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Help! Where are these men?

By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

I’d love to meet someone who not only doesn’t mind, but actually gets off on seeing/hearing/joining or even just the thought of me having sex with another man. I want them to encourage it and fantasise about it with me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

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By *he ass man 666Man over a year ago

paradise city

Here 200 + miles away lol

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By *ary 121Man over a year ago

East Bergholt

“Talk the talk” + “walk the walk”??

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By *IG G77Man over a year ago

GATLEY

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

I’d love to meet someone who not only doesn’t mind, but actually

gets off on

seeing/hearing/joining or even

just the thought of me having sex with another man. I want them to encourage it and fantasise about it with me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I'm here if you'd like to know more please message xxx

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By *cing3894Man over a year ago

Billingham

I find the idea of teaming up with other guys to help and/or watch women cum quite the turn on

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By *ossannCouple over a year ago

London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "
X

The reality is that the guys most into this will walk the "cuckold" line. It's really hard if you want to find firstly a guy who is into his female partner with other guys, and then guys who understand that your partner is not into the whole cuck thing.

Literally I've been looking for a decade, in London. I finally found the right person last year. The other guy I found did err towards a more cuckold role in those situations and I settled for that.

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

It's a rare commodity but we do exist shame about the distance but who knows what can be achieved if it is as rare as it is both meet in the middle

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? X

Literally I've been looking for a decade, in London. I finally found the right person last year. The other guy I found did err towards a more cuckold role in those situations and I settled for that."

I’m so please you’ve found what you’re looking for. Perseverance paid off.

I’ve been around fab for almost 15 years and have met some great guys, but this is a sticking point.

I definitely don’t want a full time cuck set up, but I would experiment with that on occasion. It’s all about variety I guess. I like the thought of a man who is going to get involved too. Straight or bi, it would not bother me.

Thanks for your reply x

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By *tickler2000Man over a year ago

St Agnes

I'm always up for joining in to help a lady enjoy herself.

Would be good to meet with people who are more than all talk for a change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in South Yorkshire. Sadly!

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Also would like this to be kept to the thread. My inbox is suddenly inundated

Just a discussion and to put the feelers out for now

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"Also would like this to be kept to the thread. My inbox is suddenly inundated

Just a discussion and to put the feelers out for now

I'm sure a lot of feelin is being done for you too receive

We need a filter when using the forum to block messages since is one to receive

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By *ink vixenCouple over a year ago

Medway

It’s unbelievable isn’t it?

We enjoy MFM and we’ve had men get jealous and possessive with us and it’s my wife!

I think that quite a lot of single guys end up on Fab because they have problems forming normal non possessive relationships.

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By *imandher2Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

What about an open minded man with an open minded girlfriend who wants him to have sex with

other women because it turns her on

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I’d love to meet someone who not only doesn’t mind, but actually gets off on seeing/hearing/joining or even just the thought of me having sex with another man. I want them to encourage it and fantasise about it with me."

I thought I’d found this with another Fab friend, but she’s moved on (she moved on for good reasons, I’m happy for her!)

I’m not always able to be with a lover very often. And so when I’m not with her, I want her to carry on being a lively, sexual, experimental person. I definitely want her to be meeting other people - men or women - and falling for them, kissing them, fucking them, and generally revelling in her sexuality. Her love of sex is going to be one of the things I adore about her, so I want - need - her to keep being that person whether it’s with me or not.

And I love hearing about those other adventures. I want to *know* how much fun she’s having.

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By *TG3Man over a year ago

Dorchester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "
in Africa mostly

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

"It’s unbelievable isn’t it?

We enjoy MFM and we’ve had men get jealous and possessive with us and it’s my wife!

I think that quite a lot of single guys end up on Fab because they have problems forming normal non possessive relationships. "

I totally agree with your last statement because I've chatted with few where the guy ended up getting jealous or becoming a stalker

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By *undayGirl 69Woman over a year ago

Coalville

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Exactly this. N if you do have an fb that’s comfortable with it u can’t match them with another because the dynamics are off. What I do with one isn’t the same as another. So then I feel I’m managing one’s ego. Or I get messages from guys offering it with “his mate” who apparently is well hung and a winner with the ladies. Yeah righto

I feel your pain OP xx

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"It’s unbelievable isn’t it?

We enjoy MFM and we’ve had men get jealous and possessive with us and it’s my wife!

I think that quite a lot of single guys end up on Fab because they have problems forming normal non possessive relationships. "

Wait a minute! Jealous of a couple? Do you mean if you meet other men over them? Or jealous of your relationship as a married couple?

Either way that is pretty ridiculous!

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"What about an open minded man with an open minded girlfriend who wants him to have sex with

other women because it turns her on"

Absolutely love this dynamic too. I’m all about the pleasure and not the jealousy.

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I thought I’d found this with another Fab friend, but she’s moved on (she moved on for good reasons, I’m happy for her!)

And I love hearing about those other adventures. I want to *know* how much fun she’s having."

Oh well this is a beautiful reply.

Do you enjoy being involved as well?

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By *o72Man over a year ago

glasgow & London

Here I’m here, open minded, and a big turn on for me would be to have a partner etc that wants others, fwb , pity your Boudoir is so far away

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By *a1970Man over a year ago

East cork

Keep searching.... You'll find him....

