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I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through 
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo? |
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Hi OP glad you enjoyed. I love those exciting nerves you get beforehand.
There’s always a decent amount of single ladies that go to events I like to go to. I think it depends on the club and event more than anything x |
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Wild stab in the dark for me would be a combination of what they're looking for (single guys on a regular night vs couples nights), and who's going that they know or plan to meet if they aren't the extroverted social butterfly type.
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I went as a single woman last night to an event and had a great time, but my god some of the men were very pushy. I can totally hold my own but I can see that would defo put some right off!
Also the men were mostly about either fucking me or having their dick sucked.. Noone wanted to do a thing to pleasure me. So that was a disappointment. I get alot more pleasure one to one. |
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Saftey, I have my Mr there to keep everyone in order. On the rare occasion if he's gone to thr loo ect. Guys have overstep the boundries, and I end up in trouble. Would not consider going as a single. And I'm not shy and can hold my own. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm about to do it this coming Saturday and I'm soooo nervous.. I have always had the Mr with me. But as we both play separately too, clubs are better for us. Still nervous tho  x"
Enjoy your visit. I haven't had the courage yet to go as a single male |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
its always been the way it no different today 30 years ago there were very few today there are very few ... for every 10 women who come in to this scene nearly all are gone by the time they work out how much hard word it is and the abuse they get ... it will never change ..
i do think the numbers are dropping now tho and the worrying thing is there are far few couples now who swing/meet/play too yet men are still flooding in ...
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Mrs Misfit has gone alone a many times. And on a couple of occasions has attended clubs with a freind/s without me. For her it's not the same without me there. However there is sometimes she can go and I can't. She has a good time if she goes alone. She always feels safe and welcome in the club. I wouldn't let her go to anywhere were I feel she would be safe and very well looked after.
I think the club its self makes a difference. Not all clubs are the same. Some clubs are just a more enticing/safer atmosphere than others for lone women (I say lone assuming you mean women attending alone not just the ones that are technically single). These clubs tend to have more lone ladies in them others in our experience. Some clubs just get it right from a lone female perspective.
However the main reason is simply society and the differential between the male and female experience and how it comes out. Lone men on the scene are more numerous. It's just the way it is. And males tend to have less concerns about safety in these clubs. You want to see more lone women in clubs then you need to change the whole experience of what it's like to grow up a woman in this society. Maybe if life was different in the way women are treated, judged and socialised in society maybe more women would be more openly promiscuous in a care free way. |
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"Wild stab in the dark for me would be a combination of what they're looking for (single guys on a regular night vs couples nights), and who's going that they know or plan to meet if they aren't the extroverted social butterfly type.
LvM"
Yeah that's true, it takes quite a lot to just go up to people and be social, let alone anything else! |
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"I went as a single woman last night to an event and had a great time, but my god some of the men were very pushy. I can totally hold my own but I can see that would defo put some right off!
Also the men were mostly about either fucking me or having their dick sucked.. Noone wanted to do a thing to pleasure me. So that was a disappointment. I get alot more pleasure one to one. "
Fabulous you had a great time. Although that is a little self interested and also short sighted of the men lol. I had a one to one in the club with a very attentive man so maybe I was lucky in that respect. |
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"Saftey, I have my Mr there to keep everyone in order. On the rare occasion if he's gone to thr loo ect. Guys have overstep the boundries, and I end up in trouble. Would not consider going as a single. And I'm not shy and can hold my own. "
I'm sorry to hear that but thank you for sharing your experiences. I didn't feel unsafe yesterday but it is good to be aware of potential risks. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo? "
I'm glad you enjoyed your first club experience. It can always be daunting especially if you are not sure what to expect.
I disagree with you but only on from my experience. There is normally 2 or 3 single women. The rest are either couples or with permission to play single. |
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"I'm about to do it this coming Saturday and I'm soooo nervous.. I have always had the Mr with me. But as we both play separately too, clubs are better for us. Still nervous tho x"
Exciting!! I hope you have a great time. I was nervous too but was really glad for the whole experience and pleased to try something out of my comfort zone. It will be a win for you just being brave and turning up!  |
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"its always been the way it no different today 30 years ago there were very few today there are very few ... for every 10 women who come in to this scene nearly all are gone by the time they work out how much hard word it is and the abuse they get ... it will never change ..
i do think the numbers are dropping now tho and the worrying thing is there are far few couples now who swing/meet/play too yet men are still flooding in ...
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I agree, it is a bit of work and you do get some people who don't have your best interest at heart. There are some real rare gems though that make it worthwhile!
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"Mrs Misfit has gone alone a many times. And on a couple of occasions has attended clubs with a freind/s without me. For her it's not the same without me there. However there is sometimes she can go and I can't. She has a good time if she goes alone. She always feels safe and welcome in the club. I wouldn't let her go to anywhere were I feel she would be safe and very well looked after.
