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The hard journey of a single swinger
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. |
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"Expensive hobby to just meet people! "
Is it though? If you pay into a club and meet people who could potentially be a play partner either on the night or next time you're there, more likely to have fun and an exciting experience at a club rather than a quick fuck with someone you pull at the local boozer. |
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I see clubs as a night out. Chance to chill, chat and go in a jacuzzi. If I play, great but I’ve often not.
It’s not a guaranteed route to sex but if you view it as that, you get to where you are now. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't get me wrong it's lovely meeting new people. I've made some great friends along the way but...Its a very expensive hobby to see it as a social club |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "
Are you able to go to a regular club and consistently take someone home at the end of the night.
Because it's a swingers club doesn't guarantee sex for you. You have to be able to engage people and gain their interest. If you want to pay for guaranteed sex then a swingers club isn't what you're looking for. Other establishments for that.
If my message sounds harsh it isn't intended to be. There's another thread currently going on what I perceive to be similar issues. A change in thiught/perception might help. |
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"Expensive hobby to just meet people! "
Golf is an expensive hobby if all you're looking for is that elusive hole in one (excuse the metaphor)
How much exactly does it cost to visit clubs?
I have been as a guy, a gurl and as a couple and have never expected play. It's cost a lot but is usually a fun night of like minded people.
Nearest club is Glasgow or Edinburgh. Fuel - up to £50 or
(Train and taxis £50)
Hotel for the night - 50 - 120
A meal before going to the club as I / we are away from home - £20 - £80 (if two of us)
Breakfast if not provided by hotel £10 -£30.
Then drinks etc.
The admission to the club is tiny in comparison to the rest of the outlay.
It also essentially wipes out a chunk of the day of the party and a chunk of the next day.
If you're in Blackpool OP you have 2, maybe 3 clubs close by. Certainly not 100 miles plus away.
The money, I've spent myself and with partners has been well spent, as I don't play golf and prefer the type of people in swinging. The clothes are a lot sexier too. |
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You're a good looking Man but it's not just down to looks. When you've been to Club Play have you walked around, said hello to people and tried to initiate conversation? We were there in August, at the end of the night a handsome Man came up and chatted to us. If he'd have spoke to us earlier in the night we highly likely would have gone in a playroom with him, but it was too late in the night. In club's the guys with a bit of chat are the successful one's, not the one's who just walk around looking. (If you use reply+quote people know who you're replying to). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mmmm questionable, I don't struggle when I'm out at all. Yet I'm clubs I pay £30 to get in and nothing happens ??"
Men are the cash cows. They pay so the women and couples don't have to.
I wouldn't pay that to be ignored all night or made fun of. I'd stick to pubs etc. ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Expensive hobby to just meet people!
Is it though? If you pay into a club and meet people who could potentially be a play partner either on the night or next time you're there, more likely to have fun and an exciting experience at a club rather than a quick fuck with someone you pull at the local boozer. "
I've just read his status, ![](/icons/rainbow.png) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "
Did you not have a good time afterall last night..
Got to give fab patience |
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We've found to not go to clubs expecting anything and to just enjoy the environment, sometimes we just go to chill, jacuzzi, sauna, swim, squirt everywhere, if we get chance to play with others it's a bonus, but also we try to talk to people who have an interest with us. We often play on orgy bed, that's when we get most interest |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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Finding swinging partners is the same as finding dating partners - it’s all a waste of time until it isn’t.
Only you can decide how much you want to find someone, and how much time you are prepared to waste to do so. If it’s not worth it, stop. |
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"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple. "
Yesterday morning we got a message from a single guy on here, we exchanged a message or 3 and met him yesterday afternoon for a great couple of hours of massage and sex.
If the message had come from your profile we wouldn't have met you (no offence).
We don't know you we didn't know him, the profile matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a single guy and I've had enough of the scene to be honest. I'm tired of not getting action when I go to clubs after spending a lot of money to get in, I'm tired of spending countless hours trying to arrange meets and not getting anything in return, and I'm just tired of the view people have on single guys in clubs. I'm a decent guy, good looking, I've seen some good action and spoken to some lovely people, made good friends however were all there for the same thing. I can't help but think, after 6 years of swinging as a single guy... maybe it's time to leave the scene and maybe revisit when I'm in a couple.
Are you able to go to a regular club and consistently take someone home at the end of the night.
Because it's a swingers club doesn't guarantee sex for you. You have to be able to engage people and gain their interest. If you want to pay for guaranteed sex then a swingers club isn't what you're looking for. Other establishments for that.
If my message sounds harsh it isn't intended to be. There's another thread currently going on what I perceive to be similar issues. A change in thiught/perception might help. "
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