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By *onica9876Couple over a year ago

stourbridge

Sorry but I’m married lol but I think what your after is our dynamic, wife is a hot wife and can play with whoever she likes in fact I encourage it. I’ll happily watch or let her go on her own and I have no issue joining in either on a straight basis. Hearing her tell me all about it or even better filming or voice recording, nothing gets me going more !

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

I feel your pain OP xx

Yes managing others egos isn’t our responsibility. Or anyone’s but that persons. Same as managing their expectations and jealousy. That’s on them. It’s really hard to keep feeling like you’re letting someone down by even mentioning it and having to explain it’s not because they’re not good enough. Then getting sniped at.

I’m always mindful to mention things from the start and make them aware I will be with other men which starts well, then it changes.

Christ I just want to fulfil my swinging life to the fullest!

Girl we need to start a petition!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I can empathise with you on this coming from a slightly different angle.

We seem to get 2 types of men that contact us.

1. Ones who think that I can be ignored or actually I'm not part of the discussion and try to dismiss me either directly or through thinly veiled humour.

2. Think that is a lads night out and that TG is just an object we can both have a go on.

It is so much easier to find a couple or a single female as the level of respect is present. Also the jealously thing isn't so much a factor.

Maybe you need to find a couple and share the man between you

Marc

Sorry if I've gone off track a little just from my perspective

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"Oh well this is a beautiful reply.

Do you enjoy being involved as well? "

Well we agree on so many other things, it’s not a huge surprise that we share some thoughts on this too.

Again, logistics and timing make it rare … but I do enjoy sharing. Not always - I need one-to-one intimacy as well - but sometimes, hell yes.

Threesomes are so damn sexy. The last time I was lucky enough was because a friend of mine had a new regular fuck buddy. And they’d been fantasising about him fucking her from behind while going down on another guy. So far so normal, I suppose. But when we got together and did it … the eroticism was off the charts. I had all of her romantic attention while he did the no-holds-barred fucking. I got the slow, seductive kisses. The lovely long oral. And as she got closer and closer to orgasm she buried her head in my chest and grabbed at my shoulders. It was fucking amazing, frankly.

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By *undayGirl 69Woman over a year ago

Coalville

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

I feel your pain OP xx

I’m always mindful to mention things from the start and make them aware I will be with other men which starts well, then it changes.

Christ I just want to fulfil my swinging life to the fullest!

Girl we need to start a petition!

xx"

Ha we definitely need something. I couldn’t be more open… it says it in my profile.

Glad im not the only one to find it like this…

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s definitely one here but unfortunately I’m not close to you, but it’s you who sounds like a unicorn

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By *ildmanYorksMan over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Sorry Blue Eyes, if I was lucky enough to be with you I wouldn't want to share you with anyone

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By *drenaline rushMan over a year ago

Burnley

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Hi so found this really interesting reading. Tried to message you privately but can’t so thought I’d write in here

I find it strange when men get jealous on her it is a sex site yes I appreciate there are cross overs but if people are clear at the begin if this can’t happen no one will be hurt or jealous maybe I’m just being to simplistic ??

My ideal is to meet someone who is happy to play with others and would take my encouragement as a compliment the more the better there are no limits it’s harder than you think to find a woman who wants this also.

There has to be respect and agreed limits but after that all is good

Didn’t just want to post hey I’m what you’re looking for but I guess I’m offering what you and what some other women do want ??

Do they get jealous straight away or is it a gradual thing ??

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By *W_RedMan over a year ago

Manchester

Oh you'll definitely find one! Don't give up on your fantasies

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Geography bites at times...

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By *hriscooperMan over a year ago

Warrington

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

You've been looking in wrong places

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

"I can empathise with you on this coming from a slightly different angle.

We seem to get 2 types of men that contact us.

1. Ones who think that I can be ignored or actually I'm not part of the discussion and try to dismiss me either directly or through thinly veiled humour.

2. Think that is a lads night out and that TG is just an object we can both have a go on.

It is so much easier to find a couple or a single female as the level of respect is present. Also the jealously thing isn't so much a factor.

Maybe you need to find a couple and share the man between you

Marc

Sorry if I've gone off track a little just from my perspective "

No that’s fine Marc I completely see your troubles too and they’re totally valid.

It must be hardest when Tinder is seen as a piece of meat, I’ve got couple friends who also feel this way. Mutual respect goes furthest here.

P.s you’ve been on my hotlist forever and I think it’s about time you had a redhead sandwich!

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By *issYeuxBleus OP Woman over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I think I need to move up North?!

That’s where you all seem to be hiding!

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By *ussle SproutMan over a year ago

the middle

I don’t mind you seeing other people and I’d be happy to watch

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I love sharing a woman and hearing about her meets and what she did and what he did.

You are nobodies property and should be able to express and enjoy yourself in whatever way you want.

BTW you have the sexiest eyes.

Carry doing what you want to do xx

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By *oppleWangerMan over a year ago

Gods Country

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Hello

Redhead as well

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By *inky ChefMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

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In your deleted/unread messages.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

MFF?

I’m here for a cuppa tea and boobie grope

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

"I can empathise with you on this coming from a slightly different angle.

We seem to get 2 types of men that contact us.

