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Just stage fright - as someone has already said lots of big talk beforehand and suddenly if it’s group fun there’s other cocks around that are all huge when compared to theirs - it is all in the angle of viewing isn’t it??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have had that too on meets when the man gets nervous and cant do nowt.am 5ft 3ins meeting men and then going to quiet locations,yet its them who are nervous."
If the said chap can’t do nowt doesn’t that suggests he can do something ? |
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By *luefire2Couple
over a year ago
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Oh don't get me started......we have had meets with single guys where they are all up for it and tell us what they want to do....then....
Nothing!
They then insist on trying to fuck with a soft cock.
I guess it all gets too much in reality for them, sensory overload. |
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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago
Chinese Takeaway near you |
"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why it’s happening?"
Many possible reasons:
1. Pressure to perform (some guys are just treated like a cock not a person)
2. Situational anxiety/ stage fright (Can be hard performing with many eyes staring at you)
3. Environmental factors (if room is too cold blood vessels contract redirecting blood to vital organs & your cock is not 1 of them haha)
4. You might just not be that attracted to the person so can’t get a boner 
5. Dehydration
6. They might just be a shit fuck haha  meet a girl once & she had no rhythm all over the place like a possessed person. It just killed the mood
7. There are plenty more reasons but can’t be bothered to name them all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why it’s happening?
Many possible reasons:
1. Pressure to perform (some guys are just treated like a cock not a person)
2. Situational anxiety/ stage fright (Can be hard performing with many eyes staring at you)
3. Environmental factors (if room is too cold blood vessels contract redirecting blood to vital organs & your cock is not 1 of them haha)
4. You might just not be that attracted to the person so can’t get a boner
5. Dehydration
6. They might just be a shit fuck haha meet a girl once & she had no rhythm all over the place like a possessed person. It just killed the mood
7. There are plenty more reasons but can’t be bothered to name them all "
Probably number 4 is the most common cause of floppyknobitis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some guys say they are ok with another man being there as it's all about making sure the woman has a fab time, but when it comes to it they are not, so can't get it hard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh don't get me started......we have had meets with single guys where they are all up for it and tell us what they want to do....then....
Nothing!
They then insist on trying to fuck with a soft cock.
I guess it all gets too much in reality for them, sensory overload."
Makes me feel little bit better, as we have had this happen sometimes.
We get on great with the guy he saying how sexy we are etc …
But when we head back to hotel zero performance.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some guys say they are ok with another man being there as it's all about making sure the woman has a fab time, but when it comes to it they are not, so can't get it hard. "
Your profile is a great read you seem like such a confident slut made me laugh !
Love female half of couple xxxxxxx |
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Lack of multi tasking skills!
Ladies are supposed to be good at this but look at the majority of multi cock videos and she’s usually just hanging on to the others whilst focussed on the one in her mouth / pussy.
Come on girls.
Up your game!
I’m dead when she sees this |
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"Pressure.
Lots of guys talk themselves up. “Gonna be the best you ever had” etc but when the pants are off.
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That's why I always say that I'll be adequate at best - if it goes better than that, it's an unexpected bonus! |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
plymouth/chesterfield |
I mention it in my profile, so up front from the start, yes this might cost me meets, but at least I'm honest, it does work, it just enjoys foreplay, so I don't think fuck & go would be on the cards for me, interaction from all parties involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nerves. Lack of comms beforehand. Putting out that your into stuff your not in reality eg bicurios just to get a threesome. Erection issues are often mental. |
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Honestly, it probably happened to me (Rob) at half of our club nights, and that was while I was just with Steph. I used to let it really bother me but just accepted it as an occupational hazard 
We loved being watched but, strangely, if I became too aware of the watchers I'd fixate on them. That would distract me from the task in hand and down goes the flag.
When it happened, we'd either just switch to other techniques or go somewhere else for a bit. I'm lucky that Steph was always totally cool with it. Never made a fuss or took it as some kind of personal slight. As she said 'all I have to do is lay there and look sexy' |
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I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.
Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!
that is so cold and not arousing. |
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"I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.
Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!
that is so cold and not arousing."
This is so true. We are people first and not a penis to use. |
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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago
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"I think sometimes people also expect a man to get hard when sex is served on a plate, we like and enjoy being teased, kissed and other kinds of foreplay as well.
Not "ok there is a hole fuck it"!
that is so cold and not arousing."
Nailed it in one! |
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"Couples often mention that guy they meeting can't get hard. Is it true and why its happening?"
Nerves/stage fright, feeling pressure to perform, not feeling comfortable in the situation/location, tired…..lots of reasons. We’re not machines, and it happens to the best of us. If it does happen, it simply proves you’re only human after all   |
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"Condoms can also be an erection killer to be fair
I agree with that, but safety first, I struggle to keep hard while putting one on, especially being watched. "
I totally get this, and it used to be an issue for me too. How I overcame it was by firstly finding a condom which fit my cock ‘right’, and by that I mean it feels comfortable when on, so it's ‘almost’ like I don’t notice I’m wearing one, then stick to that brand. Then re-educated my brain to associate the condom as the gateway to sex, not a barrier. So now you feel excited to wear a condom, not view it as a literal ‘downer’ Finally; open the packet and have the condom sat right way up, ready to slip on quick as you like when the time is right. The sooner it’s on, the sooner you can ‘get on’ |
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"Nerves. Lack of comms beforehand. Putting out that your into stuff your not in reality eg bicurios just to get a threesome. Erection issues are often mental. "
and strongly based you have to be in a good place mentally and the dynamics have to be right for me.. |
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