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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab? |
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Yeah it always seems odd to us. We can play cuck couple sometimes, and in those times S is usually guided by G's limits. Never would she force past them (though he is quite flexible) and it's all done to please us both. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For us it's a classic case of too much porn not enough reality and those who don't really understand what D/s is about, just use the term to get laid"
It seems that way for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sadly a lot of so called "Bulls" are actually "Bullies" in our opinion others may say we talking sh*t!!!! 
That's why we don't meet anyone with bull,Dom,alpha in their name or profile."
Same here |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
"Sadly a lot of so called "Bulls" are actually "Bullies" in our opinion others may say we talking sh*t!!!!
That's why we don't meet anyone with bull,Dom,alpha in their name or profile.
Same here "
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"Sadly a lot of so called "Bulls" are actually "Bullies" in our opinion others may say we talking sh*t!!!! "
Spot on. Had one real arrogant one recently who on the first message said he may have use for me. Bye ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?"
I’m a newbie to lifestyle. Hence reading a lot on the forums, talking to people at meets.
Glad that you have highlighted this or I would have thought this is normal.
In fact, I did message a cuck re a similar topic. Waiting for him to get back.
I’m neither dom nor sub, just assertive and respectful. Here to learn and find my swinging partner if possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of cucks get off on this alleged abuse.
Most hotwife and cuck couples get to where they are because both want to be there."
Am I correct in assuming that a cuck’s partner is referred to as hotwife?
When people we’re messaging about hot wife, I thought it was when any married lady was “hot”
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of cucks get off on this alleged abuse.
Most hotwife and cuck couples get to where they are because both want to be there.
Am I correct in assuming that a cuck’s partner is referred to as hotwife?
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That's correct.
It can also be hotwife and stag too though. Which is similar, but a stag isn't submissive to his wife but still enjoys seeing his wife/partner with other men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cuck here "
Checked your profile.
You are single male like me.
How are you a cuck then? Cuck, cuckoo, cuckolding, etc.
Should it not be voyeurism?
Just trying to get a proper understanding of terms used in lifestyle.
Please can you clarify for rest of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of cucks get off on this alleged abuse.
Most hotwife and cuck couples get to where they are because both want to be there.
Am I correct in assuming that a cuck’s partner is referred to as hotwife?
That's correct.
It can also be hotwife and stag too though. Which is similar, but a stag isn't submissive to his wife but still enjoys seeing his wife/partner with other men."
Thanks for educating me. 
What is Stag and Vixen. Come across that often too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stag and vixen is the same as hotwife and stag. In my eyes at least.
The problem with all these labels is that couples generally do what they wanna do, so it can all blur into each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?"
Personally, this story did not appeal to me.
Your views please.
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Page 2 - Irresistible neighbor posted by Married_Danni
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By *ister_EMan
over a year ago
Hayling Island |
I usualy start by asking a couple what cuckolding means to them... and the same with submission or domination or humiliation. I like to meet people "where they're at" and everyone uses or interprets these words and concepts differently.
I've been lucky enough to have had a few long term relationships with cuckold couples over the years and no two dynamics were even remotely alike.
It would never occur to me to impose my will and my vision on an established, loving couple, who have specific needs, roleplays or fantasies that they are looking to fulfil.
In the few instances where heavy humiliation, degradation or 'forced bi' play were bought into it, it was more along the lines of live action roleplay, and limits and requirements were clearly discussed beforehand.
Maby I've just been incredibly lucky with the couples I've met, but I've never cucked a guy I couldn't respect outside of the bedroom.
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I think it depends very much what the couple want. We have found that most men who consider themselves to be bulls find it very difficult to humiliate the cuck.
What the cuck does or doesn’t do should be between him and his wife/partner. Everyone’s kink is different, and what people are comfortable with is for them, regardless of whether it makes us feel comfortable reading it or not. The ‘expectations’ of ‘bulls’ on here are usually great for a laugh, so we wouldn’t want to discourage it |
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I have spent the past 20 years on the Manchester fetish scene and have worked as a Pro Domme.
The central rule that governs all BDSM is consent. No Dom/me with their salt will ever break this. Subs have a safe word for a reason.
All dynamics/activities must always be talked over 1st and limits agreed without pressure from the Dom/me.
If limits are coerced to what the Dom/me wants and the sub's limits and desires aren't respected, this to me is sexual abuse.
