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Can't get hard with a beautiful woman
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So, I had a rare issue the other day. A meet with a couple and another male.
The female was stunning and I mean, if I were to describe my perfect partner, it would be her.
I wasn't limp but I wasn't hard so I couldn't do all that much except for receive/give oral.
Anyone else have this or just me? Is the only solution viagra-esque meds? |
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First off, consider this bit...
1. Have you noticed a change at all in your erections? Such as morning glory etc.
2. What was your day/week like? Was it stressful? Had you eaten? Had you drank enough fluids etc
It's never a bad shout to speak to your GP and ask for a blood test to check your levels are all good and look at your testosterone before jumping straight to viagra (or other brands). Even if it's for peace of mind that nothing physical is the problem.
Next up, if you do opt for Viagra, I recommend Asda pharmacy, they do a really thorough checklist with you to make sure you're a good candidate. Then you get a slip for future purchases. Viagra is fantastic, don't drink on it though and you'll need to learn your timings of when to take it for maximum effect and how long you get with it
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Everything else is still pretty much the same. I'm ok in other meets, it was really only this one where IMO she was stunning.
Been though a lot this year so that may have had an impact, no doubt.
Yeah, a talk with the GP may be best actually. Thanks for the nudges and advice, I appreciate it. |
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Yeah, exactly. I knew what she looked like before and was always hard looking at her pics and even walking into the room but it was strange, after oral, I just struggled. The condoms were a bit smaller than usual so it was a faff getting them on which just made it worse. |
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Honestly this just sounds like simple performance anxiety. She's the woman of your dreams so of course you're going to be anxious to impress her. That'll affect anyone's performance the first time round.
It can then feed onto a spiral where you beat yourself up like 'she's so hot and I'm not fully hard - what's wrong with me?'. That just makes things worse.
No need to reach for the blue pills just yet. If you get another meet, take things slower. Make sure you relax and get into the right mood. It'll be fine mate  |
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"Thank you and yes, one non-perfect meet shouldn't disregard the others. The meet I am on about was the 2nd verification and it was positive so maybe I am overthinking it."
So the chat with the GP how would that go?
Doc I had sex on 4th and 9th December and all was good I even got a don’t pass him by verification from one. Turned up at a mmmf meet and a bit of trouble getting the old fella to stand to attention. What would you recommend? |
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Yeah honestly, GP first before you're any decisions. Have a think about whether there could be anything underlying.
It's likely just abit of stage fright on the night. The important thing now though is to try your best not to overthink it, your own mind can be your enemy!
Also a huge, massive thing to remember... it happens to everyone once in awhile. Any guy who says otherwise either hasn't yet experienced it or is lying. You're a human, not a dildo, you don't get to just switch it on and off |
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"Yeah honestly, GP first before you're any decisions. Have a think about whether there could be anything underlying.
It's likely just abit of stage fright on the night. The important thing now though is to try your best not to overthink it, your own mind can be your enemy!
Also a huge, massive thing to remember... it happens to everyone once in awhile. Any guy who says otherwise either hasn't yet experienced it or is lying. You're a human, not a dildo, you don't get to just switch it on and off"
That’s the ticket take this ridiculous issue to the GP. Hardon no problem on 4th and 9th December between 9th and 11th I couldn’t get a stiffy as she was to gorgeous and by the way Doc there was two other geezers in attendance.
Is the NHS really the solution? |
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Not that long ago, a few months ago, had the same problem, my first threesome and I just couldn’t seem to get hard, I don’t know whether it was because her fella was there, I really couldn’t explain it |
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"Yeah honestly, GP first before you're any decisions. Have a think about whether there could be anything underlying.
It's likely just abit of stage fright on the night. The important thing now though is to try your best not to overthink it, your own mind can be your enemy!
Also a huge, massive thing to remember... it happens to everyone once in awhile. Any guy who says otherwise either hasn't yet experienced it or is lying. You're a human, not a dildo, you don't get to just switch it on and off
That’s the ticket take this ridiculous issue to the GP. Hardon no problem on 4th and 9th December between 9th and 11th I couldn’t get a stiffy as she was to gorgeous and by the way Doc there was two other geezers in attendance.
Is the NHS really the solution?"
If he's considering Viagra or sometjing similar, yeah. Get yourself checked out before self medicating with something that comes with advisories on not taking it with things like blood pressure issues.
Surely that's common sense. |
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"Yeah honestly, GP first before you're any decisions. Have a think about whether there could be anything underlying.
It's likely just abit of stage fright on the night. The important thing now though is to try your best not to overthink it, your own mind can be your enemy!
Also a huge, massive thing to remember... it happens to everyone once in awhile. Any guy who says otherwise either hasn't yet experienced it or is lying. You're a human, not a dildo, you don't get to just switch it on and off
That’s the ticket take this ridiculous issue to the GP. Hardon no problem on 4th and 9th December between 9th and 11th I couldn’t get a stiffy as she was to gorgeous and by the way Doc there was two other geezers in attendance.
Is the NHS really the solution?
If he's considering Viagra or sometjing similar, yeah. Get yourself checked out before self medicating with something that comes with advisories on not taking it with things like blood pressure issues.
Surely that's common sense. "
You miss the point. This chap had two seemingly successful assignations with two different members within 4 days. The verifications suggests he should not be passed by. He suffers a minor instance of stage fright whilst meeting a “gorgeous “ woman and two other chaps. Is this something a GP can help with?
Wasting NHS time on such frivolous matters is one of the reasons the NHS is in the state it’s in! |
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Thankfully this has only happened to me once at university, totally sober, daytime rendezvous with the most beautiful woman in my halls. I was so embarrassed at the time, but it never happened again, try not to worry about it as that can make it worse, arousal is in the mind as much as it is in the eyes. But hopefully like me, it was a one time occurrence for you. |
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Three times in total. This latest one. First was literally my first time, like you, at Uni with what would be a long term swinging partner.
Then later on, first time (again) with what was another long term swinging partner.
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It could have simpmy been performance anxiety, with so many eyes on you, and the fact you thought she was so beautiful that you did not want to dissapoint her.
Sometimes its just a little too much pressure we put on ourselves. |
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"Yeah honestly, GP first before you're any decisions. Have a think about whether there could be anything underlying.
It's likely just abit of stage fright on the night. The important thing now though is to try your best not to overthink it, your own mind can be your enemy!
Also a huge, massive thing to remember... it happens to everyone once in awhile. Any guy who says otherwise either hasn't yet experienced it or is lying. You're a human, not a dildo, you don't get to just switch it on and off"
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Don’t worry about it OP. Nerves etc anything could put you off. See his it goes at next meet or if you can get hard easy enough wanking alone.
If latter Is fine and working then it’s evidential in your head as to why it happened . |
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I’d also just chip in to say well done for opening up and posting about this! I’d probably be the same myself to be honest…! So thank you. Lots of good advice here. |
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