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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are all here for different reasons, but we probably have something in common as to why we joined Fab, rather than just a ‘dating site’. With this, however, comes a certain ‘taboo’ not normally associated with dating (this may be the very reason that attracted many of us to Fab in the first place!). However, with this comes a tension between the ‘virtual’ world of Fab and real life. People have jobs, careers, families and friends who might not all share the same views, values and beliefs.
How do we balance our freedom to explore our desires, kinks, preferences and sexuality, with the realities of the real world?
I see many profiles with amazing photos of themselves, partners and people they’ve met on Fab. I envy their bravery and their approach to life. I’m not sure I have such courage. Do they have relationships / jobs / circumstances so that posting such photos (and the risk of who may see them) simply isn’t an issue? There will be some with high profile jobs / public facing roles / positions of responsibility / strict family or religious backgrounds that cause them to feel that they can’t take such an open approach. Are they right to do so, and is it correct for them to feel their freedom of expression is limited by such concerns?
I see many profiles, for example, that insist that anyone messaging must include a face pic - yet their profile may contain very little at all. I COMPLETELY get it. People must receive such a range of awful, ignorant and offensive messages that they want to be cautious, to protect themselves and their privacy. But here’s the rub. It’s a two way street. Many others will feel the same and, for whatever reason, will also want to protect themselves in the same way. I’m not talking about anything illegal - or about nefarious reasons such as cheating on their partner - but for legitimate reasons of privacy relating to their job, family, religion or sexuality.
However, if we all maintained our strict privacy, then no one would ever meet! Blank profile staring at blank profile. So… how is this stalemate broken? Someone has to take the leap and ‘reveal’ themselves to a complete stranger - someone who may not be who the say they are, someone who could well end up being a colleague, their boss, their child’s teacher, someone who is racist, homophobic, misogynistic…or are simply fake.
Am I right to worry about this, is this an issue? Is it just the risk we take and the price we pay for being on here, and should that be the case?
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