I think the club its self makes a difference. Not all clubs are the same. Some clubs are just a more enticing/safer atmosphere than others for lone women (I say lone assuming you mean women attending alone not just the ones that are technically single). These clubs tend to have more lone ladies in them others in our experience. Some clubs just get it right from a lone female perspective.
However the main reason is simply society and the differential between the male and female experience and how it comes out. Lone men on the scene are more numerous. It's just the way it is. And males tend to have less concerns about safety in these clubs. You want to see more lone women in clubs then you need to change the whole experience of what it's like to grow up a woman in this society. Maybe if life was different in the way women are treated, judged and socialised in society maybe more women would be more openly promiscuous in a care free way. "
I would love to live in that society. I think women and men would both benefit! But take your point about safety and how different clubs better attract and support lone women. |
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It can be a wild experience first time as a female single at a club. The pushier guys swarm you, making a bit of a nuisance of themselves. Only done it a couple of times, prefer when my play buddy comes with me |
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There's usually quite afew single ladies on nights we go to Xtasia, it's usually the Saturdays though so couples & single fems only.
However, I did go as a single fem last Friday as the Mr was working. Met a handful of single girls there and we have a "girls night". Was such a laugh!
Perhaps you could arrange the same? We literally just organised it ourselves on here basically hours begore the evening x |
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By *t0600Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo? "
Hats off for pushing through when nervous . I’m going to visit one soon as a single male I know that’s different to been a single female but same nerves apply so good to read something like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I enjoy going to my local club alone. I can go and leave when suits, engage with people where its mutual, i’ve felt safe 99% of the time. Its liberating. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
also when you go as a single woman you need to have your eyes and hands on guard as well as some guys will pray on you need eyes in the back of your head things like taking the condom off or if your drinking they will try it on even more grope but this is not just men it will be entitled couples too especially male halfs..
i only go to clubs with cuck whos my eyes all night or a boyfrien whom ive known for years...
another pain is sorry to say single women well d*unk single women |
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"also when you go as a single woman you need to have your eyes and hands on guard as well as some guys will pray on you need eyes in the back of your head things like taking the condom off or if your drinking they will try it on even more grope but this is not just men it will be entitled couples too especially male halfs..
i only go to clubs with cuck whos my eyes all night or a boyfrien whom ive known for years...
another pain is sorry to say single women well d*unk single women"
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"also when you go as a single woman you need to have your eyes and hands on guard as well as some guys will pray on you need eyes in the back of your head things like taking the condom off or if your drinking they will try it on even more grope but this is not just men it will be entitled couples too especially male halfs..
i only go to clubs with cuck whos my eyes all night or a boyfrien whom ive known for years...
another pain is sorry to say single women well d*unk single women"
Jesus. Was thinking of going to one. Sounds shite forna single guy |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"Mrs Misfit has gone alone a many times. And on a couple of occasions has attended clubs with a freind/s without me. For her it's not the same without me there. However there is sometimes she can go and I can't. She has a good time if she goes alone. She always feels safe and welcome in the club. I wouldn't let her go to anywhere were I feel she would be safe and very well looked after.
I think the club its self makes a difference. Not all clubs are the same. Some clubs are just a more enticing/safer atmosphere than others for lone women (I say lone assuming you mean women attending alone not just the ones that are technically single). These clubs tend to have more lone ladies in them others in our experience. Some clubs just get it right from a lone female perspective.
However the main reason is simply society and the differential between the male and female experience and how it comes out. Lone men on the scene are more numerous. It's just the way it is. And males tend to have less concerns about safety in these clubs. You want to see more lone women in clubs then you need to change the whole experience of what it's like to grow up a woman in this society. Maybe if life was different in the way women are treated, judged and socialised in society maybe more women would be more openly promiscuous in a care free way.
I would love to live in that society. I think women and men would both benefit! But take your point about safety and how different clubs better attract and support lone women. "
This is a really good point |
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"I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo? "
Because they get mobbed by blokes?
That's what I found. |
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By *edtabCouple
over a year ago
Sexville Birmingham |
I happily go to Chameleons on my own..
Feel safe and lovely friendly staff..
Yes the single guys can be a little intimidating but a quick reminder and a stern word they will back off if that's what you want..
Love Chameleons as a solo lady... |
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"I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo? "
Glad you had a great time
I've been thinking about going down this route, rather than organising a hotel meet with someone I've potentially been chatting with.
Wondering if a club would feel safer, and just seeing what happens on the night?
Potentially having fun with people based on attractions only and nothing more?
Wondering what other females think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went to a club last night as a solo woman and had an amazing time! Yes I was a bit nervous beforehand but was very glad I pushed through
Just wondering your thoughts on why there aren't many women who want go to clubs solo?
Glad you had a great time
I've been thinking about going down this route, rather than organising a hotel meet with someone I've potentially been chatting with.
Wondering if a club would feel safer, and just seeing what happens on the night?
Potentially having fun with people based on attractions only and nothing more?
Wondering what other females think?"
Definitely, that is what I like about clubs, I feel safe and in control and if I just want to socialise and dance I can! No pressure |
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