"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?"
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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
For us it's our limits we adhere to when bringing a guy into our cuckolding. We make sure the guy understands it's about our pleasure and his, but this is what we want from a meet. We only arrange to meet guys who understand what we want from the meet. We have no interest in doing something we don't find exciting. Yes that may sound selfish but we prefer to find someone who enjoys our dynamics than meet a guy who wants to do something we don't want to do. |
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"For us it's our limits we adhere to when bringing a guy into our cuckolding. We make sure the guy understands it's about our pleasure and his, but this is what we want from a meet. We only arrange to meet guys who understand what we want from the meet. We have no interest in doing something we don't find exciting. Yes that may sound selfish but we prefer to find someone who enjoys our dynamics than meet a guy who wants to do something we don't want to do. "
Not selfish at all! You are inviting the guy in, sadly some guys don't accept this, you are right to say Thanks but no thanks to them!  |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"A lot of cucks get off on this alleged abuse.
Most hotwife and cuck couples get to where they are because both want to be there.
Am I correct in assuming that a cuck’s partner is referred to as hotwife?
When people we’re messaging about hot wife, I thought it was when any married lady was “hot”
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not correct a hotwife couple are compleatly different to a cuckold couple a hot wife couple is a couple where the man shows off his trophy wife a cuck does not get that luxury a cuck is a cuck for a reason normally because he cant sexually satisfy his wife .... but as usual with many on fab they just reinvent stuff rather than stick to what things really mean therefore confusing most ..
but youll find most who dont use the correct terms are those looking for roleplay or fantasy play not those that live that lifestyle |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
as a lifestyle cuckold couple we dont recognise the term bull because its become a porn spin off and also because 99.99% whom call themselves bulls are pretenders or bullshiters ... there are a tiny amount who are bulls they stand out the role of a bull is not to take charge of the cuck the role of the bull is to please the wife ...the wife /girlfriend is 100% in charge and if a wife wants the bull to get the cuck involved then thats for her to decide the cuck does what the love of his life wants ...its that simple..
a cuckold couple is normally a journey and normally a long one i know my husband inside out as he knows me i would never put him in harms way and he would not me either ... thats why real swingers and people of kink and cuckold couples are super close as couples.. im with my husband for life i love him madly we are so together and this is why it works ... weak relationships dont survive this lifestyle.. this lifestyle dont fix broken ....
ive been with my hubs 34 years and 34 years of open sexual relationships ie swinging too we started dating being very very open with each other we were living together within 2 weeks we were married within a year ...swinging started very early in our relationship we were both fully bi so we played as a bi couple / hotwife couple to full on cuckold couple theres nothing we dont know about each other no hiding stuff no secrets so we do everything for each other just because hes cuck dont mean i miss treat him in any way that he does not consent i watched him as a bi guy do everything with another man or men whiles in the same room i watch hot men fuck him ive watch men make love to him ive seen him with other women and couples just as hes seen me too as well as us both so sorry a bit long winded but i know my cuck inside out i know what makes him tick i know everything sexual about him as he does me .... so i know my cuck .... he loves humiliation he can get off on that for days mentally a guy who can no longer get erections still having a great sex life as i am too .... so no sorry im not cruel i know my cuck ...
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?"
Is it really as simple as this though? If the cuck is excited by humiliation, and being made to do things they notionally don’t want to do, then a large part of their satisfaction is going to come from the pressure that is being exerted over them to do these things they notionally don’t want to do. The key is that secretly they do want to do them, and enjoy the shame they should feel.
There should always be a clear line between what is consensual and welcomed, and what is unwanted and abuse. These kind of games should only be played by people who are emotionally intelligent and have the welfare of their play partners as a priority. If they are, then the cuck could quite conceivably explore have his boundaries pushed in a way that is wildly exciting and satisfying for him (and presumably also to his wife and bull) without any harm at all, and certainly not any grooming. |
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how often do you get messages from so called bulls who are willing to give it a go, or guys who just want the wife,, as for bullies and well they can go and swing from a tree, for us, yes we are more submissive when we play , but we are not a push over and willing to do what some guy wants, for us we like assertive guys,, but a guy with a mind , who knows its about fun and enjoyment for all 3 of us not us there for his enjoyment , to be able to have fun then sit back and all have a laugh about it , no one should be made to do something they dont want to do,, after all the more fun you have then the more meets you end up having with the guy and with more meets the better the sex, and your able to be more open and try new things with all 3 consent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The reason this post got my interest was due to the very tragic murder of Elaine O’Hara in August 2012 in Ireland. Google the Internet (wiki) for details.
