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Rejection aggression!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Rejection aggression is not ok.
We receive a lot of anger when we turn people down. We know we are not alone in this and feel the block button as a reply does not go far enough. For us the people who respond to a no with aggression need to be flagged to the rest of the community. There should be no place for these people here.
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
From fit to shit in the time it takes someone to read a no.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From fit to shit in the time it takes someone to read a no. "
A lovely coined phrase |
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Agree..... people need to grow up...we get rejected alot ....we just move on. Do the idiots think if there aggressive we will say oh ok and sorry....let's meet!! |
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It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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These kind of people aren’t grown men , boys |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs."
That’s good to know will try that tactic |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
Rejection can be hard, but you get used to it after the first few hundred times.  |
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"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs."
Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks.
And not that it is an excuse but I think a lot of people have grown up with the idea that they are somehow special, when, frankly they aren't, they are average. (which is not a criticism. I'm average, probably slighty below, and I'm ok with that) My point it, they feel they are special, so the idea of getting rejected is simply not crossed their mind.
There is currently a female "screaming" in my status feed (capitals and everything!) that she messaged 4 men and none of them read her message, suggesting that she is entitled to a reply and how dare they not. |
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By *rainMan
over a year ago
Bristol |
See I prefer to be rejected than not get a reply.
When I don’t get reply it’s like wow you feel disgusted at the thought that I even messaged, makes me feel bad but if someone says no it’s like oh you’re just not attracted or something else and it’s understandable
But this is just my take on it |
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"See I prefer to be rejected than not get a reply.
When I don’t get reply it’s like wow you feel disgusted at the thought that I even messaged, makes me feel bad but if someone says no it’s like oh you’re just not attracted or something else and it’s understandable
But this is just my take on it "
Yeah, I find it gives you closure. "I tried, but they didn't want to know" ok, fair enough. Whereas being ignored you are left wondering. |
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"Rejection can be hard, but you get used to it after the first few hundred times. "
Yep, practice makes perfect!  |
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I most probably get more than my fair share of rejections but just have to get on with it |
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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago
Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders |
Been rejected is not nice but you just need to accept the fact that everyone has a right to decide if they are interested in you or not. |
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If I replied to every message I wasn't interested in, I'd have to quit my job, it would take ages. That's not me being big headed, it's just a reality of being a single woman on here, vastly outnumbered by single men. It's simply too much work to reply to them all. Also the longer i spend actively online here, the more messages I receive...it's a depressing circle.
Also, specifically for the men on here saying it's only polite to reply - once i reply to someone, remember these are people I'm NOT interested in, that's it the message filters no longer work. If i later choose to stop messages from single men for example, any that I've replied to previously can continue to message me. So : No reply means no thanks, end of. |
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"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs.
Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks."
We must be very rude. We reply to less than 5% of messages from couples. If you met us you'd find we're the exact opposite of being rude. Touch wood we've never had an abusive message, unlike many who reply "Thanks for your message, but you're not our type". |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's best not to reply to turn someone down, many don't take rejection well. Ignore any messages you're not interested in. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs faqs.
Whilst I certainly understand this point of view, and as had been said before you use Fab how you want. I still find it rude not to say no thanks.
We must be very rude. We reply to less than 5% of messages from couples. If you met us you'd find we're the exact opposite of being rude. Touch wood we've never had an abusive message, unlike many who reply "Thanks for your message, but you're not our type"."
Yeah the latter is our standard reply and the abuse follows. No reply being a polite no will definitely be employed. |
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"These kind of people aren’t grown men , boys "
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The OP was gracious enough to state "people". They did not explicitly state "grown men , boys". |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I am going to shut this now as people are posting dirty washing but if you get abuse in mails it should be flagged to Admin who will review  |
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