1. Ones who think that I can be ignored or actually I'm not part of the discussion and try to dismiss me either directly or through thinly veiled humour.

2. Think that is a lads night out and that TG is just an object we can both have a go on.

It is so much easier to find a couple or a single female as the level of respect is present. Also the jealously thing isn't so much a factor.

Maybe you need to find a couple and share the man between you

Marc

Sorry if I've gone off track a little just from my perspective

No that’s fine Marc I completely see your troubles too and they’re totally valid.

It must be hardest when Tinder is seen as a piece of meat, I’ve got couple friends who also feel this way. Mutual respect goes furthest here.

P.s you’ve been on my hotlist forever and I think it’s about time you had a redhead sandwich!

Redhead sandwich sounds perfect

Marc

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By *urchoicenowCouple over a year ago

Ashford

Although you are looking in the right place for what you are looking for, the men you've encountered aren't. If they get possessive and jealous, then they aren't really 'swingers' are they?

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By *harlieadventurerMan over a year ago

Abingdon

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

It’s all fun, your meeting the wrong ones, this sort of sex is fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Snap, my D is super possessive, won't entertain soft-swap or a club ... Just ff or ffm

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I've sent you a message, I would love to be the man you want

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By *ongtallsillyMan over a year ago

Telford

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Annnnd, here I am!

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By *ossannCouple over a year ago

London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hi so found this really interesting reading. Tried to message you privately but can’t so thought I’d write in here

There has to be respect and agreed limits but after that all is good

Didn’t just want to post hey I’m what you’re looking for but I guess I’m offering what you and what some other women do want ??

Do they get jealous straight away or is it a gradual thing ?? "

Thing is, a lot of guys have a very set idea of what they think you being with another guy is going to entail. What a lot of guys actually want is for the two of you to only do things that excite him.

So while it sounds great when a guy says "yes I'm up for this too!", you have to ask a lot of questions to establish that he's realistic about it and that you want the same things out of it.

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By *anDare70Man over a year ago

kirkby

It’s an interesting psycho-social dynamic. The male drive in primates is competitive to win and secure the genetics. This still drives the 21st century brain.

There is no easy simple answer

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm here but might not be if not agreeable respect goes both ways I'm happy to wait until I'm comfortable

and so are you

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Definitely feel this frustration, but from the other side of the fence / coin. I'm definitely open to such experiences, and definitely wouldn't be meeting people through a swinging site / in a swinging capacity / setting... only to be jealous and possesive (like what the actual fuck?).

But... not single.

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By *ickyxxx69Man over a year ago

Bedford

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Right here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Only now seeing your post, fellow Welsh One

HOLY SHIT

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS over a year ago

Bolton

Well I'd certainly let you take as much extra curricular cock all you want, just keep me in pink panties and cock caged up and I'd just do as I'm told x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also would like this to be kept to the thread. My inbox is suddenly inundated

Just a discussion and to put the feelers out for now

Not surprised really so I will keep well out but do feel free to drop me a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think I need to move up North?!

That’s where you all seem to be hiding!

Just head East on the M4 for a couple of hours, job done

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By *ddfellowMan over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

Have you tried bi men as they tend to like joining in with other guys

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Probably already in a relationship...

Partly because they'll get snapped up, but also because it's much easier to be trusting and open minded when you have a lot of mutual history together to base it on.

I'd imagine that lots of guys are initially turned on by how free you are, but then realise that for the relationship to last long term they need more than that - they need to feel special.

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By *ostguy321Man over a year ago

Bucks

Sounds like a fantastic scenario to me, love to help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find them in clubs honestly seems to be the best place for me to meet men that can actually deal with the life style.

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By *odg123Man over a year ago

southampton

One here

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"I think I need to move up North?!

That’s where you all seem to be hiding!

I wouldn’t say hiding as such, but ready and waiting for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Empathise with you, OP. I've found it quite a problem even when they vow they're into me being non-mono at the start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I had the opposite to be fair. I get off when the wife plays but she tends not to want too.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

I love my stag (not all open relationships are cuck), ours is very much a stag/vixen relationship, and if I’m in the mood for some humiliation I take a cuckquean position. I love love love it. I was very open from the start that I am ENM and am unable to offer traditional monogamy. Yes, this shrinks the dating pool massively, but, anything else is a waste of both of our lives. Good luck! I hope you find what you’re looking for. Xx

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By *edonistSeekerMan over a year ago

Worcester

There’s nothing I’d like more than having a lady partner to share. Can’t be bothered with POF/Match route now, 2024 I’ll be visiting clubs and trying to find ‘the one’.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

It's strange isn't it? I (Moose) have always been a people pleaser. It feels natural for me to want my significant other to have an amazing time and as much fun as they can, with me, and when she wants with others. I know that any fun Vixen has with other people we'll share in some form, maybe just talk or knowing she's had a great time. I know that it isn't going to change us, or what we have. It's just fun, sex, play etc.

If someone is insecure, it'll come out in these situations in a second and then the strange behaviour starts......

Usually the most relaxed and happy people in the LS are the ones who've worked it out, and bring no drama!

Good luck OP. Fingers crossed you find someone in the right headspace who will restore your faith!

Moose ??

