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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
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moaning you cant get a meet ...
so you see these status's and post so come on people now your chance to have a simple view and say ....feel sorry for them or simple block.... turn on or turn off
lets keep it simple and friendly |
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"moaning you cant get a meet ...
so you see these status's and post so come on people now your chance to have a simple view and say ....feel sorry for them or simple block.... turn on or turn off
I agree with you.
lets keep it simple and friendly"
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By *enk15Man
over a year ago
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I feel their pain. It can be disheartening at times, frustrating at others and sometimes downright depressing.
Personally I don't see the point in posting about it, not sure what they are hoping to achieve by doing it. (Like when you see negative reviews for the lottery because they haven't won)
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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
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but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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you do realize that most of the men on here are in fact married ?? thats where all those other women are wives and girl friends thinking their life is hunky dory ..
ps this can be the otherway around too any sex can cheat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Yep. I realised that there was next to zero chance so gave up. Just perving! |
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"I must admit it feels like meets are rare, but I’ve not done too badly over the years since I joined fabs…"
I agree. It takes time and patience, and having a profile that says something about yourself, and sending messages that attract people, but it does happen. Just don't give up. |
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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It’s really easy for a woman to get sex, they don’t need to join fab to get it.
Admittedly it might not be very good sex but it’s not hard to get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Initially I came on here for a few meets and attending socials as I was pretty successful the last time I was here. However, I no longer expect meets or socials with or without the potential for sex anymore. I am quite be satisfied with a cuppa and/or a good conversation. This is probably through a lack of self confidence as many people on here are way out of my league or again maybe that my body, a typical dadbod, is much less attractive than others.
That said, I really enjoy the Forums as these tend to pique my interest through reading and contributing. If this is my safe refuge or a possible substitute to meets then am still content.
There are so many lovely and sociable people on here that I am privileged to have chatted to thusfar that I otherwise wouldn't have had an opportunity to talk to outside of Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reject men for not being able to talk like a decent human; if your opening message to me is "nice tits" or "cum 2 my place I'll fuck ur face" it tells me that you have only your self interest at heart, which doesn't make for a great meet for me. Men who hold a funny, sincere, and respectful conversation, without showing me their penis, have MUCH better chances. |
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"It's so easy ...go to a social ...I don't understand these guys that post saying they get nowhere on here ..."
I would love a 1 on 1 public social for a coffee or bite to eat to see if there is a spark and attraction, but it seems ,but I assume you are talking about large socials ,which I have zero interest in . |
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"I reject men for not being able to talk like a decent human; if your opening message to me is "nice tits" or "cum 2 my place I'll fuck ur face" it tells me that you have only your self interest at heart, which doesn't make for a great meet for me. Men who hold a funny, sincere, and respectful conversation, without showing me their penis, have MUCH better chances."
Now there's a lady with her own self interest at heart, well said. Don't we all have our own self interest at heart? |
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It’s always others that spoil it for the genuine chaps
But before anyone decides to take a shot at me y’all have to accept the fact that cpls and single women are spoilt for choice so if we’re not their cup of tea we should accept it rather than swearing taking the piss out of them |
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By *nj6969Couple
over a year ago
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Guys don't approach you right is the problem. We always answer messages but the do you wanna meet now and fuck gang doesn't work. Guys don't read profiles, message you for sex yet they are a black picture with no English skills. Pushy or think a dick pic or no personal grooming think it is attractive.
Couples and I bet single females have countless messages and we can be picky. Be nice respectful and chat us up you never know. But be push or think a hairy cock cunning in your hand is sexy just isn't.
J isn't a sex worker she is someone that wants to be stimulated and chatted up in effect.