She was vulnerable and BDSM was used to exploit her vulnerability.
I’m a newbie to lifestyle. The story I mentioned earlier in the post did not appeal to me. Would like people’s views on that fantasy story.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally, this story did not appeal to me.
Your views please.
I could not copy link, so:
Go to Forums- Stories and Fantasies
Page 2 - Irresistible neighbor posted by Married_Danni |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"This is not fantasy to us it’s a lifestyle "
you wont convince them they dont understand very few on here are lifestyle most are roleplay / fantasy and they think everyone else is too ... hence why alot avoid the forums cause of the few ..
the bigger side of cuckolding is fantasy / role play its a trend at the mo bit like cake oh must try that there no real cuckolding then they wait for the next trend to arrive oh must try that too ... dont get me wrong there nothing wrong with that your having fun but dont knock those who live it and will still be living it in 10 or 20 years time it the same with most sexual / kink lifestyles most dont live it they roleplay it ...as said thats fine but leave the other who want to live it live it its fine if you dont understand it nothing wrong with that i dont understand a few kinks but i aint going to shame them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This is not fantasy to us it’s a lifestyle
you wont convince them they dont understand very few on here are lifestyle most are roleplay / fantasy and they think everyone else is too ... hence why alot avoid the forums cause of the few ..
the bigger side of cuckolding is fantasy / role play its a trend at the mo bit like cake oh must try that there no real cuckolding then they wait for the next trend to arrive oh must try that too ... dont get me wrong there nothing wrong with that your having fun but dont knock those who live it and will still be living it in 10 or 20 years time it the same with most sexual / kink lifestyles most dont live it they roleplay it ...as said thats fine but leave the other who want to live it live it its fine if you dont understand it nothing wrong with that i dont understand a few kinks but i aint going to shame them
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Make this make sense.
Our point was the lack of understanding regarding the lifestyle we have witness on this site what we would perceive as the female half of a cuck couple essentially grooming and pushing way past the boundaries the cuck has. Even degradation play must have boundaries for it to be safely practiced. Very few door mats like having shit constantly wiped on them. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
"This is not fantasy to us it’s a lifestyle
you wont convince them they dont understand very few on here are lifestyle most are roleplay / fantasy and they think everyone else is too ... hence why alot avoid the forums cause of the few ..
the bigger side of cuckolding is fantasy / role play its a trend at the mo bit like cake oh must try that there no real cuckolding then they wait for the next trend to arrive oh must try that too ... dont get me wrong there nothing wrong with that your having fun but dont knock those who live it and will still be living it in 10 or 20 years time it the same with most sexual / kink lifestyles most dont live it they roleplay it ...as said thats fine but leave the other who want to live it live it its fine if you dont understand it nothing wrong with that i dont understand a few kinks but i aint going to shame them
Make this make sense.
Our point was the lack of understanding regarding the lifestyle we have witness on this site what we would perceive as the female half of a cuck couple essentially grooming and pushing way past the boundaries the cuck has. Even degradation play must have boundaries for it to be safely practiced. Very few door mats like having shit constantly wiped on them. "
i cant judge on a couple i dont know ...if you know whats going on in their life then ask them only they know how they play ... no one in any type of sex or kink should do something that they dont want to do ...
lifestyle cuckold couples in general know whats hot and whats not theres no forcing everything is consented ..
however there will alway be rouge couples there are fantasy cuckold couple on here totally run by the man pushing his wife to do things just the same as there are 1,000s of male led /pushed swinging couples where the fem is not really interested and the same the other way around ...
its the same with your life style D.s how many of them are abusive relationship compared to the lifestyle D.s couple where everything is consented but no one in the outside world would know ... there are always going to be wrong people in every walk of life a sexual lifestyle is no different ....
it would be the same if some want to say are dom sub relationships consensual you say yes it is but how do they know whats been agreed ... they dont .... |
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We are a cuckold couple and live a cuckold lifestyle. He is my sissy and cuck and I treat him as such. I do push his bouderies as at the end of the day I know he loves the humiliation.
