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By *_elie LAL OP Woman
over a year ago
Peterborough |
A question for those in a relationship exploring polyamory:
Is your partner aware?
Is your partner exploring it with you or alongside you (the difference is are you both looking for a new partner as a thrupple or are you looking for partners individually)? |
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It's not poly if your partner isn't aware.
I like equality, any freedoms I have in our relationship they should have too, and vice versa.
I dislike the dating as a unit thing. Triads can naturally develop. But being a plaything for an existing couple is fine for swinging, but shit for a relationship dynamic  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's not poly if your partner isn't aware."
Yes! So much this. You can't say you're poly if your partner isn't aware. If you meet people without them knowing. That's not poly in the slightest.
My fiancé knows. He's not but he's happy for me to explore dynamics.
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By *_elie LAL OP Woman
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"It's not poly if your partner isn't aware.
That's the polite version I told someone 
Does politeness still exist in today’s world?"
It does. IRL I am very polite, unless some is deceitful. Oooh actually I am in here re the same context. Someone trying to get into my knickers via deception isn't going to communicate with a polite me. |
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"It's not poly if your partner isn't aware.
That's the polite version I told someone
Does politeness still exist in today’s world?
It does. IRL I am very polite, unless some is deceitful. Oooh actually I am in here re the same context. Someone trying to get into my knickers via deception isn't going to communicate with a polite me."
And what if one day, perhaps you chose not to wear any knickers? Would the politeness levels have to increase exponentially? |
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By *_elie LAL OP Woman
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"It's not poly if your partner isn't aware.
That's the polite version I told someone
Does politeness still exist in today’s world?
It does. IRL I am very polite, unless some is deceitful. Oooh actually I am in here re the same context. Someone trying to get into my knickers via deception isn't going to communicate with a polite me.
And what if one day, perhaps you chose not to wear any knickers? Would the politeness levels have to increase exponentially?"
Who says I'm wearing any now?  |
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"It's not poly if your partner isn't aware.
That's the polite version I told someone
Does politeness still exist in today’s world?
It does. IRL I am very polite, unless some is deceitful. Oooh actually I am in here re the same context. Someone trying to get into my knickers via deception isn't going to communicate with a polite me.
And what if one day, perhaps you chose not to wear any knickers? Would the politeness levels have to increase exponentially?
Who says I'm wearing any now? "
Why did I have an inkling you’d say that? Let me guess, it’s a PJ day without any underwear on at all? |
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"A question for those in a relationship exploring polyamory:
Is your partner aware?
Is your partner exploring it with you or alongside you (the difference is are you both looking for a new partner as a thrupple or are you looking for partners individually)?"
Yes partner is aware, and exploring it together and separately. Our relationship is paramount but we’re exploring and open to the idea. We’re both open to meeting ladies together or on our own at the moment x |
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We've met as a couple with a couple.
I've met couples, single guys and single ladies.
Paul is not so keen on meeting other couples but has met other ladies, some from couples we have met and a few single ladies not part of a couple.
Do we want to develop any form of long term relationship with other swinging friends.
Not really, we keep our swinging and vanilla (normal) friends totally separate.
I truly wouldn't know how to introduce a swinging couple to our normal friends, it would start out as lies and slowly go downhill from there.
Swinging is our secret life, we love it this way, would much rather keep it like that.
Introducing a 3rd person into our relationship would be the easy part, ending it, maybe not so easy.
Much rather...
No grief, no fuss, no angst, no drama.
Good luck to those who can sustain this type of relationship.
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Poly is more than a threesome. To my mind its a proper full on relationship but with at least one other person or more. Its pa very complex thing. Plenty to go wrong and if it does, plenty yo get really messy.
You have to be a particular mindset/character without doubt. |
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I think the polyamory thing is very complex and bears a lot of risk . It needs all parties involved to have high self esteem . Most ladies want to be the one and only on the pedestal and dislike sharing the man of their heart . Men being voyeurs by nature are easier to share their partner - with the exemption of those insecure clingy gents . As the word polyamory already implies , love is involved , hence feelings . Whilst one can develop feelings for many , but can one also commit to many ? Sounds like a logistical nightmare . On the long run , in any triangle (or more) someone will feel shortchanged in her/his needs. Eventually the one in the center of attention need to chose or lose both
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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
carrbrook stalybridge |
We are a poly couple we both have or have had people we play with separately also some times someone we share .its not all about sex a lot of it is about supporting each other emotionally doing things together that you have in common .when things breakdown yes it can get very very messy and emotional its not something to go into lightly. We are lucky enough to have freinds who are also in polly relationships to use as a sounding board when needed . |
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