Put some effort in in you really want our time and we may reward your efforts. Mnj xxx |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
you do realize that most of the men on here are in fact married ?? thats where all those other women are wives and girl friends thinking their life is hunky dory ..
ps this can be the otherway around too any sex can cheat"
Possibly , but there is a near 50 percent divorce rate ...there are enormous numbers of single men ...and women out there .. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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Tinder and facebook dating ..maybe ...If your half normal you could go for dozens of coffees with lots of nice ladies looking for a long term relationship |
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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Your assumption is wrong. Overall men are far more interested in sex than ladies especially as they get older - not all of course and sometimes it is the older male half who loses interests but overall. Ladies are also better at switching off the urge for long periods. Look around you at the wider sex industry - porn, prostitution, strip clubs, etc - as a barometer. Pretty much all targeting men. |
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It's like going on a night out and complaining you don't pull.
If you are going to get sad and depressed and claim it's damaging your mental health or confidence that you don't get a meet off here, you really shouldn't be here. |
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Totally agree, I know I will be lucky to get a new meet, but that's life  |
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The best way to meet others in the lifestyle is to go to an arranged social (search in the forum for one in your area) OR visit a club. Clubs have social areas, bars and a dance floor, brilliant way to start chatting to like minded people and strike up a connection. Just go with an open mind and no expections to play.  |
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Moaning statuses are a turn off for us. Those that put the effort in good profile, pics (not all dick) don’t message with the only liners and take time to read a profile will always do ok. Ones that don’t just get blocked.
As a couple we also find it hard to find who we are looking for so it’s not just the single men that cant.
Be up beat and positive not negative  |
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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Moaning statuses are a turn off for us. Those that put the effort in good profile, pics (not all dick) don’t message with the only liners and take time to read a profile will always do ok. Ones that don’t just get blocked.
As a couple we also find it hard to find who we are looking for so it’s not just the single men that cant.
Be up beat and positive not negative "
yep guys think we have it easy but we still have to find someone who at the very least sexually attract and thats before any chat kills the deal ... it should be hard we all have preference and what we like or dont like ... if i get a message from a hot guy normally its ruined in the message or porn script i should say...
if its easy then you doing it wrong or your shagging anyone anything ...
i could put the meet sign up all week get 100+++ messages and not one make me twitch ... thats the swinging life nothing comes easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Not sure how many people moan about it but I can understand why however I can also understand when coming onto this there has to be a fairly low level of expectation - agree with most, if polite and respectful and message correct people eventually it’ll happen
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I reject men for not being able to talk like a decent human; if your opening message to me is "nice tits" or "cum 2 my place I'll fuck ur face" it tells me that you have only your self interest at heart, which doesn't make for a great meet for me. Men who hold a funny, sincere, and respectful conversation, without showing me their penis, have MUCH better chances."
this is what most single men don't understand ....I automatically block anyone who posts a status moaning about not getting any meets or anyone making posts begging for sex...
desperation is such a turn off and so is the overly eager 'say anything to get my dick wet approac h'
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"Moaning statuses are a turn off for us. Those that put the effort in good profile, pics (not all dick) don’t message with the only liners and take time to read a profile will always do ok. Ones that don’t just get blocked.
As a couple we also find it hard to find who we are looking for so it’s not just the single men that cant.
Be up beat and positive not negative "
On top of being picky/selective not everyone has much free time/opportunities to meet. Thus many people may not actually meet many new people per year off here if any at all.
Over all these years of swinging we as a couple have never arranged a meet with any new single or couple (as of yet). We have very little free time so we tend to use it to go to clubs/parties and hangout with people we've previously met in the real world (lifestyle and vanilla). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Publicly moaning about it or exploding at someone for rejecting you isn't going to help at all, and can be very toxic.
But a little understanding goes a long way, as they say. I think it comes down to a difference of perception. Some seem to think of Fab as just another social media, or at best, a very sociable hobbyist group. And others see it as a site for people who want quick, always ready, nsa sex.
Personally, I try to tailor my messages to the profile, if you only have sfw photos in your public gallery, then I'm not going to be like " nice tits luv, want me to cum all over em? ", but if you have explicit public photos and vids, you do kinda come across as someone who wouldn't necessarily mind that sort of talk.
Speaking as a single man, if a woman messaged me with something like " phwoar, nice dick, let me suck it dry " , I'd find it both hilarious and genuinely refreshing.
