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We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements 
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
Wouldn’t be turned off by the male participating at all
Wouldn’t mind either way if there was a social before or not
Doubt I would have performance issues but if I did I would stick round for the show anyway
Wouldn’t be put off by bi play in front of me
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would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating? - no not at all 
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman? - would be nice but not necessary.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show? - definitely stick around
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you? - no, go for it |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating? Absolutely would not be put off.
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman? It doesn't matter to me.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show? If I had any issues, I'd just carry on with other activities or just watch.
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you? I'd probably join in.
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Its a gangbang, it doesn't matter if the husband is playing or not, it's up to them if they want to sit back and watch or enjoy the mix. They are usually keeping an eye on the mrs usually. Some are better organised than others but ones where you can tap a shoulder if you want to move in rather than wait 20mins are better. Nobody is then sat at the edges waiting or hogging it to finish first and leave.
Being straight, I'd hope bi play or the potential of was discussed first so everyone was on the same page, much as any do's and don'ts. People take viagra, it's not really a thing anymore, sometimes people are turned on sometimes they are not, sometimes it's late to the party - just keep moving and everyone involved |
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"Its a gangbang, it doesn't matter if the husband is playing or not, it's up to them if they want to sit back and watch or enjoy the mix. They are usually keeping an eye on the mrs usually. Some are better organised than others but ones where you can tap a shoulder if you want to move in rather than wait 20mins are better. Nobody is then sat at the edges waiting or hogging it to finish first and leave.
Being straight, I'd hope bi play or the potential of was discussed first so everyone was on the same page, much as any do's and don'ts. People take viagra, it's not really a thing anymore, sometimes people are turned on sometimes they are not, sometimes it's late to the party - just keep moving and everyone involved "
I (Mr) will say.. I LOVED getting tapped.. like, asking to cut into a dance.. SO HOT
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
1) I’d be turned on
2) it wouldn’t do any harm but not essential
3) I’d probably stay and watch or participate in another way.
4)no. I’d join in with that too if it was an option
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Its a gangbang, it doesn't matter if the husband is playing or not, it's up to them if they want to sit back and watch or enjoy the mix. They are usually keeping an eye on the mrs usually. Some are better organised than others but ones where you can tap a shoulder if you want to move in rather than wait 20mins are better. Nobody is then sat at the edges waiting or hogging it to finish first and leave.
Being straight, I'd hope bi play or the potential of was discussed first so everyone was on the same page, much as any do's and don'ts. People take viagra, it's not really a thing anymore, sometimes people are turned on sometimes they are not, sometimes it's late to the party - just keep moving and everyone involved
I (Mr) will say.. I LOVED getting tapped.. like, asking to cut into a dance.. SO HOT
I wish more of them had done it tbh "
I've only been to a handful though it's good as a single guy too, it keeps you on your toes, has you move around and has you realise there's more things to it. |
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"You can't expect to turn up for a gangbang and the kind fella that lets you enjoy his misses and expect him to just make the tea"
I know, right? I (Mr) is very aware of how some guys can be greedy and selfish in a group scenario and how that one guy can put the others off... Don't want to be that guy, even if she's my wife
We want everyone to enjoy themselves.. and hopefully go home very happy and have some fabulous memories |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
1 prefer the male to be involved.
2 social would be nice but not a condition of being invited.
3 would be happy to try alternative things and would definitely stay.
4 would I be invited to the Bi play, I hope so |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
1. Turn on, love seeing both halves have fun
2. Either or. Not a deal breaker imo
3. Alternative/enjoy the show
4. Not put off at all |
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By *abluesbabyMan
over a year ago
Gibraltar/Cheshire/London |
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating? - No, of course not. Its entirely up to him/them. I've seen everything from the guy waiting in the hotel bar downstairs to him being a silent voyeur to cameraman to literal life and soul of the GB getting stuck in first!
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- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman? - If it works better for the couple or her then sure. Its possibly a lot of added admin and planning though. Plus times and venues to suit all. Often tricky enough sorting that just for the GB!
.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show? - seen it strike many times. Often to guys who come across as very confident and assured in the pre-amble to the main event. GB's are NOT for everyone and some guys just don't feel comfortable once in the actual trenches, even if its their #1 fantasy prior or whatever. It really is up to the guy how he deals with it or handles it. One thing I won't tolerate at my GBs is anyone mocking or ridiculing someone, even if they are best mates in "real" life as it can affect the mood and flow of the GB
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- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you? - Unexpected? Yes. Very possibly. Its essential to have a (at the very least loose) checklist of do's and don'ts in a GB to ensure no awkwardness and definitely helps to keep the flow. So anything "unexpected" especially like that could cause huge awkwardness. Of course it could be the exact opposite and a huge turn on for all. But if you are wanting to include that possibly happening in a GB then make it clear first to all attending. Don't be surprised if some drop out too. Its all personal choice when dealing with very intimate encounters.
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Hope that helps??? |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
Been there, done all that and want more |
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- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
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Good on you both! Sounds awesome indeed. Its one for my bucket list , hopefully ticked off soon.
In answer to your questions:
I think the husband's participation would be hot.
I'd like to meet the woman socially first, and I'd put my trust in her that guys she selected would be decent.
If I couldn't perform, I'd certainly find other enjoyments in the situation.
Bi play would be very welcomed, providing the woman didn't feel like she was no longer the centre of attention! |
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"- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating? - No, of course not. Its entirely up to him/them. I've seen everything from the guy waiting in the hotel bar downstairs to him being a silent voyeur to cameraman to literal life and soul of the GB getting stuck in first!
.
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman? - If it works better for the couple or her then sure. Its possibly a lot of added admin and planning though. Plus times and venues to suit all. Often tricky enough sorting that just for the GB!
