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I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
Simple.
Some are just that. Curious. They've either never indulged in any activity with the same sex or have extremely limited experience and are still exploring options.
Others use it because they may dabble on rare occasions but predominantly play straight.
Other choose to term themselves as that because there are specific same sex acts that they may enjoy but not all.
Some are only interested in the physical, not emotional or romantic side and would never have a relationship with someone of the same sex.
Others choose it just because they can.
Their decision affects nobody but themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways."
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess ! |
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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago
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I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha |
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If you don't mind interacting with a penis but don't actively seek it, then putting bisexual on the profile will lead to a lot more male messages than wanted.
I don't really care what people identify as or who they fuck. But if a woman had bisexual and when we met it was obvious she wasn't actually into women, I'd be disappointed. I'd rather they had bicurious so I at least knew the level of interaction to expect. Just because they've gone through the motions with girls before doesn't make them actually bisexual. |
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
I was bi curious but then actually tried it with guys and found I enjoyed it so now class myself as bi. As soon as you have tried and decide to maintain that lifestyle then you go past being curious and are all in (pardon the pun) |
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I'm not particularly fussed if people see me as bi or bicurious.
However the reason I don't see myself as fully bi is because I have no romantic interest in guys neither do I have the desire to meet guys on a 1 on 1 basis. |
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
As far as i knew bicurious people identify as hetero and were open to the idea of trying things with the same gender. You would expect anyone who has tried it would either change it to straight or bisexual after they knew if it was for them or not. |
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"If you don't mind interacting with a penis but don't actively seek it, then putting bisexual on the profile will lead to a lot more male messages than wanted.
I don't really care what people identify as or who they fuck. But if a woman had bisexual and when we met it was obvious she wasn't actually into women, I'd be disappointed. I'd rather they had bicurious so I at least knew the level of interaction to expect. Just because they've gone through the motions with girls before doesn't make them actually bisexual."
This 100% |
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It's not just straight black and white.
Bi curious - curious about having sex with the same gender, may or may not like it, doesn't know at this point.
Bi sexual - had had sex with the same gender is attracted to the same gender and enjoys it.
Hetro flexible - isn't interested in the same gender in a romantic setting but does enjoy sex with the same gender.
There's blokes here that'll have their cocks sucked by another bloke & call themselves straight because they don't want to touch another cock.
There's fab straight where they are definitely bi but don't want to broadcast it because they feel it'll put the women off.
The there's many others Pan/Demi sexual etc
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"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha"
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Says the straight and clearly well informed gentleman  |
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"It's not just straight black and white.
Bi curious - curious about having sex with the same gender, may or may not like it, doesn't know at this point.
Bi sexual - had had sex with the same gender is attracted to the same gender and enjoys it.
Hetro flexible - isn't interested in the same gender in a romantic setting but does enjoy sex with the same gender.
There's blokes here that'll have their cocks sucked by another bloke & call themselves straight because they don't want to touch another cock.
There's fab straight where they are definitely bi but don't want to broadcast it because they feel it'll put the women off.
The there's many others Pan/Demi sexual etc
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This is a much better set of definitions. The Fab classifications are too broad. I (Mr) have zero attraction for men but I love to pleasure a man in the heat of battle. Hete exible much better describes me. |
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"If you don't mind interacting with a penis but don't actively seek it, then putting bisexual on the profile will lead to a lot more male messages than wanted.
I don't really care what people identify as or who they fuck. But if a woman had bisexual and when we met it was obvious she wasn't actually into women, I'd be disappointed. I'd rather they had bicurious so I at least knew the level of interaction to expect. Just because they've gone through the motions with girls before doesn't make them actually bisexual."
I’m exactly the same with bicurious guys. I find they’re attracted to my femininity, but I like to know what to expect in a meet and the level of contact etc. if he’s bisexual, I’m kinda expecting he’d go down on me too, if he’s bicurious, not so much.
I tend to think trans girls are the best of both worlds. Tits and a cock?! Perfect!  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I think sexuality is on a spectrum from straight through to gay/pan etc.
