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Can I share this fascinating article on here?
Why do couples enjoy it?
Like many kinks and fetishes, often people find it bizarre that someone can be turned on by their partner sleeping with someone else, especially because we live in a mostly monogamous society. But there are tons of reasons people (generally men) are into cuckolding:
1. Compersion
Compersion is a word that means "to take joy from another person's joy." It's often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason some folks enjoy "sharing" their partner, or something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy. To put it simply, some people enjoy cuckolding because they take pleasure in their partner being pleasured.
2.The taboo element
One reason people are confused by this fetish is the same reason people are into it (and this goes for many fetishes and kinks). In our culture, you aren't "supposed to" want your partner sleeping with someone else and certainly not under your own roof or in front of your own eyes—which is what can make cuckolding even more arousing to some.
3. Exploring sexual orientation/bisexuality
In some cases, cuckolding may be a safe space for a man to explore his potential interest in other men, Ley says. The man can "essentially use their wife as a 'proxy' for him having sex with the [other] man," he explains.
4.Power dynamics
Many people enjoy the submissive aspect of cuckolding. They want to engage in power dynamics that involve serving their partner and helping them find and/or please the "alpha" partner (the bull). They may even enjoy the humiliation that comes from feeling like another person can please their partner better than they can, and they'll want their partner to play up this idea with dirty talk or reporting back the sexual acts that took place.
5. Candaulism
"The Candaulism fetish is involved in many [cuckolding] cases, where the husband gets a thrill and pride from having a wife that other men want and from showing her off/sharing her [with] those men," explains David Ley. If a man enjoys cuckolding for this reason primarily, there's a good chance he's more into hotwifing than cuckolding (more on this below).
6. Porn
Many of us enjoy watching people have sex in the form of pornography, right? Some men feel that, through cuckolding, they're able to have their own private porn star performing for them at home.
7.Competition
"Some research suggests that there are men who turn the charge of sexual jealousy over being cuckolded into a turbocharge of erotic excitement, as they 'reclaim' their wife," Ley explains. This biological urge is sometimes referred to as "sperm competition theory" and proposes that watching your partner with another man can lead to the cuck having a more intense orgasm, more sperm in their ejaculate, and physically being able to have sex sooner after having an orgasm (otherwise known as a shorter refractory period).
Thanks for reading we know it’s long!
WE CAN RELATE TO ALMOST ALL OF THESE..
Other cuckold couples thoughts?
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I love the aspect of cuckolding becuase it gives me a feeling of power of being the alpha for them, providing for them, btw it's nice seeing fellow Indians here, if you are ever in india or some of your friends are dont shy in saying a hello xx, hope your dynamic grows well |
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A blend of 1, 2, 5 and 6 for us we think .
With the eroticism of another man seducing her and she being turned and enjoying the whole experience is great to watch she loves doing it. Love the thought of a women or a couple seducing her and then joining in so complicated.
Maybe a strong component of hot wifing then or maybe best not to think about it too much!
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"Can I share this fascinating article on here?
Why do couples enjoy it?
Like many kinks and fetishes, often people find it bizarre that someone can be turned on by their partner sleeping with someone else, especially because we live in a mostly monogamous society. But there are tons of reasons people (generally men) are into cuckolding:
1. Compersion
Compersion is a word that means "to take joy from another person's joy." It's often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason some folks enjoy "sharing" their partner, or something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy. To put it simply, some people enjoy cuckolding because they take pleasure in their partner being pleasured.
2.The taboo element
One reason people are confused by this fetish is the same reason people are into it (and this goes for many fetishes and kinks). In our culture, you aren't "supposed to" want your partner sleeping with someone else and certainly not under your own roof or in front of your own eyes—which is what can make cuckolding even more arousing to some.
3. Exploring sexual orientation/bisexuality
In some cases, cuckolding may be a safe space for a man to explore his potential interest in other men, Ley says. The man can "essentially use their wife as a 'proxy' for him having sex with the [other] man," he explains.