As said before " real bulls" are quite hard to find and most just want sex with me or have no idea how to treat a cuck, nevermind a sissy one.
Each cuck relationship is different and it's up to each couple how far they want things to go, so with most couples it's not bullying or grooming, for them it's a way of life. |
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Every dynamic is different and so it should be!
It’s a broad spectrum that people seem determined to label
Just chill and do what makes you feel good and the day/week go a little easier and better.
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By *iss E99TV/TS
over a year ago
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"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?"
I've also seen this and agree with what you're saying, there was a thread a few days ago about should the cuck suck the bull.
It goes without saying that no one should be made to or coerced into doing something they don't want to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have noticed in a lot of the threads relating to cuckolding that there seems to be a lot of pressure and coercion placed upon a cuck to complete tasks they might not wish to do so. We think that this behaviour really needs to be called out as there seems be some members encouragement of it.
We are a male Dom and female sub and in most bdsm dynamics the rules and boundaries are tailored to the submissive limits, yes these may develop further over time but at no point should pressure be placed upon a submissive partner by the one in the more dominant role. That is tantamount to grooming in our opinion.
Wondering if anyone else has come across this here on fab?
I've also seen this and agree with what you're saying, there was a thread a few days ago about should the cuck suck the bull.
It goes without saying that no one should be made to or coerced into doing something they don't want to do."
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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago
chesterfield |
Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play. "
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok! |
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"Sadly a lot of so called "Bulls" are actually "Bullies" in our opinion others may say we talking sh*t!!!! "
These so-called bul's - When i read a profile re a so-called b/s - straight to the block as well as contacts from those that say they are 'confident, open to anyhting..etc' |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!"
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them."
So abuse can only be physical? |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?"
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point."
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else."
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else.
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it."
“My cuckold thinks that sucking a Bull is wrong and well cleaning up afterwards is also wrong what do you think?”
“I think he should learn to do as he's told! Cleaning is a great way of showing your submission to the bull”
“If the husband is a cuckold then he should do what his wife tells him to do even if he doesnt like it thats part of the humiliation!”
“He did it the other day for me and said he would again as it is what I wanted but he still sees himself as straight not the least bi.”
“It's the Bull's call, the cuckold should know what he has signed up for and shouldn't have a say”
Here are some direct forum quotes
Non of this is ok.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else.
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it.
“My cuckold thinks that sucking a Bull is wrong and well cleaning up afterwards is also wrong what do you think?”
“I think he should learn to do as he's told! Cleaning is a great way of showing your submission to the bull”
“If the husband is a cuckold then he should do what his wife tells him to do even if he doesnt like it thats part of the humiliation!”
“He did it the other day for me and said he would again as it is what I wanted but he still sees himself as straight not the least bi.”
“It's the Bull's call, the cuckold should know what he has signed up for and shouldn't have a say”
Here are some direct forum quotes
Non of this is ok.
"
Then you should be addressing them in that thread directly. And if you genuinely think they implicate real and genuine harm to the people concerned, you should be reporting the posts to admin.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else.
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it.
“My cuckold thinks that sucking a Bull is wrong and well cleaning up afterwards is also wrong what do you think?”
“I think he should learn to do as he's told! Cleaning is a great way of showing your submission to the bull”
“If the husband is a cuckold then he should do what his wife tells him to do even if he doesnt like it thats part of the humiliation!”
“He did it the other day for me and said he would again as it is what I wanted but he still sees himself as straight not the least bi.”
“It's the Bull's call, the cuckold should know what he has signed up for and shouldn't have a say”
Here are some direct forum quotes
Non of this is ok.
Then you should be addressing them in that thread directly. And if you genuinely think they implicate real and genuine harm to the people concerned, you should be reporting the posts to admin.
"
It’s something that need to be done in the open.
It’s poor education and etiquette |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else.
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it.
“My cuckold thinks that sucking a Bull is wrong and well cleaning up afterwards is also wrong what do you think?”
“I think he should learn to do as he's told! Cleaning is a great way of showing your submission to the bull”
“If the husband is a cuckold then he should do what his wife tells him to do even if he doesnt like it thats part of the humiliation!”
“He did it the other day for me and said he would again as it is what I wanted but he still sees himself as straight not the least bi.”
“It's the Bull's call, the cuckold should know what he has signed up for and shouldn't have a say”
Here are some direct forum quotes
Non of this is ok.
