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How did you feel after your first threesome?
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Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x |
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By *oth0fusCouple
over a year ago
Dartford |
"Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x"
We had out first FMF threesome last month it was a no penetration meet also! I (Mr) will confess to feeling very overwhelmed by it all! Mrs really enjoyed it, I would say your Mr is a bit in disbelief it happened and wants to be 100% your happy with what's going on than himself? |
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One of the best nights of our lives.
FFM and we were all close friends before and now we are even closer.
Taking our friend to jaydees as well so she can explore and have fun.
It is overwhelming the first time especially if it's been his fantasy for a while. It my fantasy and the real thing was better then any porn scenario I ever dreamt up.
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"Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x
We had out first FMF threesome last month it was a no penetration meet also! I (Mr) will confess to feeling very overwhelmed by it all! Mrs really enjoyed it, I would say your Mr is a bit in disbelief it happened and wants to be 100% your happy with what's going on than himself? "
Hmmm maybe. To be completely honest, I wasn't sure when we first started talking about it. But since being on here and thinking about it more, the idea really grew on me and I couldn't wait for it to happen. Definitely helped having a good connection with the woman we met. Happy to say she's become a really good friend. |
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My first was an mfm organised by my then wife. We'd seen plenty in porn mags and videos but it didn't seem quite as smooth as we expected - lots of uncertain moments. Afterwards a kind of - was that it? It was a while before we tried again, but then it did work and off we went to experiment more...... |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
We thought it was stunning, got lost in the moment as there was no us and her, we we’re just three having amazing fun and still do with a few.
Nothing retrospect and have no problems chatting individually or together.
Might have been lucky to be three fun individuals who melded into mutual hedonistic fun |
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Hi Beth,
My introduction to swinging was a FFM threesome. I have also had MFM threesomes. They are very different. With two blokes you can pace yourself. Trying to keep up with two ladies, especially if they are not bi, is really physically demanding. It is relentless. It doesn't surprise me your man is a bit shell shocked.
Then only moment you get to relax is if you get a double BJ.
I hope that gives a bit of a man's perspective. |
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"We thought it was stunning, got lost in the moment as there was no us and her, we we’re just three having amazing fun and still do with a few.
Nothing retrospect and have no problems chatting individually or together.
Might have been lucky to be three fun individuals who melded into mutual hedonistic fun"
I felt the same. While she and I are both submissive in nature and were more following his lead, nobody was "left out" at any point. I'd already built a friendship with her going in to it, so when all 3 of us got together it just felt chilled and natural, for me anyway. |
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"Hi Beth,
My introduction to swinging was a FFM threesome. I have also had MFM threesomes. They are very different. With two blokes you can pace yourself. Trying to keep up with two ladies, especially if they are not bi, is really physically demanding. It is relentless. It doesn't surprise me your man is a bit shell shocked.
Then only moment you get to relax is if you get a double BJ.
I hope that gives a bit of a man's perspective. "
Thank you, that's really helpful  She and I are bi and had some fun together while he took a little break.
We made sure the double BJ was ticked off his Fuckit List on more than one occasion during the night  |
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My first was a weird experience. I dunno what I'd built it up to be but I found the expectations vs reality we're quite different.
I now see it as a bucket list moment. I did it.
I did learn though that actually what I look for in extra sex encounters is to watch Laura, I'm not that fussed about other women, she's got my full attention. So we tried a MFM and that blew my mind! So ladies are now at the back of the queue for me |
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By *emma200Woman
over a year ago
Warwickshire |
I was a little nervous but it just felt natural.. I knew them, it was pre planned and we’d all spoke prior to our meet.
Started the night off by drinking and just enjoying ourselves..that was my first MFF.. the second one however didn’t seem to match with the first x |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
My first FFM threesome was with my first girlfriend and her best friend, we were all 18 and d*unk so it was a bit of a messy, awkward fumble haha. We all enjoyed it though and the three of us got together again more times after that, we got better at it the more times we did it haha.
