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Best way of turning someone down
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"I usually reply with thanks but no thanks, happy swinging.
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Same, and usually followed by the block. That stops all the "why's", any potential abuse, as well as you don't come up in their search/they can't contact you again, and vice versa. |
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By *4bimMan
over a year ago
Farnborough Hampshire |
"I usually reply with thanks but no thanks, happy swinging.
Same, and usually followed by the block. That stops all the "why's", any potential abuse, as well as you don't come up in their search/they can't contact you again, and vice versa. "
this, you dont have to explain further |
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By *CExeCouple
over a year ago
Lincoln/Exeter |
Depends on the nature of the message. I'm getting more and more blunt with couples messaging and asking to borrow Chelsea, or the guys with 'permission to play solo' who want to meet Chelsea. Polite couples who just don't do it for us we just chat with and say that it's not for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry, you're not my type but wish you all the best. Happy fabbing.
Wouldn't want to type that out more than a few times mind!"
Exactly what I write. Unless someone is super rude / annoying / entitled in which case I just ignore and delete |
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It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.
It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion. |
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"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.
It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."
It’s not rude - just because you decided to send someone a message, that doesn’t demand they should reply.
No reply is a response anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned"
It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message. |
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If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message. |
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"If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message.
**well worded.. "
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By *CBoyTV/TS
over a year ago
Tonypandy |
It costs nothing to be polite. Like others on here I thank them for contacting me then say something like 'Not what I'm looking for" and end wishing them good luck.
Unless they are the stupid "Hi how's you" type messages then I just delete them as my profile says I will do as they obviously haven't bothered to read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.
It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."
"No thanks!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It costs nothing to be polite. Like others on here I thank them for contacting me then say something like 'Not what I'm looking for" and end wishing them good luck.
Unless they are the stupid "Hi how's you" type messages then I just delete them as my profile says I will do as they obviously haven't bothered to read it."
It costs time and energy to reply to messages. People are perfectly within their rights not to reply. |
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"If a message is worth replying to (we'll worded) I'll respond even if it's a polite decline, I have never had a major negative response to a rejection, so I can't be to much of a bitch ha ha my response varies depending on the content of the message. "
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"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned
It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message. "
If someone is on fab and allow messages to be sent to them how can it be unsolicited if the person satisfies your criteria? |
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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago
Windsor |
"Without being a complete and utter bar steward "
Honestly always. If someone’s not appreciative then hit that block button lol. As a single guy here it’s something I’m used too. But I don’t think it’s fair to return with anything other than respect? |
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By *oufouCouple
over a year ago
Somerset |
If they write a nice message:
Thanks for waving hello. You seem a lovely guy/couple but we get so many messages and it’s impossible to meet with everyone. Hope you understand.
If they haven’t read the profile, or ignore our text:
Delete |
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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago
Windsor |
"If they write a nice message:
Thanks for waving hello. You seem a lovely guy/couple but we get so many messages and it’s impossible to meet with everyone. Hope you understand.
If they haven’t read the profile, or ignore our text:
Delete "
Completely fair. Respect works both ways  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whatever happened to respect and manners. Guess I must be very naive and old fashioned
It's entitled to think you deserve a reply to an unsolicited message.
If someone is on fab and allow messages to be sent to them how can it be unsolicited if the person satisfies your criteria?"
It's in the site rules that "no reply is a reply". Simply having a profile doesn't mean women & couples must reply to every random who opts to message them. |
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"It would be nice to get a “no thanks” occasionally.
It is very frustrating for us genuine single blokes when you put effort into sending a message only to be ignored and not given the courtesy of a response. Downright rude in my honest opinion."
That's just admitting you haven't read the website FAQs or agree with the terms and conditions of the website. Why use a website you are unhappy with?
If I felt no replies were personally rude I wouldn't continue to use the website. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Far rather a "thanks but no thanks" than a no show. Not everbody is for everyone. As for replying to messages, it is entirely unreasonable to expect a response to an unsolicited message. |
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