Fellas, be more tactful. Ladies, you got the long end of the stick on this one, don't knock it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a how to on my profile, be between certain ages, and don't send me dick pics in the first message. And most do one or the other. So... I just block.
I think some people are there own worst enemies, thinking they can send "wanna fuck" and have a woman in there bed in an hour. It may work like that but mostly it doesn't. They need to manage there expectations.
Most guys would have better success if they treated woman like people, and no sex dispensers |
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"I have a how to on my profile, be between certain ages, and don't send me dick pics in the first message. And most do one or the other. So... I just block.
I think some people are there own worst enemies, thinking they can send "wanna fuck" and have a woman in there bed in an hour. It may work like that but mostly it doesn't. They need to manage there expectations.
Most guys would have better success if they treated woman like people, and no sex dispensers "
Hence why the nice guys amongst the bad crowd get crowded out and missed
I’m someone who avoids the crass dick pic and masculine and rude first message however majority of the time I get the same as all those men that send dick pics and rude messages - ignored
This isn’t me moaning but more the fact that I accept I’m not for everyone because of my looks not my inventive or nice messages….surely people have to accept this site is mostly about looks and not what your opening message is!! |
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We’ve spent this evening looking through profiles to see if we could find a guy to potentially join us. Twice we looked (with filters on the search) and both times we lost interest very quickly.
There are so many profiles with either dick pics, nothing written on them or statuses that just turn us right off.
So yes it is hard for the good guys to get a look in because they are surrounded by profiles that are just like junk mail.
Which does make us have sympathy with those that are really trying but can’t get anywhere. However publicising this isn’t going to help. |
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"Guys don't approach you right is the problem. We always answer messages but the do you wanna meet now and fuck gang doesn't work. Guys don't read profiles, message you for sex yet they are a black picture with no English skills. Pushy or think a dick pic or no personal grooming think it is attractive.
Couples and I bet single females have countless messages and we can be picky. Be nice respectful and chat us up you never know. But be push or think a hairy cock cunning in your hand is sexy just isn't.
J isn't a sex worker she is someone that wants to be stimulated and chatted up in effect.
Put some effort in in you really want our time and we may reward your efforts. Mnj xxx"
100% this. Read the profile, and be respectful- penis pictures (even as a profile picture) aren't respectful. |
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"I have a how to on my profile, be between certain ages, and don't send me dick pics in the first message. And most do one or the other. So... I just block.
I think some people are there own worst enemies, thinking they can send "wanna fuck" and have a woman in there bed in an hour. It may work like that but mostly it doesn't. They need to manage there expectations.
Most guys would have better success if they treated woman like people, and no sex dispensers "
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"We’ve spent this evening looking through profiles to see if we could find a guy to potentially join us. Twice we looked (with filters on the search) and both times we lost interest very quickly.
There are so many profiles with either dick pics, nothing written on them or statuses that just turn us right off.
So yes it is hard for the good guys to get a look in because they are surrounded by profiles that are just like junk mail.
Which does make us have sympathy with those that are really trying but can’t get anywhere. However publicising this isn’t going to help."
Why not block those you have no intention of ever meeting and narrow down the profiles that show for you. Eventually you will get to see better quality profiles that may match what you are looking for |
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we do feel sorry for some, but others are just stupid, weve seen some complaining about fab being rubbish etc yet the same guy will of sent us the usual one liners saying "fancy a fuck" or "where are you meeting" like its a given that there on a sex site that sex will just fall into there lap because there gods gift.
we met on fab over 2 years ago so i know how difficult it can be as a single guy, but if they just treat women/couples as meat what do they expect!!
(not saying that this is all guys but i'd say roughly 80% of the ones that message us!) |
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"Moaning statuses are a turn off for us. Those that put the effort in good profile, pics (not all dick) don’t message with the only liners and take time to read a profile will always do ok. Ones that don’t just get blocked.
As a couple we also find it hard to find who we are looking for so it’s not just the single men that cant.
