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"Not bothered about what vanilla or other people think really. Some kinks aren’t for everyone, if it’s not for us we say as soon as we start chatting to someone. Definitely not into kink shaming " Well said x | |||
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"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others?" Yes ask anything | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Vanilla is not only favour for very good reason We all like different things want try different things nothing makes you a freak just more exciting than vanilla only life be boring with only one flavour in life | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" It is not disgusting or depraved, Its Kinky and taboo. As you can see for yourself, it is more common then one thinks. Yes, most vanilla people do think you're freaks but that is because they have been conditioned to think so. but in reality, cuckolding is just consenting adults doing what they want. I hope this has confirmed what you already knew | |||
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"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck " We'd love to chat to you but we're blocked  | |||
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"#1 searched for porn = cuckold. Says it all we think " | |||
"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others? Yes ask anything " __ Thanks. We get cuckolding in general but we do not understand why some couples love the dynamic of the cuckold to be humiliated. We can't find in our hearts to humiliate to the person we love, and would feel so down if either was receiving the humiliation. So totally not judging it, just trying to understand and we never seem to get an answer from the couples into cuckolding. Just wondering how the humiliation strengthens the relationship in the couple, rather than eroding it? In real cuckolding (not in roleplay cuckold) the things said and done to humiliate must be real I would imagine for the dynamic to work, right? Not just pretend humiliation. How do couples cope with that emotionally? | |||
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"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others? Yes ask anything __ Thanks. We get cuckolding in general but we do not understand why some couples love the dynamic of the cuckold to be humiliated. We can't find in our hearts to humiliate to the person we love, and would feel so down if either was receiving the humiliation. So totally not judging it, just trying to understand and we never seem to get an answer from the couples into cuckolding. Just wondering how the humiliation strengthens the relationship in the couple, rather than eroding it? In real cuckolding (not in roleplay cuckold) the things said and done to humiliate must be real I would imagine for the dynamic to work, right? Not just pretend humiliation. How do couples cope with that emotionally?" I totally understand your confusion, but it's just another take on kink. It's like asking how someone can enjoy anything which someone else doesn't enjoy. How can you enjoy anal when it's painful to others? Why do you like being whipped? Why do you enjoy watching your partner fuck someone else, why doesn't that make you jealous, you must not love them if it doesn't make you jealous. I can only speak about myself, but humiliation in general is a turn on, lack of control is a turn on. | |||
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"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others? Yes ask anything __ Thanks. We get cuckolding in general but we do not understand why some couples love the dynamic of the cuckold to be humiliated. We can't find in our hearts to humiliate to the person we love, and would feel so down if either was receiving the humiliation. So totally not judging it, just trying to understand and we never seem to get an answer from the couples into cuckolding. Just wondering how the humiliation strengthens the relationship in the couple, rather than eroding it? In real cuckolding (not in roleplay cuckold) the things said and done to humiliate must be real I would imagine for the dynamic to work, right? Not just pretend humiliation. How do couples cope with that emotionally?" Starting off I wondered how this dynamic worked too. But frim meeting couples, and in particular one couple who enjoyed this dynamic, I could see it was something the cuck really enjoyed and wanted. When I could see it from that viewpoint, it helped me understand better, not fully, how it worked. | |||
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"You do you!! We would be considered disgusting and depraved to 'the many' but their the one's eating up shite like 50 shades and wishing they had the guts to try.. Have fun! Or in his case enjoy watching?!? "eating up shite now thats disgusting | |||
"You do you!! We would be considered disgusting and depraved to 'the many' but their the one's eating up shite like 50 shades and wishing they had the guts to try.. Have fun! Or in his case enjoy watching?!? eating up shite now thats disgusting " | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" More common than you think ..and all good fun .. | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" No its not disgusting. Your not hurting anyone and it's for your own enjoyment. You're both grown adults capable of making decisions. From my experience it is very common, more common than you think. People who you'd never suspected are into cuckolding. You live your life how you want too ! We only live once so you better enjoy it while you can !  | |||
Not all Cuckold couples are into humiliation, it does not mean they are not a real cuckold couple.
For me being caged and having no say in who or when my wife sleeps with others, is about the extent of my humiliation oh and the odd video when they are having a bit of a giggle at my expense.
I am a Cuckold in the traditional scene, my wife just can't be sexually faithful to me, as I am to her. That's fine I knew that when I met her and I love it.
The cage is just an extra kink we have, we don't even consider this to be a requirement. However we like the denial aspect and it reaffirms my lack of control over when I make love to my wife, that's her decision.
