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I(Mr) usually screen and delete messages from guys that I know will not interest her or do not meet our profile preferences. But Ruth will go through the shortlisted guys and make the final decision. |
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I know hubbies who organise everything and hubbies who are not allowed to get involved at all.
In my experience the middle ground is the most common - it is about both of them enjoying the situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both fully involved in agreeing any next steps beyond fab - sharing WhatsApp, face pics, chats/meetings - but we’ve learned through experience that it’s best for hubby to screen first and curate the shortlist. |
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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"I know hubbies who organise everything and hubbies who are not allowed to get involved at all.
In my experience the middle ground is the most common - it is about both of them enjoying the situation."
It would be middle ground for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs is always reading messages and forums but 99% of the time it’s me “Mr” messaging.
It’s always a nice treat when I log on at work and see she has messaged a guy though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each couple I've spoken to is different. Some male driven, some female, some both talking.
What I always do though is respect both the male and female of said couple. I'm fully aware that I'm adding to thier sexual adventures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"
Yep same here. And very sick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We enjoy the site together and ultimately its Traceys choice who she decides to meet which is the way it should be. Never would I pressure her to meet anyone...just encourage "
That’s depends on the dynamic. |
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We both go through and delete messages that we can see are unsuitable straight away. Mr will do more of the initial chat with people as I can be a bit awkward but I'll still be looking at profiles/messages/pics and either of us can rule people in or out. |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"
Yes, this is exactly how we play it.
Not really 'tired' as such, more bored with the lack of imagination and creativity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (hubby) am much more active on here where as the wife is much more active on things like Snapchat, we will generally chat to each other about people we have interest in or I will send them her way so she can chat with them etc.
I do like to have a day or a degree of input to screen/sound out any one I would be trusting with my wife. |
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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago
northampton |
"I (Mr) tend to do a soft screen - remove people that either don't seem a good fit for us, especially 'those' messages. After that Mrs will join in and depending on her yes/no we go from there."
Just the same for us, steady and careful. |
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Allways screen ours with wife’s approval , will only let her meet the ones she really likes alone , normal first meets are at club , if private I insist on social and venue check , there are some right wrong ones out there , don’t even make an effort with appearance or home and expect your wife to jump into bed with them , sometimes even happens at club , they think because you are swingers your wife just opens her legs lol |
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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago
Grimsby |
"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"
Exactly how we work.
He fines them after chatting and what I would like. Then I have a look and if I like then go from there.
It works for us but I always have final say x |
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Couples I’ve met with have been more joint managed than just hubby doing the vetting. I do get suspicious if it’s only the male messaging as there are too many fantasists who only want to waste people’s time. In that instance they need to be verified. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had someone try arranging a meet with me and the guys wife, they were both going to be there, I had been chatting with him on Kick then when the day came he said to me remember don't let on that we have been chatting when you see us, I avoid them like the plague, it all just felt a little odd and dishonest, since then I've just not been all that interested in arranging anything unless all parties are involved in a chat before hand |
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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago
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"Couples I’ve met with have been more joint managed than just hubby doing the vetting. I do get suspicious if it’s only the male messaging as there are too many fantasists who only want to waste people’s time. In that instance they need to be verified."
Hubby never arranges for us just vets the weirdos as much as poss and then I decide. And I arrange anything. Just women and couples get so many messages most don't even read profile or get rude when you say no. Xxx |
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Yep, hubby takes care of the admin side of things, which includes screening out the ones which are non-starters , for example:
"Suk mi kok".
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"i fuk yor azz"
They say brevity is the soul of wit, but these genuine messages were brief yet inane. Hubby's a former journalist, giving him an inherent nose for those not being entirely truthful, and has saved us countless encounters which might have ended in disaster or left us waiting around for a fantasist whom had no intention of turning up in the first place. |
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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago
Romford |
"I’m a hubby who screens men for the wife before making suggestions to the wife. Any other hubbies do this and do you get tired of the unsuitable and crude approaches?"
This is exactly what I do (M) I study their history and profile and then show Rane, face pics are important for Rane. |
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