Be up beat and positive not negative "
Having a good selection of face pics ,a detailed profile and sending polite ,detailed messages makes no difference at all in my experience on Fab.
Granted ,I'm not the best looking bloke, I have a dad Bod with flabby bits everywhere ,and I've never been within 100 yards of a gym ,and never will .
But my experience in over a year on here doesn't align with your view that those who have a decent ,detailed profile with plenty of pics will do ok.
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"but guys must understand quite quickly after joining that 99% of you will have zero chance or little chance just down to how few women and couples there are compared to men on the site ... i dont see how moaning is going to change that
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Which brings me to something I don’t quite understand. Assuming that in the real world there are as many women wanting sex as there are men, where are these women going if they are not here? Is there some parallel universe Fab full of women wondering why they can’t get replies or meets from the tiny number of men?
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"we do feel sorry for some, but others are just stupid, weve seen some complaining about fab being rubbish etc yet the same guy will of sent us the usual one liners saying "fancy a fuck" or "where are you meeting" like its a given that there on a sex site that sex will just fall into there lap because there gods gift.
we met on fab over 2 years ago so i know how difficult it can be as a single guy, but if they just treat women/couples as meat what do they expect!!
(not saying that this is all guys but i'd say roughly 80% of the ones that message us!)"
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We like to meet verified guys but in the past we’ve agreed to meet local, unverified guys for a social just to get their ball rolling and we’ve been stood up twice!
Most annoying as she always makes an effort to look her sexiest even for a social.
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We like to try unverified guys and give them a chance but out of 5 of them asked 1 only turned up. Even one in the floor above didn't turn up lol. So now been put of, they moan but then wonder why they get tainted by others. Even had this with couples too. |
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"We like to try unverified guys and give them a chance but out of 5 of them asked 1 only turned up. Even one in the floor above didn't turn up lol. So now been put of, they moan but then wonder why they get tainted by others. Even had this with couples too."
Oh god yes - unverified couples often just as bad. Generally unverified couple (as in not even Fab verified) means quite just the man pissing about. |
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"We like to meet verified guys but in the past we’ve agreed to meet local, unverified guys for a social just to get their ball rolling and we’ve been stood up twice!
Most annoying as she always makes an effort to look her sexiest even for a social.
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In well over a year on Fab I've found that not being meet verified is a massive barrier. |
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"We like to try unverified guys and give them a chance but out of 5 of them asked 1 only turned up. Even one in the floor above didn't turn up lol. So now been put of, they moan but then wonder why they get tainted by others. Even had this with couples too."
I've never got as far as being given a chance of a one to one social to prove in genuine .it's always a case of ,"you're not meet verified ,so no chance " |
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"moaning you cant get a meet ...
so you see these status's and post so come on people now your chance to have a simple view and say ....feel sorry for them or simple block.... turn on or turn off
lets keep it simple and friendly"
Why do people moan about men moaning about not getting a meet?
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"We like to meet verified guys but in the past we’ve agreed to meet local, unverified guys for a social just to get their ball rolling and we’ve been stood up twice!
Most annoying as she always makes an effort to look her sexiest even for a social.
In well over a year on Fab I've found that not being meet verified is a massive barrier. "
Hide your veri summary. You are verified. |
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By *ood Time RMan
over a year ago
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Best advice to men struggling to meet is to go to a club or an event. Talk to couples and single females there. Show your personality and you never know where it will lead too. Messaging on fab alone won’t really get you meets. Maybe one or two but like a lot of people have already said couples and females get a lot more messages than single males. There’s more of us on here. |
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"Best advice to men struggling to meet is to go to a club or an event. Talk to couples and single females there. Show your personality and you never know where it will lead too. Messaging on fab alone won’t really get you meets. Maybe one or two but like a lot of people have already said couples and females get a lot more messages than single males. There’s more of us on here. "
We always verify guys we meet at clubs if they’re friendly and they want one.
It’s useful if they perhaps have some slips of paper or card with their Fab name on though as you can’t have your phone out in most clubs. |
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