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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? |
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By *ooster7Man
over a year ago
west yorks |
it is becoming harder to find gen people for sure. lost count of the last min change of plans or being stood up in pubs coffee places waiting for socials. you guys have some nice pics I for one would not mess you guys about. Good luck and have fun x |
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"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "
If you go to a club that allows "single" guys you'll have no problem finding a guy that takes your fancy. There'll be plenty there open to joining a couple. |
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"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "
I'm definitely interested, but unfortunately I'm above your age limit 
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A guy's verifications will give you an idea of whether or not he is genuine.
If you know any couples who've met guys could you ask them for a recommendation? Although if he's good they might want to keep him to themselves! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "
You should allow us older genuine single bi guys in |
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I am constantly puzzled by the frequent threads about how difficult it seems for couples to meet single men they can trust, when there are so many single guys on here and it seems just as hard the other way round. It took over a year for me to find my current fwbs. All I can say is, stick with it and be patien. You'll get there in the end. |
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We met a guy in a club and have been friends with him for over a year now. The only problem is he lives too far, so we only get to see him every couple of months.
We’d love to find a local gent/lady that we can meet with regular.
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We’ve experienced the same problem too unfortunately. We not ready to go to a club and prefer to meet local at ours/theirs if they can accommodate. Unfortunately seem to have attracted a few time wasters in the past.
Although, branching out and talking to one or two nice guys recently so maybe something will work out.
Good luck OPs x |
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By *knot1Man
over a year ago
plymouth |
"We’ve experienced the same problem too unfortunately. We not ready to go to a club and prefer to meet local at ours/theirs if they can accommodate. Unfortunately seem to have attracted a few time wasters in the past.
Although, branching out and talking to one or two nice guys recently so maybe something will work out.
Good luck OPs x"
I was dubious about clubs and took awhile to work up to go to one but as others have said seems to be best way (certainly from single male POV) too easy in the online world to rule someone out based on a snippet or perceived bias.
In real world spending an evening having random chats on multiple subjects allows a deeper understanding/connection of the other person/s and can help overcome that perception that online - may have resulted in an immediate no. A picture may paint a thousand words but they may not be the words that the object of the pic would say. Obv Works outside of FAB too as Bob Hoskins would say.
Meh just my opinion anyway....plus the alcohol helps  |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "
Maybe the guys toy pock are the men everyone else wants and they are spoilt for choice? |
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There’s loads of time wasters on here it’s unreal we prefer going clubs now as then you get to meet a real person not a fantasist….see your from the same town as us I wonder how many mutual timewasters we have  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There’s loads of time wasters on here it’s unreal we prefer going clubs now as then you get to meet a real person not a fantasist….see your from the same town as us I wonder how many mutual timewasters we have "
Oh I’m sure we have a few lol compare notes lol xx |
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Yes we are in this boat too. Its partly lack of effort to find the right guy on our behalf and party genuinely finding it to hard to find the right guy. We have had a couple of things with a male 3rd in clubs. But just not really found the right guy for the awesome MFM we're really seeking. Just struggling to find the guy that shares the right chemistry and dynamic with us. We see/know lots of couples who have lots of great times with guys all the time and we're like that looks fun, how do they do it?
Makes us wonder if our idealism is getting in the way. Should we be more willing to give it more of a chance with the guys we meet/potentially could meet? Be a bit more open minded and be willing to see things through futher before we decide on a guy? We tend to be a bit fickle and sometimes things look good with a guy but then they say, do something that puts us off. However we don't want something mediocre, we want something awesome, natural and free flowing for everyone involved. |
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I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:
I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:
I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?"
I think the same thing, maybe we should make the first move instead of waiting |
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I have not struggled to much have the odd fake to out but as a single guy I have had a few couple I have met with and a few on multiple occasions now it’s just about being honest chatting with them and finding a couple that’s wanting what you have to offer I suppose just don’t come across as needy or pushy that never helps |
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By *knot1Man
over a year ago
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"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:
I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?"
Nothing wrong with putting yourself out there if the couple are advertising for a meet and you meet their initial criteria.
Just don't be disheartened when you don't get a response all the time. The couples probably get hundreds of messages in response to their meets so can be abit of a lottery to through the first round.
Sometimes its jut about timing and being in right place.
Good luck to all and their FABulous kinks xx |
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"I'd love to have a regular couple for MMF fun. But I would like the opinion of the forum:
I don't message many couples as Im of the opinion that interested couples will message if interest. I don't want to be that annoying single guy.... do you think i should initiate conversation more?
Nothing wrong with putting yourself out there if the couple are advertising for a meet and you meet their initial criteria.
Just don't be disheartened when you don't get a response all the time. The couples probably get hundreds of messages in response to their meets so can be abit of a lottery to through the first round.
Sometimes its jut about timing and being in right place.
Good luck to all and their FABulous kinks xx"
I agree with this statement it’s is a lot about the timing of it until you know a couple and have met it’s rare you will be prebooking meets a lot of the time it’s when they want a guy they will post it right place right time |
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Tried a few times. Initially the onslaught of single men pouring into the inbox was just too much and we had to put the block on.
Then we tried seeking them out and conversation is either straight to "want to meet now" or fizzles out pretty quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we’ve been on the look out for a guy to join us for some 3some fun , we’ve talked to a lot who seem to just talk the talk but then never see it through, is anyone else having this problem or just us ? "
Yes it's unreal!
Was looking for some additional guys to join me and a friend and no word of a lie 6 different guys agreed they wanted to join. Not one of them turned up 
Give single guys a terrible reputation on here it's pathetic  |
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"Age is also an issue. Lots of couples not wanting to meet older guys"
That's always the problem. Frustrated couples on here are either hundreds of miles away or won't meet anyone over retirement age, it seems. |
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People are so disappointing in general...
To be fair many couples waste people's time too, it's usually the male half of the couple bigging the proposed meet up & scenarios I've been informed, then if by magic you are ghosted or blocked ! |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
We have found it's just timing and availability that have scuppered meeting.
We attended the 'Hot wife's Club' at Liberty's, weren't really looking for single guys,vit was just a night we were able..
But found all the guy's we interacted with to be really respectful and most pretty hot, so maybe worth a try?  |
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By *oth0fusCouple
over a year ago
London |
100% agree with this. It is unbelievably hard.
What we experience is guys who are either.
1, Vulgar from the first message
2,Do you want to meet now?
3, 30 minutes of chat which seems to go well then they disappear for 24 hours and start again (assume they have had a wank lost interest and come back later!)
The guys treat this a sex site which is very different to what genuine swingers are looking for! |
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By *jphotMan
over a year ago
Stourbridge |
All the tales here of couples who cant find a single guy and single guys who can't find a couple fills me with optimism.
Yeah I have struggled too. Mainly no response or just stringing it out. It's good to know we are out there. |
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We have this problem on our couples profile. Finding guys who want more than just to wank over the idea is hard enough… factor in ones who are actually compatible time, location, age, and preference wise… and it’s a near impossibility.
In 4 years I’ve had loads of meets with single guys, but our 3some count is just 3 |
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