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over a year ago
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"We really really want to try BDSM ... Not really sure where or how to start .. Can anybody please give us a little bit of advice  "
Try doing a search for sites that cater for it. You will get more people there who indulge and more varied answers and help. |
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You don't specify in what capacity you want to try BDSM, it's a rather large umbrella for a very diverse lifestyle. For example, are you Domme and is your hubby sub, or vice versa? Do you want ropeplay, or restraint? Do you like pain? Or prefer to dish it out? Are you into humiliation? Or cuckolding? Do you want to be a slave, or a Mistress? Do you want to be 'loaned out' to other Doms? Used as a sex slave?
Or do you just want to be controlled? |
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BDSM is a catch all phrase for a broad church of different fetishes and kinks, the four main headings being
Bondage
Domination
Sadism
Masochism
The last two often coupled together as sado masochism go hand in hand.
Work out what you are interested and check out websites that specialise in a fetish lifestyle |
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By *andKxxx OP Couple
over a year ago
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"You don't specify in what capacity you want to try BDSM, it's a rather large umbrella for a very diverse lifestyle. For example, are you Domme and is your hubby sub, or vice versa? Do you want ropeplay, or restraint? Do you like pain? Or prefer to dish it out? Are you into humiliation? Or cuckolding? Do you want to be a slave, or a Mistress? Do you want to be 'loaned out' to other Doms? Used as a sex slave?
Or do you just want to be controlled?"
I want to be sub... Hubby Dom.... I want to be controlled love the idea of pain rope play and restraints ... Although I don't want to be loaned out to other doms but a sex slave sounds good |
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By *andKxxx OP Couple
over a year ago
Liverpool |
"BDSM is a catch all phrase for a broad church of different fetishes and kinks, the four main headings being
Bondage
Domination
Sadism
Masochism
The last two often coupled together as sado masochism go hand in hand.
Work out what you are interested and check out websites that specialise in a fetish lifestyle"
Didn't realise how much there was too it   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We really really want to try BDSM ... Not really sure where or how to start .. Can anybody please give us a little bit of advice "
I sure can... send me a message x |
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Townhouse do a bdsm night which weve been meaning to go to for a while. Weve dabbled and know sort of what we like but looking to push things. That should be a good night to find out stuff.
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By *andKxxx OP Couple
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"Townhouse do a bdsm night which weve been meaning to go to for a while. Weve dabbled and know sort of what we like but looking to push things. That should be a good night to find out stuff.
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Yeah we are gonna go see how it goes maybe we will learn a little more there |
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Start off slowly, push your boundaries as you reach them.
Remember it should be fun for both of you
The Dom/domme has the hard job
The sub has the control |
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"Start off slowly, push your boundaries as you reach them.
Remember it should be fun for both of you
The Dom/domme has the hard job
The sub has the control"
Only if your subbing from the top! |
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We're obviously a little different in that Cheryl is the Domme, but same principles.
Read lots (not 50 shades.....) and talk to others.
Establish a safe word. Stick to it. No matter what.
Then start gently, explore, only you guys will learn exactly what you like. Don't be swayed by others in going too fast.
Once you're happy, you will both be able to decide what proportion of your life (both sexually and generally) you can apportion to this wonderful aspect.
Good luck and feel free to ask stuff via mail if you wish.
Dave (for Cheryl and myself) |
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There many events in and around the northwest, so should be easy to find a localish one to you.
Also maybe try a decent fet site most have writings up good for tips and idea,s.( FET Life ) its a really friendly scene and very genuine aswell.
We love it and to be honest edging more on the fet scene than the swinging these days less idiots and more underground than the swinging. |
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