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By *drenaline rushMan over a year ago

Burnley

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hi so found this really interesting reading. Tried to message you privately but can’t so thought I’d write in here

There has to be respect and agreed limits but after that all is good

Didn’t just want to post hey I’m what you’re looking for but I guess I’m offering what you and what some other women do want ??

Do they get jealous straight away or is it a gradual thing ??

So while it sounds great when a guy says "yes I'm up for this too!", you have to ask a lot of questions to establish that he's realistic about it and that you want the same things out of it.

This is very true more questions more openness about what both want but also honesty when something changes or feels different

Personally nothing. Writer than watching or knowing your partner is having fun being satisfied and your both happy about this respect is always king

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"I think I need to move up North?!

That’s where you all seem to be hiding!

More specifically, the NW.....

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By *mwirralMan over a year ago

wirral

I think the issue is once they get to know you and a real relationship forms, then a lot of men will fear losing you to one of the others, then its hard to carry on with the type of relationship you want.

I guess it's a hard mindset to master for most

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I'm sure there are plenty about. One here... Just been unlucky with your choices perhaps.?

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By *o72Man over a year ago

glasgow & London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I’d love it, and certainly encourage it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here

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By *ockforplay66Man over a year ago

Southampton/isle of wight/ everywhere

Pity you are so far away, but yes us open minded single guys are here, in fact we are here in abundance, but actually don’t seem to be as highly sought as you would think!

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Are you happy for that man to be with another lady as well? If so perhaps look for somebody with some experience of parties/clubs, veris from couples and team up for meet couples at first. It's kind of what I did a few years back. Now we sometimes do MFM, sometimes MFF as well as foursomes and bigger group things.

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By *entle_lover_xMan over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Actually just looked again and seen your veris (should have done that before replying I know) and surprised you are having trouble as you are out there on the "scene" meeting people and you look and sound gorgeous. Are you looking for somebody exclusive that won't play with other ladies? Somebody who will only play with others with you around?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We’re here!!! We just keep getting overlooked or messages read and not replied to!!

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

"We’re here!!! We just keep getting overlooked or messages read and not replied to!! "

Yeah same here

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single

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By *ossannCouple over a year ago

London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single "

There really isn't. There are quite a few submissive guys who get off on a cuckold fantasy. There aren't many guys who want to share their partner in other contexts.

It doesn't matter what they say. When it comes to it, they're nor game.

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single

There really isn't. There are quite a few submissive guys who get off on a cuckold fantasy. There aren't many guys who want to share their partner in other contexts.

It doesn't matter what they say. When it comes to it, they're nor game."

I would definitely like to share her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

How about a bukkake?

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single

There really isn't. There are quite a few submissive guys who get off on a cuckold fantasy. There aren't many guys who want to share their partner in other contexts.

It doesn't matter what they say. When it comes to it, they're nor game."

Oh right, I thought it was the case but clearly not. Personally I’m not into cuckolding (especially the humiliation aspect) as prefer everyone being on equal footing in play scenarios… I think this may be because men tend to be very territorial by nature, also their insecurities play a factor in this too E.g. another man may be able to provide their lady with something they cannot offer

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single

There really isn't. There are quite a few submissive guys who get off on a cuckold fantasy. There aren't many guys who want to share their partner in other contexts.

It doesn't matter what they say. When it comes to it, they're nor game."

Some of this is driven by the majority of guys on the scene who think there has to be a power dynamic or hierarchy in all meets. Lots fragile egos boosted by 'I'm an alpha', 'I'm a Dom' etc, without realising that people can just share their toys and play nicely if they all want to!

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

Hang in there, I can assure there are plenty of single men who fit the description of what you’re after in terms of open mindedness, non jealous,

secure in themselves and happy to “share” their lady with other men. I’d say this is me to tee, however the only difference is that I’m no longer single

There really isn't. There are quite a few submissive guys who get off on a cuckold fantasy. There aren't many guys who want to share their partner in other contexts.

It doesn't matter what they say. When it comes to it, they're nor game."

I know of one.. It may take a bit of time to evolve to be as meaningful and satisfying... Otherwise it's just a shag, shagging another shag... Meaningless, but in the context of some kind of relationship, fwb or other...it can be mind blowing.. For all involved.

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By *kye200Man over a year ago

Richmond

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

The men are definitely there, they are just hidden by all the men who are like that.

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By *ames250122Man over a year ago

Worcester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I’m sure there loads of blokes that would foolishly sign up for it before realising it’s more a doormats then cuck situation since it sounds like a one sided relationship you want not fwb etc. Wanting that before the relationship part, without the love, intimacy for/ with each other, build of trust understanding and respecting each as feeling within your relationship it’s a safe space to be open and how that fulfills you both isn’t good tbh. Couple are together for a long time and build that trust to be open and explore together their kinks it just doesn’t happen at a click of a finger. Trying to skip that and wanting a cuck before even truly understanding each other and each other wants, let alone expecting them to be excited that your beding other blokes, tbh sounds toxic from day one if I’m honest and good on them for walking

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

People connect and develop in different ways. Just because someone else's preferences and journey are different to yours, doesn't make them toxic. Just different. The start of our relationship unconventional, and different for us both compared to what we were used to. But it worked, and we're blissfully happy.

