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Just a general question but is it just me who refuses to meet men the same day that they first message.
Nearly every message I get is a request to stop what I’m doing and go meet someone to suck or fuck him.
Complete turn off in my book |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Tough question.
My bestest, loveliest, hottest and sexiest FWB I met on the same day he messaged me.  Obvs he didn’t message asking for a fuck or a suck, it was for a social that then turned out into fun. That was 4 years ago and it is still fun and amazing. And he is still hot and sexy af.
Reason why I even entertained replying to his message was because I really liked the face photo he sent and his body is exactly the type I am most attracted to. So it’s only happened once in 4 years really. In my case it was never say never…
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"Just a general question but is it just me who refuses to meet men the same day that they first message.
Nearly every message I get is a request to stop what I’m doing and go meet someone to suck or fuck him.
Complete turn off in my book "
Oh most definately id never meet someone the same day,as I like the build up and tease etc |
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"Just a general question but is it just me who refuses to meet men the same day that they first message.
Nearly every message I get is a request to stop what I’m doing and go meet someone to suck or fuck him.
Complete turn off in my book "
Yep same for me. I’m busy and I have a life. I’ve never met someone the same day. I’m sure they think we’re all sat around just waiting for them to message. Eye roll. One guy once asked me to meet him in his car on my lunch break, that was his first message. No thanks, my lunch break is for eating my lunch! |
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over a year ago
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It’s happened before and I’d let it happen again. One mind you was on the way to a social so more of a hope to bump into you and chat. (Playing at the club after was just a bonus). And again another time where I was contemplating a club evening. Wouldn’t be naive think I could get a meet same day just like that |
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Completely understand meeting for a social and if more happens etc
But these messages I’m getting are literally - come over now and do everything I want to me
I’d rather sit at home and watch Netflix ?? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I use it as a filter, anyone who asks to meet first message/same day is a delete.
They never send a face pic either or ask for mine which makes me think they're not that fussy.
Obviously it's different if I know them and we've met before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Completely understand meeting for a social and if more happens etc
But these messages I’m getting are literally - come over now and do everything I want to me
I’d rather sit at home and watch Netflix ?? "
A lack of understanding on how this place works, and will probably be from those that make up forums asking for help on their profile or help with getting a meet |
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"Just a general question but is it just me who refuses to meet men the same day that they first message.
Nearly every message I get is a request to stop what I’m doing and go meet someone to suck or fuck him.
Complete turn off in my book "
Happens every day at least three or four times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it's a no from me, I wouldn't expect someone to just turn up on the first message, trust has to be gained first even then how scary is it for a woman to turn up at a strangers house , or let someone into hers after one message. |
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I don't meet when someone else wants me to.
I meet when I want to and it's convenient for both of us.
I'd stick to your guns OP, you're filtering out people that aren't listening to you. That can only be a good thing imo. |
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"Completely understand meeting for a social and if more happens etc
But these messages I’m getting are literally - come over now and do everything I want to me
I’d rather sit at home and watch Netflix ?? "
Netflix and chill with a women resting her legs with very high heels on over mine lol |
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I always say that I am leaving it in the F or MF's capable hands or where to meet and when. Just seems common courtesy.
I say I can meet now at mine or in a week at a public place. Give them options, let them choose. |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"Completely understand meeting for a social and if more happens etc
But these messages I’m getting are literally - come over now and do everything I want to me
I’d rather sit at home and watch Netflix ?? "
Ah yes, those are the chancers… hundreds of those a day. I just delete now. If I ever reply and say no, then they ask “why not?” hahaha 
Some men genuinely think that by signing up on here they’ll be balls deep in pussy within half an hour. |
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"Completely understand meeting for a social and if more happens etc
But these messages I’m getting are literally - come over now and do everything I want to me
I’d rather sit at home and watch Netflix ??
Ah yes, those are the chancers… hundreds of those a day. I just delete now. If I ever reply and say no, then they ask “why not?” hahaha
Some men genuinely think that by signing up on here they’ll be balls deep in pussy within half an hour. "
Not wanting to rest them legs and high heels over my lap then? Lol |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
One that I don’t understand is when I get message asking to meet after they just had a meet that morning or day before  .
I know it’s a sex site & might still be horny lol but I always wonder like have you even washed your fanny yet love! Haha turn off for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean if he's cute and close then I'd meet them the same day. I did it twice and funnily enough both of them became my best friends! However, I can't stand the ones where its just "Meet now". Do they seriously think that works? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m the same. Rather get to know someone than meet straight away.
Those ready to meet straight away are usually messaging dozens and only seeing a hole in my opinion. |
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No... Honestly, they're just ridiculous. And when you spell out to them, the issues with their demands they either get shitty or suddenly realise how wrong it is!
If I was to social with someone, then take things further, that would be my choice, not because they'd asked. |
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I have ladies and couples message me and we have met the same day. I don’t really think it is that unusual because you can meet someone and be playing pretty soon after in a club so I don’t see why a site meet is any different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Me thinks you are a few inches at an advantage with regard instant meets  but good luck to you, I'm jealous"
Instant meets can happen for anyone, all it takes is the right person. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Just a general question but is it just me who refuses to meet men the same day that they first message.
Nearly every message I get is a request to stop what I’m doing and go meet someone to suck or fuck him.
Complete turn off in my book "
It depends what you want to get out of the site. You either jump in and find out they look nothing like their profile or spend weeks chatting to find out they look nothing like their profile. You could spend a day to find out they don't turn up or a month. You could spend a day to find out they are shit in bed or a few months. It's tricky but omelettes make eggs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it highly annoying, but also when a couple gives a date or time but your not free then so they automatically presume your a time waster, because you don’t have a life and things to genuinely do  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have meet one man with in 15 minutes of the first message.
I have meet a few guys on the same day as first message. Some have been great some not so much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There has to be a certain amount of trust, and you can hardly gain that after a first message, so yes stick to your guns and get to know the person first , |
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