4.Power dynamics
Many people enjoy the submissive aspect of cuckolding. They want to engage in power dynamics that involve serving their partner and helping them find and/or please the "alpha" partner (the bull). They may even enjoy the humiliation that comes from feeling like another person can please their partner better than they can, and they'll want their partner to play up this idea with dirty talk or reporting back the sexual acts that took place.
5. Candaulism
"The Candaulism fetish is involved in many [cuckolding] cases, where the husband gets a thrill and pride from having a wife that other men want and from showing her off/sharing her [with] those men," explains David Ley. If a man enjoys cuckolding for this reason primarily, there's a good chance he's more into hotwifing than cuckolding (more on this below).
6. Porn
Many of us enjoy watching people have sex in the form of pornography, right? Some men feel that, through cuckolding, they're able to have their own private porn star performing for them at home.
7.Competition
"Some research suggests that there are men who turn the charge of sexual jealousy over being cuckolded into a turbocharge of erotic excitement, as they 'reclaim' their wife," Ley explains. This biological urge is sometimes referred to as "sperm competition theory" and proposes that watching your partner with another man can lead to the cuck having a more intense orgasm, more sperm in their ejaculate, and physically being able to have sex sooner after having an orgasm (otherwise known as a shorter refractory period).
Thanks for reading we know it’s long!
WE CAN RELATE TO ALMOST ALL OF THESE..
Other cuckold couples thoughts?
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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Did not like it. If it is supposed to describe and explain the dynamic of cuckolding, it does not. Mostly it explains why any couple likes to swing, and therefore the text applies to any couple that soft swings or full-swaps with another couple.
What it does not explain is why someone would love to be humiliated by their partner and why the other partner loves humiliating the person they love. I would love to understand why couples into that dynamic love it or why do they have a need to feel humiliated or to humiliate others. Just saying that it is amazing and fulfilling is a statement of fact of how they feel, but does not explain their motivation.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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"Did not like it. If it is supposed to describe and explain the dynamic of cuckolding, it does not. Mostly it explains why any couple likes to swing, and therefore the text applies to any couple that soft swings or full-swaps with another couple.
What it does not explain is why someone would love to be humiliated by their partner and why the other partner loves humiliating the person they love. I would love to understand why couples into that dynamic love it or why do they have a need to feel humiliated or to humiliate others. Just saying that it is amazing and fulfilling is a statement of fact of how they feel, but does not explain their motivation.
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this ...what op has wrote applies to swinging in general and whiles all that was said can apply to cuckolding it in no way explains it massive chunks missing .... considering most on here are roleplay too rather than full on cockold couples |
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Really interesting synopsis of cuckolding.
For us it’s been a mixture of those, some come as you progress into the lifestyle like the humiliation.
Dee has always enjoyed attention from other guys and she enjoys them being between her thighs pleasuring her. Nothing wrong with that but I realised we needed to adapt into a cuckold relationship if our marriage was going to work.
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"Really interesting synopsis of cuckolding.
For us it’s been a mixture of those, some come as you progress into the lifestyle like the humiliation.
Dee has always enjoyed attention from other guys and she enjoys them being between her thighs pleasuring her. Nothing wrong with that but I realised we needed to adapt into a cuckold relationship if our marriage was going to work.
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"Can I share this fascinating article on here?
Why do couples enjoy it?
Like many kinks and fetishes, often people find it bizarre that someone can be turned on by their partner sleeping with someone else, especially because we live in a mostly monogamous society. But there are tons of reasons people (generally men) are into cuckolding:
1. Compersion
Compersion is a word that means "to take joy from another person's joy." It's often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason some folks enjoy "sharing" their partner, or something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy. To put it simply, some people enjoy cuckolding because they take pleasure in their partner being pleasured.
2.The taboo element
One reason people are confused by this fetish is the same reason people are into it (and this goes for many fetishes and kinks). In our culture, you aren't "supposed to" want your partner sleeping with someone else and certainly not under your own roof or in front of your own eyes—which is what can make cuckolding even more arousing to some.
