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Couples first time with another couple
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"I am a female in couple and would like other female sides of their first time with another couple. I’m a bit nervous and wouldn’t know how to start?" watching as in similar situation looking for our first swap | |||
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"Anyone that says they weren't nervous the 1st time is, I suspect telling slight porkys. What I would say tho is that had our 1st time been an arranged meet then I think the nerves would of got the better of us. Our 1st time was in a club with a cpl we'd spent all night with, laughing, dancing, drinking & relaxing. Basically we all clicked and it seemed perfectly natural to move things to a private room, carried on most of the night back at hotel. " 100% this! We were a bag of nerves before our first play, but we’d already met the couple for a social which built up the anticipation nicely. After some laughing, chatting and flirting, it felt like the most natural thing in the world. We were buzzing for days. But remember consent is everything, so if you’re not comfortable or things are moving too fast you must say so. Swinging is all about great experiences, not regrets. Above all, have fun xx | |||
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"We made the contact here in Fab, met them socially for a couple drinks at a pub. We all wanted to explore more so we met at the same pub a few days later. Same good feelings of attraction, nice people. They invited us to their place. We had discussed among the two of us in advance what would we do if invited to their place and agreed that we were happy to play with them for our first time, of course also agreed that we would not do it if it did not feel right at any time. Very nervous when we were at their place, but excited at the same time. They were the more experienced couple, so we were thankful they were leading, because we were clueless. After one more drink, they asked us very politely if we would want to join them upstairs. We did, we got naked and started touching and soft swinging with the opposites (we are both straight). From there, the full swap felt natural and we had a great first experience. There is one thing though that no one, not even yourselves, will be able to anticipate or prepare for on your first time: the first time you see your partner full swapping with another person and viceversa. When I saw Lena (Mrs) was relaxed and having a great time, actively enjoying the moment, I was able to relax and enjoy myself. One of my fears beforehand was "will I feel jealous?" and "will she feel jealous or upset?". I was actually turned on and enjoyed that she was enjoying the experience. Lena was very much into it, relaxed, same as I was, so clearly she was not jealous either. Just an exchange of looks into each other's eyes at that point, and we knew we both were fine. We know the body language of each other, so neither of us felt the need to stop for a chat about our feelings, so we continued playing. Yes, codewords or signs may help, but in any case a simple "Sorry, I do not like this or that being done to me", or excuse me "I need to stop and chat to my partner" is another way to be clear and pause or stop the play, or stop the other couple from doing something that was not discussed beforehand (it happens). In fact, the only times we had to stop the play with two different couples was not because of us, it was because the female of each couple was very nervous and uncomfortable, it was their first times and clearly not feeling OK seeing their partners with Lena. So we had to stop it in both occasions, it did not feel right. Neither of these two ladies said NO or STOP, but there was no need, we have been with many couples so we knew we were the ones who had to stop it on their behalf. They were clearly not ready (the ladies feeling uncomfortable, and the males feeling oblivious or just hoping her feelings would disappear). So, a couple more experienced than you should also care about you two if they know you never had a full swap. Make sure they know. They should ask you more often if all is OK. I would not recommend to have your first time with another first timers couple, might turn out great in the end but there's a slight chance it may not work because they will also be very nervous too. " Brilliant advice. Couldn't of put it better. | |||
"We made the contact here in Fab, met them socially for a couple drinks at a pub. We all wanted to explore more so we met at the same pub a few days later. Same good feelings of attraction, nice people. They invited us to their place. We had discussed among the two of us in advance what would we do if invited to their place and agreed that we were happy to play with them for our first time, of course also agreed that we would not do it if it did not feel right at any time. Very nervous when we were at their place, but excited at the same time. They were the more experienced couple, so we were thankful they were leading, because we were clueless. After one more drink, they asked us very politely if we would want to join them upstairs. We did, we got naked and started touching and soft swinging with the opposites (we are both straight). From there, the full swap felt natural and we had a great first experience. There is one thing though that no one, not even yourselves, will be able to anticipate or prepare for on your first time: the first time you see your partner full swapping with another person and viceversa. When I saw Lena (Mrs) was relaxed and having a great time, actively enjoying the moment, I was able to relax and enjoy myself. One of my fears beforehand was "will I feel jealous?" and "will she feel jealous or upset?". I was actually turned on and enjoyed that she was enjoying the experience. Lena was very much into it, relaxed, same as I was, so clearly she was not jealous either. Just an exchange of looks into each other's eyes at that point, and we knew we both were fine. We know the body language of each other, so neither of us felt the need to stop for a chat about our feelings, so we continued playing. Yes, codewords or signs may help, but in any case a simple "Sorry, I do not like this or that being done to me", or excuse me "I need to stop and chat to my partner" is another way to be clear and pause or stop the play, or stop the other couple from doing something that was not discussed beforehand (it happens). In fact, the only times we had to stop the play with two different couples was not because of us, it was because the female of each couple was very nervous and uncomfortable, it was their first times and clearly not feeling OK seeing their partners with Lena. So we had to stop it in both occasions, it did not feel right. Neither of these two ladies said NO or STOP, but there was no need, we have been with many couples so we knew we were the ones who had to stop it on their behalf. They were clearly not ready (the ladies feeling uncomfortable, and the males feeling oblivious or just hoping her feelings would disappear). So, a couple more experienced than you should also care about you two if they know you never had a full swap. Make sure they know. They should ask you more often if all is OK. I would not recommend to have your first time with another first timers couple, might turn out great in the end but there's a slight chance it may not work because they will also be very nervous too. " This sums it up well. Nervous, terrifying, but exciting. You never know how either of you will react until you try. So long as the other couple know that you are inexperienced, they should be looking to take it slow and allow you both time to make sure you are comfortable. The time spent socialising and chatting beforehand should give you a good level of understanding about whether it's right, and no-one should feel afraid to put the brakes on. And it's awkward, but a quick couple of mins to go through all your likes, dislikes, limits etc is invaluable, so make sure you have agreement between yourselves when the question inevitably comes up. Just have fun though, it's meant to be enjoyable x | |||
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"My first time as a couple with a couple was my mrs with her brother and his mrs " 
Have read this like 5 times and either I am simple and I don't get the joke/riddle, or it appears to say that your wife had a foursome with her own brother? | |||
"My first time as a couple with a couple was my mrs with her brother and his mrs
Have read this like 5 times and either I am simple and I don't get the joke/riddle, or it appears to say that your wife had a foursome with her own brother?"Can always rely on someone to make it weird, can't you... | |||