Many people seem to fall in varying degrees on it.
I interpret bi curious as wanting to try same sex play and explore it. Maybe it takes playing with the right person to confirm they like it or not.
Some men and women will only see themselves as bi, if they're attracted to the same sex or would have a relationship with the same gender.
I've seen both men and women say they're straight when they regularly play with same sex people,so it's all subjective.
The main thing is that people should respect other peoples boundaries and ways of playing. |
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"I'm not particularly fussed if people see me as bi or bicurious.
However the reason I don't see myself as fully bi is because I have no romantic interest in guys neither do I have the desire to meet guys on a 1 on 1 basis."
This |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently "
But if you’re married and have a single profile you’re cheating - maybe people see it differently? If you’re going to argue it’s not that black and white you’re beginning to understand… |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"I agree if you’ve tried it once you are bi curious if more then once you are bisexual "
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You sure? What if the first time you did not like it? But you try again with a different person to see if you may like it, because you are still curious? Second time, you still don't like it either.
Now, according to me, despite having tried twice (or thrice or more) you would be straight. Because you still don't get horny with the opposite gender. According to you, however, you would have to classify yourself as bisexual for life because you have tried sex twice with the same gender.
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
I enjoy meeting mf couples and playing with both. I'm not looking to meet women 1-1 and wouldn't have a fb or fwb relationship with a woman so have described myself as bi curious rather than bisexual. |
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By *okoloshCouple
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why
Simple.
Some are just that. Curious. They've either never indulged in any activity with the same sex or have extremely limited experience and are still exploring options.
Others use it because they may dabble on rare occasions but predominantly play straight.
Other choose to term themselves as that because there are specific same sex acts that they may enjoy but not all.
Some are only interested in the physical, not emotional or romantic side and would never have a relationship with someone of the same sex.
Others choose it just because they can.
Their decision affects nobody but themselves. "
This is a damn near perfect explanation! Good on you for being so open minded and non judgemental.
It drives me mad when people can understand the complexities of sexuality or choose to just see it in black and white. |
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"Curious might mean haven't acted on it"
Yes, this.
I take 'bi-curious' to mean "I've thought about it but I haven't done it yet"
But... if you tried it, and you liked it then you are total bisexual now...
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently "
If a woman has a cock and a straight man is fucking her he's still straight.
Some people might not be sure if they are something or not it might take exploring to see.
Some people don't mind doing something with the same sex but aren't into them, spur of the moment.
Are two straight men fucking the same woman bi?
I'm asexual but have sex.
Genders and sexuality aren't black and white |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story"
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world. |
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world."
Possibly only 3 or 4 straight men in the world who don't like to suck cock |
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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why
I was bi curious but then actually tried it with guys and found I enjoyed it so now class myself as bi. As soon as you have tried and decide to maintain that lifestyle then you go past being curious and are all in (pardon the pun)"
Good explanation to my mind |
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
It’s exactly what it means. Some people believe they might enjoy being bi but don’t say until they’re sure. That’s it.
Policing people’s level of sexual activity or identity is kinda dickish |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"Curious might mean haven't acted on it
Yes, this.
I take 'bi-curious' to mean "I've thought about it but I haven't done it yet"
But... if you tried it, and you liked it then you are total bisexual now...
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If someone tries 3 times with 3 different people to satisfy the curiosity and make sure and none of the times they liked it, and never ever try again... You are saying this person is fully bisexual? I'd say fully straight. |
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why
It’s exactly what it means. Some people believe they might enjoy being bi but don’t say until they’re sure. That’s it.
Policing people’s level of sexual activity or identity is kinda dickish "
Although a slight caveat if your profile says straight and you’re actively looking for bi play then that’s dickish too! |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world.
Possibly only 3 or 4 straight men in the world who don't like to suck cock "
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They are being studied by NASA in Area 51. Possibly aliens. |
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world.
Possibly only 3 or 4 straight men in the world who don't like to suck cock "
Literally billions of me who are straight on their fab profile, in the messages however… |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world.