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"Though as a Cuck Inna Cuckold relationship I thought I'd have a little say
Not all Cuckold couples are into humiliation, it does not mean they are not a real cuckold couple.
For me being caged and having no say in who or when my wife sleeps with others, is about the extent of my humiliation oh and the odd video when they are having a bit of a giggle at my expense.
I am a Cuckold in the traditional scene, my wife just can't be sexually faithful to me, as I am to her. That's fine I knew that when I met her and I love it.
The cage is just an extra kink we have, we don't even consider this to be a requirement. However we like the denial aspect and it reaffirms my lack of control over when I make love to my wife, that's her decision.
Mr H". Wow wow what a lucky guy. Thank you for sharing your views on this subject and anyone else that has shared their views. I’m so envious of all of you.  | |||
"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others? Yes ask anything __ Thanks. We get cuckolding in general but we do not understand why some couples love the dynamic of the cuckold to be humiliated. We can't find in our hearts to humiliate to the person we love, and would feel so down if either was receiving the humiliation. So totally not judging it, just trying to understand and we never seem to get an answer from the couples into cuckolding. Just wondering how the humiliation strengthens the relationship in the couple, rather than eroding it? In real cuckolding (not in roleplay cuckold) the things said and done to humiliate must be real I would imagine for the dynamic to work, right? Not just pretend humiliation. How do couples cope with that emotionally? I totally understand your confusion, but it's just another take on kink. It's like asking how someone can enjoy anything which someone else doesn't enjoy. How can you enjoy anal when it's painful to others? Why do you like being whipped? Why do you enjoy watching your partner fuck someone else, why doesn't that make you jealous, you must not love them if it doesn't make you jealous. I can only speak about myself, but humiliation in general is a turn on, lack of control is a turn on. " Thanks, particularly for the last sentence (...is a turn on, lack of control is a turn on), that is the kind of response that helps us to understand and if you could expand more it would help us to understand better. We are not "confused", simply asking for hints about why people find pleasure in something that fewer people find pleasurable compared to say, for example, kissing, or shagging. So it is not a question about why you like something that we don´t. You may like haggis but I don´t. The question is ultimately not why we do not like it but why you like it? If one cuckolding couple were to ask you or other cuckolding couple "Why do you like it?" I would imagine you would not say "you could not possibly understand". Instead, you would say perhaps "because it is a turn on, the lack of control is a turn on..." and then they might explain to you why they like it. We find it difficult to understand because pleasure is acceptable in society, but pain, humiliation and abuse it is not. So here we are not comparing one pleasure (e.g. wanking) with another (e.g. shagging) but why a form of consensual pain/abuse/humiliation is a source of pleasure for some people. So, does it all simply boil down to cuckolding pleasure being another form of domination/submission? The pleasure from controlling by the wife and bull and the lack of control experienced by the cuck? If that is the essence of it, then that we can understand, like we can understand the enjoyment for others of a dom/sub relation. Is that ultimately all? Control and being controlled? | |||
"Not bothered about what vanilla or other people think really. Some kinks aren’t for everyone, if it’s not for us we say as soon as we start chatting to someone. Definitely not into kink shaming " Perfect  | |||
"Though as a Cuck Inna Cuckold relationship I thought I'd have a little say
Not all Cuckold couples are into humiliation, it does not mean they are not a real cuckold couple.
For me being caged and having no say in who or when my wife sleeps with others, is about the extent of my humiliation oh and the odd video when they are having a bit of a giggle at my expense.
I am a Cuckold in the traditional scene, my wife just can't be sexually faithful to me, as I am to her. That's fine I knew that when I met her and I love it.
The cage is just an extra kink we have, we don't even consider this to be a requirement. However we like the denial aspect and it reaffirms my lack of control over when I make love to my wife, that's her decision.
