I’ve enjoyed being with a lot of women who are said to be “ sub” and I know some who definitely are.
But there are a few who I think are just very sexy adventurous women who like all types of sex — and being clever they have worked out that by claiming to be “ sub” they can get what they want quicker and more complete with the guy working harder thinking he is in control 
Am I the only one ?
I’m
Saying this lightheartedly and don’t want to offend anyone xx |
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Each person and dynamic is different. It's often said that it's the sub who is in control. In any event, nothing can happen without the consent and involvement of all parties. Due to the relative oversupply of men here, women will generally have more perceived power and control.
But all parties really have control over themselves and what they engage in |
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over a year ago
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I don’t know where to start with this
In short…no
The longer version and just my opinion. Submission and/or Dominance starts in the head. You cannot pretend to be one or the other.
Being submissive is not a position of strength or weakness and neither is being Dominant.
The potential to physically or as importantly mentally harm someone through playing at something to manipulate a result or to get what you want is wrong on so many levels.
The attitude that being Dominant means you work harder to get what you want is outdated.
For me, and me only, there is equal responsibility to make things work. No one person higher or lower than the other but equal, equal responsibility to care for each other before and during and after and inside and outside of any dynamic, and anyone who uses their position to manipulate the other is wrong
As I say just my thoughts |
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Ds is rife with do me subs. Some do it a lot better than others. Some know their target market well.
Take the dumb blonde facade so many women adopted, because it is much easier to get a man to do what you want when he thinks you're dumb and all of the ideas are his own.
The idea that actual submissives are less smart just because what they want doesn't fall into the societal ideal is a little off for me. But I'll go with it's not meant that way. |
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In some sessions I enjoy been submissive although I can switch if and when I feel the moment that control and direction is wanted . In club scenarios I find alot of people are too laid back. That's just me though |
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"I don’t know where to start with this
In short…no
The longer version and just my opinion. Submission and/or Dominance starts in the head. You cannot pretend to be one or the other.
Being submissive is not a position of strength or weakness and neither is being Dominant.
The potential to physically or as importantly mentally harm someone through playing at something to manipulate a result or to get what you want is wrong on so many levels.
The attitude that being Dominant means you work harder to get what you want is outdated.
For me, and me only, there is equal responsibility to make things work. No one person higher or lower than the other but equal, equal responsibility to care for each other before and during and after and inside and outside of any dynamic, and anyone who uses their position to manipulate the other is wrong
As I say just my thoughts "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t know where to start with this
In short…no
The longer version and just my opinion. Submission and/or Dominance starts in the head. You cannot pretend to be one or the other.
Being submissive is not a position of strength or weakness and neither is being Dominant.
The potential to physically or as importantly mentally harm someone through playing at something to manipulate a result or to get what you want is wrong on so many levels.
The attitude that being Dominant means you work harder to get what you want is outdated.
For me, and me only, there is equal responsibility to make things work. No one person higher or lower than the other but equal, equal responsibility to care for each other before and during and after and inside and outside of any dynamic, and anyone who uses their position to manipulate the other is wrong
As I say just my thoughts
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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Not sure there is any real sense to the original question but games of submission and domination tend to be played most safely and successfully by people who are considered and thoughtful. Emotional intelligence is the bedrock of these games. |
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