Possibly only 3 or 4 straight men in the world who don't like to suck cock
Literally billions of me who are straight on their fab profile, in the messages however…"
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Billions of men with a Fab profile? And you seriously think the Fab population is representative of the sexuality of the total world population?
I can see here in Fab a lot of gay and bisexual people comfortable with their sexuality. Love it. What I find sad is that there's still many who perhaps are ashamed of being Bi (can't understand why, nothing to be ashamed of), and therefore insist that the vast majority of men are not straight, purely to make themselves feel better.
Of course you have received many messages from "Fab straight" men. Because you are Bi. They are curious and trying to get some experiences, so don't get surprised if they message Bi profiles.
We have received zero messages, because we do not message singles (men or women) and our couple profile is both straight. We have met and played with so many couples and not once the male has asked me/us about bi play, either in messages or in person.
Your Fab bubble is biased by your sexuality. If you swim and fish in a pool with trout, likely you will find trout. Don't assume however that every pool and river and lake will have trout. |
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"95% of men are bi curious whether they admit to it or not is a different story
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And 100% of men who say this nonsense, citing made-up statistics, label themselves as either gay or some form of bi, because they do not want to accept the fact that there's literally billions of straight men in the world.
Possibly only 3 or 4 straight men in the world who don't like to suck cock
Literally billions of me who are straight on their fab profile, in the messages however…
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Billions of men with a Fab profile? And you seriously think the Fab population is representative of the sexuality of the total world population?
I can see here in Fab a lot of gay and bisexual people comfortable with their sexuality. Love it. What I find sad is that there's still many who perhaps are ashamed of being Bi (can't understand why, nothing to be ashamed of), and therefore insist that the vast majority of men are not straight, purely to make themselves feel better.
Of course you have received many messages from "Fab straight" men. Because you are Bi. They are curious and trying to get some experiences, so don't get surprised if they message Bi profiles.
We have received zero messages, because we do not message singles (men or women) and our couple profile is both straight. We have met and played with so many couples and not once the male has asked me/us about bi play, either in messages or in person.
Your Fab bubble is biased by your sexuality. If you swim and fish in a pool with trout, likely you will find trout. Don't assume however that every pool and river and lake will have trout."
Yeah, it was a joke.
However the majority of messages we receive, when the filters are off, are from fab straight men, some of whom have posted on threads to complain about bi men contacting them. So it was a joke based in reality. |
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I like the idea of skydiving but I'll probably never go through with it. That makes me 'sky-curious'. If I did one of those charity jumps strapped to an instructor, that wouldn't make me a skydiver.  |
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Human personality is diverse and many traits each exist along a spectrum, rather than having every single person exactly matching each other, once an interest is shared. You know that instinctively about yourself right, that you are different to other people who share your traits -youre not cloned duplicates of each other.
Some straight people will have sex with the opposite sex but aren't romantically interested. Likewise with bi interests, it may only be sexual but not romantic, they'd not date all genders.
This kind of post is usually made by someone who's very rigid in their thoughts, for whatever reason. It shouts a very major lack of understanding of people. Perhaps consider educating yourself on some basic psychology |
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In reality there are 3 categories:
1) only play with people of the opposite sex
2) equally happy to play with people whatever their sex
3) it's complicated
"Bi-curious" is just Fab's name for the third category. Don't worry about it too much, and if it matters to you, ask what people actually mean by it.
By the way I've noticed that "bi-phobia" is mainly a British thing. European couples seem far happier to ask whether you're interested in that sort of thing. |
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"Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess !"
Exactly. I think you may have answered you're own question. |
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I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part? |
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"I agree if you’ve tried it once you are bi curious if more then once you are bisexual
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You sure? What if the first time you did not like it? But you try again with a different person to see if you may like it, because you are still curious? Second time, you still don't like it either.
Now, according to me, despite having tried twice (or thrice or more) you would be straight. Because you still don't get horny with the opposite gender. According to you, however, you would have to classify yourself as bisexual for life because you have tried sex twice with the same gender.