I can relate to your partner feeling overwhelmed though as I felt like that too, I had a lot of thoughts in my head afterwards, especially regarding whether I was equally attentive to both women. I’d fancied my girlfriend’s best friend for ages and it was the first time I’d done anything sexual with her (I’d had sex with my girlfriend plenty of times before this) so I was more excited about being with her than with my girlfriend but obviously i didn’t want my girlfriend to know that so I made sure I was as attentive to her as I was to her friend but we all have natural reactions to things that we’re more excited about that we can’t control or hide so I was worried my girlfriend noticed my excited reactions to being with her friend. |
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Nervous start, mainly for me (hubby) as not sure how hannah was going to react, but fair play, she really enjoyed it. Lucky to have met a few single ladies, better every time, and I have been fortunate to meet a couple solo, and re enact with hannah on my return, so a different dynamic.. |
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Our first was before we joined fab, very unexpected with a friend but it was great. It wasn't until after I didn't appreciate that he didn't enjoy it as much because he couldn't relax. All the do's and don'ts we had spoken about should it ever happen were pretty much forgotten in the moment because things flowed naturally. I just assumed he would understand but he held back so he didn't overstep. He also said there was a lot of pressure to be on form and satisfy two women! We've learned a lot from the first time x |
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Over the years I had the pleasure to meet a number of couples to have plead with each couple have there own needs and fantasies and I enjoyed helping them full fill them some were one offs there request some I stayed friends with until we all moved on loved them all |
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"Our first was before we joined fab, very unexpected with a friend but it was great. It wasn't until after I didn't appreciate that he didn't enjoy it as much because he couldn't relax. All the do's and don'ts we had spoken about should it ever happen were pretty much forgotten in the moment because things flowed naturally. I just assumed he would understand but he held back so he didn't overstep. He also said there was a lot of pressure to be on form and satisfy two women! We've learned a lot from the first time x"
Sounds like this could be the issue with us. Pressure on him and not being able to really relax, take it all in and just enjoy instead overthinking about his "performance". Whatever he was getting in his head about though didn't show at all. She even said that he came across very confident and in control, and she liked that.
I suppose it's a learning curve. Talk about what we liked and anything we didn't like about the experience and take it from there.
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah "
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you. "
I would say she was well up for the whole thing and from what I got from him is it was like a fantasy but maybe he changed his mind in the end .. I'd say do any couples trying it first time make sure it's what you want |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you.
I would say she was well up for the whole thing and from what I got from him is it was like a fantasy but maybe he changed his mind in the end .. I'd say do any couples trying it first time make sure it's what you want "
Ok, it’s cool that you carried on so that the woman could enjoy herself even though you knew the man was regretting it and you could tell he didn’t really want to be doing it. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you.
I would say she was well up for the whole thing and from what I got from him is it was like a fantasy but maybe he changed his mind in the end .. I'd say do any couples trying it first time make sure it's what you want
Ok, it’s cool that you carried on so that the woman could enjoy herself even though you knew the man was regretting it and you could tell he didn’t really want to be doing it. "
At what point did I say I carried on ? |
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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you.
I would say she was well up for the whole thing and from what I got from him is it was like a fantasy but maybe he changed his mind in the end .. I'd say do any couples trying it first time make sure it's what you want
Ok, it’s cool that you carried on so that the woman could enjoy herself even though you knew the man was regretting it and you could tell he didn’t really want to be doing it.
At what point did I say I carried on ? "
You didn’t say that you carried on, I just assumed you did, sorry. You didn’t actually say that you stopped either though.
So did you stop as soon as you noticed that the man was regretting it? |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
"I had a threesum with a couple about a month ago was a random spate of the moment thing they messaged me on here and I drove to them .. was fun but at one point the woman said take it easy that dick is big and I saw her fellas face change and they said something to each other not in English and I could tell he was probably regretting it .. I asked before we started if they had done before they said yeah
OP asked for people to tell her how they felt afterwards so how did you feel afterwards?
Did you have any feelings of regret at all because from what you’ve told us it sounds as though you were with a woman who was scared of your dick and not comfortable having such a big dick inside her and a man who was regretting meeting you at all? It can’t have felt good knowing that you’d been with 2 people who didn’t really want to be with you.
I would say she was well up for the whole thing and from what I got from him is it was like a fantasy but maybe he changed his mind in the end .. I'd say do any couples trying it first time make sure it's what you want
Ok, it’s cool that you carried on so that the woman could enjoy herself even though you knew the man was regretting it and you could tell he didn’t really want to be doing it.
At what point did I say I carried on ?
You didn’t say that you carried on, I just assumed you did, sorry. You didn’t actually say that you stopped either though.
So did you stop as soon as you noticed that the man was regretting it?"
