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creepy false flattery messages

By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

taunton somerset

a big big increase in what i can only describe as desperate men ... sending messages that are so over the top creepy ... like hi beautiful i really need you in my life god your so sexy ...or wow your stunning ...or id do anything for you my godess ..

all this yet i dont have a face pic and even if i did it would still be all false and way over the top .... so guys do you think it works ?? do you think women love what you say ?? and ladies and couples how do you feel when you get these over the top messages ??

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

now for the guys who moan i picking on guys im not i only meet guys and my filters are set for guys only and no i wont block all but if your a man a get these types of messages from others then please have your say too

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By *ester.jamesMan over a year ago

birmingham

"a big big increase in what i can only describe as desperate men ... sending messages that are so over the top creepy ... like hi beautiful i really need you in my life god your so sexy ...or wow your stunning ...or id do anything for you my godess ..

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

I got weird goose bumps on my arm from the first paragraph

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By *sacambsMan over a year ago

Huntingdon

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

I get you, but surely 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'... xx

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By *pstanding CitizenMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I at least try to be respectful, but definitely not creepy like that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I mean I will compliment or comment on a picture, cloths, action or something that catches my eye when sending a message.

Whether that earns me a block or not is down to the recipient.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Compliments can be fine but I agree they are so over the top that it just comes off as totally disingenuous. I hate it myself, just talk to me like a normal person I am much more likely to reply that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The more ott the compliment the more likely thst they turn out to be a psycho or an arsehole. Science.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You’re fit, can I have a go on you?

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By *evonrobMan over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Seems like there’s quite a fine line between pointing out some natural beauty such as great shape, fantastic boobs, lovely nipples and the next level creepiness the OP highlights. She is dreamy though…..lol

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By *inkyfuckery69Couple over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

We had to turn off single guys message options , and will now only look in clubs , ours were not as nice " I'm gonna make your slut drink my cum " is not a great opener .

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By *ester.jamesMan over a year ago

birmingham

"We had to turn off single guys message options , and will now only look in clubs , ours were not as nice " I'm gonna make your slut drink my cum " is not a great opener . "

Not even a hello before such a great shakespearean line

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We get the compliments about our pics and when we reply with a thanks, we then get a follow up message to ask about meeting us…

Kind of then feels like they are only complimenting you as a way in

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By *weetsmellingtreatsWoman over a year ago

Gloucester

Same, no face pics and get told I’m gorgeous or similar BS.

I just delete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We had to turn off single guys message options , and will now only look in clubs , ours were not as nice " I'm gonna make your slut drink my cum " is not a great opener . "

Haha sorry not laughing well I am but only because yes that is the other side of the coin that we get too.

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By *aith SkynbyrdWoman over a year ago

Somewhere else

I get my coat on and head straight to his house.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The more ott the compliment the more likely thst they turn out to be a psycho or an arsehole. Science. "

^^^^^^^^ This

& SomeTimes they're the very ones who turn completely nasty all of a sudden for no reason

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By *assy LassieWoman over a year ago

Lanarkshire

These ones are actually worse than faf messages in my opinion.

My brain goes straight to dirty old man wanking off to 70s porn

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

I think those messages are stupid but how are they creepy? Seriously? "wow your stunning" or the sorts - maybe not very sexy but CREEPY???

Jeez. Get it together, girls. No one said "Hey, I want to smell your feet while you're asleep". THAT would be creepy.

I think you just WANT to see every guy you're not interested in as a creep and then you grasp for straws. Seriously? "wow your stunning" is creepy?? or "I'd do anything for you my goddess"??

That's just ridiculous messages, very whimpy but seriously don't see anything CREEPY about it.

What's next? "Hey, how are you?" is creepy, too?

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By *ylonloverboy69Man over a year ago

cheltenham

Your on a swingers site. You need to try tinder or all the other dating sites. Everyone one on here can’t be judged just block delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

I gorgeous.. will you marry me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We agree about the false flattering and it obviously doesn't work for us, we've never seen it as creepy.. desperate maybe but not creepy.

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By *alloSpaceboyMan over a year ago

Carmarthen

Playing Devil’s Advocate, maybe it is a response to most people’s profile statement requesting no one liners or boring “Hi. How are you?” type messages?

Still, what you say lacks finesse as an approach, doesn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t get messages ….

Swings and roundabouts eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do you suggest they approach you?

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I notice you don’t have any face pics?

A lot of people aren’t comfortable having a face pic available for the whole world to see but will happily provide one once a connection has been established.

"Same, no face pics and get told I’m gorgeous or similar BS.

I just delete "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Compliments aren't genuine. How can they be when they don't know you. Do they sit at home going through the underwear catalogue complimenting each one? Nope every compliment has an alternative motive and men who don't think we see right through this are in denial.

Meet someone in person, then compliment what you like. Otherwise it's just not normal.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Isn't the problem really that this sounds like a cut and paste job that he sends to everyone?

If the compliments were based on your photos, and a careful reading of your profile, then you'd probably find them much more attractive.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"I gorgeous.. will you marry me?

