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Couples who want regular 3rd
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By *exy BeckyCouple
over a year ago
Bergerac, France |
It's something we've enjoyed many times, but "regular" is the difficult bit.
Sometimes that's been 3-4 times before he's disappeared.
We met one guy in the UK who became a regular for many years, but it's not likely to happen again for various reasons.
Would be nice to find another guy though..
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By *ifeOnMarsCouple
over a year ago
somewhere out there |
"Do any couples actually enjoy having 3rd regular involved?"
We’ve been looking for sometime. There’s a lot of forum posts from single men about how difficult it is to get a meet, but it’s just as difficult for a cpl to get a meet with a single guy let alone a regular arrangement. Far too many dreamers and fantasists who either have no intention of meeting or bottle it and don’t show even for a social with Starchild.
For us, meets with a regular are far better as we want the social and sexual connection between all three, it makes meets much more fun for all involved when that happens, unfortunately it doesn’t happen very often  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's what we have been looking for, for ages..
Maybe bi and larger cock narrowing it down? Also there has to be a spark.
Had one regular guy for 3 years which we loved but him being married ended it, eventually. |
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By *arallumCouple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"Do any couples actually enjoy having 3rd regular involved?
We’ve been looking for sometime. There’s a lot of forum posts from single men about how difficult it is to get a meet, but it’s just as difficult for a cpl to get a meet with a single guy let alone a regular arrangement. Far too many dreamers and fantasists who either have no intention of meeting or bottle it and don’t show even for a social with Starchild.
For us, meets with a regular are far better as we want the social and sexual connection between all three, it makes meets much more fun for all involved when that happens, unfortunately it doesn’t happen very often "
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"Do any couples actually enjoy having 3rd regular involved?
We’ve been looking for sometime. There’s a lot of forum posts from single men about how difficult it is to get a meet, but it’s just as difficult for a cpl to get a meet with a single guy let alone a regular arrangement. Far too many dreamers and fantasists who either have no intention of meeting or bottle it and don’t show even for a social with Starchild.
For us, meets with a regular are far better as we want the social and sexual connection between all three, it makes meets much more fun for all involved when that happens, unfortunately it doesn’t happen very often "
I do sympathise believe it or not, I’m way out of your age requirement, but I see that people let other down. When I was part of a couple here we had the same problems. Far more dreamers than I had ever imagined. In some cases it was stage fright but the majority were either wanking at the idea of meeting or simply on here as someone told them about the site and thought it was a joke.
Distance plays a part, so we would usually meet at a club and that way it wasn’t a total waste of time.
Now my issue as a solo male is the cost of clubs and also membership , but that’s another story. |
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Absolutely!
Our ultimate goal is to find a single guy and actually have a regular FWB who is open to MFM aswell as solo meets with Laura.
But the majority are no-shows or once we've met a couple of times, start to get weird, jealous that we also go to clubs on Saturdays and/or have sent Laura abuse.
So we've generally stopped actively looking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is very much what im looking for. A bi couple where we all get involved together.
Difficult to find, or perhaps my into messages just aren’t good enough  |
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"Absolutely!
Our ultimate goal is to find a single guy and actually have a regular FWB who is open to MFM aswell as solo meets with Laura.
But the majority are no-shows or once we've met a couple of times, start to get weird, jealous that we also go to clubs on Saturdays and/or have sent Laura abuse.
So we've generally stopped actively looking "
Sounds like the perfect arrangement! Hope you find what you’re looking for if you start again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a regular guy for one couple for 4 years.
I'd love to find something similar again with the right couple.
Can be really great fun when there's a good connection. |
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We have a regular lady friend and a regular gent but neither are local so we’d love a regular local too…sex becomes so much better when you get to know someone more.
Plus sometimes when the mood hits, a quick call and you can have extras
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I was with a couple for over eight years and it was amazing.
Sadly it came to an end as they moved away but we are still friends
Would be great to find another couple and enjoy the life again
So much fun so exciting we even went on holiday to GC together fun in the sand as they say
Enjoy |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
I would be interested in this, if anyone is interested feel free to read my profile and message me. Happy to share face pics , chat etc early on to establish if a connection and not waste peoples time.
Cheers
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love a regular third!
I thought it would be easy to find but it is certainly not,
I would love to find someone we are both comfortable with for social as well as naughty meets!
Even nights in cuddled up watching a film etc haha
Even a nice couple we could befriend for nights in and out where at the end of the night we could enjoy ffm!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We find it very hard to find a 3rd, especially more so when it's for a 3rd female. Being up north seems to be more difficult aswell trying to find what could be a 'UNICORN'.
We've thought about trying to find a couple but that seems to be just as hard also.
We had a few messages but when we reply that they must be exclusive, we never hear back. Suppose that's fair as it what we should expect from people on here but that's not for us. |
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I was a third for a couple for a while when I lived in Scotland, we all loved it. Only reason we stopped is I had to move.
It's great fun, definitely people out there that enjoy someone extra on the regular |
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We had it once. Lasted very regular for a few years me being shared between both guys then he ended up meeting someone and we had to stop. Been searching for similar ever since but impossible to find now |
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long term fun is great you get to know you build on it and find out so much more the more times you all meet up and gets so much more relaxed and this always makes the awesome sex , and yes boundaries get lower, getting ready seeing his car pull on to the drive opening the door to him the big smile and wicked look upon his face, no awkward moments and with a guy you meet lots you can have a bloody good laugh to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do any couples actually enjoy having 3rd regular involved?