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I'm with this I've had sex with men & not enjoyed it, doesn't mean I don't like men, I'll still try another
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"I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part? "
People seem to enjoy dictating how other people describe themselves... |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part? "
I think you are right, still a lot of bigotry and stigma, trying to find "explanations" and labels for sexual preferences.
Look at this OP response:
--"Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess !"
He says "... and girls aren't gay for it...". It sounds like some men who are/may be bicurious struggle with accepting they may be Bi, because of the notion that being Bi equals or implies being Gay. Which makes things worst, nothing wrong with being Gay.
Then, they try to convince the world that nearly all men are Bi to some degree, so they can feel at ease with being "normal" and most definitely "not Gay". So yes, very sad that in this day and age and place we are still struggling with all this. |
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"I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part? "
Because they have to stress just how straight they are, that they are definitely straight and hate the chance of a cock been anywhere near them.....apart from when they are sucking cock behind their wives back of course. |
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"I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part?
I think you are right, still a lot of bigotry and stigma, trying to find "explanations" and labels for sexual preferences.
Look at this OP response:
--"Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess !"
He says "... and girls aren't gay for it...". It sounds like some men who are/may be bicurious struggle with accepting they may be Bi, because of the notion that being Bi equals or implies being Gay. Which makes things worst, nothing wrong with being Gay.
Then, they try to convince the world that nearly all men are Bi to some degree, so they can feel at ease with being "normal" and most definitely "not Gay". So yes, very sad that in this day and age and place we are still struggling with all this."
Well illustrated.
This is what I was thinking about, that inherent to the bi thing is a sense that the gay bit is something to be ashamed of. Therefore being gay is something to be ashamed of. I find it puzzling that the same people who will tacitly make gay people a thing of guilt or shame, but complain endlessly about anything which they feel impacts their own ego. |
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I think a lot of the bigotry comes from three things. There were anti-gay adverts at some point which made out that gay men were effectively paedophiles (at the same time the actual paedophiles were lobbying parliament to have some form of pic swapping exchange or something similar)
The other stigma comes from the early 80s and the AIDS epidemic.
I had a thing with a woman who was up for a threesome but as long as there was 'no gay stuff' though was up for FF kissing etc.
The third thing is still prevalent today where someone weak etc. would be told "That's so gay".
For years, I was curious but with the above combined with quite religious parents that curiosity made me think I was a pervert etc. It kind of felt that bisexual was a gateway drug to being out as gay. If that makes sense? |
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"Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess !"
Hmm,aren't they just. Some quicker than others. Almost as if they're part of the same programmed group think. Think tank 999 maybe? |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways."
Exactly this. I put bi curious as lack of a different third option. I don’t see a man walking down the street and feel attraction like I do a woman. I am a huge TV admirer and do like cock so I am not straight either. I guess labels make it easier to see whether you want to chat further but most don’t fit exactly into a box and that ok |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
Exactly this. I put bi curious as lack of a different third option. I don’t see a man walking down the street and feel attraction like I do a woman. I am a huge TV admirer and do like cock so I am not straight either. I guess labels make it easier to see whether you want to chat further but most don’t fit exactly into a box and that ok"
Amen brother. Heteexibility = Fab-Bicurious in my book. If I’m fucking a woman in a group situation and we accidentally come in contact with each other and he flinches I find it quite sad. I like to fuck with other guys that will admit to loving the feeling of two cocks rubbing together in a DVP, can actually say ‘nice cock bro, you want to swap ends?’ without thinking ‘am I gay now?’ incidents of ‘friendly fire’ are funny / celebrated and not a reason to freak out and go running to the shower… We are confident in our masculinity, uninhibited and my experience has been that couples and women love that even if we’re playing straight… |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
Exactly this. I put bi curious as lack of a different third option. I don’t see a man walking down the street and feel attraction like I do a woman. I am a huge TV admirer and do like cock so I am not straight either. I guess labels make it easier to see whether you want to chat further but most don’t fit exactly into a box and that ok
Amen brother. Heteexibility = Fab-Bicurious in my book. If I’m fucking a woman in a group situation and we accidentally come in contact with each other and he flinches I find it quite sad. I like to fuck with other guys that will admit to loving the feeling of two cocks rubbing together in a DVP, can actually say ‘nice cock bro, you want to swap ends?’ without thinking ‘am I gay now?’ incidents of ‘friendly fire’ are funny / celebrated and not a reason to freak out and go running to the shower… We are confident in our masculinity, uninhibited and my experience has been that couples and women love that even if we’re playing straight…"
‘Hetero flexible’ not R.O.F.L. … |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
Curious means neverhaving played with cock
And just because youve tried it , doesnt mean you are
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently "
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
Curious means neverhaving played with cock
And just because youve tried it , doesnt mean you are
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently "
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"I’m increasingly curious why the issue of bisexuality comes up so often on here. Why is it such an issue, apparently to single men in particular? Is it that people are ashamed of the same sex part?
