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My wife is looking to venture out to female only meets. Question is what can we do to insure her safety? We're concerned that she'll go to a meet with a "single" female only to find the females husband/partner "just happened" to be at home. Apart from having a social first, do you have a husband/partner closely just in case? Any advice gratefully received. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited. |
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"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited."
This is probably the best advice anyone could offer, I certainly would not go to a solo meet without "himself" at least nearby.  |
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"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited."
That's great advice, cheers |
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May not be relevant but some clubs offer ladies only days/evenings. Guys welcome with partners but only ladies allowed in play rooms. They can be wonderful for socialising, play aswell as adding a feeling of safety and reassurance.
For private meets, I've always called my husband before play starts and once I'm comfortable, so he knows everything is as it should be. He's always on standby incase I need him and I stick to local only so he can get to me quickly if he ever needed to. Usually there are play breaks and I'll check in then too |
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"I just stick to club visits. Personally wouldn’t ever meet a stranger in a hotel, I wouldn’t find anything like that enjoyable.
In a club I feel safe, and I’ll still have a good night regardless."
It’s ridiculous that women aren’t safe around men us mrn need to do more to make you feel safe xxx
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"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited."
If the other woman sees him she may think she's been had |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
Baughurst |
"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited.
If the other woman sees him she may think she's been had"
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As long as OP makes clear that he is just giving her a lift and saying goodbye at the door, and not trying to get in the house or be part of the meet, I am not sure why the woman inside her own home would feel threatened (or tricked). When they are arranging the meeting, she can mention that her partner will give her a lift but will not be part of the meet, of course. Can't see why any woman would be upset by the partner giving a lift. |
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"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited.
That's great advice, cheers "
I agree great advice we shall follow c xx |
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Downstairs private room for playtime.
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Four double beds, dungeon.
It's held at FLIRTS next to Xtasia main club at 8 - 12am.
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*Those who are added to the list will be invited to join the ladies only event group chat on telegram, should they wish to join.*
Any questions, feel free to ask.
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
I don’t see how having a social first ensures her safety at the meet in any way, the husband/partner could be there whether you have a social first or not. Walking her to the door won’t help either as the husband/partner could just be hiding somewhere in the house and doesn’t appear until you’ve gone away. Sending a text every 5 minutes isn’t really an option, it would be possible to do it at first when they’re just chatting but once they start being physical together she can’t stop every 5 minutes to text you.
The only way you can completely ensure her safety is by knowing exactly what’s going on inside the house at all times which would mean your wife taking a device in with her that allows you to hear everything that’s happening, and you could decide on a code word that she can say that will let you know if she’s in danger. But even then you would still need to get into the house to rescue her which might not be easily done.
There’s a risk involved in any meet, you can never be completely sure about what’s going to happen or who’s going to be there. The only way to ensure you’re completely free from danger is to not meet strangers in a private place.
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"I don’t see how having a social first ensures her safety at the meet in any way, the husband/partner could be there whether you have a social first or not. Walking her to the door won’t help either as the husband/partner could just be hiding somewhere in the house and doesn’t appear until you’ve gone away. Sending a text every 5 minutes isn’t really an option, it would be possible to do it at first when they’re just chatting but once they start being physical together she can’t stop every 5 minutes to text you.
The only way you can completely ensure her safety is by knowing exactly what’s going on inside the house at all times which would mean your wife taking a device in with her that allows you to hear everything that’s happening, and you could decide on a code word that she can say that will let you know if she’s in danger. But even then you would still need to get into the house to rescue her which might not be easily done.
There’s a risk involved in any meet, you can never be completely sure about what’s going to happen or who’s going to be there. The only way to ensure you’re completely free from danger is to not meet strangers in a private place.
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I agree with this statement.
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It's a safe club that is run by fantastic staff. Based in West Bromwich, West Midlands.
As I aim to provide a safe space for ladies to play in without the need of man/men lurking in the background. As it's strictly closed off to those who are NOT on the guest list.
However the bar area will be roped off for ladies to have a social, be relaxed in a safe environment to chatter away. Ladies are allowed to bring their better half for moral support but MEN are NOT allowed in the play area.
Any questions, feel free to ask.
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Apologies as I've now tweaked the advert.
I'm the host of this...
Scissor Sisters at Flirts.
***LADIES ONLY EVENT - STRICTLY INVITE ONLY***
Any bi/gay ladies interested in meeting other ladies for social or naughty play?
Explore your inner fantasies and make new friends.
There is access to the bar for socialisation.
Downstairs private room for playtime.
This area is classed as a private party section and closed off to anyone not on the guest list.
Four double beds, dungeon.
It's held at FLIRTS next to Xtasia main club at 8 - 12am.
EVENT DATES 2024
Wednesday 3rd January
Wednesday 6th March
Wednesday 1st May
Wednesday 3rd July
Wednesday 4th September
Wednesday 6th November
MESSAGE for an invite - Get yourself on the guest list.
Contact on Fab - RainbowQueen03
Ladies or couples MUST be a member of xtasia to attend. £10 per person admission which includes membership if not already a member. ID needed for new memberships.
*Those who are added to the list will be invited to join the ladies only event group chat on telegram, should they wish to join.*
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over a year ago
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"I see that you can't accommodate, and I understand it's important not to be an obtrusive chaperone so she can enjoy it. So go along with your missus to the meeting place (female home, hotel) and accompany her to the door. Stay around in the car for a while and have her phone you within 5-10 mins to confirm all is ok. Even send you a short video of your missus, or a voice message, only to say that fun about to start and she is well and excited."
 This except the last bit. Pre agree an odd reply like "we are flicking sweetcorn out of the window".
If there's anyone dodgy inside they could make her write an 'all is well' message and you wouldn't know.
If she sends anything other than the sweetcorn update you know she's in trouble. |
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Always take your time to get to know her, female meeting female should feel right, and is rarely a one off meeting more along fwb situation, verification will always help you figure it out. Decent common sense. |
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