Mr H"Thank you, this also makes easier to understand, how a lack of control and denial of pleasure and control for the wife is what gives you two the enjoyment of your relationship | |||
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"Please see our profile it’s a lifestyle Ask anything Cuck __ Does the offer to ask anything extend to others? Yes ask anything __ Thanks. We get cuckolding in general but we do not understand why some couples love the dynamic of the cuckold to be humiliated. We can't find in our hearts to humiliate to the person we love, and would feel so down if either was receiving the humiliation. So totally not judging it, just trying to understand and we never seem to get an answer from the couples into cuckolding. Just wondering how the humiliation strengthens the relationship in the couple, rather than eroding it? In real cuckolding (not in roleplay cuckold) the things said and done to humiliate must be real I would imagine for the dynamic to work, right? Not just pretend humiliation. How do couples cope with that emotionally? I totally understand your confusion, but it's just another take on kink. It's like asking how someone can enjoy anything which someone else doesn't enjoy. How can you enjoy anal when it's painful to others? Why do you like being whipped? Why do you enjoy watching your partner fuck someone else, why doesn't that make you jealous, you must not love them if it doesn't make you jealous. I can only speak about myself, but humiliation in general is a turn on, lack of control is a turn on. Thanks, particularly for the last sentence (...is a turn on, lack of control is a turn on), that is the kind of response that helps us to understand and if you could expand more it would help us to understand better. We are not "confused", simply asking for hints about why people find pleasure in something that fewer people find pleasurable compared to say, for example, kissing, or shagging. So it is not a question about why you like something that we don´t. You may like haggis but I don´t. The question is ultimately not why we do not like it but why you like it? If one cuckolding couple were to ask you or other cuckolding couple "Why do you like it?" I would imagine you would not say "you could not possibly understand". Instead, you would say perhaps "because it is a turn on, the lack of control is a turn on..." and then they might explain to you why they like it. We find it difficult to understand because pleasure is acceptable in society, but pain, humiliation and abuse it is not. So here we are not comparing one pleasure (e.g. wanking) with another (e.g. shagging) but why a form of consensual pain/abuse/humiliation is a source of pleasure for some people. So, does it all simply boil down to cuckolding pleasure being another form of domination/submission? The pleasure from controlling by the wife and bull and the lack of control experienced by the cuck? If that is the essence of it, then that we can understand, like we can understand the enjoyment for others of a dom/sub relation. Is that ultimately all? Control and being controlled? " For me it's definitely the sub/dom element. There's also a practical reason in that I simply wouldn't be able to give her l the sexual satisfaction she needs. | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" No I wouldn't say it is... I like it... But Some people may find it odd... Who cares what you get up to in the privacy of your bedroom | |||
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"Aw man op, don't worry about what others think about what you do (so long as it's legal of course!) Your thing may not be my thing but negative, nasty or judgemental people are a waste of air, you do you and remember, what other people think of you is none of your business, live your best life and love every part of it " | |||
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"Think it's hot but don't do it ourselves. Stag & vixen is a bit more appealing. Depends what level of cuckhold you go down to. Never understood why you'd want some dude degrade you or even your partner if we're talking about this level of cucking. "Because that’s what turns them on. What’s to understand? If it flicks your switch it does, and if it doesn’t…well, it doesn’t! | |||
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"The whole concept applies to Hotwifing too. The compersion of seeing your wife/partner enjoying sex with another man Is it a natural state?" I think there's something very deep rooted and primal about it. I don't think I'd be a cuck but would swap and hot wife. Just need a number 2 to try the lifestyle with. | |||
"It's not disgusting to us, but I suspect unknowing vanilla monos might find the whole thing a tad confusing! It's definitely a growing interest though and more and more people seem intrigued by it." Vanilla Monos x lol | |||
"Each to there own of course! But not for us at all. Hotwife/Stag is much more our thing. We just don’t get the humiliation side of cuckolding, cock cages etc. But again, it’s what ever turns you on that counts! J&M xxx" Our thoughts exactly, not for us but each to their own, what ever turns people on is is up to them not anyone else | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Not at all! To each their own. It's not for us, but we wouldn't judge those who enjoy it. D x | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Who cares what vanilla people think! Life is for living - enjoy x | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Each to their own. Not our thing but if that is what you like then enjoy. In vanilla land the norms think everything we do in the swinging world is disgusting,however, I think that is born of jealousy for not being brave enough to step out of their comfort zone. | |||
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"I was told by someone on here yesterday that I should remove clubs from my interests just because I didn't want to go his organised event which had a bunch of rules attached...I'm more of a go with the flow person. Just because someone doesn't like the way I do things doesn't make it wrong." Aww poor little man with his hurt feelings. It's quite shocking how many think that if a box is ticked you will DEFINITELY do that thing, to their rules, with them. | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Some 'vanilla people' will think it's disgusting and depraved. They will look down on you the same way you are looking down on them using that term. | |||