People like you make these forums all about arguments and hassle .. I'm just sharing a story and your trying to put a witch hunt on me.. not that I need to tell you but for the record I went to the bathroom and then came back to the room got dressed and saiid I had to leave .. had a chat for 5 mins and went |
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I felt fantastic after my first MMF.
She loved watching me suck her man while I was fucking her and they were kissing.
I loved to watch a very secure, happy couple and I couldn't believe I was lucky enough to take part in an experience I'd watched in porn but never expected to be a part of my real life.
Definitely became hooked! |
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You didn’t say that you carried on, I just assumed you did, sorry. You didn’t actually say that you stopped either though.
People like you make these forums all about arguments and hassle .. I'm just sharing a story and your trying to put a witch hunt on me.. not that I need to tell you but for the record I went to the bathroom and then came back to the room got dressed and saiid I had to leave .. had a chat for 5 mins and went "
James, I didn't think that Nick was carrying a witch hunt or looking for an argument and neither am I, just pointing out that he did apologise as he'd got the wrong end of the stick and he'd assumed you carried on.
The problem with the forum is that it can be easy to misinterpret a comment as it seems nick did with yours and you did with his.
Big love to you all x |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
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You didn’t say that you carried on, I just assumed you did, sorry. You didn’t actually say that you stopped either though.
People like you make these forums all about arguments and hassle .. I'm just sharing a story and your trying to put a witch hunt on me.. not that I need to tell you but for the record I went to the bathroom and then came back to the room got dressed and saiid I had to leave .. had a chat for 5 mins and went
James, I didn't think that Nick was carrying a witch hunt or looking for an argument and neither am I, just pointing out that he did apologise as he'd got the wrong end of the stick and he'd assumed you carried on.
The problem with the forum is that it can be easy to misinterpret a comment as it seems nick did with yours and you did with his.
Big love to you all x"
Big love to you too maté unfortunately it's quite clear he presumed the worst of me and there was no need for that |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
Our first MFF happened spontaneously in a club after a chat with a lady regarding how much she enjoyed watching her man with other women..
MMF and four/moresomes have and have been the easier to happen.
She introduced us to her friend who was very much up for allowing Y to experience the same. For me it was incredible being the center of attention as that is mostly the position Y finds herself in..
Thoughts after were honestly a touch of guilt that I'd enjoyed it so much (I'm not the best at receiving 'selfish' pleasure and compliments), despite her utter assurance she found it hot as hell, my complete disbelief it had happened and yes a little bit overwhelmed by the experience too..
Guess we'll have to find a few more opportunities, so I can get used to it! Mr x |
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Our first 3 sum was in a club in Tenerife 5 years ago now
It was mind blowing for us both
We had a 3 sum and around 15 minutes later my wife got talking to 3 younger lads in the smoking area
Then invited them to a room so within one evening we’d had a 3 some and a gangbang
We returned the following night and the rest is history |
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My 1st mff was when I was still a teenager. My GF told me her best friend fancied me and remember thinking why is she telling me this? I was a bit baffled actually but didn't think much more of it u til we went to her house one night, had a drink and I was urged to kiss her friend etc and things moved quickly from there. If I'm honest I got carried away. There was a brief moment where I was with her friend and my GF just watched which un-nerved me a bit. All in all, it was a great experience for all of us. I can only speak for myself but from my perspective there wasn't any awkwardness after. We all used to reference it when we saw each other and had a laugh about it.
I was young and relatively care free. My advice to anyone now would be to talk about it first so you have an idea of what will happen etc. Speak to your partner and let them know what you want and find out what they want. I wouldn't advise doing it as a 'birthday treat' for him or her if you don't want it yourself. Mostly though...enjoy yourself...that's what sex is about isn't it? |
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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago
somewhere sweet and sour |
As a single female... there hasn't been one single time I haven't felt exlcuded. I do feel a social to gauge how we all get on is extremely important. You get all the boundaries laid down. Then when you do meet it hopefully melts into playtime naturally.
Men really need to remember not to feel pressured. It should be fun, sexy and chilled. I do only play with couples where I KNOW I can sit on her mans cock and her not be jealous or insecure. I would hate to go away thinking one of the couple were upset with their partner.
But in FFM scenario, you should be able to to say "I just need a break" "you 2 carry on" ... I would never take it personally, for me it would be like thats absolutely fine.