That's the great thing about the forums. People can post honestly, and everyone makes up their own minds for themselves. If it's not your cup of tea, you can filter that person out and no one wastes any time making contact or meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would actively be encouraging you, I would love to sit in the corner watching you x

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By *andwffMan over a year ago

hereford

Keep your fantasies going.......there are lots of men out there who would be more than happy to help (me included).

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

It’s a huge turn on seeing a woman get fucked by a bloke at the side of you knowing your going join them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sympathise!

I’ve found quite a few are open to the idea and then when it comes to planning the reality the jealousy and the backtracking starts.

Certainly a needle in a haystack type of thing!

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

taunton somerset

even as a very happy married woman whos played for 30 years + as single and couple there have been guys who ''think'' they could own me and get seriously jealous even to the point of going thru my veris to scare man ive met off and one chap tolf everyone at one club that i was all his so they need not bother me that night i was in ther club with hubs ...

theres no room for jealousy on this scene (unless kink specific) not had one now for a few years dont know if thats because i suss them quickly but any hint of jealousy isd a instant block jealous guys are amongst the most dangerous type on this scene

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By *andwffMan over a year ago

hereford

really.......I'm surprised. I would have expect men to be falling over themselves to be in the company of and wank over a beautiful woman!

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By *oxy jWoman over a year ago

taunton somerset

and to add i like that only a few guys stand out as good harder to find yep but when found its great..

also guys saying they are one of the good guys '' the oh no not me brigade'' who voice that they are good on these types of chats kinda comes across as creepy n desperate

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple over a year ago

Preston

I'm pretty sure that before I swung as a couple, I'd have been sure I could do it and wouldn't have been jealous, and would have made cool choices with my partner. And I'd have been wrong! Until you actually do it, you don't know how it feels, just how you think it will go in your head.

Humans are funny things, and guys..... We're fucking hilarious. Better to have a sense of humour than an ego, and generally easier in the long run!

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

"even as a very happy married woman whos played for 30 years + as single and couple there have been guys who ''think'' they could own me and get seriously jealous even to the point of going thru my veris to scare man ive met off and one chap tolf everyone at one club that i was all his so they need not bother me that night i was in ther club with hubs ...

Being in the situation with the disability, I don't think that it would be fair for a woman to be with me and not be fully satisfied, and the thought of watching and hearing about her fun with others is a massive turn on, for then to be able to reclaim her as we fuck would be great

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By *r_PinkMan over a year ago

london stratford

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Here I am.

come n get me

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Incongruity is an awful trait in men, oh and women too

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By *eacsMan over a year ago

nottingham

I adore this dynamic....Men, fems or tvs and group!! Bizarrely i never get jealous!!! In fact its a huge turn on!!!!!

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

A turn on for me too

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

Seems to be the impossible dream. Myself looking for a female or couple dynamic that I can enjoy time with and also hear about their other fun with others.

Myself that is a big plus and turn on being able to talk about it and enjoy the time together.

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By *ames stoneMan over a year ago

bristol

Hey I’m in Bristol if you ever need someone at the bottom of your bed waiting to clean you up after I’m your man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just wished there were more women or couples like yourself OP

It's so difficult trying to get a meet with a woman or a couple because of past experiences where as you say guys "talk the talk" but don't "walk the walk" so for us genuine guy's who actually walk the walk if given the Opportunity just can't even get a meet let alone a reply to a polite message

I will carry on trying to find someone like yourself or a nice couple to have some fun with

I can honestly say seeing someone with another guy having fun would just be a massive turn on for myself

So definitely no jealousy here

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"also guys saying they are one of the good guys '' the oh no not me brigade'' who voice that they are good on these types of chats kinda comes across as creepy n desperate"

I think there are plenty of guys who genuinely think they would have no problem with jealousy, but as someone else said, no-one knows for sure until they've tried it, and 95% will be wrong.

I'd say that turning a swinging relationship into a long term one is going to require a lot of talking...

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By *ife NinjaMan over a year ago

Dunfermline

Just too far away for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's true that you can't know how you'd feel until you try it. I can't blame men for being surprised by how territorial and jealous they feel even when they don't want to feel that way. Usually once feelings are involved.

And I think there's something to be said about not rushing into it - letting the relationship become stable so that both parties feel secure. I think in hindsight I should have done that with a previous partner who said he was fine with me going on a date, but bailed as soon as I did.

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By *heelz69Man over a year ago

Manchester

"I think it's true that you can't know how you'd feel until you try it. I can't blame men for being surprised by how territorial and jealous they feel even when they don't want to feel that way. Usually once feelings are involved.

You're right, if you go into the relationship open minded and you each know where you stand from the start

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Open minded

The problem is, things take time, and everyone is in a rush, and when it isn’t happening, they quit.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple over a year ago

Thurrock

It’s a fantasy for a lot of guys but when it becomes reality it’s suddenly not as appealing, fragile egos, self doubt but they do exist just a small number

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By *tanley FunseekerMan over a year ago

stanley

Suspect hordes of them are now stampeding towards your location OP

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"It’s a fantasy for a lot of guys but when it becomes reality it’s suddenly not as appealing, fragile egos, self doubt but they do exist just a small number "

From personal experience... I agree it's different when you experience it compare to fantasising.. But allow people to know their own minds and emotions.. They will know better than anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I’m absolutely open to anything

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Open minded single male here and I think I have some pretty good traits and stuff but no women seems that interested. Might be partly my age but also could be that i'm not exactly the most charismatic talker out there lol. I'm pretty straightforward and direct.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s a fantasy for a lot of guys but when it becomes reality it’s suddenly not as appealing, fragile egos, self doubt but they do exist just a small number "

In my experience this is true. Not that there's anything wrong with self-doubt!