If you read her profile you'll see that her taste in husbands is guys who can't get an erection, and are happy never to have sex.

If you think you fit the bill, then go for it...

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By *ndianLuxCouple over a year ago

West midlands

Women ... Sorry but men can never win you guys with flattering talks. Men can only assume what you like and dislike. Poor guys .

Women don't like to be ignored and they don't like to be flattered either lol

Fab is a website, messaging is the only way to get a respond from you ladies. You don't like it they send you dick pics or write rude messages but now if you object to flattery too then God help single guys here.

Sorry not being harsh as a guy but women who have issues with flattering messages on Fab or online should look for real meets in real loves and not online .

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By *ndianLuxCouple over a year ago

West midlands

"We agree about the false flattering and it obviously doesn't work for us, we've never seen it as creepy.. desperate maybe but not creepy. "

So what type of messages would you like if not flattering ones?

They aren't poking their dicks through your phones to show their level of desperation. Come on.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

You call yourself "Foxy" OP so maybe these men are picking up on the fact that you already consider yourself to be pretty hot and are just embellishing on it? Just a thought...

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

There's plenty of false flattery, indeed false other things too in these pages. But seems it entertains the sender and the recipient. I don't see anyone responding with.. Oh wake up, you've never seen me or met me and certainly don't know me. So seems some either enjoy it or accept its the price of the entry ticket.... That babybird song is now running around my head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Compliments aren't genuine. How can they be when they don't know you. Do they sit at home going through the underwear catalogue complimenting each one? Nope every compliment has an alternative motive and men who don't think we see right through this are in denial.

Meet someone in person, then compliment what you like. Otherwise it's just not normal."

A well taken picture, capturing the light, framing or subject deserves recognition and praise for the effort and ability used to capture it.

Ropework with the amount of effort time and skill it takes to complete.

There are plenty of real life reasons why I would compliment someone I have not met in person.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, the same applies for a message as it does for a person. Over the top complimentary messages are, in our opinion, a bit creepy. You can compliment someone without going overboard and appearing like you’ve read the Andrew Tait book of seduction.

Mr DD

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

I don't mind those false flattering messages, prefer them over "hi", "how are you" or variation of those. Though what I would really prefer is people actually reading my profile before messaging. I absolutely don't mind a message like "hi, I've noticed you're going to x event at y club. I'm thinking of going, fancy chatting?" Or similar. But I guess reading profiles is too much like hard work.

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple over a year ago

Walsall

We get a good number of them, almost always directed solely at Sazz with no appreciation that this is a couples profile... to the block button with you!

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By *adCherriesCouple over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Fab is full of white knights who have no idea what swinging is about

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By *lice AgainTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

This is sadly like 75% of my messages.

And I'm not even a woman.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

taunton somerset

"We had to turn off single guys message options , and will now only look in clubs , ours were not as nice " I'm gonna make your slut drink my cum " is not a great opener . "

instant block too

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

taunton somerset

"You call yourself "Foxy" OP so maybe these men are picking up on the fact that you already consider yourself to be pretty hot and are just embellishing on it? Just a thought..."

rubbish foxy is just my online name its not a marker for men to send me over creepy compliments .. i dont have a face pic on my profile even ..it just shows and highlights desperate men trying desperate things ..

what worries me more is there are women who enjoy these over the top i want to fuck you no matter who you are type messages....

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By *etefromderbyMan over a year ago

Derby

Has the age of someone giving a compliment ended?

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan over a year ago

Little clacton

I only usually message friends & we just generally insult each other

But only because we're close

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By *trueceltMan over a year ago

Bristol

compliments...jokes...taking interest... it doesn't matter. its all I can do to get a 'fuck off, Taffy' these days

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

"Has the age of someone giving a compliment ended? "

It would appear the age of nuance has.

Mr DD

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

It's pretty obvious just reading the forums that this approach isn't restricted to private messages.

How often do we see a woman describe a particular experience only for numerous others to jump in and say the other person is an idiot and how could they do that to such a stunning person?

Or ask if the other person is blind?

More often than not the woman in question doesn't have a facepic up.

There's a fine line between a compliment and sycophancy.

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By *inkyguyUKMan over a year ago

worcester

Yer it's an issue I get it all the time... I wish lol

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By *apnDomMan over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Has the age of someone giving a compliment ended? "

Don't think so, it's just that some women feel disgusted by whatever the men do, if they're not the type. Reminds me of that one girl on here who complained that she gets too many fabs on her pics from ugly guys. Like, cmon.

It's like that "hey susan" meme.

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

taunton somerset

"Has the age of someone giving a compliment ended? "

no we are not talking normal compliment or from people you acually know and have met or indeed during having fun ...we are talking about the over the top creepy ones where they dont know you or have a clue what you look like but still go over the top in a pukey wave thinking it will get you into there knickers to empty your balls ..false flattery creepy flattery ...

whats wrong with talking to a person you dont know in a normal polite way first i hate it on her and in real life .... makes me think wow what a creep

it the same when someone calls me love in everyday life/work ... hello love erm im not your fucking love

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By *ucka39Man over a year ago

Newcastle

What would you do if we were both in the woods him naked laying on the ground and you needed something from the other side and you'd need to pass over them

I'd just kick him but then again why the heck would I be in the woods with another guy

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I know how I look.