Because they have to stress just how straight they are, that they are definitely straight and hate the chance of a cock been anywhere near them.....apart from when they are sucking cock behind their wives back of course."
I disagree, I think it is usually bi or Bi-curious single males who are obsessed and come up with threads about being Bi. They have doubts and questions and second thoughts and agonize what would happen if they touch a cock when they play with a couple and the magic powers of Eros will make them bi(gay) for life. What a Greek tragedy!
I feel I am a straight man because I have never felt any attraction to other males, or their cocks, and I feel no curiosity. My cock stays limp thinking of them, it goes hard thinking of their wives. But I have no phobia. If I ever end up in a situation where we play with a couple with a bi male, I would not be afraid to touch him if that makes them horny, of course if Lena is ok with me doing it. A cock is a body organ. He may enjoy it, but most likely I would not. It would be a new experience for us as a couple but I seriously doubt it would change my sexuality and make me crave cock. And I am not scared to change, so if I liked it... So what? Big deal! I discover that I have bi feelings. Move on. But for now, just not curious at all to even try.
So yes, you will read from me here and in other threads that being a straight male is real and that all straight males are a bit Bi is total bullshit. No one is going to negate my sexuality just to make themselves more at ease with their own. I do not negate theirs. We should accept and embrace what we are and if we want to change, we change. Happy lives. |
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years ago in vanilla life I went to a party where there were gay guys and straight couples. I was in a straight couple and had a right laugh with the gay guys but one of my friends was really freaking out. He felt that being in a party with gay guys would make him less of a man. This mate left the party and all the gay guys said its ok, they often get that kind of reaction from men who are scared of their own sexuality and scared of their inner sexuality coming to the surface so they act like a 1970 queer basher.
In my sex life I have never felt any sexual attraction to men or ever wanted to kiss a man or be 1 to 1 with a guy BUT I have been in a group situation while fucking a woman and getting carried away with the euphoria of the whole scene, a cock appeared in my face and I just sucked it, more to give pleasure than to receive pleasure.
It seems like we are always trying to put people into boxes so from what I have said what box do I belong in? I would appreciate the feedback. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"years ago in vanilla life I went to a party where there were gay guys and straight couples. I was in a straight couple and had a right laugh with the gay guys but one of my friends was really freaking out. He felt that being in a party with gay guys would make him less of a man. This mate left the party and all the gay guys said its ok, they often get that kind of reaction from men who are scared of their own sexuality and scared of their inner sexuality coming to the surface so they act like a 1970 queer basher.
In my sex life I have never felt any sexual attraction to men or ever wanted to kiss a man or be 1 to 1 with a guy BUT I have been in a group situation while fucking a woman and getting carried away with the euphoria of the whole scene, a cock appeared in my face and I just sucked it, more to give pleasure than to receive pleasure.
It seems like we are always trying to put people into boxes so from what I have said what box do I belong in? I would appreciate the feedback."