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They're like a needle in a haystack!!! I really don't understand all the guys who "just want to find one person" on here.

I've had them expect me to be exclusive... Before we've even met!

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By *ee1967Man over a year ago

watford

I'm a very open man. Had zero luck here

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By *iercedPMan over a year ago

Brentwood

Never understood why guys are like that, especially on here. You rob yourself of so much fun and new experiences by being closed off like that.

Sex should be fun and can be just about sex!

Don’t give up, there are still some open minded guys out here! X

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

I am here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am not possessive, but also not a cuck. I am more of a friend to have sex adventures with and watch your back when you want to experiment. It's hard to convince women on here that it is true and I guess any time a woman joins this site she gets innundated with men proposing sex, but if any ladies would like to chat... I am here.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"But allow people to know their own minds and emotions.. They will know better than anyone else. "

That sounds reasonable, but it's actually completely wrong!

We often don't know what our minds and emotions will be, especially in situations we've never experienced. Of course there will be exceptions, but the experience of women posting on this thread is that this isn't generally one of them.

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By *otsMan over a year ago

Higham

A long way away unfortunately

But isn't that always the way.

Love a nice sexy/demure lady but even rarer then gens teeth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wishing I was a lot nearer to you, I love mmf

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"But allow people to know their own minds and emotions.. They will know better than anyone else.

That sounds reasonable, but it's actually completely wrong!

Of course you can't argue with people's lived experiences. Which also applies to the guys posting and saying they love it...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a little speechless actually

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By *drenaline rushMan over a year ago

Burnley

"I sympathise!

I’ve found quite a few are open to the idea and then when it comes to planning the reality the jealousy and the backtracking starts.

Certainly a needle in a haystack type of thing! "

I find this hard to understand or see why this is the cases I know we are all different but this is the holy grail of situations

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By *drenaline rushMan over a year ago

Burnley

"They're like a needle in a haystack!!! I really don't understand all the guys who "just want to find one person" on here.

I've had them expect me to be exclusive... Before we've even met!"

How would you feel if I guy said to you I’d like you to meet maybe once a week somone different would you see it as a challenge ? And accept the encouragement ?

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By *ust want fun 888Man over a year ago

nearby

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "
right here, but too far away

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By *ittlebirdWoman over a year ago

The Big Smoke

"They're like a needle in a haystack!!! I really don't understand all the guys who "just want to find one person" on here.

I've had them expect me to be exclusive... Before we've even met!"

This is so true. It never fails to amaze me just how quickly conversations with guys get to that level. And nothing could be more unappealing to me at all. I don’t want anything remotely near exclusive with anyone

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

How old are the guys you see?

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"They're like a needle in a haystack!!! I really don't understand all the guys who "just want to find one person" on here.

I've had them expect me to be exclusive... Before we've even met!

How would you feel if I guy said to you I’d like you to meet maybe once a week somone different would you see it as a challenge ? And accept the encouragement ? "

It's got nothing to do with them, what I do with we're not together.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan over a year ago

Cap d'Agde

"How old are the guys you see?"

That's a very good point. In our experience older guys tend to be a lot more respectful of what women want. The guys in their twenties may look good, but are often complete twats - present company excepted, of course.

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By *rT25Man over a year ago

Rotherham

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

This is right up my street.

Unfortunately my street is some miles away

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By *omoxfordMan over a year ago

leeds

I d love that.

I joined here hoping to find a regular lady for mfm

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

I can imagine how you must feel though but some people don't know how difficult it can be to "share" until they are in that position. I do hope you find someone that has the same open-minded as you do though.. I'm sure he's out there somewhere

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By *eeglos94Man over a year ago

Gloucester

My block list is full of guys that get possessive after just a short chat, I just don't understand the mentality. Have been taking the girlfriend dogging pretty regularly now and getting involved with other guys. She was nervous at first but it turns us on so much and we can't keep ourselves at home. I'm hoping it continues to develop and we can get to the point where more intimate swappingor solo scenarios can become the norm for us.

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By *TG3Man over a year ago

Dorchester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "
who knows its certainly not me

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By *anillaboyMan over a year ago

london

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? X

Literally I've been looking for a decade, in London. I finally found the right person last year. The other guy I found did err towards a more cuckold role in those situations and I settled for that."

Very submissive male says good morning to you.

Vincent here ready to obey and serve.

Wish you a great week

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By *ossannCouple over a year ago

London

"But allow people to know their own minds and emotions.. They will know better than anyone else.

That sounds reasonable, but it's actually completely wrong!