The feelings after I can imagine could range from holy fuck what did we just do, to holy fuck lets do that again lol. But keep that communication open. Xx so so important. Much love x Cru  |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
My first MFM was a slow build process. The guy was a photographer and had recorded us fucking a few times. We dropped hints that more might be on the cards.
Myself and her had decided it was going to be him wanking and MAYBE a bit of touching, but more "Light Swing" rather than a full on MFM.
After we'd finished fucking for the first time, he put the camera down and we chatted for a bit. As we started to play with each other again he knelt next to us on the bed. I got her hand and put it on his bulge, outside his clothes. All going well so far!
But then it speeded up far more quickly than I was prepared for. I wasn't sure if I liked how it was going and control seemed to be slipping away from me.
BUT .... she was loving it. I could see how hot she was getting as his fingers slipped into her and her arousal was enough for me to realise that I was going to love this. In essence, I got off on her getting off.
So, to cut a long story short, it was good, then not very good at all, then fantastic. It got better in the future too!
I think the best thing is not to ask how other men felt, but to have a long chat with your partner and ask how he felt. Openness is key.
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"I was young and relatively care free. My advice to anyone now would be to talk about it first so you have an idea of what will happen etc. Speak to your partner and let them know what you want and find out what they want. I wouldn't advise doing it as a 'birthday treat' for him or her if you don't want it yourself. Mostly though...enjoy yourself...that's what sex is about isn't it? "
We definitely didn't rush in to anything. This was a very longtime coming after a lot of thought, chat and planning. I know I want to do it again. He said he wants to aswell, but I feel there's more to talk about and he's sort of clamming up about what he's really feeling. |
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"I think the best thing is not to ask how other men felt, but to have a long chat with your partner and ask how he felt. Openness is key.
Gbat "
I know we need to talk about it more. I want to, but he can be so reserved and keeps a lot of thoughts and feelings to himself. Just wanted to know if any other men in a couple felt the same. |
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Mine was an innocent d*unken game of monopoly with my x wife and best mate. This some how led on to strip poker, we all ended up naked then played dares. My friend dared my x wife to lie on the floor and masturbate for 60 seconds, she did. I dared my mate to put his cock in her mouth, he did. At that point we all went wild. Probably the best ever unplanned 3sum. |
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"I think the best thing is not to ask how other men felt, but to have a long chat with your partner and ask how he felt. Openness is key.
Gbat
I know we need to talk about it more. I want to, but he can be so reserved and keeps a lot of thoughts and feelings to himself. Just wanted to know if any other men in a couple felt the same."
MrAbz can be quite reserved and it can take him a while to articulate how he feels.
After our first ffm he was mostly concerned that I was ok, he had a few worries he'd done anything to upset me etc (he hadn't) and I think a small amount of jealousy that he wasn't expecting to feel too since we were with another woman.
Once he opened up about it, after being reminded that we promised to discuss any issue, not matter how small or silly it seemed. I opened up first by saying what I found least comfortable and most arousing etc
We talked it through and he was able to relax, be reassured and just view it as enjoyable and fun.
Not sure if it relates to you both though
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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago
Grimsby |
We always say especially in the first few there is always a backlash of emotion especially for the guy.
Jealousy and even regret at times.
But it fades to exciting memories and begin to enjoy reliving with the wife.
More experience gets much easier but your sharing your most precious gift, your wife that you love and it can be hard. But that is also the excitement of it all.
Lots of talk and talk some more.
Biggest advise is however you think a meet will go it always doesn't go to plan. Just have hard limits and stick to them very easy to get carried away xxxx J |
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over a year ago
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Disbelief at being nearly 60 year old and having a threesome with a young lady who was half my age and absolutely stunning I just sat the car after and couldn't believe it had happened |
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"Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x"
I sat and watched them play for first 20mins. Then as he was fucking Joanne she gave me oral and then we swapped around. Watching them 69 was mind blowing.
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My first ever threesome was a MFM, I was the other man. So I don't think I can add much.
However, I visited this couple and was only expecting to have a bit of a social before we went further at a later date but things escalated very quickly. We all had a good time together and her husband and I entertained his wife, then he left us alone for another couple of hours.
On the drive home I began to process just how I felt and was a bit uncertain about it all, after it was all over. Yes it was very erotic and we all enjoyed it but I still felt a little unsettled.