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Whatever box you feel right. The point is: do you crave men or not? Yes? Bi. No? straight. Unsure? Bi Curious. No one should tell you. You are the one choosing your box and jumping from one box to another whenever you like. Did you really think playing with one cock once made you gay or bi? Really? You know inside you what you fancy and you don't. |
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why
Simple.
Some are just that. Curious. They've either never indulged in any activity with the same sex or have extremely limited experience and are still exploring options.
Others use it because they may dabble on rare occasions but predominantly play straight.
Other choose to term themselves as that because there are specific same sex acts that they may enjoy but not all.
Some are only interested in the physical, not emotional or romantic side and would never have a relationship with someone of the same sex.
Others choose it just because they can.
Their decision affects nobody but themselves. "
this sums it up nicely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why
As far as i knew bicurious people identify as hetero and were open to the idea of trying things with the same gender. You would expect anyone who has tried it would either change it to straight or bisexual after they knew if it was for them or not."
Well put…..I’m in the category of curious cause I haven’t tried it yet but would like to…..your spot on. |
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By *shAsianMan
over a year ago
West Midlands |
"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways."
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Well, I would imagine that would be like me saying I am interested in and am turned on by (and open to) the idea playing with another Woman, but I'm not sure if I like it yet.
I could do it and then decide I do want to fuck other Women or I don't. |
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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago
Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders |
It looks like Fab is getting a little bit dated and maybe needs some updates. Adding some categories would help, like heteexible, which is rather accurate and is working on other websites |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"It looks like Fab is getting a little bit dated and maybe needs some updates. Adding some categories would help, like heteexible, which is rather accurate and is working on other websites "
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More categories would be good, judging by the amount of threads about what is straight, bi, bicurious etc. However, many people need to change their mindset and use those labels as a starting point for filtering and conversation, not as a rigid menu of what's on offer on a profile.
For instance, the assumption that a Bi person in a couple MUST/WILL ALWAYS play, or try to play, with both parts of another couple. What if this Bi person does not like the male or the female? I'm straight (male) but I do not like every single female, so for Bi people surely must be the same. Many bi couples are happy to play straight with straight couples. We never ever have had a problem with disrespect of the commonly agreed boundaries.
Another classic is straight couples who would not play with a bi-male couple... In case he makes a move on hubby. How arrogant and pretentious to assume that all bi-males are craving a go at straight hubby, when the reality might be that this bi couple are both interested in her, for example, and straight hubby is a troll.
So people need to adjust their approach to interpreting Fab labels. They are just that. Useful but meaningless, just a point to start the conversation, see compatibility and set up boundaries before the fun starts. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"It looks like Fab is getting a little bit dated and maybe needs some updates. Adding some categories would help, like heteexible, which is rather accurate and is working on other websites
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More categories would be good, judging by the amount of threads about what is straight, bi, bicurious etc. However, many people need to change their mindset and use those labels as a starting point for filtering and conversation, not as a rigid menu of what's on offer on a profile.
For instance, the assumption that a Bi person in a couple MUST/WILL ALWAYS play, or try to play, with both parts of another couple. What if this Bi person does not like the male or the female? I'm straight (male) but I do not like every single female, so for Bi people surely must be the same. Many bi couples are happy to play straight with straight couples. We never ever have had a problem with disrespect of the commonly agreed boundaries.
Another classic is straight couples who would not play with a bi-male couple... In case he makes a move on hubby. How arrogant and pretentious to assume that all bi-males are craving a go at straight hubby, when the reality might be that this bi couple are both interested in her, for example, and straight hubby is a troll.
So people need to adjust their approach to interpreting Fab labels. They are just that. Useful but meaningless, just a point to start the conversation, see compatibility and set up boundaries before the fun starts."
I totally get this & I'd never be arrogant enough to think that a Bi fem would automatically want to play with me.
However we've had instances on our joint profile where we've been told the fem can turn me bi, no she really can't. Or we've established they are happy to play straight, then they start asking if I'll kiss the Mrs or so soft play. So some may say one thing, but in reality they're after sneaky fem to fem play.if that's what they want they need to be honest and only meet people who play that way too.