3. Exploring sexual orientation/bisexuality
In some cases, cuckolding may be a safe space for a man to explore his potential interest in other men, Ley says. The man can "essentially use their wife as a 'proxy' for him having sex with the [other] man," he explains.
4.Power dynamics
Many people enjoy the submissive aspect of cuckolding. They want to engage in power dynamics that involve serving their partner and helping them find and/or please the "alpha" partner (the bull). They may even enjoy the humiliation that comes from feeling like another person can please their partner better than they can, and they'll want their partner to play up this idea with dirty talk or reporting back the sexual acts that took place.
5. Candaulism
"The Candaulism fetish is involved in many [cuckolding] cases, where the husband gets a thrill and pride from having a wife that other men want and from showing her off/sharing her [with] those men," explains David Ley. If a man enjoys cuckolding for this reason primarily, there's a good chance he's more into hotwifing than cuckolding (more on this below).
6. Porn
Many of us enjoy watching people have sex in the form of pornography, right? Some men feel that, through cuckolding, they're able to have their own private porn star performing for them at home.
7.Competition
"Some research suggests that there are men who turn the charge of sexual jealousy over being cuckolded into a turbocharge of erotic excitement, as they 'reclaim' their wife," Ley explains. This biological urge is sometimes referred to as "sperm competition theory" and proposes that watching your partner with another man can lead to the cuck having a more intense orgasm, more sperm in their ejaculate, and physically being able to have sex sooner after having an orgasm (otherwise known as a shorter refractory period).
Thanks for reading we know it’s long!
WE CAN RELATE TO ALMOST ALL OF THESE..
Other cuckold couples thoughts?
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Excellent assessment of the topic. He certainly enjoys numbers 1-7x I still don’t think there are enough people who are willing to try this.
Cuckolding is soooo fucking hot.
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"Can I share this fascinating article on here?
Why do couples enjoy it?
Like many kinks and fetishes, often people find it bizarre that someone can be turned on by their partner sleeping with someone else, especially because we live in a mostly monogamous society. But there are tons of reasons people (generally men) are into cuckolding:
1. Compersion
Compersion is a word that means "to take joy from another person's joy." It's often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason some folks enjoy "sharing" their partner, or something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy. To put it simply, some people enjoy cuckolding because they take pleasure in their partner being pleasured.
2.The taboo element
One reason people are confused by this fetish is the same reason people are into it (and this goes for many fetishes and kinks). In our culture, you aren't "supposed to" want your partner sleeping with someone else and certainly not under your own roof or in front of your own eyes—which is what can make cuckolding even more arousing to some.
3. Exploring sexual orientation/bisexuality
In some cases, cuckolding may be a safe space for a man to explore his potential interest in other men, Ley says. The man can "essentially use their wife as a 'proxy' for him having sex with the [other] man," he explains.
4.Power dynamics
Many people enjoy the submissive aspect of cuckolding. They want to engage in power dynamics that involve serving their partner and helping them find and/or please the "alpha" partner (the bull). They may even enjoy the humiliation that comes from feeling like another person can please their partner better than they can, and they'll want their partner to play up this idea with dirty talk or reporting back the sexual acts that took place.
5. Candaulism
"The Candaulism fetish is involved in many [cuckolding] cases, where the husband gets a thrill and pride from having a wife that other men want and from showing her off/sharing her [with] those men," explains David Ley. If a man enjoys cuckolding for this reason primarily, there's a good chance he's more into hotwifing than cuckolding (more on this below).
6. Porn
Many of us enjoy watching people have sex in the form of pornography, right? Some men feel that, through cuckolding, they're able to have their own private porn star performing for them at home.
7.Competition
"Some research suggests that there are men who turn the charge of sexual jealousy over being cuckolded into a turbocharge of erotic excitement, as they 'reclaim' their wife," Ley explains. This biological urge is sometimes referred to as "sperm competition theory" and proposes that watching your partner with another man can lead to the cuck having a more intense orgasm, more sperm in their ejaculate, and physically being able to have sex sooner after having an orgasm (otherwise known as a shorter refractory period).