We’ve been looking for sometime. There’s a lot of forum posts from single men about how difficult it is to get a meet, but it’s just as difficult for a cpl to get a meet with a single guy let alone a regular arrangement. Far too many dreamers and fantasists who either have no intention of meeting or bottle it and don’t show even for a social with Starchild.
For us, meets with a regular are far better as we want the social and sexual connection between all three, it makes meets much more fun for all involved when that happens, unfortunately it doesn’t happen very often "
This is so true, I can’t seem to find a single male that wants to join us. I’ve messaged a view but no reply’s |
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I'm sure it is something a lot of people would like, but the reality of finding someone local enough, with the same free time and the connection/attraction is not that easy.
I have had that with a couple from a site I joined before Fab, it wasn't that often looking back, maybe a dozen times a year for three years, but it definitely helps getting to know them, their likes, dislikes, both vanilla and kink, and losing those pre-meet nerves.
I would be content to find others I connect with, in the hope it was more than a one off. The effort it takes definitely outweighs the filtering through profiles and inevitable unlos for one offs. |
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That's the plan, find a normal/nice/respectful bi guy to regularly play with and learn what gets us all going, as sex gets better with familiarity in our opinion.
It's not been too successful though. One guy coupled up after the first meet and moved away from fab.
Then we had a few dropouts and last min cancellations.
It's been frustrating and we've ultimately not really met anyone more than once |
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God this is such a fantasy of mine. I love the idea of playing with a couple but also just hearing all the fun things they have done in the past and want to do in the future.
If any are in the mood to chat about this fantasy and just talk about why and how it’s so hot. Feel free to message because this thread is STUNNING |
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"Yes we do, though, it's super duper hard to find that "Mr Right""
but mr right is out there and when you do meet him, how good it is, and when you do dont you work hard to make sure you keep him, makes for some awesome fun and games |
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"Yes we do, though, it's super duper hard to find that "Mr Right"
but mr right is out there and when you do meet him, how good it is, and when you do dont you work hard to make sure you keep him, makes for some awesome fun and games "
Always nice to meet mr and Mrs right lol
Don’t mind working twice as hard to keep them both |
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As a single bi woman I’ve always found it easier to have a poly relationship with either the man or a woman of a couple but not both. A friendship yes but the sexual side has normally been with one or other of the couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have a regular couple I met every other weekend, it happened for 6 months and the sex got better each time. Often played with Mrs on our own too when mr was out with friends. 100% my preferred scenario but hard to find a couple that give a single male the time of day.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are plenty and I find these connections often really rewarding. My question would be more are there many single women here looking for regular playmates? They seem a rarer breed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are plenty and I find these connections often really rewarding. My question would be more are there many single women here looking for regular playmates? They seem a rarer breed "
I think it really depends on both. Mostly about that connection. Been a regular for both a couple and single ladies for years. I personally prefer that to one offs. Even at club nights, I had preferred people as long as we were both happy with it all. Made for more intense sessions. |
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"This is so true, I can’t seem to find a single male that wants to join us. I’ve messaged a view but no reply’s "
Your profile doesn't read that way (couples only, looking for a male and a female etc) and your profile is set up to auto block single males. Males can't contact you unless you message them first.
The auto block seems to be a common theme - I've seen plenty of folk putting up posts and Events looking for single males, but I have been unable to get in touch as they have blocked all men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been the third on two occasions. I was 35 when I decided to stop it. Both couples wanted too much of My time, and when I met somebody for a long-term relationship they didn't like it."
I think this is the reason. Having been a third a few times I find a lot of couples get carried away in their desires alone and expect what they want as final.
The few that have worked out for me are ones where desires of all involved are considered. |
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Well, so many couple posters bemoaning the fact they can't find a third makes me realise I've been extraordinarily lucky in my sex life. With my first wife, we found a guy we met regularly for three years before we moved away. More recently, I met a couple regularly for a couple of years, then after a gap, found the couple I've been meeting for the last four years and hope to be doing so for some time yet. So maybe I have won the lottery!
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By *exTexMan
over a year ago
here and there |
"Do any couples actually enjoy having 3rd regular involved?"
For quite some time after I was married, I was looking to be a regular third with a couple -- I'd have considered lots of situations, but the one I particularly was looking for was to be in a relationship with each person in a couple and together (thruple) in a poly way. It didn't need to be 'live in' but regular, and open (in that it would be transparent) -- however there are several challenges --
1) its rare a couple is new enough that there isn't a heirarchical arrangement in place already -- being a 'third' in a well established relationship (other than for fun) can be difficult to have needs met
2) It's rare that a relationship develops well between all parties -- unless one is bi. I'm bi friendly. but I'm not attracted to guys on their own. (I do enjoy power play, but that's another story). so finding the right dynamic for the interaction between all the parties is jolly difficult.
Of course, regularish playtime can be great, and fun and for a time are largely satisfying if that's all you're looking for and you all get on ok. but given a choice between mostly being on my own (say) and playing occasionally with a couple, or focussing on finding a partner who would also play, and the choice is clear.
Also. for every couple looking for someone 'regular' there's 10* looking for 'truly single' (ha!) men that they play with once or perhaps twice.. it's a numbers game, I think.. -- but folk perhaps have different views on the matter |
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