It's not all bi fem couples I know, many will play straight.
I think because others aren't always upfront ie they say straight but aren't, that means people will try it on,like above when someone claimed most men are bi.Most assume all women are bi.
My other half can be orally bi, it's not essential he happily plays straight & we've had no thanks in that instance too.
I don't care if someone is bi/curious it's nothing to be ashamed of , but I do expect honesty or for them to respect my boundaries too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too many men who seem to be getting pressed about how others define their sexuality.
If someone's had a gay experience once why do they suddenly have to define themselves as BI and change their whole identity?
I think a lot of men just enjoy experimenting, you don't have to be disgusted by people of the same gender to be straight.
In my mind being BI is the gender of the other person doesn't really matter much, which to many people even those who play for both teams, it does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
If you’ve never played with a guy, generally not attracted to men, but curious about it, then your are curious, continuing to pursue men after that 1st experience would then change your label imo to bi sexual |
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By *ouise_KWoman
over a year ago
leicester |
"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha"
I agree, was just going to say them same |
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"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha
I agree, was just going to say them same"
I agree. If someone enjoys playing with men or a person with a dick, they’re not straight, in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy sex with both women and men but can't imagine I'd ever be completely satisfied in a relationship with a partner without a penis. So I don't class myself as bisexual. |
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For me it’s been 15 years since I’ve had any mmf fun with bi oral happening. Mostly due I was married and now I’m Divorced trying to find a bi couple for regular fun which hasn’t happened on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha
I agree, was just going to say them same
I agree. If someone enjoys playing with men or a person with a dick, they’re not straight, in my opinion."
Well personally I've had a few encounters with men and I've had a good time, but I'm not even remotely interested in them romantically and quite often not even sexually. Even though I've had a great time playing with guys.
So I'm definitely not straight, but I couldn't call myself bi because it's just not true. So what should I call myself? Or do labels really not matter at all and people should just fuck who they want whenever they want?
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"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha
I agree, was just going to say them same
I agree. If someone enjoys playing with men or a person with a dick, they’re not straight, in my opinion.
Well personally I've had a few encounters with men and I've had a good time, but I'm not even remotely interested in them romantically and quite often not even sexually. Even though I've had a great time playing with guys.
So I'm definitely not straight, but I couldn't call myself bi because it's just not true. So what should I call myself? Or do labels really not matter at all and people should just fuck who they want whenever they want?"
Well I can see you call yourself Bi on your profile… In my opinion, I would say Bi/Bi-curious, if you sometimes enjoy play with men. I don’t recall saying that people shouldn’t be able to fuck who they want, whenever they want  You do you. No shame in being Bi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your either bisexual or you ain't no Inbetween ! If you disagree explain why "
If your curious you aren't actively looking for men bit are open to it. What's the problem? |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"I'd consider someone bi curious if they're curious and haven't tried anything yet.
If they go for a 2nd round then I'd consider them Bi for sure. Nothing curious about it after the first time haha
I agree, was just going to say them same"
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If a male tries 3 times with 3 different males to satisfy the Bi-curiosity and none of the 3 times he liked it, and never ever tries again in his life... Are you saying this bloke is fully bisexual? I'd say he is fully straight.
Does not seem logical defining sexuality based on what people play with, or have played with, rather than to whom people currently like and feel attracted to. |
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"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently
If a woman has a cock and a straight man is fucking her he's still straight.
Some people might not be sure if they are something or not it might take exploring to see.
Some people don't mind doing something with the same sex but aren't into them, spur of the moment.
Are two straight men fucking the same woman bi?
I'm asexual but have sex.
Genders and sexuality aren't black and white "
Nope! If a woman has a cock, they aren't by any stretch of imagination, or any mental gymnastics, a woman. And if a man's fucking them, it's an homosexual act. Not a straight man in any shape or form. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I know people who don't mind interacting with a cock in the moment but would never actively pursue a man. Anything less than actually fully interested in both men and women is less than bisexual to me.
But people interpret it in different ways.