Previously I'd only ever swung with my ex wife there. Never as the solo third party.
Give him s bit of time to process the experience.
Hope that helps. |
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My first was wife my ex MFM it was pushed more by her and she also let the other guy control things a bit as he had experience of 3sums before.
We both enjoyed it but I felt more like the added Male than him at the time.
Since then I've been the extra guy in a 3sum which went well and with my other half now M she and I have both played solo on Fab and enjoyed everything we've done.
We are much more equal in every way we've enjoyed the life style.
So I think it just takes your mind and relationships a little while and a few different plays to get adjusted and comfy with it all.  |
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over a year ago
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Had two FFM.
The last one with an attractive Korean girl was the biggest turn on.
Felt great the next day..and it inspired us to want to try so much more. |
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We had a threesome at a party, with another female.
Missus is bi and wanted to have fun with another female and as the male I was more than happy to watch and play with my missus. As we were playing my missus asked me (male) to play with the female and have sex with her.
Afterwards we talked about it and I was shocked in a good way that it happened but also expressed to her that I was happy if it was just them two.
Sex afterwards between us was hot as we were both still horny |
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By *cott73Man
over a year ago
brighton |
"Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x"
Sweaty. The car windows had steamed up! |
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By *elshbi2Couple
over a year ago
Swansea |
"Ours was MMF, both found it was a huge turn on and got us horny every time we chatted about for days after lol
Straight or bi the first time?"
Can’t remember tbh, but the bi threesomes have been the best. |
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"Ours was MMF, both found it was a huge turn on and got us horny every time we chatted about for days after lol
Straight or bi the first time?
Can’t remember tbh, but the bi threesomes have been the best."
I think my favourite threesomes have all had an element of bi play too |
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We talked about in advance of course. Lots. Even allowing for the fact that she had a very conservative upbringing she was as keen to involve another guy as myself.
In spite of the pre meets talks it was totally overwhelming. In spite of the agreed rules I was astonished how she turned into a total slut the moment the guy got in our bedroom. She was nude in seconds with her bum in the air literally begging. The rule about condoms for oral forgotten. She was even rimming him which I had never imagined in my life.
She just turned into this crazed no limit animal.
Afterwords as they lay in bed naked chatting casually. He with his arm around her shoulder. She absently stroking his now limp penis with his cum dripping down her inner thigh. I just couldn’t believe what I was seeing.
How did I feel?
Shocked, horrified, sickened, nauseous. All of those.
But it was by a long way the most exciting, life changing sexual experience of my life.
Even as he dressed to leave my still naked partner walked him to the front door and couldn’t resist the temptation to unzip him in the open doorway for a last quick suck.
It took us both a bit of time to think through and process the whole experience but we agreed in the end that we both loved it.
No regrets. It made us a couple. |
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It was with some friends who were into the scene already and after some drinks things happened. Did it a few times after then penetrative and tbh I was OK watching a mate fuck the wife while she sucked me but I'm a bit weird at the min we go to clubs and single men ask if it's OK to join and I say no. I think I'm waiting for a couple not sure. But yeh loved watching here get fucked. |
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"Question mainly aimed at couples, the male half in particular.
We've recently had our first FFM together. I loved it and want more! Mr does too, but... afterwards he seemed a bit overwhelmed, like he couldn't quite process what had just happened. It wasn't his first threesome, but the one he had with an ex years ago had a no kissing or penetration rule, whereas this was pretty much no holds barred (safe of course). I suppose I'm just a bit confused since he was the one who opened the conversation about having a threesome, and just need a little insight to the male mind so I can understand better. So, good folks of Fab, how did you feel after your first?
Beth x"
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I was very nervous 1st time, hubby not so much, having a few drinks first helped.
We have had a few mfm meets since and although still a little nervous at first it soon disappears when we get started.
We feel the social side helps so a drink or meal etc first helps and the banter and innuendos help break the ice. Finding the right match helps and regular meets with someone just makes it so much more relaxed and enjoyable x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it was the same for us! I love seeing mrs with another guy, she doesn’t like sharing me..but I’m fine with that, it’s a mixed bag of emotions but mainly insanely hot!  |
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I felt both surprised it had happened and pretty stud like.
It had only meant to be a first meet and social, then became them inviting me home to watch them fuck, then became full threesome...all in the space of 4-5 hours... |
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