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A guide on how to be the perfect male for a couple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is such a good question.
Obviously everyone and every couple are different. For us we like/need a potential play partner to be
- a really good communicator
- give time to both people in the couple
- confident
- consistent. We've been let down quite a few times
- self awareness and empathy also work well |
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"Tips would be much appreciated on how to be the perfect male for a couple, included manners
How to satisfy desire and of course offers  "
Whatever advice you are given here will go some way to improving your chances but it’s only option. I’d say just be yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remember that you are often a player in their game . It's not about you so learn what they both want from it and if you are comfortable be that person. "
Unless you find the really good couples  |
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Our advice would be to be yourself. Don't jump through hoops, see yourself as an equal when discussing the dynamic and don't do anything you're not 100% happy with because you feel it's a privilege to be asked to join them. Turn up when you say you will, speak to both and don't feel you have to ask the guy's permission if you feel you need to ask permission to do something with the woman, ask her. |
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"Remember that you are often a player in their game . It's not about you so learn what they both want from it and if you are comfortable be that person. "
If anyone joins us it's as an equal and as much about him as us. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
"Remember that you are often a player in their game . It's not about you so learn what they both want from it and if you are comfortable be that person.
If anyone joins us it's as an equal and as much about him as us."
That is very commendable. |
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Only message our profile if we have a meet advertised! - but if you read the profile you'd know this.
Don't approch us in a club / dogging ect and be arrogant. Saying " if she want's the big boy you know where I am". Instant no! |
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"Remember that you are often a player in their game . It's not about you so learn what they both want from it and if you are comfortable be that person.
If anyone joins us it's as an equal and as much about him as us.
That is very commendable. "
We think it's just basic respect for a fellow human. We don't want to use anyone |
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Some great recommendations above, for us a few more would be…(no surprises really)
* Clean and care in presentation
* Respectful and good communication
* Honest with no surprises
* Timekeeping and follow through on what’s agreed
* Engaged and aware of everyone’s desire and expectations during any play (not goal oriented)
* Calm (we’re all excited to be there haha!)
* Safe sex
Obviously all goes both ways, surprising how hard these qualities are to find! |
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Oh that's easy:
Have the right personality
Wear the right clothes
Have the right politics
Be the right build
Be the right hight
Say the rights things
Message at the right times/ratio
Be ready at the drop of a hat for us
Prioritise what we want from you, not what you want from us
Bring some top notch pork pies too
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No, joking aside, it's much more straightforward than that (well maybe not the pork pies, we like pork pies and chutneys, definitely bonus points). I think a lot has been said already about aproach and etiquette. To a certain extent if these points don't come naturally it's not going to work out in the first place. So obviously be a decent person in the first place looking to share something mutual and free.
So if you've got being a decent, clean, fair, genuine person 101 cracked that's half the battle. The second half is being what we're looking for. That isn't something exactly that you can take notes and adapt to (neither would we want you to). We're very much club/party swingers and personality/vibe is something we pick up on in person. It's something we kind of know when it's there and when it's not there. And it's obviously something we can't tell anyone how to create. And this for us is the biggest difficulty in finding people we want to hop into bed with. We've (despite the bad press) met many great single guys on the scene. There's some great guys out their. However very few we've wanted to drag away to the bedroom. That's no one's fault, just simply the laws of attraction. What we seek is something that mutual, free flowing and hot. Something with great three way chemistry. Because three way chemistry is important. Just because I'm straight doesn't mean how I get on with a guy and how we vibe isn't important, it is. It's not all about Mrs, its also about the teamwork and how natural both guys are with Mrs. So even for a straight male MFM situation we all have a 3 way chemistry. Something that many guys forget as they solely concentrate on their way with Mrs. So a lot of the times guy's aren't doing anything wrong, their just not quite what we're looking for. But when we find the right guy hopefully it incredibly hot and fulfilling for all 3 of us. Because that's what we like, something that is equal and completely natural.
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By *zlakMan
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
As others have said every couple is different but I have found in the past.
Honesty.
Be yourself (you are not for everyone) respect that.
Be respectfull to all involved.
Make conversation.
Be clean and fresh.
Don't assume you will play if you do get to meet.
READ THEIR PROFILE FIRST.
Remember we are ALL different.
T x
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