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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago
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One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?"
Are you asking from experience OP |
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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
Are you asking from experience OP"
If you mean as in, am I chatting to someone who's told me this then no.
But if I was asking myself this question, I'd turn her down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?"
I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".
It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy. |
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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".
It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy."
If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".
It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.
If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?"
Hey I was barely 20 at the time and had the chance to fuck someone in their early thirties haha
Maybe it's a bad thing to admit to but I think there's a difference if you actually know the person and pursue them....or if you meet in a bar or on fab etc. |
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By *r_reus OP Man
over a year ago
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If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?
I want to be a man who gets lots of great sex  "
To be fair that would have been my goal in my twenties, but as I've gotten older I've come to realise there's more to being a man than the notches on your bedpost. |
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I couldn't go through with it tbh and actually would try to tell the other guy because no one deserves to be cheated on I've never cheated I've always been cheated on never the one cheating scummy move |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?"
Morally I have no obligation to him or to her. Also if it’s not me it’s going to be someone else so I might as well get my dick wet.
Will. |
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?"
Aren't most single profiles in a relationship |
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I would say no only because I don’t want the drama. I don’t want some jealous husband getting all physical with me because his lady is doing things behind his back.
I like everyone to be upfront - if hubby is happy for me to meet his wife in her own then I am all over that. If he doesn’t know - much less so. |
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Some years ago, back where we used to live, I contacted a newly-joined couple on here, but got no reply - until weeks later, when out of the blue, I suddenly got a message from the wife...
....message exchanges developed into texts and phone calls, during which it transpired that though they played together with other couples, she was looking for 'extra fun' on her own, without his knowledge...
....which suited me fine, because I was married and playing without my wife knowing too - which actually turned out to be a big turn-on for my new playmate...
....I spent a number of mornings in her bed making 'special deliveries' while her postman husband was at work!  |
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".
It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.
If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?"
Why ask the question if you are going to judge people who answer honestly?
I don't think that's very fair of you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?"
Honestly no I wouldn't want it to happen to me so can't pull a double standard |
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
I was in that situation once at uni and I did feel bad....until this lady told me "If it's not you ,it's going to be someone else".
It was her marriage and her decision to cheat , I was just the first guy that took her fancy.
If she's going to cheat anyway it still doesn't have to be with you, ask yourself what sort of man you want to be?
Why ask the question if you are going to judge people who answer honestly?
I don't think that's very fair of you. "
^this. Bravo. As the great Admiral Ackbar once said. "It's a trap" |
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Tough one.
Morally, its wrong they're cheating and would you fuck someone knowing there's a partner waiting for them at home unwittingly?
On the other side of the coin, it's a them problem not an us problem they're cheating.
There will be loads of random one night hookups that go on from this site where people aren't 100% truthful. After all we're all on here with the same goal - to fuck others. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"One for the guys this.
If you were in touch with a woman/girl on here, you're both getting along great, she's gorgeous etc, but then she reveals she's in a relationship and her partner doesn't know, would you go through with it?
Aren't most single profiles in a relationship "
Not me.
As much as I understand there are some men and women on here who are cheating and have a singles profile, it would be bad to assume all single profiles are people in relationships secretly cheating. |
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I have in the past. Lady on PoF, we hooked up a few time. She told me that they were effectively seperated but lived in the same house.
I'm not certain that I believed her, but she did stay overnight. So I wasn't worried about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"No I wouldn’t, that’s just unfaithful, and wrong in my opinion "
Quite right too but so many people cheat it is downgrading. If you cannot stand them do the honourable thing. Some like too much cake, some say sex is zero
I am sticking to being faithful too |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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It's a no from me.
I'll leave cheaters to cheat and be cheated on, but would steer well clear myself. Too much deception, lies and sneaking around for my liking. Besides, I've been cheated on in the past and it's not much fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Tough one.
Morally, its wrong they're cheating and would you fuck someone knowing there's a partner waiting for them at home unwittingly?
On the other side of the coin, it's a them problem not an us problem they're cheating.
There will be loads of random one night hookups that go on from this site where people aren't 100% truthful. After all we're all on here with the same goal - to fuck others. "
You can say no thank you. You are the faithful not a traitor. If you did fuck about with them that makes you as bad as them for planting your sperm on a married or attached person. Poor partner has to pick up pieces. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"It's a no from me.
I'll leave cheaters to cheat and be cheated on, but would steer well clear myself. Too much deception, lies and sneaking around for my liking. Besides, I've been cheated on in the past and it's not much fun."
Right. It is pretty awful fucking with emotions. Been there too. |
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By *rispyDuckMan 48 weeks ago
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Will have to be a “No” from me
Sadly it’s more common than people like to admit. Society has this perception it’s mostly men who cheat but I beg to differ. The amount of GF in relationships my brother & mates have gone through on holidays & night’s out lol you will be shocked!!  |
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"I have in the past. Lady on PoF, we hooked up a few time. She told me that they were effectively seperated but lived in the same house.
I'm not certain that I believed her, but she did stay overnight. So I wasn't worried about it."
Staying overnight and you believing they're effectively single isn't much to hold on to when the angry spouse and mother in law come to scream at you on your doorstep, trust me.
Effectively separated is not the same as all parties are clear and understanding of the situation. Its not a position I will willingly put myself in again for sure.
I'm on here as a single when I'm not actually single. But all of my partners are aware that I'm on here and have their own active accounts  |
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"It's a no from me.
I'll leave cheaters to cheat and be cheated on, but would steer well clear myself. Too much deception, lies and sneaking around for my liking. Besides, I've been cheated on in the past and it's not much fun.
Right. It is pretty awful fucking with emotions. Been there too. "
Hi there I would love to chat with you, but your profile is hidden |
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I'm not a guy but as we meet women & we've turned many a cheating woman down, it's just not for us.
This is fun & potentially breaking someone's family or relationship through lies & deceit isn't fun, never mind a random husband/boyfriend turning up.
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I’ll probably be going against the grain here but personally, I prefer it.
I’m not sure why I prefer it. I have no interest in telling her fella. Her life is her life and I accept that I’m just a small bit of fun and a break from that.
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My partner likes it if I have a couple of meets without telling him and then let him know weeks later. He likes the idea of me keeping it from him at first but then we have the best sex when I explain to him who it is and what we’ve done. So hot |
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What’s the dilemma? People choose to be on Fab for their own reasons. What happens between you and her is totally hypothetical just now unless you know you want more than nsa fun.
I’ve only had one experience where the wife found out. I’ve had several regular meets with married guys but they weren’t affairs as we weren’t romantically involved. |
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No problem really as this is a swinging site, not a dating site there's a big difference.
My M has had a few guys get really weird if told I know she is playing.
Most understand the cheating dynamic much more.
Plus alot of us already have a relationship and saying we are cheating stops some trying to over complicate or even be a bunny boiler.
I think I've had atleast 3 or 4 woman even though they know I'm attached try to be my new full time partner.
M has had the same a guy or two try to make it full time.
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If we know then no we won't Have recently had this happen in chat.
On the other hand when we have fun in the cinema or gloryhole... well yes it does go through our minds that "what if that guy that just came all over my face was married and she doesn't know"
Still don't know how i feel about that |
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