t understand so you told them that they blocked you and what they said when they blocked you. What did you initially tell them that they didn’t understand? "
Under fab site rules, conversations are not allowed to be mentioned on here. Sorry |
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"To be honest I'd not even recall everyone I'd blocked, or their username unless it had been something that really stood out for being very bad I think?
I'd have probs not have mentioned it. It's just going off a few pics/msgs on here, nothing like actually chatting face-to-face. If they didn't understand what you'd said the first time, I'd have left it that as you'd already let them know they'd blocked you... Reinforcing them stating in a message they 'thought you had a bad attitude', to their faces. Probs made them think you might have a bad attitude?
Well I wasn't using a consecending tone or anything.
Just said it in a casual tone getting them to recognise me.
Perhaps I should have kept my big gob shut and just say I'd chat to be social but just not interested in them.
I couldn't play with them and keep it from them
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If it makes you feel any better I've been blocked after meeting someone in a club. So, I at least you clearly come across better in person  |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"You have an amazing memory OP if you can remember the name of a profile that blocked you 2 months ago and what they said before they blocked you.
You said that you didn’t want to take advantage of them not recognising you so you told them but they didn’t understand so you told them that they blocked you and what they said when they blocked you. What did you initially tell them that they didn’t understand?
Under fab site rules, conversations are not allowed to be mentioned on here. Sorry"
I don’t think that is a rule actually, as long as you don’t say the name of the profile then it’s fine. You mentioned what you said to them in the conversation just after that when you told them that they’d blocked you and what they said when they blocked you and the post hasn’t been removed so I’m sure you can tell us what you said directly before that as well. |
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"Anyway, I think I did right with the best intentions.. is it normal for behaviour they displayed? "
Most people nowadays would tell you to say whatever would give you the biggest chance of getting laid, but I think you showed integrity.
Their reaction suggests it was a lucky escape for you, even if somewhat frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyway, I think I did right with the best intentions.. is it normal for behaviour they displayed?
Most people nowadays would tell you to say whatever would give you the biggest chance of getting laid, but I think you showed integrity.
Their reaction suggests it was a lucky escape for you, even if somewhat frustrating."
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