.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show? - seen it strike many times. Often to guys who come across as very confident and assured in the pre-amble to the main event. GB's are NOT for everyone and some guys just don't feel comfortable once in the actual trenches, even if its their #1 fantasy prior or whatever. It really is up to the guy how he deals with it or handles it. One thing I won't tolerate at my GBs is anyone mocking or ridiculing someone, even if they are best mates in "real" life as it can affect the mood and flow of the GB
.
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you? - Unexpected? Yes. Very possibly. Its essential to have a (at the very least loose) checklist of do's and don'ts in a GB to ensure no awkwardness and definitely helps to keep the flow. So anything "unexpected" especially like that could cause huge awkwardness. Of course it could be the exact opposite and a huge turn on for all. But if you are wanting to include that possibly happening in a GB then make it clear first to all attending. Don't be surprised if some drop out too. Its all personal choice when dealing with very intimate encounters.
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Hope that helps??? "
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For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
No…why should he miss out?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
No.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
Never had issues so don’t know. Imagine I’d stay and watch though
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
I’d join in |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
1. I prefer when hubby join in.
2. It would be good to know the do and don't, but necessary as a social, more like catch up in the fab chat rooms.
3. I would be incline to stay and enjoy watching, touching or/and joining later.
4. For unexpected bi play, up to the people around, although, my attention will be on Mrs needs.
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"Its a gangbang, it doesn't matter if the husband is playing or not, it's up to them if they want to sit back and watch or enjoy the mix. They are usually keeping an eye on the mrs usually. Some are better organised than others but ones where you can tap a shoulder if you want to move in rather than wait 20mins are better. Nobody is then sat at the edges waiting or hogging it to finish first and leave.
Being straight, I'd hope bi play or the potential of was discussed first so everyone was on the same page, much as any do's and don'ts. People take viagra, it's not really a thing anymore, sometimes people are turned on sometimes they are not, sometimes it's late to the party - just keep moving and everyone involved "
I 100% agree with this! The key to the best gangbangs is RESPECT to all involved and SHARE the experience! It only takes 1 selfish person to grind the experience to a halt! |
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"We had a little gangbang recently which was *awesome* and leaving us wanting much much more. It also brought up some questions we're curious about for future arrangements
For the fellas:
- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating?
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman?
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show?
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you?
We have other questions and love to discuss- feel free to chime in with your thoughts and answer anything you feel like xx "
I would LOVE the male half to be full involved-it is his wife.
Happen with a social generally but with a gb not really, there is an air of “playing with what you get” sense about it.
If having performance issues, I would try giving the lady oral sex, touching rather than just leave. As the evening progresses you might just resolve those issues so why leave ?
Wouldn’t be put off by bi play, if something isn’t for me then it should still happen just not involve me more than I am comfortable with. Though it would be something to probably warn people about before hand if you suspect it might happen. |
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A well organised and fun gangbang definitely has an addictive pull, and once you dip your toe in, it's another world of fun. Glad you enjoyed it.
Personally, I would not be put off with bi play.
Performance issues, happen all the time, at least one guy at most events will be struck down, but staying around helps and even come good at the end.
Social? It's upto the organisers, but usually it's more fun to get down to the fun when it's a private meet. At clubs it's different, you have your social there and then. |
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"Its a gangbang, it doesn't matter if the husband is playing or not, it's up to them if they want to sit back and watch or enjoy the mix. They are usually keeping an eye on the mrs usually. Some are better organised than others but ones where you can tap a shoulder if you want to move in rather than wait 20mins are better. Nobody is then sat at the edges waiting or hogging it to finish first and leave.
Being straight, I'd hope bi play or the potential of was discussed first so everyone was on the same page, much as any do's and don'ts. People take viagra, it's not really a thing anymore, sometimes people are turned on sometimes they are not, sometimes it's late to the party - just keep moving and everyone involved
I (Mr) will say.. I LOVED getting tapped.. like, asking to cut into a dance.. SO HOT
I wish more of them had done it tbh "
Why not discuss these things beforehand?
There's always the potential they may wank about it and not turn up but it may make it more fun for men who do turn up. |
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"- would you be turned on or put off if the woman's male half was very actively participating? - No, of course not. Its entirely up to him/them. I've seen everything from the guy waiting in the hotel bar downstairs to him being a silent voyeur to cameraman to literal life and soul of the GB getting stuck in first!
.
- would you prefer a social first with everyone involved or *at least* the woman? - If it works better for the couple or her then sure. Its possibly a lot of added admin and planning though. Plus times and venues to suit all. Often tricky enough sorting that just for the GB!
.
- if you have performance issues, would you be inclined to leave or would you try alternative things or simply stick around for the show? - seen it strike many times. Often to guys who come across as very confident and assured in the pre-amble to the main event. GB's are NOT for everyone and some guys just don't feel comfortable once in the actual trenches, even if its their #1 fantasy prior or whatever. It really is up to the guy how he deals with it or handles it. One thing I won't tolerate at my GBs is anyone mocking or ridiculing someone, even if they are best mates in "real" life as it can affect the mood and flow of the GB
.
- would you be put off if there was unexpected bi play in front of you? - Unexpected? Yes. Very possibly. Its essential to have a (at the very least loose) checklist of do's and don'ts in a GB to ensure no awkwardness and definitely helps to keep the flow. So anything "unexpected" especially like that could cause huge awkwardness. Of course it could be the exact opposite and a huge turn on for all. But if you are wanting to include that possibly happening in a GB then make it clear first to all attending. Don't be surprised if some drop out too. Its all personal choice when dealing with very intimate encounters.
.
Hope that helps???
This is great advice! "
I agree. This man knows his stuff and is obviously very experienced. Some of the comments on here are what their authors would LIKE to happen. This man's advice is what SHOULD happen. |
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