Then you should be addressing them in that thread directly. And if you genuinely think they implicate real and genuine harm to the people concerned, you should be reporting the posts to admin.
It’s something that need to be done in the open.
It’s poor education and etiquette "
To be honest, that just suggests you don’t really believe what you are saying then. If you honestly think the answer to genuine grooming is not to report it, then don’t know what to say really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personal I think too many seem to have a misunderstanding of what a cuckold is . A cuckold is someone who's partner has a sexual relationship with someone other than their partner. So many have labelled it to suit what they are looking for and if someone else has a different style then they think that they can't be cuckold. We've had many guys and also a few couples say that we can't be cuckold because " she isn't submissive " or because we set out how we want a meet to go and don't let the guy dictate how the meet goes. It doesn't bother us in the slightest that they think that way, we just have a chuckle to ourselves and wish them good luck and say "your not what we are looking for. It's like saying a couple aren't swingers because:- they don't kiss, the female isn't bi, they don't do oral sex etc. Everyone has their own style that they want during a meet . It doesn't make them more or less into the lifestyle. It's about having fun, enhancing your sex life however you play . Don't get hung up on how someone else plays, enjoy how you play.
Every dynamic is different we agree but there are clear examples of abuse. That is not ok!
Everyone knows abuse is not okay, this isn’t news here.
If you think you can determine evidence of abuse from comments in the Fab forum though, you are mistaken. The only way you can know what happens in someone’s bedroom is if you are there with them.
So abuse can only be physical?
Of course not - but that’s irrelevant to the point.
See and say is just as important in the bdsm community as anywhere else.
But it’s not at all clear if you are actually seeing anything - unless you are observing people being groomed on the forum, in which case you need to report it.
“My cuckold thinks that sucking a Bull is wrong and well cleaning up afterwards is also wrong what do you think?”
“I think he should learn to do as he's told! Cleaning is a great way of showing your submission to the bull”
“If the husband is a cuckold then he should do what his wife tells him to do even if he doesnt like it thats part of the humiliation!”
“He did it the other day for me and said he would again as it is what I wanted but he still sees himself as straight not the least bi.”
“It's the Bull's call, the cuckold should know what he has signed up for and shouldn't have a say”
Here are some direct forum quotes
Non of this is ok.
Then you should be addressing them in that thread directly. And if you genuinely think they implicate real and genuine harm to the people concerned, you should be reporting the posts to admin.
It’s something that need to be done in the open.
It’s poor education and etiquette
To be honest, that just suggests you don’t really believe what you are saying then. If you honestly think the answer to genuine grooming is not to report it, then don’t know what to say really."
This is an open discussion on a forum based on observations made. The whole point of the post was to raise awareness on some behaviour we feel are unethical at best. That was our intention and even if it only highlights this to one other person it’s been worth it. There have been several people respond with similar concerns. As Bob Hoskins said, “it’s good to talk” now rather than they and shut it down and take some superior moral high ground move on because there are people here interested in discussing this. |
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"Cuck here
Checked your profile.
You are single male like me.
How are you a cuck then? Cuck, cuckoo, cuckolding, etc.
Should it not be voyeurism?
Just trying to get a proper understanding of terms used in lifestyle.
Please can you clarify for rest of us. "
Loads of people have their own interpretations, but as I see understand it…
Cuckholding - husband/partner is deliberately denied/degraded during wife’s sex with ‘bull’ It’s the humiliation aspect that is the kink. Takes a huge amount of trust to get to that point.
Hotwifing - wife is actively encouraged by husband to seek out and engage with other sexual partners with full consent (in my situation Hubby likes to receive pics, vids, and phone calls during).
Stag/Vixen - wife engages in sexual activity with other partners, but control of those situations and nomination of partners is wilfully given up to the husband
That’s my understanding. These are shortened generalisations with loads of variations, and people all have their own views on what’s what |
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By *ubcup2Couple
over a year ago
London |
We've met guys who have requested that Chad do things he may not want to, like suck a cock, but we've never met anyone get cross about it.
We try to ascertain what the boundaries are beforehand, and what the person is like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've met guys who have requested that Chad do things he may not want to, like suck a cock, but we've never met anyone get cross about it.
We try to ascertain what the boundaries are beforehand, and what the person is like "
It’s always good to ask politely, or how else would you know what’s in the other person’s mind. And you should respect their decision. Simples! |
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