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Another 'dating on fab' thread :-)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just curious how many singles are actually open to dating people from here?
I've never really been tbh
I met my ex on here and he was so insecure about being enough for me and the thought of me being on here behind his back
However lately I have met a couple of really nice guys who seem to be really respectful and although I probably wouldn't want to date them specifically it made me realise that should the situation with someone from here take that turn I would be actually be open to it
Are there people who come on here looking to date or is everyone just thinking with their genitals and think the site should be kept to getting your leg over? |
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Id be open to a relationship with a women from here, with having a varied and excting sex life is important to me im not sure even tinder could provide the kind of experiences that i would like from a regular partner. If thats a FWB to relationship it sounds a good way into it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve just started dating a guy from fabs. I think it helps skip the anxiety about sex when dating "
Yeah I can see how it would, I do get awful anxiety when being with a new male partner, perhaps this is where I am going wrong lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had quite a lot of messages from people who are looking to date. But I've never met them for that reason."
Oh I can 100% understand why someone would want to avoid those who are actively looking for it
I guess my comment wasn't about 'looking for it' but being open to it should it happen naturally |
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I used to be really anti it as I saw so many couples where, once the wife went to bed, the husband would message me secretly saying we could just meet 1-1 and what the wife didn’t know wouldn’t hurt her.
Having said that, I did end up dating a guy from fab for nearly 2 years, he was paranoid about me cheating on him which I think meant that he wanted to cheat on me.
I’m now dating someone else I met on here. So far so good, I feel very lucky to have met him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i'm definitely open to it. makes things a lot easier, but not many people my age on here, so probably not the best place for me to look for anything long term. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be open to dating someone from here.
If you have similar values and there is an attraction, then the fab life is a huge bonus of being able to share it together"
I agree.
I'm definitely not looking for it and it's hard for me to imagine anyone who would fit well into all aspects of my life. But with the same values and a good connection, never say never. |
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We met swinging 8 years ago and have both realised that we never actually loved anyone until this relationship
There’s no right or wrong way to meet your soulmate , but your sex life is a very big part of a happy life together so being 100% honest about your wants and desires is so important
I fully support anyone wanting to meet someone in this lifestyle
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s not what I’m looking for but I’d be open to it, for me a big part of this lifestyle is making connections with people so if I made the right connection with the right person then it’s at least worth a try |
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By *upanovaMan
over a year ago
Sheffield |
We met on FAB and chatted a few times before meeting. When we met the passion was intense and so was the conversation! We got on really and a couple months later were dating 'officially'.
Funnily enough were just talking about dating in fab and being 'normal' and not just talking about sex all the time. It worked for us!
Guys stop thinking with your dicks and you may get lucky! |
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Not sure I ever would again. I was engaged to someone from here for 6 years, except he stayed on here meeting people when we had closed the relationship  not saying everyone would do that, just not a chance I'm willing to take if I'm dating and we come off here.
Maybe if we decide to stay open from the start? |
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Bit of both really, not adverse to dating a like minded person who's honest and relaxed or becoming good friends with someone. I'm single by choice as In happy onmy own, however if I cum across the right person I'd be open to dating x |
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"I'm totally open to it. *Waves*
Here we can avoid those (potentially) awkward convos.
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Totally agree, mind you, i am honest when vanillia dating about the lifestyle, some shocked others intrigued, proberly why I'm single haha |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
you can ''date'' anywhere but remember you only hear about a few of the suscess storys and not the failed ones or the narrow escape ones ...
my personal view is if i was single then a swingers site would be the last place id look for a relationship for several reasons ...but at the end of the day its down to the individuals ive seen many get together via the scene 99% of them fail or seems that way .... i guess anyone can fall in love anywhere ... but the idear of a off the shelf swinging relationship would make me feel very cold |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Not long out of a ltr and enjoying the single life so not looking to date as such but wouldn't be adverse to meeting someone who would be interested in going to events, parties etc. To my mind, more of a friend with benefits.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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me and my lady met on this site, never intended on it being more than fun, but developed naturally.
personally i wouldn't go chasing a relationship on here, even though you might seem compatible as your both enjoying the "lifestyle", as alot of people hide swinging in there lives, what else do they hide. it takes quite a while to know someone properly not just "swinging know them"
in the meantime enjoy yourself, dont dwell on relationships as the best ones weve found happen when you dont expect them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As an old man, I don't look at fab for potential dates. Any lady who has stumbled, studied or being guided to fab has overcome a significant barrier. They are confident, secure and expectant in their life to have no use for me what so ever. I would be at best a supportive side note in their life story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As an old man, I don't look at fab for potential dates. Any lady who has stumbled, studied or being guided to fab has overcome a significant barrier. They are confident, secure and expectant in their life to have no use for me what so ever. I would be at best a supportive side note in their life story."