"I was told by someone on here yesterday that I should remove clubs from my interests just because I didn't want to go his organised event which had a bunch of rules attached...I'm more of a go with the flow person. Just because someone doesn't like the way I do things doesn't make it wrong. Aww poor little man with his hurt feelings. It's quite shocking how many think that if a box is ticked you will DEFINITELY do that thing, to their rules, with them. " Ohhhh they aren't compulsory then? | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" It’s definitely not disgusting, but I think people in Vanilla lifestyle would definitely think it’s “very strange & weird”. Few times I’ve chat with close vanilla mates about my exploits they are gobsmacked & can clearly see on their faces they struggling to understand how’s anyone would be into this lifestyle lol. But I’ve stopped trying to explain the dynamics now I just say ‘it’s a lifestyle & it’s not for everyone’. Just like golf the people who love it, absolutely love it. People who don’t, don’t. Each have their own valid reasons for loving it or hating it | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Most people would struggle with the humiliation part of cuckolding. A lot of people would struggle with the jealousy. None of that makes it disgusting though. The fact that your relationship is strong enough to do it and last is evidence of how much you love and trust each other. | |||
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"The premise of cuckolding would shock most vanilla couples though, surely?" Almost definitely. You've only got to see some of the reactions on fab to see how it shocks and baffles them. | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" If you both enjoy it then why worry about what other people think, live the life you love and live the life you live | |||
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"Not bothered about what vanilla or other people think really. Some kinks aren’t for everyone, if it’s not for us we say as soon as we start chatting to someone. Definitely not into kink shaming " Absolutely spot on. I love a lady's feet....that's not for everyone,but I couldn't care less what other people think about it | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" I guess Some do, some don’t and some couldn’t care less as long as it doesn’t involve them | |||
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"Can you explain the difference for a newbie? Is cuckolding always about humiliation?" That massively depends on your definition of what is humiliating. For example, my gf will tell me she's going to find a guy to fuck at home while I'm out for beers with my mates. I find it hot that she has that level of control and freedom. Some would find it very humiliating. I guess it is, but I get off on that, so it is not a clear as "I need to be humiliated" because I don't view that as a negative, in this context so it doesn't make me feel humiliated. I guess there's a nuanced difference between her doing something humiliating and me feeling humiliated. | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Let’s hope so or it wouldn’t be so exciting | |||
"The premise of cuckolding would shock most vanilla couples though, surely?" I was chatted up by a girl in a pub recently. She asked what I’m into, so I told her, she was shocked | |||
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"Kink shaming should be illegal " Spot on! As long as those involved are happy and it’s adding something then go for it. You only live once | |||
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"The premise of cuckolding would shock most vanilla couples though, surely?" Are you wanting to shock people? | |||
"Can you explain the difference for a newbie? Is cuckolding always about humiliation?" No it’s not and should never be ! It really does depend on the couples dynamic, some cucks love to be humiliated by their wife, get off on it, but a majority don’t and a lot of people especially ‘so called’ bulls find that difficult to understand. | |||
"Can you explain the difference for a newbie? Is cuckolding always about humiliation? No it’s not and should never be ! It really does depend on the couples dynamic, some cucks love to be humiliated by their wife, get off on it, but a majority don’t and a lot of people especially ‘so called’ bulls find that difficult to understand." This | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" Question is what you think of it? Do you think it's depraved n disgusting..... It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about your kink | |||
"Each to there own of course! But not for us at all. Hotwife/Stag is much more our thing. We just don’t get the humiliation side of cuckolding, cock cages etc. But again, it’s what ever turns you on that counts! J&M xxx" Same for us, but each to their own fantasy | |||
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"We love it" | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" It' disgusting, humiliating, degrading and most of all great fun.....count me in lol | |||
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"Each to there own of course! But not for us at all. Hotwife/Stag is much more our thing. We just don’t get the humiliation side of cuckolding, cock cages etc. But again, it’s what ever turns you on that counts! J&M xxx" Same, constantly asked if I am cuck because she plays away. Nope, never humiliated or ashamed of her being with someone else. | |||
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"Some cuckold couples I've met are some of the most in love couples I've ever met. The trust and understanding invovled in that dynamic is something most couples could only dream of in my opinion. " Echo this - it’s a brilliant dynamic when approached well | |||
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"I think not it’s and exciting thing to watch your wife take another cock and being next to her watching her enjoy it." | |||
"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks?" If I’m totally honest if everyone knew what we was up to the the fast majority of our friends would think we was disgusting lol. | |||
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"Is what we do disgusting and depraved? How common is it? Do vanilla people think we are freaks? Question is what you think of it? Do you think it's depraved n disgusting..... It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about your kink " | |||