But if your male and play with cock your definitely both to me . Maybe people see it differently
If a woman has a cock and a straight man is fucking her he's still straight.
Some people might not be sure if they are something or not it might take exploring to see.
Some people don't mind doing something with the same sex but aren't into them, spur of the moment.
Are two straight men fucking the same woman bi?
I'm asexual but have sex.
Genders and sexuality aren't black and white
Nope! If a woman has a cock, they aren't by any stretch of imagination, or any mental gymnastics, a woman. And if a man's fucking them, it's an homosexual act. Not a straight man in any shape or form."
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"Curious might mean haven't acted on it
Yes, this.
I take 'bi-curious' to mean "I've thought about it but I haven't done it yet"
But... if you tried it, and you liked it then you are total bisexual now...
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If someone tries 3 times with 3 different people to satisfy the curiosity and make sure and none of the times they liked it, and never ever try again... You are saying this person is fully bisexual? I'd say fully straight."
Well no. 'cause they didn't like it... duh.
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"why are so many people fixated about other peoples sexuality, I thought we had moved on from the 1970s
There are a lot of very closed minded people in here for a so called lifestyle site.  "
Bravo! Labels are indeed so dated.
If you like what you see, go for it.
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"why are so many people fixated about other peoples sexuality, I thought we had moved on from the 1970s
There are a lot of very closed minded people in here for a so called lifestyle site. "
Not fixated, as you say, they're just trying to understand the other people's sexuality, exactly because it is a "lifestyle" site |
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As human beings, if we didn't have curiosity then we would never find out what we liked or didn't like. Life would be boring.
Plenty of confused people in society, trying to conform to society, let's just have fun and enjoy rather than label everything. Bi the way my label says 44 chest that fits OK haha |
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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago
Grimsby |
We day we are bi comfortable, means as a guy I'm straight but appricate in a threesome swords cross etc and that's fine with me.
I have no Intrest in anything more though.
Wife bit more she will kiss and touch a woman but isn't into going downstairs on one.
She has done in the past but decided wasn't for her.
But each to their own, we always discuss with potential meets where we are and the rules of engagement lol.
Generally don't meet fully bi couples as found they always try their lick even if we have said no before the meet.
Maybe heat of moment but it's a mood killer for us.
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"Mind you I get it from a women's pov but not a man. I know girls kiss girls and nobody really blinks a eyelid and girls aren't gay for it but when it's a man everyone quicker to jump on it i guess !"
There's kissing and then there is kissing. I'm not out to my nonfab girlfriends but I would definitely love to snog a couple of them. |
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"I enjoy sex with both women and men but can't imagine I'd ever be completely satisfied in a relationship with a partner without a penis. So I don't class myself as bisexual."
surely you are if you play with both sexes! You don't need to be in a relationship with a woman to be classed as bisexual.
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Pretty small minded replies some of you, colour me shocked! I have only ever been with men, sexually and romantically but am curious to try sex with a woman, not sure on the hetero romance side but yeah |
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People get really caught up on labels. They are for boxes in our view.
Our motto is be the person you are.
There are many who may enjoy same sex fun but do not actively seek it outside of the scene.
As far as fab is concerned there is only three options to select so members will choose what they feel best suits their circumstance.
I consider myself to be orally bi as I have had more than one enjoyable experience so if I was to put bisexual people would quite rightly assume I like more than oral which I don’t.
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There is also an emotional element as well.
Personally if someone identified as bisexual then they are likely to fancy someone of the same sex. Again people enjoy same sex fun but are not attracted to them. |
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By *ill12369Man
over a year ago
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"People get really caught up on labels. They are for boxes in our view.
Our motto is be the person you are.
There are many who may enjoy same sex fun but do not actively seek it outside of the scene.
As far as fab is concerned there is only three options to select so members will choose what they feel best suits their circumstance.
I consider myself to be orally bi as I have had more than one enjoyable experience so if I was to put bisexual people would quite rightly assume I like more than oral which I don’t.
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I agree like oral both ways with guys but no more |
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