Or an equal partner? Why do you have to be with a woman who 'needs' a man? |
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"As an old man, I don't look at fab for potential dates. Any lady who has stumbled, studied or being guided to fab has overcome a significant barrier. They are confident, secure and expectant in their life to have no use for me what so ever. I would be at best a supportive side note in their life story.
Or an equal partner? Why do you have to be with a woman who 'needs' a man? "
Agreed!
I don't need to be with a man but I would love to be in love with a partner in crime who loves this lifestyle as much as me! |
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"Each to their own I guess but this isn't really aimed at dating
I didn't say it was.
I asked if people were open to dating people from here? "
Yep indeed you did Never understand people jumping on a thread when they don’t answer OPs question  |
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I'm not sure that dating is exactly the right word, as it implies some kind of desire for a long term romantic relationship. Which after the loss of my wife I just don't feel I can face again.
But I would like to find people from here for the type of activities that are often associated with dating - anything from just having conversations through to having sex, going to the movies through to going on holidays, just hanging out together through to being important people in each others lives. But all without any expectations of exclusivity, or possessive emotions; just being a couple of people enjoying each others company, making each others lives better by knowing each other, being good together but not owning each other.
I figure that meeting through fab might allow that sort of thing in a way that other types of social contact might not, because here the whole complexity of sexual expectations can be openly discussed in a way that just doesn't happen (or never has for me anyway) in a vanilla setting.
If anyone knows what I mean?
Hugs, Polly xxx |
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If there's a meeting of minds why not. I did it for twenty one month's, but like many long distance romances, distance kills it in the end. Invariably all the most interesting and exciting people are located at opposite ends of the country. I'd do it again though with the right lady. |
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"I'm not sure that dating is exactly the right word, as it implies some kind of desire for a long term romantic relationship. Which after the loss of my wife I just don't feel I can face again.
But I would like to find people from here for the type of activities that are often associated with dating - anything from just having conversations through to having sex, going to the movies through to going on holidays, just hanging out together through to being important people in each others lives. But all without any expectations of exclusivity, or possessive emotions; just being a couple of people enjoying each others company, making each others lives better by knowing each other, being good together but not owning each other.
I figure that meeting through fab might allow that sort of thing in a way that other types of social contact might not, because here the whole complexity of sexual expectations can be openly discussed in a way that just doesn't happen (or never has for me anyway) in a vanilla setting.
If anyone knows what I mean?
Hugs, Polly xxx"
I do. That’s exactly what I’m looking for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have always thought that a woman who has made the decision to pursue this life has a great deal of confidence and little need of me. I have never considered anyone for a date. Hmmm? |
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Met my ex through fab and tbh she always brought fab up when we had an argument even though I had deleted my account in front of her when we got together she still used it against me when ever she could |
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Mr personally knows 3 couples that met on here, two are in LTRs and still swing the 3rd met on here swung for a while but have since decided on monogamy, gotten married and enjoying their life together away from fab.
Whilst we didn't meet on fab and knew each other before IRL so to speak, we both had single profiles on here and when we became a couple jointly decided we wanted to carry on the lifestyle but together instead of individually |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Met my ex through fab and tbh she always brought fab up when we had an argument even though I had deleted my account in front of her when we got together she still used it against me when ever she could "
My ex did the same, me and him also met on here |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have always thought that a woman who has made the decision to pursue this life has a great deal of confidence and little need of me. I have never considered anyone for a date. Hmmm?"
What does confidence have to do with dating someone from here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be open to dating someone from here. I think we would have at least a shared connection and interest before actually meeting up.
I suppose it would be like a paradigm shift from the idea behind First Dates to that of Naked Attraction. |
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By *illie69Woman
over a year ago
leeds/wakefield |
I'm on a few dating sites and I have seen some of the same faces on there as I see on here. I think it would take a lot of trust to date someone from fab as I would always be worried they were still meeting other people |
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"I'm on a few dating sites and I have seen some of the same faces on there as I see on here. I think it would take a lot of trust to date someone from fab as I would always be worried they were still meeting other people "
The great things about fab is u can be honest about the things u like, mmf, mmff, etc, if u do them together there shouldn't be a problem, as u said ur on other dating sites, so y should others not be? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely yes.
If you meet someone and it feels right then why wouldn't you?
Love can be found anywhere.
While I respect everyone has a right to their own views, I actually take great offence to the "fab isn't for dating" brigade quite short sighted. It's like saying people here are good enough for sex but not for more.
And while I agree that's probably not the intention of the site, the beauty of it is that people can use it however they wish.
Anyway I'll get off my soap box! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex and I were both on here however she was really controlling over me so it didn't work out.
My current bf is also on here and we've had a nice time so far!
If people want to date on here I say let them. Who cares what people are on here to do aslong as they're not being rude or hurting others. |
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"My ex and I were both on here however she was really controlling over me so it didn't work out.