Thanks for reading we know it’s long!
WE CAN RELATE TO ALMOST ALL OF THESE..
Other cuckold couples thoughts?
Relate to some. Not all
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I have a question…so is this kind of dynamic only for when the husband gets off on what’s happening. Or does it also apply to if he’s more just accepting of the situation rather than actively desiring it |
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Very interesting article. We’re a combination of a few of those . I love the feeling in the pit of my stomach, knowing that another guy is having her. Possibly doing things to her that I don’t . A mixture of extreme jealousy, a need to reclaim her and joy if the knowledge that she is deriving immense pleasure |
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"Can I share this fascinating article on here?
Why do couples enjoy it?
Like many kinks and fetishes, often people find it bizarre that someone can be turned on by their partner sleeping with someone else, especially because we live in a mostly monogamous society. But there are tons of reasons people (generally men) are into cuckolding:
1. Compersion
Compersion is a word that means "to take joy from another person's joy." It's often used among consensually non-monogamous people as a reason some folks enjoy "sharing" their partner, or something they learn to appreciate along the way to help them battle potential jealousy. To put it simply, some people enjoy cuckolding because they take pleasure in their partner being pleasured.
2.The taboo element
One reason people are confused by this fetish is the same reason people are into it (and this goes for many fetishes and kinks). In our culture, you aren't "supposed to" want your partner sleeping with someone else and certainly not under your own roof or in front of your own eyes—which is what can make cuckolding even more arousing to some.
3. Exploring sexual orientation/bisexuality
In some cases, cuckolding may be a safe space for a man to explore his potential interest in other men, Ley says. The man can "essentially use their wife as a 'proxy' for him having sex with the [other] man," he explains.
4.Power dynamics
Many people enjoy the submissive aspect of cuckolding. They want to engage in power dynamics that involve serving their partner and helping them find and/or please the "alpha" partner (the bull). They may even enjoy the humiliation that comes from feeling like another person can please their partner better than they can, and they'll want their partner to play up this idea with dirty talk or reporting back the sexual acts that took place.
5. Candaulism
"The Candaulism fetish is involved in many [cuckolding] cases, where the husband gets a thrill and pride from having a wife that other men want and from showing her off/sharing her [with] those men," explains David Ley. If a man enjoys cuckolding for this reason primarily, there's a good chance he's more into hotwifing than cuckolding (more on this below).
6. Porn
Many of us enjoy watching people have sex in the form of pornography, right? Some men feel that, through cuckolding, they're able to have their own private porn star performing for them at home.
7.Competition
"Some research suggests that there are men who turn the charge of sexual jealousy over being cuckolded into a turbocharge of erotic excitement, as they 'reclaim' their wife," Ley explains. This biological urge is sometimes referred to as "sperm competition theory" and proposes that watching your partner with another man can lead to the cuck having a more intense orgasm, more sperm in their ejaculate, and physically being able to have sex sooner after having an orgasm (otherwise known as a shorter refractory period).
Thanks for reading we know it’s long!
WE CAN RELATE TO ALMOST ALL OF THESE..
Other cuckold couples thoughts?
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"I have a question…so is this kind of dynamic only for when the husband gets off on what’s happening. Or does it also apply to if he’s more just accepting of the situation rather than actively desiring it "
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For me personally I can relate to all aspects of this except for number 4. The idea of being in any way submissive or taking instruction/orders (as opposed to guidance and advice) from another guy is a big no no for me.
It's in part why I lean more toward bi and cuckold couples than those with a stag/vixen dynamic.
Pre covid I had many an enriched experience with cuckold couples but since then my experiences have been very limited. A real shame but I have since discovered the intence pleasure that can be had when it's my own partner/s being fucked by other guys so I can totally relate to point 1 (comperson). I didn't in the past but now it feels natural for me and has been something of a life saver for me as I no longer have quite as much luck finding matching cuckold couples. |
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