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Ever said “No” and regretted it later?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I say no to something then there's a reason for that. Even if your mind wonders afterwards, it was the right decision in the moment so I don't regret it. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
S. Northants |
Didn't say no, but missed my boarding call. I was much younger, and the lovely lady I was with was still a virgin. She'd made all the moves, but I didn't progress it as I wanted it to be the right thing for her/us. Unfortunately, an ex came back into her life and I missed the opportunity.
C'est la vie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been very definitely rejected previously, I got offered it on a plate because they were horny and I was the only one online at 2am that they knew had a car. Maybe they shouldn't have lead the conversation by pointing out I was their last choice out of desperation haha
I don't regret saying no, but I do often wonder what it would have been like. |
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We had a soft swap with an amazing couple but it was so early on we stuck to soft when they offered us full, we both regret it, especially as we both wanted it but didn’t communicate it until the following day  |
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?”  "
Yup - happened many times in my life as I was brought up strictly to believe in no sex before marriage! I pretty much lived by that rule until I got married, missing countless opportunities with wonderful women and I regret it every day!
Now I have a wife who doesn’t believe in sex after marriage so I’m totally fucked! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep. I said no to a very well known person I had a crush on. We met through mutual friends backstage at an event. The person was very very flirtatious and made a move. I’m not openly bi. So it wasn’t the right opportunity for me to respond to his advances, in front of their people.
I regret it. But not in any deep way. I just sort of wonder what if? But nothing beyond that |
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Once.
She was a best friend so didn't look at her that way at the time.
She made a move, I said no and made it awkward after that.
Only after not speaking for a bit I realised just how much a stunner she was in all ways.
See her now attached and think wow. What was i thinking.
Regret it 100% as we were so in tune on everything.
Wipe away my tears now.. BooHoo |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Once. When I used to go clubbing on occasions would come across this lady whom seemed very decent always pasted fancy seeing you here again then later bumped into her as I was about to enter the gents toilet so asked her out she replied I must be d.runk was left at that then years later out at Christmas clubbing different club was walking through the bar and someone grabbed me and smacked their lips on me then I recognised her invited me back to hers but as I went to the bar received an emergency call and hadn't had time to let her know I'm sure she's wondering also  |
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?”
Yup - happened many times in my life as I was brought up strictly to believe in no sex before
marriage! I pretty much lived by
that rule until I got married,
missing countless opportunities with wonderful women and I regret it every day!
Now I have a wife who doesn’t believe in sex after marriage so I’m totally fucked! "
A man in my own situation!! |
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?”
Yup - happened many times in my life as I was brought up strictly to believe in no sex before
marriage! I pretty much lived by
that rule until I got married,
missing countless opportunities with wonderful women and I regret it every day!
Now I have a wife who doesn’t believe in sex after marriage so I’m totally fucked!
A man in my own situation!! "
Sorry bro! It’s pretty crap isn’t it! |
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Our first visit to a club, we were approached by a sexy lady, but we were new to the scene and nervous so said no, we had only been in the club a short while so were still finding our feet.
All part of the journey |
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Yes - I turned down the offer of 'repeat meets' with women who I've played with before on a couple of occasions, because at the time I was trying/hoping to indulge with someone 'new' instead...
....both times, as soon as it became obvious that nothing was going to happen with the prospective new playmates, I regretted having said "No" to the 'old' ones - but managed to resist the temptation to contact them to ask if I could visit after all...
....there's not really a "What if?" aspect, however, as I know that I'd have enjoyed playing with them again - if only I hadn't decided on 'greener grass'!  |
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
Im more of a 'live in the moment' kind of person. I never rule anything out and go with the flow.
If I do something I don't enjoy then I simply wont do it again. I don't dwell on anything, I think some people spend to much time worrying about/regretting stuff that they can't change.
So back to the orginal question, I have zero regrets in fab world.
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Once turned down a threesome thinking it was a test from the girl I was really into! Turns out her mate fancied me as well and they were both up for it! Still took the girl I fancied home but could have been so much better! |
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"Having been very definitely rejected previously, I got offered it on a plate because they were horny and I was the only one online at 2am that they knew had a car. Maybe they shouldn't have lead the conversation by pointing out I was their last choice out of desperation haha
I don't regret saying no, but I do often wonder what it would have been like. "
Fair play to you bud, I would have told them to politely fuck off if I was told they were just desperate and I was last choice...the nerve on here is unreal.
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By *OYFBWoman
over a year ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
No.
Decisions are made for a reason, even if last minute. If something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t. Go with that gut instinct and do not regret it.
Have to be careful out there!
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?” "
No not really. We do regret meeting some people though. But that's the learning curve of swinging. |
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Turned down anal from a lovely lady I used to run home from the pub. Normal sex was a regular thing and she wanted to go further. Sadly I said no as it wasn't the done thing or spoken of back in the late 70s. If only. |
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?”
Yup - happened many times in my life as I was brought up strictly to believe in no sex before
marriage! I pretty much lived by
that rule until I got married,
missing countless opportunities with wonderful women and I regret it every day!
Now I have a wife who doesn’t believe in sex after marriage so I’m totally fucked!
A man in my own situation!!
Sorry bro! It’s pretty crap isn’t it! "
Stop moaning.. and bring ut back to the dating moments |
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No. But maybe a few missed opportunities when people have shown intrest and we've not reciprocated with the same intrest even though they may be our cup of tea.
Sometimes people message us or wink us who look our cup of tea and that probably could be something good if we met them in person. However the problem is normally timing. Often we're just not in a place without our wider daily lives to be chatting back and forth and arranging lots of meets. We don't want to start something we can't finish or let anyone down when it takes 2 years before we finally meet them. That why we tend to just go to clubs and parties. |
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"They were there offering and all you had to do was say Yes!
Do you regret it and sometimes wonder “What if?” "
Not at all. I’ve turned down sex on a plate on several occasions, both in private meets and in swinger clubs. If they’re not for me, they’re not for me… |
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