My current bf is also on here and we've had a nice time so far!
If people want to date on here I say let them. Who cares what people are on here to do aslong as they're not being rude or hurting others."
That's the beauty of fabs x |
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I'm open to dating in general. I'm not actively looking for it because every time I've found that elusive match I wasn't looking for it for it at all!
Being on fab and hanging with friends in the lifestyle has thought me a lot about myself though and I'm finding it harder to imagine dating someone who didn't have the same drive to explore an ENM lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have always thought that a woman who has made the decision to pursue this life has a great deal of confidence and little need of me. I have never considered anyone for a date. Hmmm?
What does confidence have to do with dating someone from here?"
My lack there of within.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have always thought that a woman who has made the decision to pursue this life has a great deal of confidence and little need of me. I have never considered anyone for a date. Hmmm?
What does confidence have to do with dating someone from here?
My lack there of within. "
I don’t think all women who pursue the swinging lifestyle are confident, I know I’m not and I actually pursued this lifestyle to gain some confidence!
I would definitely be up for dating and actually met a lovely person through clubs and fab!
At least you know if you click sexually, that’s always a good start |
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"Just curious how many singles are actually open to dating people from here?
I've never really been tbh
I met my ex on here and he was so insecure about being enough for me and the thought of me being on here behind his back
However lately I have met a couple of really nice guys who seem to be really respectful and although I probably wouldn't want to date them specifically it made me realise that should the situation with someone from here take that turn I would be actually be open to it
Are there people who come on here looking to date or is everyone just thinking with their genitals and think the site should be kept to getting your leg over?"
Me personally yes I would if it was a connection, I love this life style and understand it from both sides , I hate jealousy and drama but to find someone who felt the same would be interesting.
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By *ylon_cMan
over a year ago
Dunfermline |
"Absolutely yes.
If you meet someone and it feels right then why wouldn't you?
Love can be found anywhere.
While I respect everyone has a right to their own views, I actually take great offence to the "fab isn't for dating" brigade quite short sighted. It's like saying people here are good enough for sex but not for more.
And while I agree that's probably not the intention of the site, the beauty of it is that people can use it however they wish.
Anyway I'll get off my soap box! "
This, absolutely this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely yes.
If you meet someone and it feels right then why wouldn't you?
Love can be found anywhere.
While I respect everyone has a right to their own views, I actually take great offence to the "fab isn't for dating" brigade quite short sighted. It's like saying people here are good enough for sex but not for more.
And while I agree that's probably not the intention of the site, the beauty of it is that people can use it however they wish.
Anyway I'll get off my soap box! "
100% |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely yes.
If you meet someone and it feels right then why wouldn't you?
Love can be found anywhere.
While I respect everyone has a right to their own views, I actually take great offence to the "fab isn't for dating" brigade quite short sighted. It's like saying people here are good enough for sex but not for more.
And while I agree that's probably not the intention of the site, the beauty of it is that people can use it however they wish.
Anyway I'll get off my soap box! "
100% I have gone through the feeling of only being good enough for sex and nothing more |
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It would be fantastic if it were to happen. Meeting someone here could actually be really healthy if you both have the same mindset.
You’d certainly be more likely to have an honest open conversation about your desires and fantasies, as so many folk in the ‘muggle’ world (sorry have been watching HP with the nephew) seem to struggle when it comes to opening up sexually it could be a good starting place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We met on fab when we had singles profiles. Neither was looking for someone special, we're just lucky we can't get enough of each other.  "
Originally Fab was just a hook up sit for me after a long time single and a tough divorce.
Then I met someone on Tinder and after a while we realised we were both on here. We had a really great time dating, could be totally open with each other and the sex was amazing. It made me more open to consider dating someone on here
Fast forward a year after my breakup and met my current partner on here - we clicked just like we would have on any other dating site, just no need to be awkward about being bi or kinky! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The dream would be to find someone where we are attracted to each other, both child free and want to explore this life style together.
I want my own confident, greedy girl who won’t judge me for what I’m into and hopefully she’s into it all too. |
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"The dream would be to find someone where we are attracted to each other, both child free and want to explore this life style together.
I want my own confident, greedy girl who won’t judge me for what I’m into and hopefully she’s into it all too. "
A greedy girl as a gf, that’s exactly what i want too ideally. |
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By *illie69Woman
over a year ago
leeds/wakefield |
"I'm on a few dating sites and I have seen some of the same faces on there as I see on here. I think it would take a lot of trust to date someone from fab as I would always be worried they were still meeting other people
The great things about fab is u can be honest about the things u like, mmf, mmff, etc, if u do them together there shouldn't be a problem, as u said ur on other dating sites, so y should others not be? X "
I didn't say they shouldn't be it would just make me wonder if they're just on the dating sites looking for sex 
I didn't join here looking for sex I just joined to browse the forums when I'm bored as they used to be a fun place |
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