Of course you can't argue with people's lived experiences. Which also applies to the guys posting and saying they love it... "

Most haven't ever shared their partner. At most, they've shared someone's else's partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh we exist and it’s so much fun ha

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By *ames250122Man 50 weeks ago

Worcester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

That very true and a very good point, tbf on reflection and reading what I put before I was a little harsh and presumptive, as you rightly say there are very different way’s relationship form and tbf I have no issue with cuck or any other scenario. I poorly tried to convey that caring and compassion for one another as well and as long as everyone is onboard then fair play, go for it I say. It’s just on the flip side I’ve also heard a few stories of one half of a couple have pushed the other half into doing something when really they’re just trying to hold onto their relationship, which sucks people go through that but it was wrong of me to be presumptive

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

A hook up ?? That’s easy, this is a swinging site, I’m expecting most people I speak to be having sex with others.

I actively post many times and make it clear I’m okay with group sex etc. mmf ffm (and all the other combinations)

Or are you talking about dating someone that’s open to it. Because that’s when feelings and emotions are involved, and you’ll need to talk to them and find out if you’re on the same page.

I’m fragile, (it’s not my ego, it’s my emotions), but if I’m able to communicate those feelings, I’m good with everyone doing what they desire.

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By *urreypair1Couple 50 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

This have as been an interesting read and reaffirms why we find couples rather than single men our comfort zone.

It's very true that from experience the guys playing away would often never dream of sharing their partner.

It must be frustrating as a single fem wanting to meet people willing to share and not be possesive.

We as a couple enjoy seeing each other enjoy our fun and in equal measure enjoy the fun for ourselves as individuals.

And whilst the cuckold element is great if the dynamic works its more fun if everyone is open to sharing the fun without wanting to just watch .... be tgat the male or female.

OP, there is someone out there who is open and truly gets swinging we are sure.

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By *ames250122Man 50 weeks ago

Worcester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men?

A hook up ?? That’s easy, this is a swinging site, I’m expecting most people I speak to be having sex with others.

I actively post many times and make it clear I’m okay with group sex etc. mmf ffm (and all the other combinations)

Or are you talking about dating someone that’s open to it. Because that’s when feelings and emotions are involved, and you’ll need to talk to them and find out if you’re on the same page.

I’m fragile, (it’s not my ego, it’s my emotions), but if I’m able to communicate those feelings, I’m good with everyone doing what they desire.

I think you’ve better conveyed the point that I poorly try to bridge. On here and as swingers it’s causal, no strings, non comital fun with fwb at the most and like you I’d completely expect them them to be seeing other people etc, which for me personally is completely sound as I would consider anything outside our meets as non of my business anyways but more importantly we’re just friends having a laugh not in a relationship or looking for anything monogamous on swinger site. However as you conveyed better than me, dating is something else entirely and far more complicated with invested feeling and emotions as well as respecting and caring for each other. Even very most open of relationships have In some shape or form a level of commitment to each other. I guess if you already know what you like and who you are from past relationships and it a kink you already share then it could be easy to get to a good place in your relationship where it possible, however if one half hasn’t tried it before it’s not something to rush into. I guess you also have to consider if the male half only likes being a cuck or would he also want the female half be a cuck queen at times and indulge his kink so in that instance with the roles reversed, would that be something you’d also be comfortable with I guess. It a far more personal level of connection with some when dating a lot harder to find very specific type of quality's and shared interest in each other, so there no guaranty he would just sub or cuck, might be switch or have a variety of tastes. I know Cuckholds are far more common than Cuckqueening so it does seem easier to belittle chaps and be dismissive of the fact they’re a person with feeling and instead shame them by making out they have fragile egos. However look at fab and couples, many males half do give it a go for the other half, some don’t and that nothing to be ashamed of, it’s no different then anything anyone else isn’t into, might be it just doesn’t appeal or do anything for them and in that instance they shouldn’t be shamed and pushed into doing it. With Cuckqueening be as rare in comparison as well I would say there an argument to be made that far more woman have an issue with being the cuck for various reasons and don’t think it’s down to the fragile male ego and for me personally I’ve believe in equality in a relationship and everything should work both ways and both half should be willing to trade places if asked to before asking it of the other half but unwilling to do the same I guess lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

Man telling you that they are polyamorous or swingers to convince you to get with them, for them to then only go as a man that you only see them, and then get funny with you if you want to see any more people?!

I have had this myself three times in woman form!

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Here, and totally genuine x

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By *ostindreamsMan 50 weeks ago

London

I have done quite a few meets where I just take the woman to a club and watch her have fun with other men. I only kiss the woman once in awhile. No sex. Sometimes we go to a hotel and invite men from fab. Again, no sex for me. These are the kind of meets I enjoy.

If you ever visit London, do let me know if you are interested.

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

I have a sexy lady, who lives in London and although we don’t play very often, we do chat regularly, and she tells me all what happens, who does what, how many, where.

I would love to spend more time seeing her but life and distance prevents that.

When we meet, it can be just the two of us, or sometimes we invite another male around to make sure she gets as much as she needs.

Distance doesn’t stop the relationship with the right person, I’m as turned on chatting to her about what she does as I am when we are playing.

Visit Wales regularly, and be more than happy to chat from a distance, to know what you do, to listen if required. No pressure.

Good luck hunting xx

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By *tlanshiaWoman 50 weeks ago

Chatham

Click the cuckolding option on the forums and they'll find you. I get loads from that.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple 50 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"…With Cuckqueening be as rare in comparison as well I would say there an argument to be made that far more woman have an issue with being the cuck for various reasons and don’t think it’s down to the fragile male ego and for me personally I’ve believe in equality in a relationship and everything should work both ways and both half should be willing to trade places …"

Two things with this one: cuck and stag vixen are often conflated. They are very different. Stag/vixen are equal and enjoy each other.

