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Are you a couple who kiss other people?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are into MFM’s and one of our rules before we started was no kissing between her and the other male… but after having two MFM’s we talked last night and think would it be a better experience for her if she was to be able to kiss mouth to mouth because it’s just kind of a natural thing to do.
Or is it best just to keep to original rules? Because we’re still having a great time without the kissing.
What are your experiences as couples? |
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By *en ukMan
over a year ago
harrow London |
Each couple has its own rules and we have arranged in advance exactly what is going to happen to each of us, knowing exactly that it will be a beautiful meeting. There are couples who do not like to see their wife, lover kissing other people, there are couples whose fantasy is to see the wife, the girlfriend kissing with other people. Before any meeting, it may be with the same couple, I ask again what are their rules because with the new meeting they want to try or experience something new. |
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It’s what sits right for both of you. We didn’t kiss at the start. We didn’t want to. Until we met a couple we both felt we really wanted to kiss, a quick discussion and nod from both of us to change that rule.
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
We started out with the no kissing rule for the same reasons you stated but a few meets in when a good connection was made the guy asked if we allowed kissing and Rane said we wasn’t sure yet and he said how about we give it a try ! Rest is history, without kissing Rane can’t get a connection now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why was it your rule in the first place? "
We felt it was something that we’d like to keep as an us thing. But having the experience in the first place is an us thing so what’s the difference… Just curious to what other couples do x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We started out with the no kissing rule for the same reasons you stated but a few meets in when a good connection was made the guy asked if we allowed kissing and Rane said we wasn’t sure yet and he said how about we give it a try ! Rest is history, without kissing Rane can’t get a connection now."
Oh wow! Yeah that sounds like it was a massive positive for you guys then  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
We didn’t discuss it beforehand but we both kissed the women we met from here from the outset, it just felt natural to do that…and you find the kissing can be as hot as the sex (sometimes more so) and everything else, so it would feel unnatural to us not to kiss our guests.
But you find your own way, if you’re happy not kissing and it works for you then you aren’t missing out on anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples have their rules and boundaries for good reasons.
I myself won't meet people that don't kiss just because it doesn't work for me. I think it's really important to find out what you want and sometimes you have to try it and see, you can always go back to your previous boundary if it is not right.
Good luck
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You set the rules to suit yourself. If you are planning to change that then make sure you have fully considered it and how you will both feel.
Personally we do allow kissing. We find sex without to be very mechanical.
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When we started out 2 rules we had were no kissing and no sex with others in the marital bed. By the 3rd meet the no kissing rule was discussed and we allowed kissing for meet number 3 having realised how much more enjoyable for all it was.
After meet number 5 we invited a guy to the bedroom for a MFM (I think we were decorating the lounge) and realised the bed is so much more comfy.
The dynamic between a couple is ever evolving. What seemed right a year ago may not seem right now.
As others have said you have to do what is right for you, communication before and after is key also. |
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Kissing is a hugely intimate act, I dare say more intimate than sex itself.
We started with a no kissing rule and very quickly realised it could make play feel ‘mechanical’.
Since we decided we were happy with kissing our meets have felt more relaxed, sexier and more enjoyable. |
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Personal choice, I didn't kiss on our first meet.
2nd meet we talked about kissing before hand and we've been including kissing ever since. After all if I'm giving a bj and having penetrative sex is kissing really that more intimate?
Kissing is a great Ice breaker and a real turn on for me if the male is a good kisser x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are into MFM’s and one of our rules before we started was no kissing between her and the other male… but after having two MFM’s we talked last night and think would it be a better experience for her if she was to be able to kiss mouth to mouth because it’s just kind of a natural thing to do.
Or is it best just to keep to original rules? Because we’re still having a great time without the kissing.
What are your experiences as couples?"
We have a same sex only kissing rule. So if we meet a couple A can kiss the girl, or if it’s MFF, A can kiss the girl but I can not. |
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Yes, yes, yes!
We find that it adds so much to a meet. I don't think we would play with people nowadays if there was no kissing. Alice even likes to end socials with a snog, but that's mainly because she's a great kisser and a bit of a show-off! |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
Glasgow |
We both don't mind the other person kissing someone. As long as both parties who are having a kiss are consenting to it and enjoying then that's what really matters
As for the wider conversation about boundaries, don't feel pressured to change your boundaries to fit with others' expectations. If you don't want to kiss, for whatever reasons you have, don't change for anyone else.
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We also set boundries at out set some have never changed some have changed.
We think if either of us are not comfortable with any changes then we simply leave it firmly in place.
We are in this for each others pleasure but never for just one of us.   |
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
"When we started out 2 rules we had were no kissing and no sex with others in the marital bed. By the 3rd meet the no kissing rule was discussed and we allowed kissing for meet number 3 having realised how much more enjoyable for all it was.
After meet number 5 we invited a guy to the bedroom for a MFM (I think we were decorating the lounge) and realised the bed is so much more comfy.
The dynamic between a couple is ever evolving. What seemed right a year ago may not seem right now.
As others have said you have to do what is right for you, communication before and after is key also. "
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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago
Sleaford |
When we first started we agreed it would be a boundary for us to not kiss, however after our first meet we talked again and decided to give it a go. It's not for everyone you have to be comfortable xx |
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Wife loves passionate sex with the man and can’t imagine sex without the kissing.
However, her rule for me is I can’t kiss the woman as it is too intimate and I can’t imagine having sex with another woman without being able to kiss her.
Work that one out if you can.  |
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We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away. |
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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away. "
I love kissing but as a couple I understand what you're saying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We're happy to kiss the same sex but not the opposite. I can understand why some people think it's odd when you're happy to suck a guy off but not kiss him But for us, kissing the opposite sex just felt a little too intimate to give away. "
This is our set off rules too |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
I love kissing. I am looking for pre-arranged meets with couples starting with social and most probably will politely decline the one with no kiss rules.
Exceptions to arranged role play meets aka blindfold, gangbang or lady watching bi play with a husband etc. Clubs visits also quite relaxed rules go with the flow
That said, I respect boundaries and strongly believe they set up not to be pushed |
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Elle and I said no kissing others as one of our rules when we started in this lifestyle - but on our very first meet, agreed that passionate kissing is integral to good sex, so ditched that rule pretty much right away. |
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