These people don't exist to me until that first message, and if all that is is empty flattery on physical attributes I don't even get much say in, why on earth would I care what a complete stranger thinks of my genetics?

There's a lot of it about. I find the best way to deal with it is an "I know" response

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

We appear to have reached the stage where if a women doesn't gratefully accept every 'compliment' aimed at her, whether she likes it or not, then she hates all men.

What a time to be alive.

Mr DD

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By *oxy j OP Woman over a year ago

taunton somerset

"Has the age of someone giving a compliment ended?

It's like that "hey susan" meme."

thats has nothing to do with what im saying talk about twisting it to suit you ive said nothing about ugly men or men im not interested in in fact some of them have been pretty hot and still talk shit ... ive zero interest in being put on a pedestal and prick tease 1000s of men ...totally not me ... not all women on here are attention seekers as in me me me or bunny boilers i hate drama ,clingy ... and fake or false

im sure theres plenty of men on here with stories of false fake clingy bunny boiler type women on here ... ive heard quite a few

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Yep, don't call me beautiful, when you can see my face. It's just false.

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"We appear to have reached the stage where if a women doesn't gratefully accept every 'compliment' aimed at her, whether she likes it or not, then she hates all men.

What a time to be alive.

Mr DD"

Where on earth did you deduce that?

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

OK, I'm slightly struggling here...

OP, presumably you want people to look at your profile and be attracted to you? Surely you don't really want people just randomly responding without reading your profile, or looking at the pictures?

The only way you can tell between the two is if people tell you what attracted them to you, which is going to be a compliment.

I could understand if you only objected to compliments that were unrelated to what's in your profile, but you seem to be trying to extend that to ALL compliments.

You say that you don't want to be put on a pedestal, and that's fine

Just don't reply to the messages from people that you think are at risk of doing so.

I think single guys should be encouraged to write proper messages rather than "hi, how you doing?". Some we may like, and some we may not, but both are good because they give us the information we need to take a decision.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"Yep, don't call me beautiful, when you can see my face. It's just false."

There's an argument that we're all beautiful. It's just a matter of finding the beauty in each person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

I get what you mean as I get loads but never have face pics

But I find it perfectly acceptable and have no issue as it’s just polite interaction

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

"OK, I'm slightly struggling here...

OP, presumably you want people to look at your profile and be attracted to you? Surely you don't really want people just randomly responding without reading your profile, or looking at the pictures?

The only way you can tell between the two is if people tell you what attracted them to you, which is going to be a compliment.

I could understand if you only objected to compliments that were unrelated to what's in your profile, but you seem to be trying to extend that to ALL compliments.

You say that you don't want to be put on a pedestal, and that's fine

Just don't reply to the messages from people that you think are at risk of doing so.

I don’t think the OP is extending it to all compliments, in fact I think she’s been quite specific about what she means.

Unless a compliment feels relevant to something about your profile it is meaningless, and can be a bit creepy if it’s very ott. I don’t think she is saying that all compliments are creepy, she is very specifically saying that compliments that talk about her incredible beauty and people being willing to do anything for her are the ones she finds creepy, and a bit much.

There’s a big difference between “I really like the way your profile reads and I think we have this in common” and “you are the most beautiful goddess I have ever seen and I would do anything to worship you”. One sounds genuine, the other…

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"OK, I'm slightly struggling here...

OP, presumably you want people to look at your profile and be attracted to you? Surely you don't really want people just randomly responding without reading your profile, or looking at the pictures?

The only way you can tell between the two is if people tell you what attracted them to you, which is going to be a compliment.

I could understand if you only objected to compliments that were unrelated to what's in your profile, but you seem to be trying to extend that to ALL compliments.

You say that you don't want to be put on a pedestal, and that's fine

Just don't reply to the messages from people that you think are at risk of doing so.

I don’t think the OP is extending it to all compliments, in fact I think she’s been quite specific about what she means.

But which is which?

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple over a year ago

Cumbria

"OK, I'm slightly struggling here...

OP, presumably you want people to look at your profile and be attracted to you? Surely you don't really want people just randomly responding without reading your profile, or looking at the pictures?

The only way you can tell between the two is if people tell you what attracted them to you, which is going to be a compliment.

I could understand if you only objected to compliments that were unrelated to what's in your profile, but you seem to be trying to extend that to ALL compliments.

You say that you don't want to be put on a pedestal, and that's fine

Just don't reply to the messages from people that you think are at risk of doing so.

I don’t think the OP is extending it to all compliments, in fact I think she’s been quite specific about what she means.

But which is which? "

If you don’t know then there’s no helping you.

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By *inkyguyUKMan over a year ago

worcester

This is an amazing post, well written by a stunning amazing person with deep inner feelings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i block and delete but the question is really do they work for you ??

Reads like a moan fest

As you stated you don't have any pictures and I bet you don't approach anyone yourself. Just belittle guys for their approach.

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