Cucking on the other hand has lifestyle implications and options, as well and single event options, it also comes with power exchange and shame elements. To be a cuck (quean or man), it takes a very very strong ego and sense of self to be able to enjoy the shame and degradation elements. It is a negotiated and consented arrangement, as without it it can be coercive control and abuse.

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By *o againTV/TS 50 weeks ago

swansea

I was "seeing" a lovely lady a while ago. And she would tell me all about her meets in great detail. Loved hearing her experiences. Which in turn made our sessions even hotter. On one occasion I dropped her off and picked her up from a guys house..

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By *illy IdolMan 50 weeks ago

Midlands

Where you're going wrong is you want to look for a taken man. They'll be much more willing to share you, YB

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By *az_ukMan 50 weeks ago

Cambridge

"Help me forums! Where are these men? "

We certainly exist.

I am using fab to arrange this sort of meet for a non-Fab FWB. Looking for a bloke to join us on fab yields results, plenty say they are keen, but we will see what transpires in reality.

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By *irthy89888Man 50 weeks ago

Barnsley

Im going reverse the question find me a women that will allow another guy to join

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By *inky ChefMan 50 weeks ago

Norwich

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Mostly in your unread, deleted mails or 200 miles away.

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By *inkyJamesMan 50 weeks ago

80020 Broomfield

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By *ibsonVicMan 50 weeks ago

Minworth

I'm not single - but I love bi MMfs - the most erotic thing I've ever done!

And add a couple of Toffe Crisps MissYeuxBleus - but they have to be straight from the fridge: they taste so much better then!

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By *ea monkeyMan 50 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Bi, solo poly swinger here. It’s pretty bloody hard for me to be possessive

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

Open minded Single guy here , I’m straight but can still appreciate a hot guy and don’t mind sharing

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By *ackformore100Man 50 weeks ago

Tin town

"Im going reverse the question find me a women that will allow another guy to join "

Now, if only there were a website where people looking for threesomes could meet each other.

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By *mfao88Man 50 weeks ago

north yorkshire

Oh we are out there

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By *exysurferMan 50 weeks ago

Bromley

Right here. It’s so so difficult isn’t it? Even trying to find a woman who would want this set up is a rare thing.

Keep searching. I’m sure they’re out there.

My search in London continues

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By *xfordjohnMan 50 weeks ago

Oxford

"Oh we are out there"

Yes, we are even if a long way away and out of your age range! What you are looking for is very much the dynamic I had with my first wife - sharing but not a cuckold - and with the couple I see now where the husband isn't a cuckold either but a genuine sharer. It's wonderful so keep up the search. I'm sure you'll find the right person eventually.

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

They don't exist - all i get is requests for MFF or FMF

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

Well I mean I’d probably be down for most things but it’s always the good guys who don’t get anything

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By *niformed professionalMan 50 weeks ago

Exeter

I thoroughly enjoy talking about arranging and watching my partner with men. It’s fantastic. We do exist, talk to us.

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By *econdSideQuestWoman 50 weeks ago

SWANSEA

In all honesty, polyamory has been an expedition in these things

Not all partnery want to hear about the details, or always have threesomes or more, but are super happy to see me play and enjoy others

I guess it depends on what your goals are, but there are a lot of open relationship structures and maybe looking bat other groups for them would help (assuming you haven't already)

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By *aked Wirral VoyeurMan 50 weeks ago

Rock Ferry

Very open minded here

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By *ittlebirdWoman 50 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"They don't exist - all i get is requests for MFF or FMF"

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By *aximum_funMan 50 weeks ago

West Herts

"They don't exist - all i get is requests for MFF or FMF

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

"There’s definitely one here ….. "

Not anymore. UNLOS.

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By *iceGuy78xMan 50 weeks ago

Stroud

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Ahhhh, Miss Blue Eyes,

You’ve just described my perfect fantasy… A connection with someone who has stories to tell. A partner in crime who enjoys a little variety. To be on equal terms with one another. And for the friendship and trust to be stronger BECAUSE others are involved.

Absolutely LOVE the idea of my partner being chased by other guys, it reminds me that I have to stay on my toes

For me, the absolute key to this kind of relationship is 100% openness, and communication. Even if that’s a cheeky FaceTime from someone else’s bedroom, when you can’t talk, because your mouth is full

It even looks like I’m just the other side of the bridge…

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By *ustamanMan 50 weeks ago

weymouth

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Happy for a mmf - see you at 7sins curvy

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

"They don't exist - all i get is requests for MFF or FMF"

“Waves” we do exist ,i would be interested in fmm

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By *atureguy65Man 50 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Open minded single men are definitely the real unicorns.

I seem to have a long run of bad luck when it comes to guys getting jealous. Talk the talk then it turns out actually, they don’t want another man near me.

All they seem to want from me is mff. It’s getting boring and I’m giving up on my fantasies

Help me forums! Where are these men? "

Really? I'm amazed. Not that I get many, but rather more couples than ladies. Wish I were nearer - or maybe younger?

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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago

"They don't exist - all i get is requests for MFF or FMF

Can't wait 'til i get given that leash

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